Here Are Reasons Why Affairs Happen. Bode has been starved of sex in his matrimonial home. His wife, Sandy feels justified to “close shop” for him because she suspected he was cheating on her. This even increased his vulnerability and drove him more into the hands of the daughters of Eve who have been itching to have him! Why do affairs happen?
A major point of conflict between couples has to do with adultery! This does not have to do with those without the church alone. There is adultery within the church as well.
An affair can be defined as a sexual relationship, romantic friendship, or passionate attachment between two people without the knowledge of the other spouse.
Nobody is immune to having an affair. Nothing can justify having an experience. God frowns at it.
Why do affairs happen?
Once we can know the root cause, the solution is not far-fetched.
Here Are Reasons Why Affairs Happen 1. Warning and Wake-Up Call Some people have affairs in other to simply “warn” their spouse and tell them what they are capable of doing. Can you beat that?
When you try to warn or get back to your spouse through an affair, the consequences that follow are really not pleasant.
Pro 6:32-33 (MSG) Adultery is a brainless act, soul-destroying, self-destructive; [33] Expect a bloody nose, a black eye, and a reputation ruined for good.
2. The Needs When the sexual and emotional needs of either party are not met, it could lead to an affair.
As couples, strive to satisfy each other’s needs as much as you can.
It helps to reduce the vulnerability that arises as a result of unmet needs.
3. A Bruised Ego This may sound ridiculous, but men often have affairs to repair broken-down egos!
At the same time, this may sound “valid” to men, but affairs are still wrong and always come with attendant consequences.
There is never a “good reason” for adultery! The after-effects care less why it happened.
Wives, don’t deliberately bruise your husband’s ego.
Instead, massage it, and protect it. Here Are Reasons Why Affairs Happen
May God grant you more understanding in Jesus’ name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be trapped
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, shield my marriage from all evils
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 6:32 (GW) Whoever commits adultery with a woman has no sense. Whoever does this destroys himself.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Set boundaries to prevent affairs
What Husbands and Wives Are To Build. Let’s start with the wife. Women are powerful.
To show you how powerful women are, the Bible never says a man builds a home. It says a woman builds.
Pro 14:1 (KJV) Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
Dear wife, there is a lot of power and accompanying responsibilities that lie with you.
Your decisions, prayers, and actions will eventually build your home or tear it down, therefore, you cannot afford to be foolish.
Be wise and cooperate with what God is trying to do in your life.
How do you do this?
Avoid all the strife, bickering, quarrels, and the like for that is how a foolish woman tears down her home. Cooperate with your husband and be submissive as the Bible says.
Now, to the husbands. What Husbands and Wives Are To Build. Since it is the woman building the house, what then is the responsibility of the man?
Build the woman! The husband is to build the builder!
That is what the husband should do. Build the woman.
Dear men, build your wife so that your wife can build the house.
Invest in your wife. Support her endeavors and career.
Be interested in her passion and you know what, she will give it all it takes to pray for the family.
May your marriage be blessed. These are What Husbands and Wives Are To Build
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a wise builder.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the wisdom to build.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 1:5 (KJV) If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You. Things are not going fine. You are not happy. You don’t even know where the problem is coming from.
You have prayed, fasted and even sought counsel and nothing seems to be working.
You are even at the point of compromising your faith or you have even done so out of frustration and done what you knew was clearly wrong!
Like it is often said, “the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
Well at this point, when you have done all you know to do, and you don’t know what else to do, here is what to do!
Mercy! Lord!
That is One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You
I guess when Apostle Paul said to pray without ceasing, this is the kind of prayer point he has in mind!
1Th 5:17 (KJV) Pray without ceasing.
See another translation:
1Th 5:17 (TPT) Make your life a prayer.
Again this is corroborated in the book of Hebrews.
Heb 4:16 (KJV) Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
If you read it backward, it will say something like this:
In the time of need, you should find grace after obtaining MERCY, by coming boldly to the throne of grace!
Mercy over my relationship!
Mercy over my life!
Mercy over my finances.
Mercy over my decisions.
Consciously ask for His mercy all day long and you will see God intervene in your situation! This is One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The mercy of God will work for me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, have mercy on me!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 4:16 (AMPC) Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Meditate on God’s mercy today!
The Art Of Listening In Marriage. Women are known to speak more words than men. In fact, studies have shown they speak 10,000 more words than men.
Even the introvertish woman is speaking maybe not out loud but she is talking in her mind. Every woman loves talking because to them it is therapeutic.
