9. That he showed you does not mean you should go ahead and propose. You also need to ask Him when to go ahead and propose. There is a difference between preparation and performance.
10. In the things of God, He often shows you things ahead. Because the information is coming from God, it would look like you should act immediately. But most of the time, it is never an immediate action. He showed Joseph some things that only came to pass several years later. David was anointed but never mounted the throne immediately. Some of these promises have to be patiently obtained.
11. It is possible to get a big ‘NO’ from a lady and yet God has spoken to you. You jumped ahead and did not follow His leading completely. The lady is not ready at the time. Just like God spoke to you, God has to speak to her too!
12. The primary way God will lead you is through inner witness. You just know within you. Do not seek dreams and visions because the devil can give them. Stay consistently in God’s word and pray in the Spirit a lot. That way, God will ensure that you don’t miss it in life.
13. It is one thing for God to speak to you about a person. That does not mean it will work out or lead into marriage, especially if you unrepentantly compromise regularly, or you did not work at your relationship in terms of character development.
For example, God might have spoken to you, and yet anger problems can ruin it all.
God might have spoken, but negative attitudes can stifle that voice and the love can vaporize as quickly as it came.
I pray for you this morning, your life will not become an experiment. You will enjoy God’s leading in every area of your life in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will hear God clearly about my life and marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 30:21[AMP] And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What did God say to you today? Write it down.
There is no doubt that God speaks to His people. For me, God spoke to me clearly while I was a student on the Campus as relating to relationships and marriage. God still speaks today. If you seek His face, He will speak to you!
He is a speaking God.
“Saith the Lord’ is found over eight hundred times in the scriptures.
Jesus constantly speaks to us.
And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left. – Isa 30:21 AMP
The Holy Spirit is a speaking Spirit.
And I know that his commandment is life everlasting: whatsoever I speak therefore, even as the Father said unto me, so I speak. – Joh 12:50 KJV
He desires to lead us. Here a few things to note.
1. God will not speak to you outside of His word.
2. To hear God more, read His word the more. His word in your Spirit, prepares your Spirit like a receptacle to hear God.
3. When you seek His face, you will hear Him speak to you.
4 Fasting and prayer often help to hear God more clearly.
As they ministered to the Lord, and fasted, the Holy Ghost said, Separate me Barnabas and Saul for the work whereunto I have called them. – Act 13:2 KJV
5. Relationship and marriage should not be the first issues that arise when you are trying to hear God. Try developing hearing Him in other areas as well.
6. God is particular even with the minutest details of your life, and when you learn to relate with the Holy Spirit like you will relate with a friend, He will always speak to you, like a friend will speak to you.
7 When God shows you a guy, clam down, don’t get suggestive, let him discover too. The lady is not the aggressor; she is the responder.
8. When God shows you a lady, it is just information because you are His child and fathers speak to their children. You are His friend. So He tells you of what is to come. Jesus said when the Holy Spirit comes, He will tell us of things to come.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will hear God clearly about my life and marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 30:21[AMP] And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What did God say to you today? Write it down.
This is the concluding part of this series. I hope you have been following diligently. and you are taking note of what to do before love turns to shock.
So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? [2] I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there? – Romans 6:1-2 (MSG)
The grace of God is to deliver you from sin, not to keep you safe in your sin!
9. Character Defects
When you see obvious character defects, don’t close your eyes to them especially when he or she says he will change later.
Marriage changes nobody. Anybody that tells you he or she will change later is deceiving you. What do you do when you see character defects? Seek help! Don’t keep quiet.
10. Take a Pause
If during courtship or after marriage, you suddenly discover you never knew who you were in the same boat with, here is what to do.
In courtship, take a pause on everything until you find a solution. For example, if the issue has to do with physical violence or physical abuse, don’t just keep quiet thinking that marriage will soften him.
Don’t walk down the aisle into that kind of marriage, or you might need to soon run up the aisle and out! If you are getting slaps in courtship, guess what will happen in marriage? In marriage, divorce is not the first option. Look for a Christian marriage counselor or marriage therapist for help.
11. Long-Distance Relationships
If you are in a distant relationship or some online dating, you need to know that you will not have a distant marriage and you will not live online.
