The tactics the devil uses doesn’t change. It is important we get conversant with his tactics so that we can better prepare ourselves and safeguard our destinies with the help of the Holy Spirit from falling into his traps.
That is why the scripture says
Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. -2Corinthains 2:11 (KJV)
The Amplified version says:
To keep Satan from getting the advantage over us; for we are not ignorant of his wiles and intentions. -2Corinthains 2:11 (AMP)
We must by the Spirit of God protect ourselves so that he does not get an advantage over us in our relationships.
Now the serpent was more subtil than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? –Genesis 3:1 (KJV)
In verse one of the above verse, he said:
“Yea, hath God said…”
He still does the same today. What he does is to challenge the truth of God’s word in your heart.
He did the same thing for Jesus Christ!
The temptations of Jesus Christ were crafted to challenge the word of God. That was why the moment Jesus Christ responded with “It is written…,” he won!
Why would the devil always challenge God’s word?
The reason is obvious. The moment he makes you doubt God’s word or reject God’s word, he would have a foothold to operate.
So he comes and says things like:
“Did God really say we should not have pre-marital sex?”
“But everybody is compromising! Why should I be different?”
“Can I really marry someone without ‘testing’ that person in bed?”
Sometimes he even comes quoting scripture and misapplies it. He says things like:
“The scriptures says we must be wise as a serpent, so I don’t think it is wrong to fight for my job at workplace by sleeping with my boss”
“Is it really wrong to be involved in adultery? David was adulterous, and yet God still said He is a man after His heart. Did God not approve adultery there? If God hates an adulterous life, He would have killed David!”
He comes and tells two people who are in courtship:
“See, there is nothing wrong in kissing and petting. It is something we should do in order to express our love since we are sure of getting married!”
He tells another:
“There is nothing wrong with masturbation. We must find a way to relieve the pressure, in as much as we did not fornicate. Even one Pastor said it is okay…”
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY In all things, I give thanks, including for the priceless gift of a good spouse and helper. I will not allow the devil, pride, pressures of life, and ignorance direct, and lead me astray.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me your wisdom to be a good partner to my future spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Do you see what we’ve got? An unshakable kingdom! And do you see how thankful we must be? Not only thankful, but brimming with worship, deeply reverent before God. For God is not an indifferent bystander. –Hebrews 12:28 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make up your mind to stand strong in God
Like Adam, have you been in that place where no help-meet has been found? Have you searched and prayed and fasted and yet nothing is forthcoming?
You see, you have to cease from your own strength! Your intellectual prowess cannot get a prudent wife from the Lord. Your nice manners and Queens English are irrelevant. The parameter of your cognitive abilities is not the issue here.
Adam successfully named every creature on earth, a display of uncommon spiritual and mental energy and prowess, and yet was frustrated at the end because he could not find a spouse!
Are you in that place like you are a graduate, but no helpmeet? You are rich and comfortable, but no helpmeet? You attend functions and join the church workforce and do a lot but no helpmeet? That was where Adam found himself.
What was God’s solution to the imbroglio?
And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept…
Guys and ladies, you’ve got to “sleep” and allow God to lead you! Some of you have simply refused to sleep! The scripture said “and he slept,” so it was a choice. He could have said, “I am not sleeping, and just start jumping or jogging.
After you have done all you know to do, why not just sleep and abandon yourself in God’s arms and plans for your life? You have been too much awake and yet no result!
Just sleep and trust God to do it. When you sleep, you don’t wake up every two minutes to check your security. You just sleep. Go into a deep sleep and stop sampling ladies all over the place every Sunday! You don’t even listen to messages again in church!
By the time Adam woke up, God brought her to Adam! Ladies, don’t bring yourself, allow God to bring you! When God brings you or showcases you, it comes with a revelation or conviction to your husband-to-be. Don’t be suggestive. Don’t sound too available. Don’t take the lead. The man is the aggressor and the lady is the responder!
When you “sleep,” God will show you your spouse. He will bring her to you! You will see her and know! That was why, without God saying a word, Adam went into a frenzy of romantic prophecy and began to speak in tongues!
And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Who told him? I wonder! But he had gone through the process of “sleeping” and allowed God to do it, so He woke up with conviction and with no doubt about who his wife was. He didn’t have to go to a mountain in Eden to pray again, He just knew because he had slept!
The next time you want to take things into your hands and step outside His will, remember to step back and got to “sleep!”
I pray for you this morning that this year, God will establish all that concerns your relationship/marriage and dissolve every puzzle in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY By the Spirit of God, I am making wise decisions. I make the most of opportunities in my relationships.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask for an anointing of wisdom. Teach me to do the best and at the right time.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Lam 3:27 KJV It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discern which season you are now and ask God for wisdom to maximize it.
God is interested in your relationship and marriage. God will always lead you even though He allows you to do the choosing. He will not force anyone on you. But if you ask for His direction, He will lead you and often reveal to you His best choice for you.
It is only God that sees you in some thirty years’ time, sees your intended spouse in some years to come, and knows what you will be doing before then, by then and after then, hence he knows the best person fit for you!
