I was newly in courtship. She was my first love. And the last!
Never have fallen in love with any other person in my life like I was in love!
Our love seemed scripted in heaven. And so it was. And it still is!
It was doing me gra gra! Better than wine! And it is still doing me o!
Take me away with you! Let’s run off together! An elopement with my King-Lover! We’ll celebrate, we’ll sing, we’ll make great music. Yes! For your love is better than vintage wine. Everyone loves you—of course! And why not? – Son 1:4 (MSG)
Just wanted to look into those adorable eyes, set in an angelic face, with the most gentle smiles emanating in measured doses.
The pouting lips, the nose that looks like the road that leads to Galilee…everything seemed custom-made for me!
I wanted to run away with her alone to some far-far-away land where it would just be the two of us, enraptured in pure love and doing no other thing but being in love.
I imagined those movies, and I am in the cast with Sophia, in some majestic palace, gold-adorned, with several servants and we are just singing, celebrating, and rejoicing!
But the scripture above is not about me and Sophia!
It is not about you and your babe!
It is not about you and your TDH – tall, dark and handsome!
The scripture is talking about you and God!
Lord, take me away with you!
Are you really in love with God? The proof is in your intense desire to run away with Him in His word!
The authenticity of your romance with divinity is in the intensity of your desire to run away into His presence!
You want celebration in your life! Do you want to sing songs of victory? Then get ready to run off with Him!
The more you ignore Him, the more your destiny suffers!
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose God over and over again.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for an intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Song 1:4 [GNT]Take me with you, and we’ll run away; be my king and take me to your room. We will be happy together, drink deep, and lose ourselves in love. No wonder all women love you!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Cultivate a relationship with the Holy Spirit
As couples, there are areas we need to make improvements with our lives because we have the capacity to do and be more than it presently is. We need to grow so we can accomplish more and become more fulfilled in life especially in our marriage.
1. Spiritually
As a couple, we should grow together in the Lord. Our spiritual growth is of utmost importance and we should take it as such. Even Jesus Christ grew and waxed strong in spirit.
And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel. – Luke 1:80 [KJV]
You need to strive at growing spiritually first on a personal level.
Some husbands are of the opinion that their wives are supposed to grow more than they and be their intercessors. They go around and commit all manner of sins and expect the prayers of their wives to cover them. This is not right. Every husband should be the head of his family in every ramification.
We grow together spiritually when we are able to hear, walk and work with God on the same frequency in our marriage. Not that God is asking your husband to do a particular thing and you don’t have the slightest clue because you are still a babe in Christ.
We grow spiritually when we give attention to the things of God. Daily study of the Bible, prayers, meditations of God’s word, et cetera, all sum up our spiritual growth. Let couples be seen serving God together. It’s such a blessing when husband and wife hold hands to pray and wreak havoc to the kingdom of darkness together.
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This year, we should make it our priority to serve and know God more. Let us give time to seeking and searching for the Lord. Wisdom is the principal thing we have to seek before anything.
2. Mentally
Our mental health is so important and we need to pay attention to it. Why we need to aim at this development as couples is that, if we don’t grow together, we will not be able to relate well to our spouse on the same level. We have mental capabilities that are yet untapped and we need to explore this aspect of our lives.
Our mental capacity is our ability to think well and process events well. It is the creative part of us. It is also our intellectual capacity. Some couples have the husband further his education and develop his mental capacity while the wife remains at the school certificate level.
We should as couples grow together and be on the same mental level so we can discuss issues together without the fear of losing our spouse in the discussion. The wife or husband should stop feeling intimidated whenever one spouse is discussing intelligently with other people of the opposite sex.
We should be able to engage our spouses mentally. Mental development is essential especially since men are logical. We can develop our mental capacity by going back to school (if need be), taking online courses, engaging in brain-stimulating events, learning new skills, reading news and other intellectual pieces, being current through reading and learning.
Don’t be rigid and old school. Learn new things and new ways of doing things.
