Not every relationship feels balanced. Sometimes one person gives more, prays more, forgives more. Singles often face this tension while dating someone who seems less invested. Couples experience it when one spouse feels they’re carrying the emotional or spiritual weight alone.
But here’s the truth: love will never always be 50/50. Some days it’s 80/20, other days 40/60. What matters is whether both people are committed to closing that gap when they can. What matters is whether both are giving their 100% whilst striving to do better.
However, my dear singles, if you constantly feel like the only one giving, kindly step back and assess. Love shouldn’t drain you before it blesses you.
Married couples, here’s for you: instead of keeping score, focus on building balance. Communicate. Appreciate what your partner does, even if it’s not in your preferred way. Encourage growth rather than resentment.
God’s love toward us is always greater—and that’s our model. We keep giving, but not foolishly; we love, but not blindly.
The Love That Builds Together – Priscilla & Aquila
If there’s a couple in Scripture who understood partnership, it’s Priscilla and Aquila. They weren’t just in love—they were in purpose. Together, they built tents, hosted Paul, and taught Apollos about the way of God more accurately.
Their love wasn’t loud, but it was strong. It wasn’t flashy, but it was fruitful.
In the journey of seeking “the one,” look beyond chemistry—look for compatibility in calling. Chemistry is okay, but don’t forget compatibility. Can you build something meaningful with this person? Can they strengthen your faith, or will they stretch your peace?
In marriage, Priscilla and Aquila remind us that love isn’t only about affection; it’s about assignment. As a couple, support each other’s callings. Build something that outlives you. Let your home be more than a comfort zone—make it a kingdom zone.
The world may not remember how perfect your wedding was, but it will remember what your partnership produced.
Love is sweetest when it’s serving purpose together.
Ruth wasn’t scrolling through profiles or waiting for a miracle at midnight. She was busy—serving, gleaning, showing loyalty, and doing the right thing even when life didn’t look fair. And that’s exactly where Boaz found her.
Singles, this is your reminder: purpose attracts purpose. Don’t pause your life waiting for love. Keep becoming who God called you to be. Let your consistency, not your loneliness, define your decisions.
Ruth wasn’t looking for Boaz; she was walking in obedience. Boaz wasn’t chasing attention; he was leading with integrity. Their paths crossed because both were aligned with God.
For couples, the Ruth-and-Boaz story doesn’t end at the wedding. The same qualities that attracted them—kindness, diligence, respect—had to keep showing up in marriage too.
So whether you’re single or married, keep doing right even when no one seems to notice. The right person—or the right version of your spouse—often appears when you stay faithful in the field God planted you in.
Sometimes love doesn’t come looking for those who wait; it comes looking for those who work faithfully.
She thought marriage meant constant date nights. He thought marriage meant saving every penny to keep the home running and to give the children a good life.
He thought “quality time” meant watching TV together. She thought it meant long walks and deep talks.
Neither was absolutely wrong—but both were disappointed.
This is how expectations clash. And if unspoken, they lead to frustration.
Singles, while dating, don’t just ask, “What’s your favourite colour?” Ask, “What does love look like to you?” You might discover one of you defines romance as gifts, while the other defines it as service. This clarity will definitely save you from some conflict later. With this understanding, you can go into marriage knowing what and what you will do that will read L.O.V.E to your spouse.
Now, to couples, let’s stop assuming that our spouses should “just know.” No one is a mind reader. If you expect help with chores, say so. If you long for more affection, voice it. James 4:2 says, “You do not have because you do not ask God.” Ehm, the same principle applies in marriage—sometimes you don’t have because you didn’t ask your spouse. Now start asking.
Expectations aren’t the enemy—silence is. Talk. Listen. Adjust. That’s how two merge into one.
And it is definitely not “if it’s meant to be, it will be.”
Love is work.
It’s showing up on days you’d rather check out.
It’s choosing to pray together when talking feels hard.
It’s saying “yes” to service when your body says “rest.”
Singles—don’t just pray for love, prepare for labour… prepare to work it out. Marriage is a responsibility, so you have to be responsible in order to do marriage well. Can you wake up daily and keep choosing one person? Can you plant seeds of kindness even when you’re not in the mood? Can you lose sight of yourself in order to care for another?
Couples—remember, butterflies don’t keep flying forever. You must build the love you have. Think of it as a garden. That therefore means planting, watering, and weeding. Keep planting new memories again and again. Keep pouring into your spouse’s emotional tank. Then water with patience and weed out bitterness and comparison.
Love does not thrive because feelings are always there, but because work never stops.
Let us not grow weary in DOING good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.Galatians 6:9
Don’t give up. Keep working. That’s how love lasts.