House and riches are the inheritance from fathers, but a wise, understanding, and prudent wife is from the Lord. – Pro 19:14 AMP
I love the above scripture. You see, there is a plan of God for you concerning your marital life and it is important you follow that plan!
To understand this, we will go back to the very first story of marriage in the scripture. From there, we can always see the pattern that God has established. God’s methods may change, but His underlying principles remain unchanged!
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. – Gen 2:18-23 KJV
In verse eighteen, God rightly said the man needed a helper. So he created Eve for Adam. God created an Eve, not a Steve! God’s order is clear from the beginning! Man and another man is not God’s order. Two women in marriage is an aberration, it is not God’s order! That is just by the way.
After God created Adam and established he needed help, God created all animals and brought them to Adam to see what He would call them. Thank God, Adam named them appropriately and didn’t call a baboon a wife in the process. If Adam had looked at a monkey and said this is the bone of my bone….that would have spelt some trouble!
This could actually have happened because verse 20 says,
…but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
You must learn to name people appropriately and not go out with everybody or jump in bed with everyone and anyone! This is my boss. This is my colleague. This is just a friend! This is just an acquaintance. This is an unbeliever.
Like Adam, you must name people rightly! Not everybody is your helper! Some are nice but they are destiny killers! There are handsome destiny destroyers and beautiful dream abortionists. You must name people appropriately and you must not allow desperation to push you out of God’s will!
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY By the Spirit of God, I am making wise decisions concerning my spouse. I make the most of opportunities in my relationships.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, I ask for an anointing of wisdom. Teach me to do the best and at the right time.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Lam 3:27 KJV It is good for a man that he bear the yoke in his youth.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discern which season you are now and ask God for wisdom to maximize it and choose your spouse.
I want a dad in the real sense of it. I want a dad whose confidence, leadership, courage, and examples inspire me.
I want a dad who will not usher my budding destiny into smoking and drinking and clubbing by transference of spirits. I want a dad who will pay the price just so for me to emerge. I want a dad I can bless and not regret in the years to come. I want a dad I can call my own, not an absentee dad.
I want a dad that will truly love my mum. I want a dad that will not mess up my inclinations and outlook by bringing in so many ‘mums’ into his bed. I want a dad that will not teach me to lie. I want a dad that will not make my malleable emotions and innocent tendencies gravitate into the world of sexual perversion.
I want a dad that prays for me, a dad that I am proud of, a dad I am close to and a dad I can discuss everything with! I want a dad that will not touch me (girl child) inappropriately. I want a dad who will not sexualize me. I want a dad who will teach me how to love my spouse when the time comes in a pragmatic way.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good man. God will help me!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY oh Lord, flood the eyes of my mind with revelational light in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Ti 2:8 KJV I will therefore that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Check the man in you and sincerely take an inventory to see whether you are pleasing God or not.
Dear single men, pay attention to today’s devotional. Yesterday we examined God’s perspective of an ideal man; today I want to show you what every virtuous woman looks out for in a man.
The lady speaks;
I want a man, a real man, man enough to be my husband, strong enough to stand in his place as the head of the house and the breadwinner. I want a man who is a king and a servant at the same time.
I want a man whose royalty is rooted in God, I want a man I can be proud enough to call ‘my crown!’ I want a man who despite being a king is humble enough to have the heart of a servant.
I want a man I can call my own! A man I am proud of! I want a man of integrity. I want a man whose words I can go to bed on. I want a man who will protect me. I want a man that will not want me to compromise my virtue in order to satisfy his lust during courtship.
I want a man who will be my head and not my headache! I want a man who will love me properly, accept me as I am, nurture me, and commit to my spiritual development.
I want a man that will stand by me in the labour room. The hands of Zerubabbel started it. It ought to complete it!
I want a man I can vouch for. I want a man that will love me only and no other. I want a man that is thinking of me all the time. I want a man, not a boy.
I want a man that will not bring another to our matrimonial bed. I want a man who fears God so much and will not desecrate the marital covenant because of lust. I want a man that will rather die than become adulterous! I want a man that will respect the covenant and will not throw our home into untold chaos and havoc with his actions. I want a man that can zip up!
I want a man in the house that will usher me into peace when I am not around. I want a man in the house that the house-help is safe with. I want a man who has self-control.
I want a man that can lay hands on me and bless me. I want a man that I can rely on emotionally. I want a man whose shoulders I can lean on. I want a man that will lead our family to God.
I want a leader in the house! I want a man who will make my heart bless him and not make my heart bleed at his appearance. I want a man that will make my heart filled with thanks and not tears. I want a man that will make me be at rest and not under duress! I want a man that will make me his queen and not his doormat! I want a friend, confidant, and companion, not a competitor!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good man / I will find a good man. God will help me!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in the name of Jesus, I ask that you flood the eyes of my mind with revelation light. As I study your word give me understanding. Let my relationship be transformed as my mind gets renewed daily.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I will therefore that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. -1Timothy 2:8 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Check the man in you and sincerely take an inventory to see whether you are pleasing God
Throughout every generation, God seeks a man that can bear his flag. Look through the scripture and you will see that God is always in search of a man that can stand for him and his people.