The world has gone digital, don’t be analog in your mind. Don’t become obsolete or you will be laid aside by your contemporaries.
Let’s work on this aspect of our lives because it has effects on our marriage.
God bless our marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I develop every aspect of my life because Jesus died for every aspect of it.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to give attention to every area of my life.
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY Lk1:80 And the child grew, and waxed strong in spirit, and was in the deserts till the day of his shewing unto Israel
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start developing these areas of your life
Angry situations occur in life. We feel angry when people do or say things about us that we don’t like. Anger is an emotion that can lead us to say harsh words to others.
Your sibling wears your shirt without your permission and stains it. It’s probably happened a couple of times and you have warned him. Yet, he failed to listen but this time you plan to give him a piece of your mind.
Harsh words fly out of your mouth and land on your brother. Soon the poor boy has tears in his eyes or he suddenly loses self-esteem and locks himself up in his room for the whole day. You must therefore learn how to manage angry situations.
Your brother is not right in taking your shirt without your permission. You are not right also with your choice of words.
Instead of your words helping the situation, they have only caused more harm. Choose your words carefully. Don’t speak out of anger. Even when someone hurts you, don’t hurt them back.
May God give you the grace for calming words.
Prayer: Lord, teach me not to speak out of anger to people around me. Amen
The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir. – Son 1:17 (KJV)
The beams talks about that which supports a house. A house is built by wisdom.
A foolish husband is a disaster. A foolish woman is clamorous.
Your lover should have a penchant for wisdom. He or she must be growing.
The beams of your house must be cedar, not just some stick out there. If the beams of your house are not cedars, there won’t be shade when marital heat comes!
Go after wisdom.
Does your lover put the word of God first place? You need wisdom to build a home!
Wisdom hath builded her house, she hath hewn out her seven pillars – Pro 9:1 (KJV)
Study God’s word. Spend time there. That is how to get wisdom.
Do not fall in love with a vain person. A marriage cannot be sustained on adrenaline and promises alone. Depth and wisdom is required.
Watch out for these!
Does your lover prefer to watch movies rather than read books? Would your lover rather sleep all day rather than research and study to know more?
In the just concluded year, ask your lover how many books were read. These symptoms points somewhere, trust me?
I pray for you this morning, God will send every help you need into your life to move you from where you are to where you ought to be in Jesus name!
I pray for all singles who are struggling with one form of compromise or the other, God will set you free.
I curse every form of oppression in your life, I cancel every plan of the devil over your life and I declare that the counsel of God will stand in your life, relationship and marriage in Jesus name!
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My eyes are opened. I look well before making a choice
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Son 1:17 (KJV) The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir.
For a while now, we have been talking about right decisions. Hope you have been following closely. The reason we are dwelling on this topic is because the way you begin the year matters a lot.
It’s noteworthy to point out that it’s four days into the year already, so much has happened in just three days. I hope you aren’t planning to flow with the tides?
What decisions have you made for the year? Or do you plan to live every day as it comes?
If you want a fruitful year, it’s not too late to set your goals for 2022.
Here are a few things you should consider:
1. Wake up early every day to say a word of Prayer before setting out for school;
It is wrong for you to leave your house without first communicating with your maker.
2. Make sure to read your Bible every day;
Do you remember the Sunday school song ‘read your bible and pray every day if you want to grow’?
3. Be committed to showing love to everyone around:
God made everyone, so show love to everyone.
4. Respect your parents and everyone else:
Do you remember what the scriptures say about showing respect to your parents?
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. – Ephesians 6:1
5. Do your best at everything:
Do not live a life of mediocrity. Go for the best.
With these few things, you are set for an amazing year already.
God bless you as you do.
Prayer: Lord, help me to make the right decisions this new year.
Action point: Talk to your parents or guardians. Let them help you follow through with your decisions.
Declaration: I make the right decisions this year in Jesus name, Amen.
