But trust me — it’s even more awkward when you don’t.
Singles should not be afraid to ask questions about money early. Not because you’re being materialistic, but because how someone handles money reveals how they handle responsibility.
Do they save? Are they drowning in debt but pretending otherwise? Do they tithe, give, plan, or just spend whatever comes in?
You’re not asking for bank statements on the first date—just be observant.
Money isn’t the foundation of love, but it can break what love is trying to build if you ignore it too long.
For married couples, here’s the truth:
You’re not just sharing a bed—you’re sharing a budget. And if you’re not on the same page financially, you’ll end up blaming each other for stress that could have been avoided.
Here are a few simple things that may help:
1. Talk about money regularly, not only when there’s a crisis.
Set a time each month to go over income, expenses, plans—with grace, not tension.
2. Don’t hide money.
Secret accounts, silent spending, or “it’s my money” attitudes only create distrust. Even if you earn more, you’re building together.
3. Create a plan that reflects both of you.
One person may love saving, the other may enjoy giving or investing. Find a rhythm that honours both your personalities, not just one.
4. Pray about your finances.
Seriously. Invite God into your money decisions. He’s not just the God of miracles—He’s the God of wisdom.
When money becomes a conversation instead of a battle, your relationship will breathe easier. Because love thrives where trust lives, and how you handle money says a lot about trust.
Last week, we explored “love and boundaries,” and this week, I wish to further develop that discourse by examining how Jesus approached boundaries. Ready?
If you missed last week’s article, you can read it HERE.
Love doesn’t mean losing yourself. No, it doesn’t. Jesus is the embodiment of perfect love, yet He lived with boundaries while on earth.
He didn’t attend to every request. He didn’t go where everyone wanted Him to go. He didn’t let people define His purpose or dictate His pace.
That’s not pride. That’s wisdom.
Take a moment and imagine this: if Jesus, who could heal, raise the dead, and preach better than anyone, said “no” sometimes and walked away sometimes, then why do we think love means saying yes to everything and everyone?
Let’s see a few instances of how Jesus handled pressure:
1. He said “No” to people’s demands.
When a crowd begged Him to stay and keep performing miracles, He told them no.
“I must go and preach elsewhere,” He said in Luke 4:42-43.
Love isn’t always staying. Sometimes it’s knowing when to move.
2. He walked away to rest.
Jesus often left the crowd — even needy, desperate crowds — to pray and recharge (Mark 1:35).
Love isn’t burnout. You can care deeply and still take time to breathe.
3. He guarded His mission.
When Peter tried to talk Him out of the cross, Jesus didn’t sugarcoat it: “Get behind me, Satan.”
That wasn’t rudeness. That was clarity. Boundaries protect purpose.
So here’s the lesson:
You can love someone and still set limits.
You can serve others and still guard your peace.
You can give generously without giving away your values.
Boundaries aren’t unloving.
They’re how we love well — with wisdom, not exhaustion.
And if Jesus had them, so should we.
Do you have boundaries in your life—both your love life and generally? Work out something today.
Do you know that many relationship problems actually start because of a lack of boundaries? So, it’s wise that we deal with the issue of boundaries.
Boundaries are not walls.
They’re the healthy fences that define where you end and someone else begins.
They protect your peace, preserve your values, and keep resentment from building silently.
What do boundaries connote for singles? Well, boundaries are how you say, “I love God, I love myself, and I take my life seriously.”
Before entering any relationship, be clear on what matters to you.
Will you go and spend the weekend in his/her house? Will you allow emotional manipulation in the name of love? Will you compromise your sexual purity because “Valentine’s Day is once a year”?
If you don’t define your boundaries, someone else will define them for you.
For married couples, boundaries are just as vital. A healthy marriage thrives on boundaries.
Not everything should be said in anger.
Not every extended family member should have unrestricted access to your home or decisions.
Not every habit is okay just because “that’s how I’ve always been.”
Marriage thrives when couples communicate what’s acceptable, what’s uncomfortable, and what needs to change—with love, not hostility.
A marriage without boundaries becomes chaotic.
A relationship without boundaries becomes a trap.
Even Jesus had boundaries—He said “no” sometimes, walked away sometimes, and guarded His purpose always.
Disagreements are not proof that something is wrong with your relationship.
They are proof that two different people have chosen to do life together — and that’s bound to get “messy” sometimes.
Singles, have you heard that myth that “real love means we never fight”? Don’t fall for it!
Conflict isn’t the enemy. Disrespect is. Watch how the person reacts when you disagree. Do they listen? Do they shut down? Do they insult or withdraw?
Because how they handle small disagreements is a preview of how they’ll handle bigger ones in marriage.
Married couples, stop expecting your spouse to read your mind.
Your silence isn’t helping. Your sarcasm isn’t solving anything either.
If there’s a disagreement, speak! Speak clearly. Speak kindly. Speak early — before frustration builds.
And when they talk, don’t listen just to defend your point. Listen to understand.
When next you find conflict in love, here are a few practical things to try:
1. Use “I feel” statements instead of accusations. (“I feel hurt when…” is better than “You never…”)
2. Avoid yelling or storming out — take a break if needed, but promise to return to the conversation.
3. Pray before confronting, not after exploding.
4. And please, don’t bring in friends or family to take sides. Protect your relationship from unnecessary eyes.
“Let every word you speak be drenched with grace and tempered with truth and clarity. For then you will be prepared to give a respectful answer to anyone who asks about your faith.”Colossians 4:6[TPT]
Conflict, handled with grace, deepens connection. It forces growth. It teaches patience. It invites humility.
So no, conflict isn’t a sign of failure. It’s an opportunity to love better — if you let it. So let it.
