As the evening settled in and the sky shifted from the glow of the sun to the calm of moonlight, Becky waited for Tomi, the man she had recently fallen for.
They had been together for about two months. They looked like a perfect couple from the outside, but Becky knew the truth was far more complicated.
In those weeks, they became consumed by physical intimacy, engaging in daily sexual activity that stopped short of intercourse. Even though her virginity remained intact, she felt her sense of purity and peace slipping away. She couldn’t quite understand how she had allowed things to spiral so far, and now she was left with a wound she didn’t know how to heal by herself.
One scripture kept echoing in her mind:
Do you see what this means—all these pioneers who blazed the way, all these veterans cheering us on? It means we’d better get on with it. Strip down, start running—and never quit! No extra spiritual fat, no parasitic sins. Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God—he could put up with anything along the way: Cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God.”Hebrews 12:1–3 (MSG):
Becky realized that if she stayed on this path, she’d be letting down not just herself, but God, her family, and all those who believed she was capable of something better. It felt as though she was trading something precious, a life of purpose and integrity for a fleeting sense of pleasure she knew wouldn’t last.
But how could she turn around?
If you’re facing something similar, remember this: the answer hasn’t changed. It’s always been Jesus. When you feel trapped, call out to him. He never turns you away.
At the end of our lives, each of us longs to stand before God unashamed. That moment matters more than any temporary desire. Jesus said it plainly
I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.”John 14:6 (KJV):
Hebrews urges us again:
Keep your eyes on Jesus… Study how he did it… He never lost sight of where he was headed—that exhilarating finish in and with God.”
If you sense him knocking on the door of your heart, don’t wait. Today can be the day everything changes. Open the door. Let him in.
Life isn’t a race. Each of us is on our own unique timeline, and when the time is right, the things you’ve been hoping for will unfold in the way they’re meant to. Trying to force things to happen before their season often only leads to disappointment or struggle.
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.Ecclesiastes 3:1 (KJV)
So don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re falling behind because you’re not married yet or don’t have children. It’s perfectly normal to feel anxious sometimes. But after you’ve shared your heart with your Heavenly Father and he has assured you that everything will be okay, you can rest in that promise. At the right moment, what you’re praying for—whether it’s marriage, children, a new job, or your own home—will come to pass.
Think about how children grow. Each one develops differently. One baby might start crawling at six months, while another waits until nine. Does that mean something is wrong with the second child? Of course not. It’s simply their own timing.
In the same way, there’s no need to compare your life to anyone else’s. You are not late. When it’s your season, nothing and no one can stop it. No force can stand in your way.
What shall we then say to these things? If God be for us, who can be against us?Romans 8:31 (KJV)
But it’s important to be honest with yourself too: Is there anything in your life that’s holding you back? Are you walking closely with God? Have you surrendered your choices and habits to him? Sometimes, unconfessed sin or disobedience can delay the blessings he has planned. If that’s the case, don’t hesitate to turn back to him—he is always ready to forgive and help you start again.
The young lions do lack, and suffer hunger: but they that seek the LORD shall not want any good thing.Psalm 34:10 (KJV)
You will never miss out on any good thing God intends for you. Whatever you’re believing for, trust that he is faithful to provide. Do you believe he can do it? Then hold on to his word. He will never let you down.
In relationships and marriage, the voices we choose to listen to can shape the entire course of our journey. There are always opinions; friends offering advice, family members giving their perspective, and society constantly setting expectations. But above all these, the believer is called to prioritize one voice: the peace of God. This peace isn’t merely a feeling of calm or the absence of conflict. It is a divine indicator, a spiritual compass that confirms we are walking in step with God’s will.
Here is how Apostle Paul puts it
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Colossians 3:15 (NIV)
The word “rule” here implies authority, much like an umpire who decides what is in or out. In our relationships, especially marriage, we must allow the peace of Christ to have the final say. It means choosing God’s still, steady guidance over the noise of human reasoning, pressure, or emotion. This peace does not always align with what people expect or advise, but it always aligns with God’s heart.
Too often, we lean on what others say, whether it’s well-meaning friends or our own internal fears. We act based on advice, societal norms, or even the fear of disappointing people.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV)
When we allow our decisions in relationships to be dictated by human understanding rather than divine leading, we risk stepping out of alignment with God’s purpose and grace.