The reality must dawn on you never to make life-involving decisions without knowing the person very well. It is wrong for you to fall in love with a stranger.
Something is not quite right with falling in love with an online profile or some voice-over-the-phone! Marriage is not a game! It is a covenant!
12. We are Projects
Finally, we are all projects in the making in the hands of God.
Nobody is perfect, but there are things that are unbecoming for a child of God. When you see some of these things, it is time to seek help, or if intense, run for your life!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be in shock!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 6:1-2 (MSG) So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? [2] I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray for insight, to prevent any kind of shock.
As a marriage counselor for some years, I can rightly say that it is true some people really love the Lord, but along the way, there is a turn around. This can be due to negative influence, change of environment, pressure that comes with marriage, choice of career and so on. Whatever it is, when you find yourself in this kind of scenario, you need to quickly find a marriage counselor to talk to.
7. Meeting In Church Guarantees Nothing
When you meet a new person in a church setting, beyond falling in love with some height or some hot legs, find out how involved he is in church. Is he or she a worker in that church? How long has he or she been in the church? Does the pastor know him or her personally? Is he filled with the Holy Spirit?
All these do not guarantee a successful or stress free marriage, however, they go a long way to establish some credibility and spirituality of the person involved. This is a better approach than meeting someone in church and on the same day, you are in his house! You must learn how to protect yourself!
8. Renewal of Mind Factor
You need to know that being born again can be genuine and yet the guy or lady is still involved in some sharp practices. When you are born again, your spirit is regenerated, but your mind is in the process of being renewed as you listen to God’s word.
This often takes time and is determined by how studious you are in the word and how much time you give to the study of God’s word. In the process of the mind being renewed, a lot of ‘sinful’ mistakes can happen. As long as they are not habitual, God will forgive and you will be okay. But when you do something habitually and unrepentantly, the conscience becomes seared and a religious spirit takes over.
Don’t get caught up with all the erroneous teachings flying over the place that grace will cover for your habitual sins. That you can continue sinning and grace will keep covering for you. That is an error from the pit of hell.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The issue above is one of the commonest statements of regret from the hundreds of people that I counsel.
“Pastor, he has changed…”
“Pastor, I never knew he was like this…”
“Pastor, before we got married, he was a leader in the fellowship, but now, he doesn’t go to church…”
“Pastor, during our courtship, he was so sweet, but now, he beats me up!
“Pastor, I never knew him because our courtship was a distant one…”
…And so on and so forth…
Well, what went wrong along the way?
Here are a few things to note.
1. There are pretenders out there.
There are people who will feign being in the faith just to get a ‘good’ girl that will not give them ‘problems’ in marriage. This is where Christian pre-marriage counseling comes in.
2. That you met somebody in church does not guarantee that he or she is a true child of God.
Anybody and everybody can attend church services for different purposes. Always seek counsel before you get involved with anybody.
3. Not everybody in the church setting is looking for God.
That is why phones and personal effects get missing in church. An angel didn’t steal them. They were stolen by people with whom you worship but with ulterior motives.
4. Let the leadership of the church be involved in your relationship and marriage.
There are some churches that have marriage guidance councils, these are not instituted to control you or spy into your private life but to guide you appropriately. Let your pastor be in the know. This is important because the pastor usually knows the committed ones and those who are insincere to an extent.
5. Learn all you can learn.
Get marriage tips and free Christian advice online. On KHC, for example, we offer free Christian advice for singles and married couples and you can get advice on marriage issues on our daily devotionals, and several other materials online. Don’t walk into a marriage ignorantly and so naïve that you fall for anything.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
If life is all about seed, time, and harvest, then it means every time I tell a lie, get into falsehood, or I am insincere, I am sowing a seed. If the harvest will eventually come, the question is ‘what kind of harvest will come with those kinds of seed?
If I keep deceiving her while I have somebody else I really want to get married to, that would be a wrong seed to sow into my life.
If I start a secret relationship and try to hide from my spouse, and willfully continue in it, that would surely be a wrong seed!
The deal is very simple; if you don’t want the whirlwind, then don’t sow the wind!