The dove is a gentle bird. It often symbolizes peace. So, this talks about character.
After the physical appearance, then you must take into cognizance the inner beauty.
Outer beauty without inner character is a disaster.
The flesh of my flesh, that talks about outer beauty. The bone of my bones deals with character, inner structure, the inner frame supporting and holding the outer beauty in place. This is important.
Can you vouch for his or her character? Will he raise his hands to beat you when he is angry? Then, he is not qualified.
Will she pack her things, leave her parents’ home and go sleep in a friend’s house over simple altercations? Then, you need to be careful.
Has he slapped you once? You need to be careful. He has shown you a sample of what is to come!
God has presented you with an opportunity to know what he or she is like!
Love is not stupid. Love doesn’t turn you into an idiot. Think. Ask questions. Don’t walk blindly into a marriage that could mar destinies for life.
3. Green Bed
Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green. – Son 1:16 (KJV)
The bed must remain green and fresh. Putrefaction must not set in as a result of iniquity and pre-marital affairs!
When the bed has been stained red with compromise, wrong seeds have been sown.
As you go into that relationship, make up your mind that the bed must remain green! Do not soil the bed with iniquity, because as you lay your bed so you lie on it.
In essence, everything you do before your wedding date is a seed, a foundation for your marriage.
If he wants to stain the bed by all means, let him go, maybe he is not yours!
If she wants to drag you into the bed before the time, beware lest you are dealing with a strange woman.
If you are already married, keep your bed green and avoid all forms of adultery including emotional affairs.
If you are entangled or about to be entangled, seek help. Don’t keep quiet. Iniquity is perpetuated in the atmosphere of secrecy.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My eyes are opened. I look well before making a choice
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Song of Solomon 1:15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes.
The Kind Of Beauty God Loves. We all want to look beautiful. It is delightsome when our husbands tell us, ‘you look pretty or ‘you are gorgeous’.
And I must tell you, there is so much noise about different beauty products. Makeup artists are being paid heavily just to make women look gorgeous.
The fashion industry is booming with different styles every day. We have all types of human hair now, and they are really expensive.
The other day I saw a Whatsapp video of a woman bleaching. She was literally removing the layer of the skin. Women go through all these troubles just to feel and hear people say they are beautiful.
There is nothing wrong with being beautiful. In fact, God loves it when we are beautiful because we reflect God in our beauty.
We as believers, however, who are called of God to be separate from those of the world and called out of darkness into His marvelous light need to know that our beauty and our motive has to be different.
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God never approves of a wife who is beautiful outwardly but has a nasty, stinking attitude, especially with her husband.
I love how the CEV bible puts it in
Don’t depend on things like fancy hairdos or gold jewelry or expensive clothes to make you look beautiful. Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special. – 1Pe 3:3-4
Our beauty should not be based on externals. If we spend all our time focusing on making our bodies beautiful at the expense of our spirit, we have beautiful bodies and ugly spirits.
God does care so much about our nails or fixed hair as much as He does our gentle and quiet spirit. He is not proud of wives who take their primary responsibility for granted.
Our primary responsibility is worship to God and part of our worship to God is honoring our husband.
Until we see being submissive, putting our husbands first, and honoring them as worship to God, we will keep fighting for our rights.
God is a just God and He well knows how to defend us, take care of us and reward us. All He asks of us is to honor Him first and be mindful of making the fragrance of our worship raise up to Him as our worship.
This is the beauty He is proud of and acknowledges.
May we not end up knowing all our beauty regimes were all wasted and as filthy rags before God.
May we all be truly beautiful inside out!
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I pay more attention to being beautiful inside
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to cultivate inner beauty more than outward beauty
THOUGHTS FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:4 Be beautiful in your heart by being gentle and quiet. This kind of beauty will last, and God considers it very special.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pay attention to developing your relationship with God
Do you know how to live with integrity? Taiwo wasn’t really interested in helping Ola with her mathematics assignment. She had consented to it while they were amongst friends and didn’t want to look uncool. The others had clapped for her, Taiwo never felt this good.