This does not mean we reject every opinion, but it does mean we filter every voice through the peace of God. It means before we make a decision, whether to move forward, reconcile, confront, or even wait, we first ask, “Do I have peace?” Not surface-level calm, but the kind of peace that surpasses understanding. If God’s peace is missing, it’s often a gentle warning that something needs to be revisited in prayer.
In a world full of voices and pressure, learning to prioritize the peace of God in your relationship or marriage is one of the most powerful acts of faith. His peace won’t always make sense to others, but it will guard your heart, lead you rightly, and keep you grounded in love that lasts.
Let the peace of Christ, not the opinions of man, be the loudest voice in your heart.
There’s something deeply comforting about the thought that God never falls asleep on us. He never misses a moment. Whether you’re single and lying awake in bed wondering what the future holds, or married and up in the middle of the night, worried about your family, your job, your marriage, God is awake too. Fully present. Fully alert.
We live in a world where people check out. They get tired, distracted, and overwhelmed. Even spouses, friends, and family who love us the most can sometimes miss our pain. But not God.
Ps 121:4 (KJV) Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep.
If you’re single, you might carry hidden battles of longings, loneliness, and decisions you’re tired of making on your own. It can be easy to think no one sees or understands the full weight of what you carry. But God does. While you sleep or can’t sleep, He is watching over you, not in a distant, impersonal way, but like a deeply loving Father who never takes His eyes off His child.
Likewise, if you’re married, life doesn’t necessarily get easier. Sometimes it’s even more complex. There’s more to love, but also more to lose. You may worry about your spouse, your kids, your bills, and your future. You might lie awake replaying arguments or wondering how to fix things. God is not sleeping through any of that. He is in the details. He sees you and your spouse as individuals and as one, and He is not worn out by your problems, even the ones that have left you exhausted.
Unlike humans, God’s sleeplessness is not a sign of stress or worry. It’s a sign of strength. He never misses a need, never skips a beat, never forgets your name or your prayers.
Isaiah 49:16 (GNT) Jerusalem, I can never forget you! I have written your name on the palms of my hands.
So every day of your life, whether you’re single in your silence or married in your mess, always remember that while you sleep, He stays awake.
Have you ever felt so sure about something, like deep down, you just knew it was right, and you had that roof-lifting assurance… only for it to turn out completely wrong? I mean wrong, the kind that leaves you in a mess you never saw coming?
Yup, that’s exactly what David meant when he wrote, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its end is the way of death.” (Proverbs 14:12)
Take it from a king who was also a prophet. David fought countless battles, led a nation, wrote songs inspired by the Holy Spirit, and even prophesied about Jesus in the Psalms. If anyone seemed to have things figured out, it was him. Yet, he still messed up—big time.
This tells us something:
It speaks to the fallibility of man, the fickleness of our desires, and the limits of our knowledge.
If you haven’t realized it yet, you can’t figure out life all by yourself.
As you journey through adulthood, you’ve probably already seen that life isn’t always rosy, and the systems of this world aren’t exactly set up for you to win.
So, how do you expect to navigate life-altering decisions—like choosing a life partner, accepting a job offer, or even deciding where to live—on your own? Especially knowing that you can feel 100% sure right now, and then find out you were completely wrong the next moment?
Why not just hand it all over to God—the One who knows the end from the beginning?
The God who formed you, who understands your path better than you ever could, and who gave you the very life you’re trying to figure out.
Let Him lead. Trust His wisdom above your feelings. You’ll save yourself from a lot of unnecessary heartache.
When you surrender your choices to God, you’re not giving up control—you’re gaining divine direction.
You’re partnering with the One who sees beyond time, who knows where each road leads, and who is deeply invested in your success and wholeness.
Don’t just pray for God to bless your plans—ask Him what the plan should be.
Invite Him into your decision-making. Wait for His peace. Lean into His Word. Surround yourself with godly counsel. And when He speaks, trust that He knows better—even when it doesn’t make immediate sense.
Because life becomes a lot more peaceful and purposeful when you let the all-knowing take the lead by trusting God.