For they have sown the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind…(Hosea 8:7a KJV)
4. You will be able to deal with sins that thrive on secrecy
Do you know it takes secrecy to cheat on your spouse? Do you know it takes secrecy to double date? It goes without saying then, that if you can be sincere with your spouse to the last details, you will not be trapped!
If you know you cannot but tell your spouse everything that happened, then you are cautious about what you do because you still have to say everything.
The moment you can internalize it and hide it in marriage, you have just given the devil a foothold to operate!
Be sincere! When you are sincere, the power of iniquity will be broken!
Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.
Iniquity is perpetuated in the atmosphere of secrecy. Make up your mind to hide nothing from your spouse, and you would have freed yourself from a lot of demonic strongholds without any deliverance sessions!
This does not necessarily mean having to dig into the past to bring out unnecessary issues that have been long forgotten and forgiven by God.
I am talking about present issues, daily happenstances, make up your mind to hide nothing, you will be amazed at how you have liberated yourself.
Your life of truthfulness or deception goes beyond you, it will be consequential upon your destiny, your lover, spouse, your children, and generation unborn.
This is because truthfulness or deception will inform your decisions and your decisions will inform how your life, that of your spouse, and your children turn out.
Decide today to be fruitful. It pays.
Amplified Bible sums it all.
The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [ honest ] gain or need of [ dishonest ] spoil. – Proverbs 31:11 (AMP)
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a person of integrity.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a person of integrity
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Let integrity and uprightness protect me, for I wait [expectantly] for You. Psalms 25:21 KJV
Here are four reasons why you should strive to be truthful and be a person of integrity in your relationship and marriage.
1. That is the way God wants it
I strongly believe that God wants you to be a person who is truthful and sincere in all your dealings in life and with people.
Take a look at the scripture:
He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight. (Psalms 101:7 KJV)
Look at the way The Message translation puts that:
But no one who traffics in lies gets a job with me; I have no patience with liars…(Psalms 101:7 Message)
Getting the fullness of God’s blessings in your life, relationship and marriage requires that you strive to be a person who is sincere.
Now, this does not mean that once you make a mistake and tell some lies, you are down and out. Almost everybody has done that anyway.
What this is saying is that when you make such mistakes, you quickly recognize and realize it was a mistake, and you strive not to repeat such mistakes.
However, it is a different ball game when a person is a habitual and impulsive liar! I don’t think God likes that.
Basically, because God Himself is truth; and in Him is no lie. So, He would also want His children to be children of light, not of darkness.
2. Trust will be built in your relationship or marriage
When you are a person of integrity and your spouse knows, there will be trust in your relationship or marriage. It is all for your good.
When your spouse has been disappointed many times and had to find out a lot of lies and deception, trust will be ruptured.
When trust is destroyed in a relationship or marriage, what will be left will be suspicion and mistrust.
Even when there is nothing, he or she will be suspicious. With that, the power of agreement; which is the greatest advantage of a couple, will be tainted.
They eventually will slow themselves down! Be a person of integrity in that relationship or marriage! Integrity preserves!
Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee. (Psalms 25:21 KJV)
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a person of integrity.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a person of integrity
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Let integrity and uprightness protect me, for I wait [expectantly] for You. Psalms 25:21 KJV
I’ll whistle and they’ll all come running. I’ve set them free—oh, how they’ll flourish! – Zechariah 10:8 (MSG)
3. When a period of play has ended due to the expiration of time
You know what?
I am here to announce to you this morning that the operation of the enemy in your life has expired!
God has blown the whistle on them!
Your time is here!
Shout it if you can “My time is here!”
When your season comes, no man can stop you. All of hell combined cannot stop you!
The time to favour you is now!
I curse every delay in your life!
I terminate every spirit behind rejection and abandonment in your marital pursuit in Jesus name!
Every work of the devil, manipulation through dreams, sexual dreams, spirit husband, spirit wife, dreams of delays, are expired today in Jesus name!
…For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil. – 1 John 3:8b (KJV)
God has blown the whistle on the enemy of your soul!
I declare by the power of the Holy Spirit, you will rise from those disappointments.