Now, Ola was coming over to Taiwo’s house with the assignment, any minute from now. Oh boy! Taiwo suddenly wished she had not agreed to it in the first place. Her favorite show would be coming on the television soon and she didn’t want to miss it.
‘Why the worry?’ Taiwo’s mom asked her. ‘You are wearing out the rug.’
‘I promised to help Ola with her assignment but can’t anymore. I want to watch my favorite show on television.’ Taiwo answered.
‘Now what did Jesus say about that?’ she asked.
‘We should keep our promises?’ Taiwo said.
‘Exactly!’ said her mom.
Jesus said we should not be too hasty to make a promise. Making a quick decision without first thinking it through could be a problem for us like Taiwo is in right now.
But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by heaven, neither by the earth, neither by any other oath: but let your yea be yea; and your nay, nay; lest ye fall into condemnation. – James 5:12, KJV
Keeping promises is very important as they help to build our integrity and credibility.
‘So what are you going to do?’ Taiwo’s mom asked her again.
‘I guess I can watch the show next week. Ola won’t be happy if I don’t help her as promised. I have to keep my promise.’ Taiwo said.
I am so proud of you.’ said her mother, clapping for Taiwo.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, help me to keep my promises so I can be a person of integrity and credibility. Also, make me wise enough to not make hasty decisions or promises in your mighty name I pray. Amen.
Action plan: Are there promises you have made to others and you didn’t keep? Pray about them and ask Jesus to help you keep them. Also, ask for forgiveness from these people.
Declaration: My yes is yes. I will not be double-minded.
I want to write to you this morning as a father would write his son or daughter on qualities to watch out for in deciding who to get married to.
Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes. Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green. The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir. – Son 1:15-17 (KJV)
Let’s get into this by the Holy Spirit.
1. Beauty and Comeliness
Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair… – Son 1:15(KJV)
The word fair means “goodly, pleasant, well.”
Attraction is important. Physical endearment is of utmost importance.
The pulchritude should not be ignored in the equation of marriage. Get married to someone that you are attracted to.
God will never lead you to someone you hate with a passion. He is not an author of confusion.
No matter how many dreams you had about someone, if he or she is someone you loathe and despise, do not be coerced into a relationship by some spiritual experience you can’t prove its source.
He should be pleasant to your eyes. She should be pleasant to your eyes.
After the wedding, you should wake up singing in the Spirit when you behold him or her, not pleading the blood of Jesus against him or waking up with a hiss and regret. So, this is important, okay.
Marriage is not a hundred meter dash, it is a marathon and you are in it for the long haul. So, your lover must be pleasant.
In reality, nobody is ugly. Beauty is in the beholder’s eye.
Your lover may not be pleasant to all, but he or she must be pleasant to you. That is all that matters.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My eyes are opened. I look well before making a choice
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Song of Solomon 1:15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes.
The year 2022 is very strategic and we need to position ourselves to be ready to partake of all God has for us.
You know, most of the time, we all think of what we should be or should have been doing. Sometimes, we even feel sorry about not doing those things. We feel bad and we figure if we had been doing those things how much we would have been happier and our lives would have improved.
The scary thing about this is that God will only tug at our hearts to do those things that will make us live a happier and fulfilled life or to stop doing certain things.
God will never force man to do what is right. God is a just God and He created us with the right to make our own decisions.
People are going to hell because they didn’t decide or make up their minds they are NOT going to end up in hell. Some other factors are responsible like disobedience, not forgiving, etc, but what I am saying is that, there is tremendous power in our decision. No devil can stop us once we take a decision.
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We all need to come to a point where we make up our minds and make decisive efforts. Not making a decision is a decision in its self.
Here are some decisions you can make this new year.