See what the bible says here;
And I sought for a man among them… -Ezekiel 22:30 (KJV)
What kind of man is God in search of?
God wants a man that will lift up holy hands in his presence. A man compelled and propelled by a sense of destiny. He wants a man he can bless and prosper who will not withhold from my kingdom, a man that can be his mouthpiece at home and at work; that the anointing can be placed upon!
God wants a man that will not falsify documents, a man that will be faithful to his wife. He wants a man that can be made a channel of blessing to others, someone who will not bow to the systems of the world. God wants a man king enough to bear his message, and lamb enough to refuel in his presence.
A humble man is who God is searching for!
Are you a man he can bless to bless others? Are you a channel?
God doesn’t want a dam! He wants a man he can exalt who will exalt others, not an intimidated and insecure man who is yielded to the flesh all the time.
Are you a man that can raise sons, and not add sores into other destinies?
God wants a man who knows that his kingdom is perpetuated in lifting others and not putting them down.
God is seeking for a man, even in this generation, who will repair destinies and not wreck them; a man that will remember where God picked him from and not mutilate other destinies.
God wants a man that is conscious of the day of reckoning between him and his maker, the very day he will stand before God to give an account of all he has done.
Are you God’s man? Are you one who forgives easily, not someone who will churn out weapons in his arsenal to destroy others?
God seeks a man he can use to lift burdens off others and not add more.
God seeks a man who will not use his name to manipulate ladies into sexual relationships!
God seeks a man who will not use the grace he is given to bring disgrace into the kingdom!
God wants a man who will not try to build ‘his kingdom’ at the expense of the kingdom of his dear son. Can God trust you with His power and riches?
Are you that man who will not use the wisdom and the platform you have been given to manipulate destinies and leave them warped at the end?
God wants a man whose heart is after him!
My question for you this morning is; are you the man God is looking for?
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good man / I will find a good man. God will help me!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in the name of Jesus, I ask that you flood the eyes of my mind with revelation light. As I study your word give me understanding. Let my relationship be transformed as my mind gets renewed daily.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I will therefore that men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting. -1Timothy 2:8 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Check the man in you and sincerely take an inventory to see whether you are pleasing God
There are many potential virtuous women among prostitutes out there! What they are doing is wrong but the way they pursue their trade relentlessly is the same way they will pursue their destiny if they ever meet Jesus!
Jesus told the adulterous woman, “Go and sin no more!”
It was her sinful life that swallowed up the virtuous woman in her. But if she ever listened to Jesus, if she walked away from that adulterous lifestyle, she became a virtuous woman!
A virtuous woman is a lady who is under tremendous sexual pressure in her office but refuses to dip her hands in adultery!
That is why Proverbs 31:11-12 says:
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. –Proverbs 31:11-12(KJV)
My submission this morning is not to validate a sinful lifestyle; but to call you out of the sinful lifestyle into the virtuous woman that you are meant to be.
The harlot that welcomed the spies that were sent to the Promised Land was eventually mentioned alongside people like Moses and other Patriarchs because of the inner strength she had but was covered up with a sinful lifestyle.
Guys, before you judge anybody, try and know where they are coming from!
To every lady out there this morning, I write to the virtue on your insides. I am calling forth the virtuous woman that lies within you this morning. I feel like I have a trumpet to my mouth to sound an alarm and to issue an edict to every devil trying to distract you and confuse you that their time is up!
I write to the great destiny that lies within you, come alive! I write to the great wife and incredible mother in you, covered in a myriad of weaknesses, come forth in the name of Jesus! I call forth the greatness in you!
Some of you have been abused before you knew your left from right. Some of you have been introduced to sexual intercourse before you reached the age of accountability. It wasn’t your fault, but it would be to your detriment if you remain in that state!
Yes, you may not have been able to influence your past, but from today, you can determine what your future will look like!
Don’t let the devil tell you, you are too far gone! That is a lie from the pit of hell. Jesus is able to save from the gutter-most to the uttermost!
Arise and shine! You can have a great home! You can have a beautiful marriage. All you need to change the equation of your life is Jesus Christ!
He will forgive, cleanse, wash you and make you a new person!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am replacing negative thoughts with positive ones. I’m not defeated in my mind. My relationship is taking a new turn.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in the name of Jesus, as I study your word give me understanding. Let my mind be transformed and renewed daily.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Since we consider and look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen; for the things that are visible are temporal (brief and fleeting), but the things that are invisible are deathless and everlasting. -2Corinthians 4:18 (AMP)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Fill your mind with pictures of a better life and a beautiful marriage. See everything about working and you will have what you see.
First of all and as a background, I will like you to see the meaning of the word “virtuous”, this will help us put proper perspective.
The word “virtuous” is from the Hebrew word “Chayil” which means virtue, valor, strength, and wealth.