You will share your testimonies.
God will honor your labour of love.
God will compensate your heart of service with a beautiful and godly marriage
God will cause your mouth to laugh at the points where you have cried.
God will cause your feet to dance at the points you have mourned.
God will decorate your destiny with His glory!
So shall it be for you, in the name of Jesus whose I am and whom I serve!
The God behind this mandate will avail for you!
You will not regret it.
You are blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, blow the whistle over every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Zechariah 10:8 [KJV]I will hiss for them, and gather them; for I have redeemed them: and they shall increase as they have increased.
I’ll whistle and they’ll all come running. I’ve set them free—oh, how they’ll flourish! – Zechariah 10:8 (MSG)
2. If a match is suspended or abandoned
A whistle is used when a match is suspended or abandoned.
Were you abandoned by a supposed lover?
Was the marriage plan suspended after you have announced the date and the boo on Facebook?
Did you have to change “Engaged” to “It’s complicated?”
Have you had to change “Single” to “Engaged” and then back to ‘Single” and then “Engaged” over and over again?
I have good news for you!
God is about to blow the whistle on your behalf.
He or she might have abandoned you, but God has not rejected you!
That is all that matters!
If he leaves you, let him go! Maybe his name is Abed-ne-go!
If she leaves you, let her go! Maybe she is not qualified to handle the greatness of your future which she cannot see now.
Never beg a guy to stay with you who wants to go. Let him go. In his heart, he is gone. If you beg him to stay and he stays, he is staying to leave soonest, after enjoying more sexual escapades from you!
If he gets to marry you, you will need to keep begging him all through your life!
The rejection of man often becomes the direction of God!
Rise from the doldrums of that agony and move into joy of the Lord that awaits you!
The wedding plan might have stopped, but don’t stop your life. God is the referee!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, blow the whistle over every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Zechariah 10:8 [KJV]I will hiss for them, and gather them; for I have redeemed them: and they shall increase as they have increased.
I’ll whistle and they’ll all come running. I’ve set them free—oh, how they’ll flourish! – Zechariah 10:8 (MSG)
Yes, God will whistle and that spouse will come running! God will whistle and set you free from all oppression! God will whistle and you will flourish in all you lay your hands to do.
But you see, there are many uses of the whistle!
In a football game, the whistle is put to many uses.
The whistle is used to start play, 1st or 2nd half and after a goal, but it is also used to stop play.
Other uses of the whistle are;
1. for a free kick or penalty kick 2. if a match is suspended or abandoned 3. when a period of play has ended due to the expiration of time
Take a look at this scripture before we look at the different scenarios.
You blow the whistle on godless nations; you throw dirty players out of the game, wipe their names right off the roster. – Psalms 9:5 (MSG)
God is blowing the whistle on every godless entity harassing your destiny! God is throwing all dirty players away from your life. God is wiping off names of deceivers, froward men, liars, strange women off the roster of your destiny! No more distractions for you!
Let’s look at the scenarios when a whistle can be used
1. For a free kick or penalty kick
For every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in your life, God is blowing the whistle on them.
No more will you be cheated on the field of play! God is the referee!
No longer will you attract time wasters, destiny killers, distraction entities, and wicked men.
Your marital life will no longer be a field of play with countless fouls from energy-sapping players who have no intentions of walking down the aisle.
Can I hear an amen in the comment section?
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, blow the whistle over every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Zechariah 10:8 [KJV]I will hiss for them, and gather them; for I have redeemed them: and they shall increase as they have increased.
Let’s look at more points to note that will set the link between spirituality and tongues straight.
5. The Flesh Dimension
Judging a person’s spiritual depth by how the tongue sounds is operating in the flesh and walking in pride. The flesh will always be wrong and will lead to wrong conclusions.
6. Same-Word Tongues
Some can be repeating the same words (as it sounds to your ears) and yet be communicating with God.
For with stammering lips and another tongue will he speak to this people. – Isaiah 28:11 (KJV)
7. Utterance Is By The Spirit
Nobody determines how his tongue will sound. The utterance is given by the Holy Spirit.