1. To spend more time with God and practice His presence
2. To spend more time with God’s word daily.
3. To read more widely.
4. To be an intercessor.
5. To be deliberate with loving people
6. To be a more happy person and not waste time being moody.
7. To save more money and be an investor
8. To exercise daily and watch your diet.
9. To live a life of giving and sacrifice
10. To be a doer of the Word.
11. To have mentors and follow them closely.
There are some other decisions you take daily or several times a day. Learn to live your life purposefully.
May the Lord grant us strength.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I live life more intentionally
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me strength to live on purpose
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 16:2 (KJV) All the ways of a man are clean in his own eyes; but the LORD weigheth the spirits.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write out your own decisions for 2022
How are you preparing for this year? Have you started working on making better decisions? I hope you are. This morning, we will be touching on an important part of your life; your family. You will be learning how to make better family decisions.
Most times, family members are the most ignored set of people. We tend to think that they will always be there or they don’t need much from us.
Take a good look at your relationship with your family members. Do so by asking yourself these questions:
1. How often did you tell or show them you love them?
2. How many times did you help them when they needed it?
3. How often did you help your parents at home?
4. How often did you obey parental instructions?
5. How many times did you pray for your parents or siblings?
6. What was the last gift you gave your family members?
7. How often did you spend time with them?
8. How often did you fight your sibling?
These are personal questions that will guide you. You can and should add yours to these.
Showing love to your parents and siblings is important and gladdens the heart of God. As a Christian child, you are supposed to value the family system. Christianity itself is a family of believers in Christ.
Prayer: Lord, I am grateful for the people you have blessed me with. I thank you for my parents and siblings. Help me to value them more in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Action point: Start by saying a big thank you to your family members for being there for you throughout last year. You can make a big “thank you” card for them.
Declaration: I value my family. This year, I am more committed to them than ever before.
Today, I want to pray and bless you being the first day of the year!
I want to invoke the anchor scripture of this ministry over you and yours.
If you are a member of KHC, and particularly if you are a partner, it is simply your heritage to partake of the blessings of the mandate.
Fourteen years ago, KHC began with newsletters which were circulated all over Nigeria.
The scriptures God give us then is what I want to use to pray for you this morning.
The hand of the LORD was upon me, and carried me out in the spirit of the LORD, and set me down in the midst of the valley which was full of bones, – Eze 37:1 (KJV)
If the hand of the Lord is upon me, why would I be set in a valley of bones? I thought I would be taken to a mountain of meat and drinks!
Are you in a valley experience in your relationship or marriage where everything seems dry?
Listen to me, you are not going to die there!
And caused me to pass by them round about: and, behold, there were very many in the open valley; and, lo, they were very dry. – Eze 37:2 (KJV)
God wanted the prophet to see first of all that naturally speaking, the situation is beyond repair.
Lo, the bones were very dry! Everything looked awry. Finances is in a mess.
In relationship and marriage, it is a definition of abandonment and disappointment.
The bones are dry! But you know what? There is nothing in your life right now that God cannot fix!
Again he said unto me, Prophesy upon these bones, and say unto them, O ye dry bones, hear the word of the LORD. – Eze 37:4 (KJV)
So I prophesied as I was commanded: and as I prophesied, there was a noise, and behold a shaking, and the bones came together, bone to his bone. – Eze 37:7-10 (KJV)
The bones were not only dry, they were scattered.
Are you in a place like that? Nobody has asked you out in a while. Dry bones. Those that asked you out were unbelievers and irresponsible men. Dry bones.
Adam said bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh… but what we have here are only bones!
But as he prophesied, something began to happen. The bones that were dry suddenly received life. Bone that were scattered started looking for each other. Sinews came upon them. There arose a great army!
Whatever area of your life this morning that looks like dry bones, life is coming upon it in Jesus name!
This morning, I prophesy as I am commanded, let there be a noise and a shaking.
Let there be a shaking away of every shame and disgrace in your life in Jesus name!
Let there be a noise, a noise of joy coming from your home and your family in Jesus name!
