As singles and couples, many of us long for a deep, meaningful connection with a life partner. We may try to create this through our own efforts, strategies, and carefully planned timelines, yet often those attempts leave us feeling weary, disappointed, or uncertain. The truth is, love is not something we can fully control or manufacture. God’s Word reminds us that He is the ultimate author of our stories, and when we place our trust in Him, we discover peace and assurance that His plan is always good.
Scripture gives us this promise:
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”(Jeremiah 29:11).
These words reassure us that God sees the bigger picture. While we may feel anxious about whether we will ever meet “the one,” God is never rushed or late. His timing is perfect, and His ways are far beyond our understanding.
Instead of focusing on what we lack, this season of waiting can be an invitation to deepen our relationship with Him. When we draw near to God, we are transformed into the people He created us to be—whole, confident, and ready to love in a Christ-centered way. Trusting God does not mean passivity, but rather an active surrender: choosing to walk in faith while preparing our hearts for His blessings.
Jesus Himself encourages us
“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Matthew 7:7
When it comes to relationships, prayer is not only about asking for a partner but also about aligning our hearts with God’s will.
Through prayer, we can:
– Seek God’s guidance and wisdom to recognize the right person when they come into our lives.
– Ask for protection from unhealthy or harmful relationships that may distract us from His plan.
– Pray for patience, resisting the temptation to rush ahead of God’s timing.
– Request clarity on our values, priorities, and non-negotiables so that we pursue relationships grounded in faith.
When we consistently bring our desires before the Lord, we open ourselves to His peace. Even if His answer looks different from our expectations, we can be assured that His will leads to lasting joy. Love found through prayer is not built on fleeting emotions but on the steady foundation of God’s promises.
For those who are already married, prayer continues to be a vital lifeline. It strengthens the bond between husband and wife by inviting God to be at the center of the relationship. Couples can pray together for unity, wisdom in decision-making, and grace to forgive and love each other as Christ loves the church.
Prayer also helps guard the marriage against division and selfishness, replacing them with compassion, patience, and understanding. By seeking God together, spouses grow not only closer to Him but also closer to each other, building a partnership rooted in faith and sustained by His Spirit.
As we journey through seasons of waiting or seasons of commitment, may we remain hopeful and faithful, trusting that the One who holds our future also knows the deepest desires of our hearts.
Marriage is one of those things that everyone seems to talk about but few really prepare for deeply. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or already married, the question remains: What does it really mean to build a Christ-centered relationship?
The Bible doesn’t leave us hanging. It gives us timeless wisdom—not just for couples but also for those who are still waiting for “the one.” Let’s dive into some practical, heart-level principles that can help us set the right foundation.
1. Start with the Right Blueprint
Every building needs a solid plan. In the same way, relationships need the right foundation. Jesus Himself gave us the ultimate blueprint:
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.(Matthew 6:33, ESV)
For singles, this means don’t make marriage the idol you chase; make Christ the center of your life first. For married couples, it means your relationship thrives best when both partners are chasing after Jesus together, not just each other.
2. Love as Christ Loves
Marriage isn’t just about romance; it’s about reflecting Christ’s love. Paul puts it beautifully:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.(Ephesians 5:25, NIV)
Notice the kind of love here: sacrificial, patient, and selfless. This principle applies to singles too: learning to love others with Christ’s kind of love prepares you for a healthy relationship later on.
3. Build on Friendship, Not Just Feelings
Feelings fade, but friendship lasts.
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.(Proverbs 17:17, NKJV)
For singles, this means cultivating genuine friendships before rushing into romance. For married couples, it’s a reminder to nurture friendship with your spouse; laugh together, support each other, and be each other’s safe place.
4. Communication is Kingdom Business
The Bible says:
Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.(Colossians 4:6, NIV)
Words can either build or break. Singles can practice this principle by learning to communicate with kindness and honesty in daily life. Married couples, on the other hand, need to be intentional about using words to heal, not to hurt.
5. Remember, Marriage is a Ministry
Marriage isn’t just about two people being happy. It’s about glorifying God together.
Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.(Mark 10:9, NLT)
This verse is a sober reminder: marriage is God’s idea, not just a human contract. When couples see their relationship as a ministry, it changes everything; decisions, sacrifices, even how conflicts are handled.
Whether you’re single or married, the call is the same: build your life around Christ. Singles, let God shape you into the person who can love well. Married couples, keep Christ at the center, not as a decoration but as the very foundation.
At the end of the day, relationships grounded in Jesus last, not because life is perfect, but because the Rock they’re built on never shakes.
Yesterday, we started looking at the subject of peace in singlehood. I wrote about 3 kinds of peace that exist. If you missed it, read it here.
Today, we will conclude by looking at how to walk in perfect peace.
1. Follow God’s ways. There is no lasting joy outside of God’s design for our lives. His principles are not meant to restrict us but to protect and guide us into wholeness. Whenever we choose to go against His word, it may feel freeing in the moment, but it ultimately leaves us restless and drained. True peace flows from obedience, because it keeps us aligned with the One who knows us best.