When we say a virtuous woman, it actually means “strength” A virtuous woman is a virgin and someone who has kept herself because that is a definition of some strength, but that is not all to it! A virtuous woman is also a lady who despite all she has gone through refuses to give up and makes up her mind never to compromise again!
Don’t get me wrong, a virtuous woman is a lady that is clean and refuses to sin, but a virtuous woman is also a woman who has sinned so much or has been abused so much and yet comes out to stop sinning and fulfill her destiny!
For example, Joyce Meyer is indeed a virtuous woman! Her father slept with her constantly into her teenage years. She was abused sexually, verbally, and in all ways. Her self-esteem was crushed. Her first marriage ended in divorce. Yet out of the ashes of her messed-up life, she rose with the help of God’s Spirit and built a worldwide ministry!
You couldn’t mention three names of women in ministry today without her name popping up! That is what a virtuous woman is! She was broken but she ended up becoming a master at mending!
Let me convince you more.
The word “Chayil” from which “Virtuous” was translated is from the root word “chûl chı̂yl” which means to twist or whirl (in a circular or spiral manner), that is, (specifically) to dance, to writhe in pain, fall grievously (with pain), fear, form, great, grieve, (be) grievous, hope, look, make, be in pain, be much (sore) pained, rest, shake, shapen, (be) sorrow (-full), stay, tarry, travail (with pain), tremble, trust, wait carefully (patiently), be wounded.
Those words present a picture of someone who has gone through so much and yet continues to fight to overcome those things. If I can make a sentence out of that definition, it will look like this:
Somebody who has been twisted and whirled around, abused and messed up, gone through so much pain and grief, has been wounded, and yet refuses to lose hope but allows all the experience to shape her into who God really wants her to be!
To be continued
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have victory in my mind and so I am victorious in my life and marriage. I am replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in the name of Jesus, I ask that you flood the eyes of my mind with revelation light.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Since we consider and look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen; for the things that are visible are temporal (brief and fleeting), but the things that are invisible are deathless and everlasting. -2Corinthians 4:18 (AMP)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Consciously begin to replace the negative thoughts in your mind with positive ones.
A faithful man is a trustworthy man. He is a truthful man! A truthful man is not deceptive. He is not magma of flowing wickedness within covered with the façade of a nice man and waiting to erupt.
A faithful man loves a lady genuinely for who she is and not for what she gives. A faithful man is not out to satisfy his lust only to discard the lady later.
A faithful man will not insist on pre-marital sex, nay, his love for God will not prevail on the lady to compromise her virtue and offend God.
A faithful man is the protector of the lady’s body. He is not one to take advantage of her femininity!
A faithful man is not a Samson that lacks self-control and would not mind using his anointing to desecrate the one he is meant to take care of.
A faithful man is not a Samson that will preach and move in the Spirit one moment only to end up frolicking with prostitutes and ending up on Delilah’s lap.
A faithful man is not an Amnon that would profess his love one moment passionately and then would rape a Tamar the next moment.
A faithful man is not a Uriah that loves his job more than his wife all in the name of loyalty and then died in the process!
A faithful man is not a Judas that would greet and beg you with a kiss as a friend when all he is out for is your body to be crucified!
A faithful man will not compete with his wife. He is secure and he is happy when his wife is progressing.
A faithful man loves and does not lust. A faithful man does not scheme. He does not suddenly give his life to Jesus in order to marry a naïve and unsuspecting child of God and then takes his life back from Jesus after getting what he wants.
A faithful man will not raise his hands against a lady. The fear of God will not allow it knowing that he would be shooting himself in the leg by doing that!
A faithful man is not a gold-digger. A faithful man is not getting married to a lady because of papers and documents. A faithful man follows God’s direction in his life. A faithful man does not marry for money!
A faithful man does not teach against sexual perversion on the pulpit only to be caught up continually with masturbation, pornography, and fornication and yet without repentance!
A faithful man does not double date. He does not take advantage of the fragile emotions of ladies.
A faithful man does not scheme and he does not pretend.
A faithful man is a Joseph that loves God and will say a big NO to compromise knowing that compromise can truncate his destiny.
A faithful man learns to run away like Joseph in the face of sexual pressure and will not start speaking in tongues at such times. He learns to flee and will not spiritualize it by saying “let us reason together!
The list goes on but I will stop here for now. You can add your definition in the comment box.
Stay blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a faithful man/virtuous woman.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to become the person you have created me to be and let the faithful man/virtuous woman in me emerge
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Thou shalt keep them, O LORD, thou shalt preserve them from this generation forever. –Psalms 12:7 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Commit every issue in your relationship into the hands of God
A few days back, I began writing to you about “The Virtuous Woman”, I know a lot of you must be curious as to whether there is anything like a virtuous man, especially the lady folks.
Well, the scripture never mentions anything like a virtuous man but it did talk about men! And that is what I want us to see this morning.
The scriptures say about women:
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. –Proverbs 31:10 (KJV)
Then it says about men:
Most men will proclaim everyone his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find? –Proverbs 20:6 (KJV)
So essentially, the Bible talks about a virtuous woman and a faithful man!
