”What about Deacon Joshua, you said he asked you out as well?
“That one doesn’t have money joor” Is it only preaching we will be eating after marriage?”
“Uhmmm…”Who else asked you out?”
“Brother Tomi, he is too short.”
“But it is not in heights?”
“Why is your own husband tall?”
“Susan!”
“Brother Bode also asked me out, but his mouth is too sharp, he talks too much like somebody that has mouth diarrhea!” Brother Tola is too tall, and he is bent over like somebody that is sick. I cannot marry him.” Brother Chiefo is too old for me. He is nearly forty-five. I am not sure if he is a real man.
Brother Sanmi is too busy playing the keyboard. He will not have time for me. Brother Bubu is okay but the way he smiles reminds me of my primary school teacher that nearly killed me with beating. Mr. Tony is an ideal man, but the way I see him, he will turn me into a housewife. Brother Steve said he wants to become a pastor, I cannot marry a pastor.
Brother Faith seems to like women a lot, I cannot be competing with other ladies in my matrimonial home. Brother Eze is okay, but his bow leg is a concern. Mr. Smith would have been it, but the way he walks like a village man will not befit my destiny. Brother Love is too dark like God forgot him in the oven or something like that. Mr. Scoot is too light, if both of us are light, will our children not become albinos? And Mr…..”
“But why? You are beautiful, you are active in church and everything seems to be going on well.”
“Na beauty I go chop?” Beautiful and yet husbandless at thirty-five?”
“God has a man for you”
“Where is the man? And when will the man come?”
“Just be patient and be prayerful.”
“Shebi, you are already married, cooling off in your husband’s home, with a romantic six-packed man to rest your naughty head on every night, while I am speaking in tongues alone on cold nights with no one in sight”
“Sister Susan!”
“Sister Joy!”
“What about Brother David?”
“It is you that will marry Brother David!”
“Ah! What happened to Brother David?”
“You came to church this morning in a Toyota Lexus right?”
“Yes”
“So, I should go and marry Brother David so that I can improve on all the trekking I have done in the last thirty-five years? So that my name can enter Guinness Book of Record for The trekker of all times, abi?”
“Ha!”
“You no know say the trek wey I don trek for this world, e no get part 2?”
“You can make somebody laugh”
“How will you not laugh?” Please, don’t talk about Brother David o?”
“But my husband didn’t have a car when we married.”
“I don’t have that patience.”
“Ok, what about Brother Godwin? He asked you out and he has a car?
“That one? That bushman? He cannot even pronounce the name of his car well. He is out of it.”
“Brother James also asked you out. That one nko?”
“Brother James is too spiritual for me. He doesn’t know more than quoting Bible and praying in the Holy Ghost. I am not sure I will ever get to see a movie if I marry him.”
“Tee Boy also asked you out. He is not as spiritual.”
“Ah, that choir boy who has toasted every lady in church? He is too carnal for me.”
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to the realities of life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 14:17 [KJV]For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
“It is not enough to know what you want. You must also know what God wants for you. You yourself, are you a virgin?”
“Not really.”
“So, is your desire fair and just? Your mind seems confused. If you are not careful, it will be long before you get married.”
“Why do you say so?”
“Stop stressing yourself, with all you want and what you don’t want.
Relax in God and allow Him to lead you. Stop all these nonsensical lists you are making because you will never find anybody that conforms to your lists and desires a hundred percent.”
“Seriously?”
“Unless you want to order for a robot that will be built to your specifications”
“So, what should I do?”
“Go and pray and let God’s Spirit lead you. When you embrace God’s leading, you will find out you have made the right choice in the end. God knows the right statistics that a lady will become in another five years and ten years that will still fit into what your desires are. Allow Him to lead you. Your brain is too small to lead you.”
“Will God also take into consideration the pulchritude?”
“Yes!”
“Then, I will follow God.”
“You had better do so. Pray and look around. She is around you. She will not fall from heaven. Ask God to open your eyes of understanding to see beyond your nose and stop making carnal fleshly decisions.”
“I hear!”
“I pray for you, you will not miss God in Jesus name! God will lead and establish His marital plans in your life in Jesus name!”
“Amen!”
“I need to go now! I have an appointment with my fiancée!”
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to the realities of life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 14:17 [KJV]For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
Thinking aloud, Bob said, “O Lord, where is my woman?”
His friend Ade, looked at him, hissed and retorted, “Woman ko, Grandmother ni!’
“Abeg, I no dey talk to you o”
“You better not be talking to me and don’t bother to talk to God as well.”
“Thank God you are not God! My God will answer my prayers”
“God will not answer that prayer!”
