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I want to write to you this morning as a father would write his son or daughter on qualities to watch out for in deciding who to get married to.

Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes. Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green. The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir. – Son 1:15-17 (KJV)

Let’s get into this by the Holy Spirit.

1. Beauty and Comeliness

Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair… – Son 1:15(KJV)

The word fair means “goodly, pleasant, well.”

Attraction is important. Physical endearment is of utmost importance.

The pulchritude should not be ignored in the equation of marriage. Get married to someone that you are attracted to.

God will never lead you to someone you hate with a passion. He is not an author of confusion.

No matter how many dreams you had about someone, if he or she is someone you loathe and despise, do not be coerced into a relationship by some spiritual experience you can’t prove its source.

He should be pleasant to your eyes.
She should be pleasant to your eyes.

After the wedding, you should wake up singing in the Spirit when you behold him or her, not pleading the blood of Jesus against him or waking up with a hiss and regret.
So, this is important, okay.

Marriage is not a hundred meter dash, it is a marathon and you are in it for the long haul. So, your lover must be pleasant.

In reality, nobody is ugly. Beauty is in the beholder’s eye.

Your lover may not be pleasant to all, but he or she must be pleasant to you. That is all that matters.

To be continued…

My eyes are opened. I look well before making a choice

Lord, open the eyes of my understanding

Song of Solomon 1:15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes.

Pray in the spirit.



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