The question is where can one find a faithful man? In fact, The Message translations say:
Lots of people claim to be loyal and loving, but where on earth can you find one? –Proverbs 20:6 (MSG)
The writer of Psalm 12 even sounds like you cannot find such a man again!
Help, LORD; for the godly man ceaseth; for the faithful fail from among the children of men. –Psalms 12:1 (KJV)
Other translations even added pepper on top!
HELP, LORD! For principled and godly people are here no more; faithfulness and the faithful vanish from among the sons of men. –Psalms 12:1 (AMP)
Quick, GOD, I need your helping hand! The last decent person just went down, All the friends I depended on gone. –Psalms 12:1 (MSG)
However, I will like you to know there are still faithful men! It takes a virtuous woman to be found by a faithful man!
There is someone that changes the equation of unfaithfulness. His name is Jesus. He is the only one that can make a difference in the life of a man and who can make the vilest of sinners become a faithful man!
Jesus saw Nathanael coming toward Him and said concerning him, See! Here is an Israelite indeed [a true descendant of Jacob], in whom there is no guile nor deceit nor falsehood nor duplicity! –John 1:47 (AMP)
In the above scripture, Jesus actually found a faithful man! You see when Jesus shows up on the scene, you will find faithful men!
So who is a faithful man? How do I identify one?
To be continued
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a faithful man/virtuous woman.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to become the person you have created me to be and let the faithful man/virtuous woman in me emerge
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Thou shalt keep them, O LORD, thou shalt preserve them from this generation forever. –Psalms 12:7 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Commit every issue in your relationship into the hands of God
A Virtuous woman puts the word of God first place, she is hard-working, and she is enterprising. She stirs up her gift. She is a believer, full of hope. She is a dreamer. She is a helper indeed. She is a wife not a knife. She is a supporter. She is an achiever. She is not a compromiser. She stands for the truth, she is full of integrity.
That is the woman to be! That is the woman to be or to go for! She can only be found by the man that God has prepared for her, so she is not desperate. She is patient to see God unveil His plan for her!
Not everybody is qualified to have her. A man that lacks self-control is not her potential candidate. It takes a king to have a queen. A deceptive man is not her candidate. A man that cannot zip up is not her attraction.
She is not tipped or trapped by a guy who is willing to compromise her virtue in order to satisfy his lust. She refuses to be fooled over and over again by a man who is only a sweet talker but a God hater! She will always go for a man that fears God!
If you find yourself falling short as a woman, don’t resign to fate, but rather start over in God. Make up your mind to make your life significant and to do it God’s way. And God will help you!
Here is the clincher, in every lady and woman is that seed of virtue! It doesn’t matter where you are now or where you have been, God sees you with the eyes of what you can be and what He has created you to be and not what you have done and that is why Jesus died for you while you are yet a sinner, so rise up with every fiber of your being and cry aloud: The virtuous woman in me is coming out!
I will do it God’s way! Respond to His love today and watch your life receive a turnaround!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a unique individual with a purpose to pursue and fulfill, I will forge ahead in destiny, the devil cannot hold me down.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in Jesus’ name, I ask for a spirit of wisdom and revelation in discovering my purpose and the grace to maximize it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY If people can’t see what God is doing, they stumble all over themselves; But when they attend to what he reveals, they are most blessed. –Proverbs 29:18 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Remove the mental block and limitation that exist only in your mind.
A virtuous woman is chaste. She is not available to everybody. She keeps herself for her husband. She is not generous with her body. Her price is far above rubies, she would not sell her body or give in to sex because of some amount of money.
She protects her body because she knows such things are wrong and that she would also be offending God. She does not fool herself.
She doesn’t party or frolic around. She is conscious of spiritual things. She has self-control. She develops herself before marriage. She is God-conscious.
She might have gone through some abuse, but she refuses to give up and be counted as one of the unfortunate statistics. She is a fighter. She knows that God would not consult her past to determine her future.
She might have had an abusive past, but she is willing to let her past go in order to master her future. She knows that she might have become the offspring of her past because of circumstances, but she can rebel and become the parent of her future.
She knows that the best days are ahead of her, so she pays the price for sexual sanctity by saying No to pre-marital sex. She respects her body, so others have no choice but also to respect her. She is The Proverbs 31 Woman
She knows that her source of strength is the word of God. She does not look for acceptance or love from guys; she seeks it from God because that is where it can only come from. She is truthful and she does not double-date.
She knows that double-dating is a rehearsal for adultery. She carries herself with dignity and will not allow every Tom and Jerry to fondle her body which is the temple of God!
She is a prayer machine! She prays for her fiancée and coming marriage. She knows that prayers and God’s word will solve every riddle, dissolve every enigma and bring solutions to impossible cases. The Proverbs 31 Woman
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a unique individual with a purpose to pursue and fulfill.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in Jesus’ name, I ask for a spirit of wisdom and revelation in discovering my purpose and the grace to maximize it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY If people can’t see what God is doing, they stumble all over themselves; But when they attend to what he reveals, they are most blessed. –Proverbs 29:18 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Remove the mental block and limitations that exist only in your mind.