A noise of rejoicing coming forth from your life in Jesus name.
I prophesy to the bones that are scattered, the spouse that seems scattered away, let there be a coming together now in Jesus name.
Yes, let there be a supernatural coming together in Jesus name!
I prophesy and release the breath of God, the power of the Holy Spirit on every area that is dry, receive life now in Jesus name!
A great army of finances is arising for you.
A great army of resources is arising for you in Jesus name.
In the very valley which have been dubbed a valley of dry bones, a great army arose!
In the very land where you have been afflicted and you have toiled, God will give you the victory and make you rejoice in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My bone is locating me this year.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to locate the bone of my bone.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ezekiel 37:10 So I prophesied as he commanded me, and the breath came into them, and they lived, and stood up upon their feet, an exceeding great army.
It is sure too early to get hurt or to entertain bitterness, to be in strife or malice, Wale told Sade.
Those words hurt her the more. The feeling of having fell straight on her face was not a good feeling.
I thought I had overcome this ‘hurt’ issue. Where did I lose it? At what point exactly did I lose it? Why did I not nip it in the bud? Why did I not snap out of hurt? Why do I find it difficult to talk about issues, especially when I am hurt?
Why do I have to let things degenerate for weeks before trying to salvage things? Why do I even hurt so badly and deeply?
These and many more questions were what filled Sade’s mind as their two weeks old strife and not talking to each other, gradually eased off.
In those two weeks, Sade had experienced a whole lot of emotions. She had moved from anger to being hurt, to giving Wale the silent treatment, to being frustrated, to feeling sorry for herself (self pity), to a feeling of abandonment just to mention a few.
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Wale was not left out in the different shades of emotions. He was first confused, then frustrated and then he become angry. Angry because he could not understand how his wife will not be able to express herself if something bothered her. And the silent treatment was just unbearable. The truth of the matter was that Wale was already getting pissed off.
He also had learnt to ignore Sade when ever she decides to go on her withdrawal escapades. Now she had withdrawn and Wale had also decided to leave her. Those two weeks were not funny at all.
Think of what could have happened. The devil could have exploited them at this point and caused some terrible tragedy. Thank God, Mercy said ‘No’. Mercy kept bearing them up for those two weeks they were vulnerable.
In the process, Sade learnt some valuable lessons I will be sharing with us.
Let’s look at some of them, take these lessons learnt so we don’t fall as Sade fell.
1. Let out the hurt. Don’t keep it brewing.
2. Learn to find a good time and opportunity to talk about issues that hurt you or that are bothering you.
3. Separate the issue from the person.
4. You don’t solve a problem by wishing it will go or hoping your spouse will get to know. You talk about it intelligently.
5. ‘I am sorry’. It works wonders in marriage and resolves issues faster.
6. Strife, malice and bitterness is the devils domain, avoid going there by all means.
7. The silent treatment is bad. No spouse can take it.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is blessed. I do not harbour grudges.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to forgive my spouse at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Ponder on who your friends are. Everyone has friends. They can be a great asset or a source of regret, bad influence, and the whole fireworks.
People you associate with can either make or break you. Their influence is very strong. That’s why you have to review your 2021 in terms of your relationship.
You do this by asking questions
Questions to ask include:
1. Who are your friends?
2. Are they from Christian homes and attend to the things of God with honour?
3. Do they tell lies?
4. Do they say vulgar jokes?
5. Do they encourage you to do good or bad?
Look at the questions and truthfully answer them. This helps you to know who to cut off from your side.
May God keep and bless you with good friends. Amen.
Prayer: Lord, make me a better companion and bless me with good company.
Action point: Make a list of all your friends and start to examine your friendship.
Declaration: I make better decisions this year in Jesus name.
There are four basic temperaments. Your wife falls into one primary temperament and a secondary one.
She would always act out based on her temperamental disposition. It is your duty as the man to find out what her temperament is.