2. Receive His forgiveness. Many singles carry unnecessary guilt, believing their current season is a punishment for past mistakes. But God’s forgiveness wipes the slate clean. Once you have repented, He remembers your sins no more—so why should you keep rehearsing them in your mind? Refusing to let go only steals your peace. Accepting His forgiveness means embracing freedom, knowing your singleness is not a curse but an opportunity to grow closer to Him.
3. Stay close to His presence. Peace is strengthened in the presence of God. Through consistent worship, heartfelt praise, and prayer—even in tongues—you create a spiritual atmosphere that no scheme of the enemy can shake. God’s presence calms fears, lifts burdens, and fills you with assurance that you are not alone in this journey. The more you cultivate intimacy with Him, the more unshakable your peace becomes.
4. Trust His plan. Our human perspective is limited. We think we know what’s best, but only God sees the full picture. Often, what we think is good for us may not align with His greater purpose. That’s why trust is essential. Trusting God means surrendering your timeline, your desires, and even your anxieties to Him—believing that all things are working together for your good. His plan is always worth the wait.
5. Ask for His peace. Jesus is the Prince of Peace, and peace is one of His greatest gifts to us. But just like any gift, it must be received. Ask Him daily to fill your heart with His perfect peace—a peace that goes beyond understanding and keeps you steady no matter what life looks like on the outside. The more you ask, the more you’ll experience His peace covering every area of your life.
May God give you strength and fill your heart with peace as you wait.
This article is dedicated to those who are single and struggling with the waiting season.
As we move into the last quarter of the year, it’s a season of weddings almost every weekend, but you are not even engaged yet. You may be asking, “God when?” The waiting can be exhausting, and for some, even their patience feels worn out. But before you get overwhelmed, let me remind you of something essential: what you need most in this season is peace.
Now, peace is often misunderstood. It’s not about pretending everything is fine or avoiding challenges. It’s not passivity, indifference, or simply staying calm on the surface. True peace is much deeper.
There are 3 different types of peace I want to share with us this morning.
1. Emotional Peace This is the inner stability that remains even when circumstances look uncertain. It’s that quiet assurance inside that helps you hold steady when life feels unbalanced.
2. Relational Peace This kind of peace shows up in the way we interact with others. It prevents bitterness, jealousy, and lingering resentment, even toward those who may seem to be living the life we’re praying for.
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Romans 12:18 [ESV]
3. Spiritual Peace This is the most important of all. It’s the peace that comes from being reconciled with God through Christ. It’s knowing you’re no longer under condemnation but are secure in God’s love. Without this, you’ll always feel a void, no matter your relationship status.
So why is peace so important for singles? Because it’s part of our inheritance as children of God.
For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking but of righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. Romans 14:17 [ESV]
Tomorrow, I will walk us through how to walk in peace, perfect peace that comes from God.
Wow! It’s the last day of the month, and as we approach the last quarter of the year, it’s easy to glance back and feel a sting of disappointment. Maybe some goals didn’t happen. Maybe the plans you had seemed too heavy to carry. You might even be tempted to say, “What’s the point of trying again?”
But listen; this is not the end of your story. A date on a calendar doesn’t define your destiny. God’s timing is bigger than deadlines and schedules.
To the Singles out there, don’t settle for less. Keep pushing. Keep growing. Singleness isn’t a punishment. It’s a season. And just like every season, it has a purpose. Sometimes, the temptation is to settle because of pressure from family, friends, or even your heart. But remember, settling for less than God’s best will never give you lasting peace.
The blessing of the Lord makes a person rich, and He adds no sorrow with it. (Proverbs 10:22, NLT)
When the right relationship comes, it won’t drain you. Rather, it will align with God’s blessing. So use this time to grow, explore your purpose, and strengthen your relationship with God. Don’t rush to fit into someone else’s timeline. Delay doesn’t mean denial.
Likewise, to the married, guard against monotony. Marriage is beautiful, but it can slip into routine if left unattended. Work, bills, and responsibilities can dim the spark if you let them. But love is not meant to be on autopilot; it is meant to be nurtured.
That is why the bible says;
Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth.(Proverbs 5:18, ESV)
That word rejoice means to delight, to celebrate, to enjoy. It’s a call to break monotony. Try new things together. Pray together. Laugh more. Surprise one another. The little changes breathe life into love.
Whether single or married, remember this truth: setbacks don’t mean you’ve failed. Every new day is a fresh chance to rise again.
Though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again.” (Proverbs 24:16, NIV)
That means even if this month didn’t look like what you hoped for, rise again. Tomorrow opens a brand-new chapter.
You’re not behind. You’re not forgotten. The God who carried you through this month is the same God waiting to walk with you into the next. Keep pushing, keep believing, and keep your eyes on Him.
Your best days aren’t behind you- they’re unfolding ahead.