‘Virtuous’ from the Hebrew word ‘Chayil’ means excellence, strength, ability, efficiency and force.
The Bible talks about a Virtuous woman see how the scripture puts it;
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. –Proverbs 31:10 (KJV)
She is the woman considered ‘balanced.’ She has her acts together. She has wisdom and strength and the force of an army. She is the epitome of Christian virtue in feminine form. She is the one who has discovered the secret of drawing strength from her maker and Lord.
She is gracious and elegant in every way, strong within and she stands for what she believes. She is a woman who knows her individuality and uniqueness and yet submits her will, desires, and opinions to her husband.
She is not trapped, hindered, or subservient. She is just submissive. She is not limited or restricted, she is simply fantastic.
All these may not sound like what you see in your fiancée or what you are now as a lady, but there is a hidden desire in every lady to become the Proverbs 31 woman.
God does not focus on our past, or concentrate on how fragile we are in the present. God looks out with pleasure and sees what we are capable of becoming in the future.
We are all ‘projects in progress’ God is still very much at work within us, healing the wounds from our past and strengthening our weak hands. Don’t allow anybody to abuse or despise you. Don’t condemn yourself. Only one person can condemn you, and that is God! But he has refused to do that!
Believe in yourself! You are the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31; the writer just wanted you to have the honour of putting your name there by yourself. Remember, the one who formed you said ‘you are very good!’
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I discover and develop my God-given gifts and talents.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father in Jesus’ name, I ask for a spirit of wisdom and revelation in discovering my purpose and the grace to maximize it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY If people can’t see what God is doing, they stumble all over themselves; But when they attend to what he reveals, they are most blessed. –Proverbs 29:18 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Remove the mental block and limitations that exist only in your mind.
Sandy has been frustrated over and over again. She has been involved in several relationships that kept breaking and she is beginning to think she is cursed. All her friends are married and she seemed to be the only one left. The more desperate she became, the more relationships and marriage were evading her. She has prayed, fasted, and cried, and she doesn’t know what to do again.
On the other hand, Ade had so many girls he sleeps with regularly, and he feels that is being a man. Sadly he is misinformed and confused. He fails to realize that he has been sucked into a cycle of sexual perversion with damning consequences and only God can save him if he is genuinely repentant. The more he did that, the more he frustrates and truncates the plan of God for him in this area.
Buddy and Angie are married but are not enjoying their marriage one bit. They got married without knowing the purpose of marriage, hence abuse set it. They are both well-read and educated, but unfortunately, you are not taught how to run a marriage in school. You are left with deliberate tutoring through self-development or through mentors.
So now, the question is “how do you know the purpose of a relationship/marriage is being abused?
1. Experimenting is not the Purpose of a Relationship.
You see, a relationship is not supposed to be an experiment. It is something you initiate deliberately and purposefully. It is an institution created by God, and as such, it should be held as sacred. When God began the marriage institution, he had something in mind. He was not performing an experiment, he was deliberately packaging a purposeful institution. So, the moment you do anything experimentally, you have moved away from the original intention, hence the consequences.
2. Pre-marital sex is not the Purpose of a Relationship
During friendship or courtship, it is the mind that should be aligned, not the body. When the body comes together in a sexual relationship before marriage, the light of God’s word is tampered with because of violation and confusion enters the soul!
One common statement you will hear from people who are compromising is “I am confused!” They know it is wrong, and yet they are held in the embrace of sin because an illegal bonding has been formed. It takes God and guts to break such.
3. Initiating a relationship while still hurting or bitter.
I have said it over and over again, you don’t begin a relationship immediately after getting off one because you want to prove a point or you want to get back at your ex. At that point, your reasoning is impaired and your definition of love has been warped by the recent experience. It is always good to take a break for about six months and allow yourself to heal. Wisdom says you should find out what went wrong with the first one before you dabble into another.
If you have had several relationships broken over and over again, it is not about a curse anywhere, it is just that you lack wisdom and you are abusing the purpose of a relationship. You don’t enter a relationship because you want the person to fill some emptiness in your soul. That is only what Jesus Christ can do by His Spirit! If you haul a job meant for God on a guy or a lady, you will end up frustrating that person!
After a broken relationship, take your time. Ask questions. Why did it go wrong? Don’t jump into the next available arms just to deal with hurts and wounds. When you do that, you will get hurt the more, because you have not followed the right process. Never ever try to give sex in order to get attention or love. It will never work that way. Young ladies, drum that into your head and carry yourselves with some dignity!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the discovery of my purpose, my role, and the purpose of marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father, Lord help me to function with grace in the area of my calling. Anoint me for my calling as a husband/ wife in my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY We look at this Son and see the God who cannot be seen. We look at this Son and see God’s original purpose in everything created. –Colossians 1:15 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Search every scripture on marriage in the bible to discover God’s mind and purpose for marriage.
It is important as young people, and also as people trusting God for marital bliss to keep your focus on God. That is how things are going to work. Why focus on God and on God’s word?