Knowing her temperament will help you to also know her strength and weaknesses. This will further enhance the ability to help her in maximizing her strength and minimizing her weaknesses.
This is what productivity in life is all about. Making adjustments and not just being fixated on who you are as a result of your temperament.
You have to constantly change, drop bad attitudes and negative tendencies and embrace productive habits.
Your temperament will never be an excuse for your life’s outcome. So before you say you really know her, what is her temperament?
2. Understand her Choices
A lady thinks different from a man. Most of the time, her choices will be emotional and shockingly sentimental.
If you don’t understand this, you will want to shut her down most times, simply because she is not logical.
The reality is that not all life’s decisions can be established on the ground of logic. Sometimes, you have to embrace her emotional and sentimental point of view to strike a balance.
Ignoring her or refusing to understand her choices can cost you a lot of losses.
She would always prefer you to buy food and kitchen stuffs rather than change the paint of your car!
She loves shiny things!
Understand her and don’t just focus on your own needs to her detriment.
3. Understand her Femininity
You have to understand that she is a female.
She is tender! She is sensitive! She is emotional! She is motherly! She is caring! She is a love being! She wants to be cared for!
She wants you to sometimes know what is wrong with her without her saying it because she herself doesn’t know!
She wants you to complement her always, all day, all moments and she would never be tired of receiving complements.
She wants you to rub her shoulder after eating a good meal instead of rubbing your tummy!
She wants you to verbalise your love, act it out and really mean it.
Compliment her without being sarcastic. She wants you to speak in hushed tones, using romantic words.
She doesn’t want you shouting at her or raising your voice unnecessarily.
She wants you be a lover boy! Her knight in shining armour!
What else do you think she wants?
Let me hear you in the comment section.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to love her God’s way
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to love my partner at all times.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
We must accept the uniqueness of our spouse and that of our marriage. No two marriages are the same and no two spouses are the same. There are no two people who have gone through the same things, in the same way, the same measure, and come out the same way.
Apply the principle of Jesus and His word to the uniqueness of your marriage.
In counseling, glean the principles and apply it to your situation putting in mind the uniqueness of your spouse.
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Every walk with God is a personal journey, so know God for yourself. Also, note that what worked for spouse A may not work for spouse B.
Don’t compare your marriage or spouse to another spouse. Only fools compare rather than accept the uniqueness of their marriage
8. Love
Love is the conclusion of the law. The whole subject of marriage is about love. If you don’t love your spouse, then why get married to them?
1 Cor 13 sums up what love is. Check your life and daily see how much you are walking in love with your spouse.
Marriage is about those who can love as Christ loves the church, giving Himself for it.
You cannot love and cheat on your spouse. You cannot love your spouse and not take care of Him/her.
May God grant us more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage will be glorious.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to forgive my spouse, no matter how difficult it may appear.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:13 (KJV) And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
Decide to be better in the coming year. As the year runs out, it’s time to take stock of how you have spent the year. Look at what you have achieved and what you have not achieved.
It is time to start preparing for another year and how to be better.
Areas to prepare for include:
a. Your spiritual life:
How did it go? How was your relationship with God? How much of fellowship with the Holy Spirit did you have? How much of God’s word were you able to store up?
b. Academics:
Did you improve in your grades? Did you make more friends in school? Did your teachers commend you over your general wellbeing?
c. Health:
How often did you see the physician? Were you conscious of your food intake? Did you fill your stomach with junks and unhealthy foods?
Other areas include personal growth, social endeavors, and so on.
Do a breakdown or get the help of an adult to do so.
Her needs are specialized and peculiar. They are different from your own needs. From spiritual needs to physical needs and emotional needs, you have to find out!
You will immediately discover her preferences, that what excites you on Television doesn’t not tickle her fancy! Find out and seek to meet those needs!
3. Understand her Language
Her language is like her password. It could be gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch or acts of service.
You don’t communicate to her on your own terms but on her own terms.