But that’s exactly how you will be addressed. God will speak to this people In baby talk, one syllable at a time— Isaiah 28:11 (MSG)
The effectiveness of tongues is not in the vocal rhymes and vowels, but in the result that shows in your life.
8. Don’t Be Deceived
Some of the finest tongues to the ears were spoken by unrepentant fornicators and men of evil and perverse mind. Don’t be deceived.
There are experts in tongue-talking who are experts in sexual perversion!
9. There Are Counterfeits
There is a counterfeit of tongues. Every original stuff has its fake. There are tongues used to summon demons by Satanists.
There are familiar spirits. This is the answer to the puzzle wherein you see adulterers and fornicators performing miracles and giving words of knowledge.
There are familiar spirits, lying wonders of the devil, and manipulations of the occult.
Don’t be caught with a man who performs wonders and yet has character defects. They don’t go together.
Get out of churches where the Pastor who is married is attempting to sleep with you. Don’t fry yourself alive!
10. Rest and Refreshing
When you speak in tongues regularly, it will bring you into rest, refreshing, and give you direction.
To whom he said, This is the rest wherewith ye may cause the weary to rest; and this is the refreshing: yet they would not hear. – Isaiah 28:12 (KJV)
Tongues are to edify you and to strengthen you in the inner man.
If with all your tongues, you end up sleeping around, committing serial abortions, compromising every day, something is wrong somewhere. Get help and stop being proud of your tongues.
Tongues are not meant to clean you up so that you can go back into sin and then speak in more tongues and then go back again. It is to lead you into consecration and not into a habitual lifestyle of sin.
Selah!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be carnally minded.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me not to choose by the flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:6 NKJV For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Jane sat before me, completely downcast. She was exasperated.
“Pastor, I don’t really understand.” She said
“What is the issue?”
“Pastor, Scott broke up with me! I mean, I could not believe it. I was so sure I had found my God-ordained man.
“What was his reason for doing that?”
“Pastor, you wouldn’t believe it.”
“Tell me”
“Because of my tongues!”
“What happened to your tongues?”
“He said my tongues are monosyllables. That it is not diverse tongues!”
There are many people who have found themselves in the shoes of Jane or Scott as the case may be.
One guy actually told a lady, “All your tongues are not more than Sanda…Sanda…Sanda… When will you ever get a shoe when you don’t know more than Sandal?”
While this may seem hilarious, most people keep on making this mistake.
Here are a few points to note that will set the link between spirituality and tongues straight.
1. A Spiritual Experience
Speaking in tongues is a spiritual experience. You cannot use your physical ears to judge or decode what is being said and the import of what is being communicated.
2. Communication With God
Whoever is speaking in tongues is essentially communicating with God. It is none of your business how it sounds to your ears!
For he that speaketh in an unknown tongue speaketh not unto men, but unto God: for no man understandeth him; howbeit in the spirit he speaketh mysteries. – 1 Corinthians 14:2 (KJV)
3. The One-Syllable Myth
A person can utter one syllable and yet might have communicated a volume of Information.
This is why the complimentary gift is called “Gift of INTERPRETATION and not TRANSLATION.
4. Relationship With God
The spirituality of a tongue is never determined in the rich vowels or how it sounds to the ears, it is determined more from the relationship that person has with God.
To be continued tomorrow!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be carnally minded.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me not to choose by the flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:6 NKJV For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Speak in tongues for 1 hour
Just go ahead and laugh at what you are going through
Hey, Pastor, you don’t really have an idea.
Yes, that is the more reason I want you to laugh and keep your joy.
When your life looks like there is nothing man can do, when that moment comes when you realize that you will need God’s intervention, then what you should do is laugh.
Why should you laugh!
A child should do what he sees his father do.
When situations set themselves against you, when people take counsel against you, when the heathen rage and the people imagine all kind of evil against you, when enemies rise up against you, and the battle seemed too much and too many for you, what do you do?
Start crying? No!
Start complaining and pity-partying? No!
Just Laugh!
Because that is what your father in heaven will do!
Psa 2:1-4 (KJV) Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing? [2] The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the LORD, and against his anointed, saying, [3] Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us. [4] HE THAT SITTETH IN THE HEAVENS SHALL LAUGH: the Lord shall have them in derision.