Here it is:
Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. –Hebrews 12:2-3 (KJV)
Looking unto Jesus! Why the focus? You see it right there. He is the author and the finisher. Your life is like a book. Each year is like a chapter. 2022 is a chapter. It has been authored. He has authored great and mighty things about your life!
So you have to focus on Him in order to be consistent with what is in the book concerning your relationship life. In that book, there is no compromise, no fornication, or any other form of sexual perversion. So you must abstain from all these in order to have your destiny aligned with His plan for your life!
I want you to read verse 3 carefully in The Message Translation:
When you find yourselves flagging in your faith, go over that story again, item by item, that long litany of hostility he plowed through. That will shoot adrenaline into your souls! –Hebrews 12:3 (MSG)
At those times when you get weak along the way, and your faith begins to flag, you focus on Him and His word, read it and study it, meditate on it and you will get some shots of adrenaline to your soul!
This day, I pray for you, God will strengthen you and honour you as you focus on Him in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I acknowledge you Lord as the Lord over my life, I say today that you are the most important person in my life and relationship
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father, in Jesus’ name I ask for a heart that loves and worships you. Make my focus be on you continually, Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God. For consider him that endured such contradiction of sinners against himself, lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds. –Hebrews 12:2-3 (KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make a commitment to spent time daily in prayers, worship, and reading God’s word. Also start attending a good bible believing church.
Some people think they are the most important person in their relationship. They feel if everything can just favour them and be exactly the way they want things to be, everything will be alright.
Generally, human nature is that of selfishness and the different temperaments clearly show this.
All the temperamental weaknesses are based on physical or emotional selfishness. It’s either you want to have it your own way, you hurt others without care or you’re just overly sensitive.
You hurt easily and don’t seem to be able to control your extent and duration of hurt. Interestingly, opposite will always attract, and so we usually find the one that hurts getting attracted to the one who easily gets hurt, akin to the predator and the prey, needing the other for survival.
Some others feel their fiancé/fiancée is the most important person in the relationship. They try their best to give their partner all they need almost to the point of pampering them. Their partners become their focus and obsession.
This will work for a while but soon you will discover that no man can fully satisfy the needs of another man, there is a downside to everything. Man in himself is not wired to sustain himself, not to talk of another.
Both parties require a common focus. They both require a common source of strength, encouragement, joy, power, grace, inspiration, direction, and fulfillment. It is only God that is qualified to take this place. He is the most important person in our relationships.
As we seek to please Him, serve him, worship and obey Him, we become better and bring out the best in our partners. Our relationship with God gives us the required wisdom to be a loving person in a relationship. His principles and person impact us with the grace needed for success.
Don’t put the cart before the horse. In the natural anyone who does that is considered ‘sick upstairs’. It looks like the highest form of foolishness, yet we want to do that in our relationships and expect things to work.
If you’re in a relationship now, the best thing you can do for yourselves is to begin developing your relationship with God. Make Him your focus. Courtship time is not the time for all play and fun. It’s the time to build a solid foundation of a qualitative relationship with God.
If you are not born again, get born again and consecrate yourself afresh to a lifestyle of fellowship and worship. This is wisdom and it’s your ticket to a blissful marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I acknowledge you Lord as the Lord over my life. You are my focus and my obsession. My relationship will work.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father, in Jesus name I ask for a heart that loves and worships you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY As long as you grab for what makes you feel good or makes you look important, are you really much different than a babe at the breast, content only when everything’s going your way? –1Corinthains 3:3 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Make a commitment to spend time daily in prayers, worship and reading God’s word. Also start attending a good bible believing church.
SINGLES -One Thing You Need To Know As A Single Continued from yesterday.
4. God’s word is the source of joy
These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full. –John 15:11 (KJV)
Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full. –John 16:24 (KJV)
When you find yourself in situations that do not look like what God promised you, do not get depressed about it or start some pity-party, rather get into God’s word and search out every scripture that handles that particular situation.
As you begin to meditate on those scriptures and use them to pray, you find strength coming to you and the joy of God welling up on your inside!
This joy, as it wells up, rejuvenates you and gets you refreshed. All of a sudden, you start seeing clearer, that it is not about the issues, but about the God, your father who loves you so much and had already given you the victory!
Now, your trust in Him as you express it further moves God to action on your behalf. You think you are long overdue for marriage with suitor not in sight? Don’t get depressed my sister, resort to praise and let the joy of the Holy Ghost fill your heart. You will come to see that your marriage eventually will not be late; it will be the latest in town!
I come against the spirit of heaviness over your life. I come against the spirits behind despondency and suicidal tendencies. I shatter your power now!
Don’t give up on God, because you are at the verge of greatness in your life! God is coming through for you sooner than you expect.
I pray for every reader this morning, God will surround you with his mercy. Your eyes will be opened to see the reality of the kingdom of God that it is not in meat and drink only but in righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost! One Thing You Need To Know As A Single
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My joy is full, and so I attract the favour of God and man.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father, I ask in the name of Jesus that you give me the grace to praise and thank you at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I bless GOD every chance I get; my lungs expand with his praise. –Psalms 34:1 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Choose a convenient hour during the day to just praise God and do that daily.