Find out her definition of “romantic” and go after that. The definition of the word “romantic” is not what you find in a dictionary, but there is a dictionary in her mind with its own definition like no other, authored by her, and you have to find a way to retrieve that dictionary and check the definition which would often be different from what you think.
4. Understand her pressures
She usually has pressures. Most times, she is not even seeking for those pressures to be taken away, because they are often necessities of life.
She just wants to know that there is somebody who understands what she is going through.
Many years ago, my wife explained this to me. She was pouring her hearts to me, and expounding her pressures and at a point I bursted out;
“Hey! I am not the Holy Spirit. I cannot take these things away!”
“And then she looked at me and said,
“I know you are not the Holy Spirit. I am not asking you to solve these issues, I only want to have a feeling somebody understands what I am going through!
Wow! That is what that lady in your life wants! An understanding heart and that takes the pressures off.
She just wants an understanding, loving and caring man!
Unfortunately, most times, single ladies look for this in wrong places and often fall into the hands of men who are only looking for sexual gratification.
If you are a single lady, make your needs known to God and never offer your body in exchange for some care that will vaporise the next minute!
Wait for the process of meeting that right man who will love you appropriately and will take care of you!
May God grant you strength in your inner man to cooperate with God.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to understand my partner.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I receive wisdom to understand my partner.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 3:17-19 (KJV) That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love.
We have been looking at the topic “Tips To Having A Graceful Marriage” for two days now and we will continue today.
God wants our marriages to be graceful. He wants us as husband and wife to glide on the wings of Grace.
There is an unforced rhythm of grace that belongs to every couple if we learn to watch Jesus, learn how he behaves and follow after Him.
The marital life is lived just by following the outline in His word.
The principle is ‘whatever He tells you to do, do it’ John 2:5
Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” – Matt 11:29-30 (MSG)
God wants us to walk with Him and work with Him. He wants us to keep company with Him and not be distracted in any way. As we do this, our marriages begin to enjoy the unforced rhythms of Grace.
We begin to glide and we find our relationship sweeter than ever.
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It is in marriage that we get hurt the most. We don’t get as hurt with our colleagues at work, and our friends don’t hurt us as deeply as our spouse.
Because we live together and are committed to each other, our spouse hurt us so deeply. The issue is while we are trying to understand each other and minimize the hurt, we must forgive.
It is a must in marriage. We must come to a point where we practice advance forgiveness.
Settle it in your heart that there is nothing my spouse can ever do that will be difficult for me to forgive.
Most of us hold on to the error of our spouse. We must learn to forgive quickly and move on.
When we refuse to forgive, it is like a breach in the spirit. With unforgiveness in our marriage, we open the door for the devil to afflict us.
May the devil not have access to our homes in Jesus’ name.
To be continued tomorrow.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage will be glorious.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to forgive my spouse, no matter how difficult it may appear.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matthew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
You have to set goals for the new year. Goal setting is best achieved when you have the help, support, and encouragement of others. Why?
When your goals seem unachievable, you aren’t too sure about them anymore and feel like giving up totally on them, you will need people to help you.
You can tell others about your goals. Doing so is not to make you look holy or think less of those who don’t have goals like you.
When people know your goals, they could offer encouragement and support. You want to start studying the bible and you tell your parents, they could offer to remind you daily to study, as well as ask you questions about what you have read – start up a discussion where you will learn more from them or offer you materials that could help you study well.
The Ethiopian eunuch was reading from the book of Isaiah and didn’t understand what it was about. It took the Holy Spirit sending Phillip to him before he could understand, after which he gave his life to Christ.
What do you think the eunuch would have done if Phillip hadn’t come? He probably would have just given up.
Phillip asked, “Do you understand what you are reading?’ He answered, “How can I understand? I need someone to explain it to me!” Then he invited Phillip to climb in and sit with him (Acts 30-31).
Do not go on a solo ride in goal setting. Involve God and others.