“Kai! What is your problem now?”
“Where is your woman? She would drop from heaven?
“I am patiently waiting for God.”
“What are you waiting for? May you not wait for ever. The wife you will marry is around you.”
“Is it because you are lucky and you are getting married next month? God will do my own too.”
“God has already done it, but you are blind, proud and stubborn”
“Who are you talking about?”
“I am talking about Sade. That lady likes you.”
“I cannot marry her. That girl will fry me alive if I marry her!”
“Why?”
“That sister can talk. The other time we had a date, she dominated everything. I thought I could talk, until I met her. That day, I surrendered.”
“I think she was just being free and being herself.”
“Well. I got scared. I am not sure that is what I want.”
“Ok, what about Sandra? You went out with that one briefly too”
“If I marry Sandra, our house will be too boring. She hardly talks. She will just be looking at you like Lucozade, sitting like sitting room, and as cool as cucumber!” I need someone in-between.
“Ok, what about Sister Comfort? She is not a talkative and she is not so quiet. I think there goes your bride.”
“It is not only Sister Comfort you will see, you will soon see Sister Compassion! Why did you not marry her before you chose that damsel of yours?
“It is you that said you don’t want a loud lady and you don’t want a quiet one. Sister Comfort is just perfect for your desires.”
“She does not have the pulchritude.”
“Pulchritude” Which one is that again?
“She does not have the rotundity of my dreams.”
“Yeh! Rotundity! This brother is backslidden.”
“She does not have the tips, hips and lips. I want a babe, not just a sister.”
“Lord, God Almighty!”
“There is a difference between a sister, a sisto, a babe and a woman!”
“Ha! May you not remain a bachelor for life!”
“I simply know what I want.”
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to the realities of life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 14:17 [KJV]For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
Here is the concluding part of yesterday’s devotional
3. Marriage will not make you more spiritual
Before, all the worship is unto God, but now, it’s some for God, some for your wife! After you are through with “God I worship you, I bless you, I honor you” and so on, then you resume part two which are ‘Dear, I love you, you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, you are this and that!’
And trust me, it is something you have to do because the scripture advises that you love, embrace and let her thoughts fill your heart!
So the real deal is creating a balance and to make sure one does not suffer for another.
But in all of that, the couple should learn to give God the first place in their lives. When they do that, God will help them and teach them by His Spirit how to make the marriage work better.
4. Marriage will not bring joy
Marriage will not bring joy. It can bring happiness, which is temporary. The only guaranteed factor that brings joy is the word of God. So, both of you should fill your hearts with the word of God. Apart from all the chocolates and delicacies, you should also learn to “eat” God’s word regularly.
Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O Lord God of hosts (Jeremiah 15:16 KJV)
That way, joy is guaranteed, even in the midst of contradictory situations. The reason joy is so important is that it is your strength. You need that strength in marriage. Depression weakens you.
But the joy of the Lord brings strength!
…for the joy of the Lord is your strength. (Nehemiah 8:10b KJV)
Know this and understand that a successful godly marriage will not be on tripping, outings, eating out, vacations, and cinemas alone, but in righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost.
For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost. – Romans 14:17
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to the realities of life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 14:17 [KJV]For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
Marriage in itself does not have much power beyond the two people involved and their relationship with God. What makes the marriage covenant effective is the personal relationship that both spouses have with their God.
For example, a man that has the fear of God and is conscious of the covenant factor in marriage will not get involved in adulterous relationships. On the other hand, a man that has no respect for the covenant will not hesitate to dishonor the marriage covenant. So in effect, the marriage relationship or covenant is honorable to the extent that both spouses honor God in their lives.
This is why we keep telling you from time to time, you cannot just marry anybody! That somebody has hot legs or that a man has a car is not enough reason to marry that person! Even though marriage is a sacred institution that God Himself instituted, it is left for the couples or intending coupes involved not to trample on that which is sacred.
Here are a few things that marriage will not do for you.
1. Marriage will not change your personality
Marriage will not change your personality because marriage is not really a change agent. Change begins from within and not from without. That you now have a man or woman beside you and wedding rings on your fingers does not change anything about you, really.
Once you notice that you have some negative personality tendencies, start working on them right away, and don’t wait till you are married.
If you are a sanguine before marriage, you will simply become a married sanguine. For ladies, your surname changes but your personality remain the same until you consciously start working on yourself.
2. Marriage will not reduce the pressures you face
Marriage brings more pressure. It gets you busier. As a single, I had so much time to pray, especially long hours of praying in the Spirit. If I needed to pray for a long stretch of time now as a married man and a father, I have to disappear somewhere to do that.