SINGLES – One Thing You Need To Know As A Single Continued from yesterday
There are a few reasons why you should make up your mind to continually give praise to God and to always learn to stir up the joy of the Holy Ghost in whatever circumstance you find yourself.
1. We are instructed throughout the scripture to praise God
Give unto the LORD the glory due unto his name; worship the LORD in the beauty of holiness. –Psalms 29:2 (KJV)
2. Rejoicing is a decision to make
Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation –Habakkuk 3:17-18 (KJV)
One Thing You Need To Know As A Single is that rejoicing before God should not be based on what we have or what we do not have. The writer above knows that despite the situation, all he needs to have a turn his situation around is that attitude of joy!
3. Joy affects prosperity
The vine is dried up, and the fig tree languisheth; the pomegranate tree, the palm tree also, and the apple tree, even all the trees of the field, are withered: because joy is withered away from the sons of men. – Joel 1:12 (KJV)
Let them shout for joy, and be glad, that favour my righteous cause: yea, let them say continually, Let the LORD be magnified, which hath pleasure in the prosperity of his servant. –Psalms 35:27 (KJV)
Make up your mind never to allow your joy to wither! If you can maintain your joy in the midst of that relationship/life issue, God will surely make a way for you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am grateful for every little thing in my life.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father, I ask in the name of Jesus that you give me the grace to praise and thank you at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I bless GOD every chance I get; my lungs expand with his praise. –Psalms 34:1 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Choose a convenient hour during the day to just praise God and do that daily.
There are a few things you cannot do at the same time. One of such is being a ‘Praiser’ and a ‘Complainer’ at the same time. You may feel justified or even have a seemingly legitimate reason for complaining, but the truth is that complaining does not solve the problem.
Complaining is a negative attitude that will make things worse and leave you feeling sorry for yourself. It steals your joy, happiness and excitement. It can even repel people from relating with you.
You may feel your relationship is not what it ought to be right now. You might even feel your partner is not good enough, however one thing is certain, complaining will not solve the problem.
Start appreciating the good in them because what you appreciate will increase in value. Start praising God for that relationship.
Praise God in that situation. If you are hurting or have lost something, God is the reason you have not lost everything.
You might say God did not do everything you asked for, what about what God did that you did not ask for. Have a thankful, grateful attitude and you will see God step into that relationship.
God is still in the business of turning water into wine. Stay in joy, be a God ‘Praiser’ and he will turn your colourless and tasteless circumstances into joy, gladness and laughter.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have a lifestyle of thanksgiving.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father, I ask in the name of Jesus that you give me the grace to praise and thank you at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I bless God every chance I get; my lungs expand with his praise. –Psalms 34:1 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Choose a convenient hour during the day to just praise God and do that daily.
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3. There will be wrong mindsets to DISSOLVE.
There will be wrong relationships to dissolve. For example, you cannot be getting counsel on how to run your relationship/home from someone who has none! He could cancel your destiny in an attempt to counsel you!
Your friend who is not in a relationship cannot be counseling you a week to your wedding. Friendship is by choice, not by force. Do not be apologetic about it, because it is about your destiny.
If your best friend is living a sinful life and you know, after trying to correct him or her and refuses to bulge, it is better to dissolve such relationships so that he won’t dissolve your destiny.
The Three Things You Can Do In Your Relationship are Solve the problems, resolve the quarrels, and dissolve the relationships that can ruin you. If you are single and courting, and you are constantly involved in sexual affairs, it is time to dissolve such because laws of cause and effect will soon take it’s course.
Here at Kisses and Huggs Club, we do not compromise! You cannot outrightly disobey God and expect his protection, favour, and blessings. Dissolve every homosexual relationship before it ruins you. Lesbianism is direct disobedience and affronts to God.
Dissolve it and run to God!
Those friends with whom you revel and frolic in sexual adventures, watching pornographic films and having group masturbation, run away from them and for your life and dissolve those relationships.
The friends who are trying to get you into sleeping with wealthy men in exchange for money are out not to help you but to ruin you. Dissolve those relationships.
After you have dissolved them, ask God to help you. Don’t ever think God will ignore you or punish you. God is not a taskmaster; He is a merciful and loving father.
The moment he sees you are calling on him and turning a new leaf, he will embrace you with His everlasting arms and restore you to a place of dignity. He will never condemn you.
God wants to save you. As you read this and feel some conviction, do not waste time, call Him now. He will visit you, cleanse you from every iniquity and make you new inside out.
You will come to discover, that true joy, fulfillment, direction, hope, and living by grace that comes from Jesus, the lover of your soul! This year will be a glorious year in Jesus name. Three Things You Can Do In Your Relationship
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, strengthen me in my inner man to do the impossible this year.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY True wisdom and real power belong to God; from him we learn how to live, and also what to live for. –Job 12:13 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Dissolve everything that needs to be addressed