God laughs at them because He knows they are losers!
God laughs at them because He knows they can never win over Him!
Your laughter then is an expression of your faith in God that you already won!
When a two-year-old boy starts telling you he is going to fight you and kill you, what do you do? You just laugh because you know the little boy wouldn’t be able to do it, ever!
That is why God laughs! God simply holds them in derision!
Amplified Bible says; God, in supreme contempt He mocks them.
Mock your situation with a heavy dose of laughter because you will have the victory!
They said you will never marry? Just laugh, because you will!
They said you will never find a spouse because all your friends are married?
Just laugh because NOBODY can marry your spouse!
Go ahead and LAUGH!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to be joyful and laugh all through this year
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, fill my mouth with laughter
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 2:4 [CEV] In heaven the Lord laughs as he sits on his throne, making fun of the nations.
There are some of us that hold our parents in derision. You are wrong to do that.
But my parents are not born-again!
You see, the scripture never says you should honour your born-again parents!
He said you should honour your parents! That is how to last on the planet earth! So that your days will be long!
In fact, a particular translation says, honour your parents so that God can say well done to you!
Some of you are having delays in marriage because you are walking in disobedience. If your parents have ever said wrong words to you because you were at loggerheads with them, go back to them and apologize.
Humble yourself, so that you won’t slow yourself down. Dishonouring your parents and refusing to forgive them can cost you your life! Read your Bible very well.
Go back to them, buy a gift, prostrate or kneel down and ask them to bless you! That act alone will be better off than ninety days of fasting and prayers, which might not yield results because of unforgiving spirit.
Why waste your time praying? Isn’t that a religious spirit at work?
Married couples, be quick to forgive each other! Don’t allow strife in your family. Forgive your spouse. You will do yourself a lot of good if you do that. If you don’t forgive him or her, your prayers will be hindered. Don’t block God’s blessings over you at this time.
If you have been in prolonged hurt and strife, it is dangerous. End it today and allow God’s blessing to flow in your family. Leave your ego behind and obey God. Take your wife out, buy her a gift and apologize!
Go to your husband and kneel down and ask for forgiveness. It is not old fashioned; it is scripture!
Let go and let God! Let it be a beginning of a new day for you and yours! Let go of everybody you are holding in your mind. Burn your little black book of offences and stop recording hurts.
Delete them not only from your memory but from recycle bin as well. Guard your heart with all diligence for out of them are the issues of life.
May God help you and give you the strength to forgive all you need to forgive in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to forgive all who have hurt me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to forgive all who have hurt you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19 ESV)
Now as you read this, I really want you to check yourself out. Are you holding a few people in your heart without forgiving them? Well, it could slow you down!
It could cause delays in marriages, it could cause relationships not to work out, and other havocs can be wrecked.
That’s why I tell people; don’t start another relationship immediately after one has just ended. Give yourself a break, at least, six months.
Why?
When you rush into another relationship with hurts, wounds, bitterness, and an unforgiving spirit, you will end up frustrating that other person and the relationship will still not work out. You cannot establish a relationship on a foundation of hurts, wounds, and bitterness!
When you stay in unforgiving mode, it’s like moving away from God’s protective arm into the terrain of the devil. A lot of us fast and pray fervently, but hear me and hear me well, if you don’t forgive, you will never be able to enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings.
I come to you this morning, by the Spirit of God and by His grace which He has endowed me with and I speak into your life and destiny, ‘Forgive!’
Yes, I know you are hurt! Yes, I know you were jilted. Yes, I know you were raped. Yes, I know you were defrauded. Yes, I know you were abandoned when it is just a few days to the wedding. Yes, I know there has been a divorce. Yes, I know you were cheated. Yes, I know you were wrongfully accused. Yes, I know your spouse cheated on you and manipulated you…and the list goes on.
But you cannot afford some bitterness. It is too expensive for you! You need God now, don’t you?
You yourself are not perfect, are you?
