What To Do When Love Feels Heavy

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Yesterday, we considered why love feels heavy. If you missed yesterday’s article, you can read it HERE.

Today, we will take a step further to look at practical things to do when love feels heavy.

1. Don’t fake peace. Be honest with God.

You don’t have to pretend to be okay when you’re not. God already knows how you feel. Share with Him where it hurts and what’s wearing you out. There’s no healing in pretending.

2. Pause, don’t panic.

Feeling pressure doesn’t always mean there’s something wrong with your relationship. Take a moment to reflect. What’s really bothering you? Is it something they did? An unresolved issue within yourself? Or maybe it’s the fear of losing control? Slow down and pinpoint what’s really going on before you misinterpret it.

3. Anchor your peace in God, not the relationship.

You love them, but they aren’t your source of happiness. If your mood hinges on how they treat you, you’ll always feel unstable. You weren’t designed to base your emotional balance on another person. Only God can carry that weight.

4. Ask God for wisdom before you act.

Not knowing what to say or do next is perfectly fine. When you’re confused, take it to God. Ask Him, “Lord, what’s the right thing to do here? Help me respond rather than react.” He promised to provide wisdom to those who seek it (James 1:5). Lean on that promise.

Conclusion

The pressure you’re feeling right now doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed or that you’re messing it all up. It might just mean that you’re being refined and that God is teaching you how to love better. You could very well be growing out of emotional immaturity. You’re learning to stay grounded even when your partner isn’t perfect.

So you might feel pressed, but you’re not crushed. Because God isn’t just watching your relationship; He’s in it with you. Supporting you, guiding you, helping you grow, and loving you first so that you can love well.

Shalom!