You can be praying in your study, and you are so much lost in God’s glory, in fact, you are in the third heavens, with Shekinah glory all over you in your study, and then, your little boy or girl knocks furiously on the door saying, “Daddy, I want Biscuits!”
Trust me, you will need to come down from the third heavens back to the earth and hand that Biscuits to her so that she would not grow to hate your God that is taking Daddy away!
As single, you have all the time in the world now. Use it, because it will never get freer!
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to the realities of life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 14:17 [KJV]For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
9. That he showed you does not mean you should go ahead and propose. You also need to ask Him when to go ahead and propose. There is a difference between preparation and performance.
10. In the things of God, He often shows you things ahead. Because the information is coming from God, it would look like you should act immediately. But most of the time, it is never an immediate action. He showed Joseph some things that only came to pass several years later. David was anointed but never mounted the throne immediately. Some of these promises have to be patiently obtained.
11. It is possible to get a big ‘NO’ from a lady and yet God has spoken to you. You jumped ahead and did not follow His leading completely. The lady is not ready at the time. Just like God spoke to you, God has to speak to her too!
12. The primary way God will lead you is through inner witness. You just know within you. Do not seek dreams and visions because the devil can give them. Stay consistently in God’s word and pray in the Spirit a lot. That way, God will ensure that you don’t miss it in life.
13. It is one thing for God to speak to you about a person. That does not mean it will work out or lead into marriage, especially if you unrepentantly compromise regularly, or you did not work at your relationship in terms of character development.
For example, God might have spoken to you, and yet anger problems can ruin it all.
God might have spoken, but negative attitudes can stifle that voice and the love can vaporize as quickly as it came.
I pray for you this morning, your life will not become an experiment. You will enjoy God’s leading in every area of your life in Jesus name.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will hear God clearly about my life and marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 30:21[AMP] And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What did God say to you today? Write it down.
There is no doubt that God speaks to His people. For me, God spoke to me clearly while I was a student on the Campus as relating to relationships and marriage. God still speaks today. If you seek His face, He will speak to you!
He is a speaking God.
“Saith the Lord’ is found over eight hundred times in the scriptures.
Jesus constantly speaks to us.
And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left. – Isa 30:21 AMP
The Holy Spirit is a speaking Spirit.
And I know that his commandment is life everlasting: whatsoever I speak therefore, even as the Father said unto me, so I speak. – Joh 12:50 KJV
He desires to lead us. Here a few things to note.
1. God will not speak to you outside of His word.
2. To hear God more, read His word the more. His word in your Spirit, prepares your Spirit like a receptacle to hear God.
3. When you seek His face, you will hear Him speak to you.
4 Fasting and prayer often help to hear God more clearly.
As they ministered to the Lord, and fasted, the Holy Ghost said, Separate me Barnabas and Saul for the work whereunto I have called them. – Act 13:2 KJV
5. Relationship and marriage should not be the first issues that arise when you are trying to hear God. Try developing hearing Him in other areas as well.
6. God is particular even with the minutest details of your life, and when you learn to relate with the Holy Spirit like you will relate with a friend, He will always speak to you, like a friend will speak to you.
7 When God shows you a guy, clam down, don’t get suggestive, let him discover too. The lady is not the aggressor; she is the responder.
8. When God shows you a lady, it is just information because you are His child and fathers speak to their children. You are His friend. So He tells you of what is to come. Jesus said when the Holy Spirit comes, He will tell us of things to come.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will hear God clearly about my life and marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 30:21[AMP] And your ears will hear a word behind you, saying, This is the way; walk in it, when you turn to the right hand and when you turn to the left.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY What did God say to you today? Write it down.
This is the concluding part of this series. I hope you have been following diligently. and you are taking note of what to do before love turns to shock.
So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? [2] I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there? – Romans 6:1-2 (MSG)
The grace of God is to deliver you from sin, not to keep you safe in your sin!
9. Character Defects
When you see obvious character defects, don’t close your eyes to them especially when he or she says he will change later.
Marriage changes nobody. Anybody that tells you he or she will change later is deceiving you. What do you do when you see character defects? Seek help! Don’t keep quiet.
10. Take a Pause
If during courtship or after marriage, you suddenly discover you never knew who you were in the same boat with, here is what to do.
In courtship, take a pause on everything until you find a solution. For example, if the issue has to do with physical violence or physical abuse, don’t just keep quiet thinking that marriage will soften him.
Don’t walk down the aisle into that kind of marriage, or you might need to soon run up the aisle and out! If you are getting slaps in courtship, guess what will happen in marriage? In marriage, divorce is not the first option. Look for a Christian marriage counselor or marriage therapist for help.
