Christmas is a season of joy, lights, and celebration… and couples/families on matching pyjamas (lol). But Christmas is also a season built on waiting. The world waited centuries for a Saviour. Mary waited months for a promise to take form. Israel waited through silence, longing, and uncertainty for hope to appear.
Singles often feel this same ache during the holidays. They see “everyone” celebrating love—with their odogwus and achalugos—while they quietly wonder, “When will it be my turn?”
Married couples also face silent waitings: waiting for a spouse to change, waiting for healing, unity, provision, peace in the home. Or even waiting for a child.
But Christmas whispers a gentle truth: God does His best work in seasons that seem slow.
Mary didn’t see the full picture; she simply trusted. Joseph didn’t understand everything; he simply obeyed. The shepherds were minding their ordinary business when heaven broke in unexpectedly.
This Christmas, whether you’re waiting for love, restoration, direction, or emotional healing, remember: the God who came through for the world will come through for you.
Love may not look perfect right now. Your relationship journey may feel delayed. Your marriage may feel like it’s in winter. But Christmas reminds us that light always arrives—sometimes quietly, sometimes suddenly, but always faithfully.
Hold hope close this season. Anchor your heart on God’s promise. The same God who stepped into humanity is still stepping into hearts, homes, and relationships today.
In Exodus 17, there was war between Israel and Amalek. One of the interesting things about that battle was what was going on on the hill! Moses was “controlling” the outcome of the battle in the valley with his hands—hands up, Israel prevailed; hands down, Amalek prevailed. What a beautiful picture of the power of prayer, but that’s not the point today.
So, when Moses’ hands grew tired during the battle, Israel began to lose. But Aaron and Hur stepped in, held up his arms, and the tide turned. Victory came not because Moses was so, so strong, but because he was supported.
This is the way relationships work. Love was never designed to be a place where you pretend you’re always okay. And by the way, love was not designed to be isolated. Singles, be wary of the one that says, “let’s keep our relationship private.” No authority figure in your life knows about your relationship? You are breeding a ground for compromise and hurt.
So, I was saying that love was never designed to be a place where you pretend you’re always okay.
Singles, you don’t have to be the “strong one” all the time. Find friendships that lift your hands when life gets heavy. Your support system matters as much as your romantic decisions.
For married couples, you won’t always be on the same energy level. One person might be battling doubt, stress, financial pressure, or emotional exhaustion. Holding each other up isn’t weakness; it’s actually covenant.
Sometimes the greatest expression of love is simply saying, “Rest. I’ve got you.”
Strength in relationships isn’t measured by how little help you need, but by how willing you are to give and receive support.
When love learns to borrow strength, it never runs out.
Jonah wasn’t simply running from Nineveh; he was running from transformation. The assignment felt uncomfortable, so he fled. And many of us still do the same in relationships today.
Singles run from vulnerability because of past wounds.
Married couples run from conversations that feel overwhelming.
Some run from accountability; others run from the version of themselves they are afraid to become.
But note that every time Jonah ran, the storm followed. The storm was not because God was punishing him, but because broken people attract storms; and healing cannot start until the running stops.
So, please, stop running.
Singles, don’t run from people who genuinely care for you simply because you fear being seen deeply.
Couples, don’t run from the hard discussions that can rescue your marriage.
When Jonah finally stopped running, clarity came, and peace and purpose followed.
Sometimes the storm in a relationship is not from lack of love, but from unwillingness to face the truth. Healing begins the moment you stop running.
Is there an uncomfortable truth you’ve been running from?
One of the most underrated relationship skills is teachability. Not everyone is willing to learn, adjust, apologise, or grow—and that’s where many relationships quietly break long before the loud issues show up.
Singles, the person who is “always right” will eventually make you always wrong. He/she will make your voice disappear: you won’t be heard if you go on with the marriage.
Please pay attention to how someone responds to correction. Do they withdraw? Attack? Deflect? Mock? Or do they reflect?
A teachable partner is a gift; don’t underestimate it.
And you who are looking for a teachable partner, are you also teachable? Do you really listen? Think about this.
Married couples, teachability is how relationships stay alive. You’re not the same person you were last year. Life changes, seasons shift, and your partner’s needs evolve. What worked five years ago may not work now, and that’s okay.
The danger begins when we insist on love adjusting to us but refuse to adjust to love.
We don’t like waiting. Singles hate waiting for the right person; couples hate waiting for a change in their partner. But love, real love, always passes through seasons of delay.
Abraham waited for Isaac. Hannah waited for Samuel. Joseph waited for freedom. Yet in the waiting, God was forming something deeper than desire—He was forming trust.
Singles, don’t rush the waiting season. God is not punishing you; He’s preparing you. Waiting is not wasted when it builds wisdom.
Couples, be patient with the process. You may not see change today, but growth often happens quietly, beneath the surface. Keep watering your relationship with prayer and kindness, even when you don’t see instant fruit.
Love that endures waiting becomes stronger. It stops being about timelines and becomes about trust.
In God’s hands, delay is not denial—it’s development.
