4 Things To Do Before Saying I Do

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4 Things To Do Before Saying I Do

Several things should be considered before signing the dotted lines with anybody. I have outlined four of them, which I hope you’ll find useful.

1. Hear God.

Yes, that has to be the first thing. Make sure you hear God audibly. Make sure God is the one leading you into that marriage.

Do you know why?

Matt 7:25-27 [ESV] And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell, and great was the fall of it.”

Both houses faced the same test. Whether you heard God or you heard yourself, there would be challenges. If you are sure God led you to the relationship or marriage, you can navigate those challenges together.

And if you are married already, go back to where God spoke to you about him or her. Replay those encounters in your mind. It will shoot some adrenaline into you and give the desired energy to forge ahead.

2. Get your company involved

Everyone has a company, a group of people that share similar beliefs. Don’t do a relationship in isolation. Get them involved. Carry them along. Any relationship that aims to isolate you from your company (if it’s a good company)is a red flag.

Sometimes, we get tired of running alone. Sometimes, we need someone or some people to cheer us on. That is what your company is for.

Acts 4:23 [NKJV] And being let go, they went to their own companions and reported all that the chief priests and elders had said to them.

If you are in the wrong company, receive the strength to exit.

3. Create boundaries

Oh yes, this has to be on the list. You need to create boundaries. A relationship with no set boundaries will settle for anything, including things that don’t reflect godly purity.

You both need to sit and talk. How far can we go? Who can we allow access to our lives? When do we call it a day, by 2 am?

Even as a couple, you need to set boundaries. Who can stay over at your place? How much influence will parents have?

Don’t just assume these issues will sort themselves out. Talk about it and take a stand.

4. Have a defined goal

If you don’t define your relationship, you will abuse it. Why I’m I in a relationship with this person? What do we want to achieve in this marriage?

The cinemas and outings are good, but be sure to ask definite questions along the way.

Ask for short and long-term goals. With that, you will know if you fit or not.

Even if you heard God, the relationship still has to be defined. How long is this relationship going to last? Don’t assume it will lead to marriage; ask.

These are the 4 Things To Do Before Saying I Do

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