5 Ways to Handle Offence Triggers

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5 Ways to Handle Offence Triggers

One of the weapons the devil uses against many homes and marriages is offence.

Husbands and wives are usually different because opposite will always attract. So maturity is practically handling whatever disrupt the unity in marriage.

Here are 5 ways you can start to use now to get you out of every form of offence.

1. Identify and Name the Trigger

Keep a small “trigger journal” for a week. Each time someone’s words affect your mood, write:

– What was said

– Who said it

– How did it make you feel

This helps you spot patterns — sometimes it’s not what is said, but how you interpret it.

2. Pause Before Reacting

When someone’s words sting, give yourself a 10-second mental buffer.

In that pause, ask: “Is this about me, or is it about them?”

Often, people’s words reveal their state of mind, not your worth.

3. Reframe the Words

Instead of taking the statement as an attack, reinterpret it in a less harmful way.

Example: If someone says, “You’re always late,” you might reframe it to, “They value punctuality, and I can work on timing.”

This isn’t about excusing rudeness — it’s about protecting your peace.

4. Strengthen Your Emotional Filters

Just like a house needs a strong door to keep out intruders, your heart needs a filter to keep out unnecessary offense.

Daily affirmations help here. Example:

– “I choose not to take offense today.”

– “My worth is not decided by anyone’s opinion.”

This slowly rewires how much power people’s words have over you.

5. Practice Mood Recovery

Even if words hurt, you can shorten how long you stay moody by:

– Stepping away to breathe deeply for 3–5 minutes.

– Listening to music that lifts you.

– Reciting a favorite scripture (e.g., “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.” – Psalm 119:165

Try these steps and trust God for a better version of you this week.