The only way God can overlook, forgive and forget your own imperfections and cause His mercy to avail for you is when you forgive that person.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to forgive all who have hurt me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to forgive all who have hurt you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19 ESV)
I remember many years ago, as a young Christian, I was praying and trusting God for some things. God answered me very clearly and told me to forgive so and so.
Now, these people really hurt me, and I felt justified walking in an unforgiving spirit. But then God gave me two scriptures and said if I want to move forward in life, I have to forgive.
Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” – (Romans 12:19 ESV)
The second scripture God gave me was:
To whom ye forgive any thing, I forgive also: for if I forgave any thing, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ; Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices – (2 Corinthians 2:10-11 KJV)
I had to listen to God and it was only then I was able to move forward.
From the above scriptures, a few things are clear.
1. People will hurt you, as long as you are human and you are in the days of your flesh.
2. You will like to get even, born again or not.
3. Don’t get even; don’t avenge yourself.
4. God will avenge you, He will fight for you and that is when it is sweetest.
5. If you stay in unforgiving mode, Satan will use it as a loophole to cause havoc.
6. You are not to be ignorant of how the devil operates.
A third scripture I will like you to see is here:
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses – (Matthew 6:14-15 KJV)
Now, you don’t want to find yourself here. You don’t want to find yourself in a place where God will not forgive you.
And yet, the only way not to get there is to forgive people easily!
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to forgive all who have hurt me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to forgive all who have hurt you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19 ESV)
Take me away with you! Let’s run off together! An elopement with my King-Lover! We’ll celebrate, we’ll sing, we’ll make great music. Yes! For your love is better than vintage wine. Everyone loves you—of course! And why not? – Son 1:4 (MSG)
There is an elopement with God, your lover that will extricate your life’s struggles and agonies!
Lord, I want to elope with you!
The way you desire to just be with your lover in one resort where you are looking into each other’s eyes and verbalizing some romantic nonsensical words is the same way you should desire to elope with God into some retreat, verbalizing your cares and your concerns.
The way you enjoy looking into the eyes of your lover is the way you should enjoy beholding the word of God.
The way your adrenaline flows at the appearance of your lover is the way your passion should come alive at the mention of His name!
Doth wine make you merry? Oh, try the love of God. It will get you drunk in Him!
Holy Ghost joy will flood your soul and His word will become a joy and rejoicing of your heart.
It is when your love for God is fully expressed that God becomes committed to finding that loved one!
God’s love teaches you how to love your lover appropriately and not selfishly. God’s love teaches you how to be romantic, how to be a lover boy or girl, how to be faithful to your spouse, and how not to cheat on your loved one!
Before you fall in love, before you give your heart out, is he a God-lover? Has he run away with God before? Has he eloped with God into some private moments with divinity?
If he hasn’t done that, he cannot love you appropriately! You are too precious to be loved illegally.
When he or she comes asking for your love, ask him or her, have you eloped? Have you run off with Him? Then that determines whether you can run with him or her.
If you dare run away with the one that has not run with God, not even GPS can locate you!
You will not disappear from heavenly radar! You will not be lost under His favour radar! God will give you His direction! You will not be confused!
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to run off with God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for inner strength to develop and sustain a relationship with God
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Song 1:4 [GNT]Take me with you, and we’ll run away; be my king and take me to your room. We will be happy together, drink deep, and lose ourselves in love. No wonder all women love you!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Cultivate a relationship with the Holy Spirit
I was newly in courtship. She was my first love. And the last!
Never have fallen in love with any other person in my life like I was in love!
Our love seemed scripted in heaven. And so it was. And it still is!
It was doing me gra gra! Better than wine! And it is still doing me o!
Take me away with you! Let’s run off together! An elopement with my King-Lover! We’ll celebrate, we’ll sing, we’ll make great music. Yes! For your love is better than vintage wine. Everyone loves you—of course! And why not? – Son 1:4 (MSG)
Just wanted to look into those adorable eyes, set in an angelic face, with the most gentle smiles emanating in measured doses.
The pouting lips, the nose that looks like the road that leads to Galilee…everything seemed custom-made for me!
I wanted to run away with her alone to some far-far-away land where it would just be the two of us, enraptured in pure love and doing no other thing but being in love.