When a woman is stressed she likes to talk. To her, talking is for affection and for connection. Unlike men who talk for information.
When women talk about an issue or a problem, they are not talking because of the solution, or to be judged, criticized, or corrected. They talk because they want to feel connected to their spouse, they want companionship and affection. They usually feel better after they have talked.
However, men need to be careful not to muzzle their wives, especially the introverted ones.
When men understand how women see talking, it will help them in having meaningful conversations with them and not kill the conversation with their wives.
It’s not out of place for women to remember things that happened in the past. It’s not because they are revengeful that they bring up issues of the past, it’s because they have a larger capacity to store information.
Whenever they bring up such issues, don’t criticize or judge them, just reassure them and apologize. It’s okay to apologize for issues of the past.
These are four ways couples should best handle conversations.
1. Don’t Debate Men, don’t fall to the temptation of debating with your wives when they talk to or with you. Men are hunters and territorial beings. They are warriors and fighters. They enjoy conquest and whatever they do, they do for honor. Men, your wives are not competing with you. It’s just conversational. Be careful of how you use your words. Don’t Debate with her. In the same way, wives should not argue rudely with their husbands.
2. Don’t Dismiss Don’t Dismiss her during her conversations. Don’t dismiss what is a reality to her as not being important. Don’t Dismiss her feelings. Don’t trivialize what is serious to her. Empathize with her or just listen to her giving your full attention. Wives, don’t even try to dismiss your husbands. It may not land well with him.
3. Don’t Disagree Two wrongs never make a right. Since both husband and wife are very different with over fifty differences, you will always have different opinions. Submission is not shutting up her uniqueness and individuality but with her different opinion allowing her husband’s opinion take the lead. Husbands, never kill your wife’s initiatives. You may be killing the conversation in her unknowingly. We can disagree to agree especially knowing that we are better as two different persons. We have two different perspectives to bring to the table for more wins. You must both understand The Art Of Listening In Marriage.
4. Don’t Defend Sometimes when your wife brings up an issue that she feels hurt about all she needs and all she is hoping to get from you is a simple “I am sorry”. I am sorry does not diminish your leadership role but validates it. If your wife says she’s hurt then that means she is hurt. Don’t defend your actions, don’t sermonize her. Be concerned more about her person and wellbeing than you are about fixing her or putting her in her right place. The same goes for husbands, learn to empathize with your husband because he is really hurt if he can say he is.
Wives usually need reassurance while men need affirmation.
The health of the marriage is more important than any other thing.
Our marriage will thrive. This is The Art Of Listening In Marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I honor the marriage covenant. I respect my marriage. I appreciate our differences and I adjust to making marriage work
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father give me your wisdom to honor my spouse in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY So every married man should be gracious to his wife just as he is gracious to himself. And every wife should be tenderly devoted to her husband. Ephesians 5:33 TPT
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to listen to your wife
Don’t let Anything Faze You! The present times require that you are resolute in your walk with God and that you know what you are doing!
This present age is hostile to easily deceived people! And yeah, we all know the devil is the master deceiver. He seeks to deceive you by any possible means. The very reason why you have to know what you are doing as a child of God and refuse to be tossed to and fro!
The scripture refers to some people as unscrupulous con men! They are out to exploit the faith! Check it out in the Message Translation.
2Ti 3:13-14 (MSG) Unscrupulous con men will continue to exploit the faith. They’re as deceived as the people they lead astray. As long as they are out there, things can only get worse. [14] But don’t let it faze you. Stick with what you learned and believed, sure of the integrity of your teachers—
Oh, I love it, Don’t let these wicked humans faze you! In other words, in places where you have been deceived, abused, exploited, manipulated, short-changed, jilted, treated unjustly, and so on, do not allow such experiences to expunge you from the faith! Don’t let Anything Faze You!
The devil wants you obliterated from the kingdom! Do not cooperate with that agenda! Do not plug yourself into his evil plot! Rather cooperate with heaven’s agenda and all that is lost will be restored.
Never allow any human being to make you decide against God or loathe the things of God! It says, stick with what you have learned! I pray this week finds you in pleasant places, I pray God hearkens and honours your prayers and I declare that this week, God will fill your mouth with laughter indeed! Don’t let Anything Faze You! Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I remain steadfast in God!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the strength to stick with you, no matter what
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2Ti 3:14 (TPT) Yet you must continue to advance in strength with the truth wrapped around your heart, being assured by God that he’s the One who has truly taught you all these things.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from all who are causing you to trip