I imagined those movies, and I am in the cast with Sophia, in some majestic palace, gold-adorned, with several servants and we are just singing, celebrating, and rejoicing!
But the scripture above is not about me and Sophia!
It is not about you and your babe!
It is not about you and your TDH – tall, dark and handsome!
The scripture is talking about you and God!
Lord, take me away with you!
Are you really in love with God? The proof is in your intense desire to run away with Him in His word!
The authenticity of your romance with divinity is in the intensity of your desire to run away into His presence!
You want celebration in your life! Do you want to sing songs of victory? Then get ready to run off with Him!
The more you ignore Him, the more your destiny suffers!
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose God over and over again.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for an intimate relationship with the Holy Spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Song 1:4 [GNT]Take me with you, and we’ll run away; be my king and take me to your room. We will be happy together, drink deep, and lose ourselves in love. No wonder all women love you!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Cultivate a relationship with the Holy Spirit
The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir. – Son 1:17 (KJV)
The beams talks about that which supports a house. A house is built by wisdom.
A foolish husband is a disaster. A foolish woman is clamorous.
Your lover should have a penchant for wisdom. He or she must be growing.
The beams of your house must be cedar, not just some stick out there. If the beams of your house are not cedars, there won’t be shade when marital heat comes!
Go after wisdom.
Does your lover put the word of God first place? You need wisdom to build a home!
Wisdom hath builded her house, she hath hewn out her seven pillars – Pro 9:1 (KJV)
Study God’s word. Spend time there. That is how to get wisdom.
Do not fall in love with a vain person. A marriage cannot be sustained on adrenaline and promises alone. Depth and wisdom is required.
Watch out for these!
Does your lover prefer to watch movies rather than read books? Would your lover rather sleep all day rather than research and study to know more?
In the just concluded year, ask your lover how many books were read. These symptoms points somewhere, trust me?
I pray for you this morning, God will send every help you need into your life to move you from where you are to where you ought to be in Jesus name!
I pray for all singles who are struggling with one form of compromise or the other, God will set you free.
I curse every form of oppression in your life, I cancel every plan of the devil over your life and I declare that the counsel of God will stand in your life, relationship and marriage in Jesus name!
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My eyes are opened. I look well before making a choice
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Son 1:17 (KJV) The beams of our house are cedar, and our rafters of fir.
The dove is a gentle bird. It often symbolizes peace. So, this talks about character.
After the physical appearance, then you must take into cognizance the inner beauty.
Outer beauty without inner character is a disaster.
The flesh of my flesh, that talks about outer beauty. The bone of my bones deals with character, inner structure, the inner frame supporting and holding the outer beauty in place. This is important.
Can you vouch for his or her character? Will he raise his hands to beat you when he is angry? Then, he is not qualified.
Will she pack her things, leave her parents’ home and go sleep in a friend’s house over simple altercations? Then, you need to be careful.
Has he slapped you once? You need to be careful. He has shown you a sample of what is to come!
God has presented you with an opportunity to know what he or she is like!
Love is not stupid. Love doesn’t turn you into an idiot. Think. Ask questions. Don’t walk blindly into a marriage that could mar destinies for life.
3. Green Bed
Behold, thou art fair, my beloved, yea, pleasant: also our bed is green. – Son 1:16 (KJV)
The bed must remain green and fresh. Putrefaction must not set in as a result of iniquity and pre-marital affairs!
When the bed has been stained red with compromise, wrong seeds have been sown.
As you go into that relationship, make up your mind that the bed must remain green! Do not soil the bed with iniquity, because as you lay your bed so you lie on it.
In essence, everything you do before your wedding date is a seed, a foundation for your marriage.
If he wants to stain the bed by all means, let him go, maybe he is not yours!
If she wants to drag you into the bed before the time, beware lest you are dealing with a strange woman.
If you are already married, keep your bed green and avoid all forms of adultery including emotional affairs.
If you are entangled or about to be entangled, seek help. Don’t keep quiet. Iniquity is perpetuated in the atmosphere of secrecy.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My eyes are opened. I look well before making a choice
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open the eyes of my understanding
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Song of Solomon 1:15 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves’ eyes.