11. Long-Distance Relationships
If you are in a distant relationship or some online dating, you need to know that you will not have a distant marriage and you will not live online.
The reality must dawn on you never to make life-involving decisions without knowing the person very well. It is wrong for you to fall in love with a stranger.
Something is not quite right with falling in love with an online profile or some voice-over-the-phone! Marriage is not a game! It is a covenant!
12. We are Projects
Finally, we are all projects in the making in the hands of God.
Nobody is perfect, but there are things that are unbecoming for a child of God. When you see some of these things, it is time to seek help, or if intense, run for your life!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be in shock!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 6:1-2 (MSG) So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving? [2] I should hope not! If we’ve left the country where sin is sovereign, how can we still live in our old house there?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray for insight, to prevent any kind of shock.
As a marriage counselor for some years, I can rightly say that it is true some people really love the Lord, but along the way, there is a turn around. This can be due to negative influence, change of environment, pressure that comes with marriage, choice of career and so on. Whatever it is, when you find yourself in this kind of scenario, you need to quickly find a marriage counselor to talk to.
7. Meeting In Church Guarantees Nothing
When you meet a new person in a church setting, beyond falling in love with some height or some hot legs, find out how involved he is in church. Is he or she a worker in that church? How long has he or she been in the church? Does the pastor know him or her personally? Is he filled with the Holy Spirit?
All these do not guarantee a successful or stress free marriage, however, they go a long way to establish some credibility and spirituality of the person involved. This is a better approach than meeting someone in church and on the same day, you are in his house! You must learn how to protect yourself!
8. Renewal of Mind Factor
You need to know that being born again can be genuine and yet the guy or lady is still involved in some sharp practices. When you are born again, your spirit is regenerated, but your mind is in the process of being renewed as you listen to God’s word.
This often takes time and is determined by how studious you are in the word and how much time you give to the study of God’s word. In the process of the mind being renewed, a lot of ‘sinful’ mistakes can happen. As long as they are not habitual, God will forgive and you will be okay. But when you do something habitually and unrepentantly, the conscience becomes seared and a religious spirit takes over.
Don’t get caught up with all the erroneous teachings flying over the place that grace will cover for your habitual sins. That you can continue sinning and grace will keep covering for you. That is an error from the pit of hell.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
The issue above is one of the commonest statements of regret from the hundreds of people that I counsel.
“Pastor, he has changed…”
“Pastor, I never knew he was like this…”
“Pastor, before we got married, he was a leader in the fellowship, but now, he doesn’t go to church…”
“Pastor, during our courtship, he was so sweet, but now, he beats me up!
“Pastor, I never knew him because our courtship was a distant one…”
…And so on and so forth…
Well, what went wrong along the way?
Here are a few things to note.
1. There are pretenders out there.
There are people who will feign being in the faith just to get a ‘good’ girl that will not give them ‘problems’ in marriage. This is where Christian pre-marriage counseling comes in.
2. That you met somebody in church does not guarantee that he or she is a true child of God.
Anybody and everybody can attend church services for different purposes. Always seek counsel before you get involved with anybody.
3. Not everybody in the church setting is looking for God.
That is why phones and personal effects get missing in church. An angel didn’t steal them. They were stolen by people with whom you worship but with ulterior motives.
4. Let the leadership of the church be involved in your relationship and marriage.
There are some churches that have marriage guidance councils, these are not instituted to control you or spy into your private life but to guide you appropriately. Let your pastor be in the know. This is important because the pastor usually knows the committed ones and those who are insincere to an extent.
5. Learn all you can learn.
Get marriage tips and free Christian advice online. On KHC, for example, we offer free Christian advice for singles and married couples and you can get advice on marriage issues on our daily devotionals, and several other materials online. Don’t walk into a marriage ignorantly and so naïve that you fall for anything.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to trust you.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY John 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.
If life is all about seed, time, and harvest, then it means every time I tell a lie, get into falsehood, or I am insincere, I am sowing a seed. If the harvest will eventually come, the question is ‘what kind of harvest will come with those kinds of seed?
If I keep deceiving her while I have somebody else I really want to get married to, that would be a wrong seed to sow into my life.
If I start a secret relationship and try to hide from my spouse, and willfully continue in it, that would surely be a wrong seed!
The deal is very simple; if you don’t want the whirlwind, then don’t sow the wind!
For they have sown the wind, and they shall reap the whirlwind…(Hosea 8:7a KJV)
4. You will be able to deal with sins that thrive on secrecy
Do you know it takes secrecy to cheat on your spouse? Do you know it takes secrecy to double date? It goes without saying then, that if you can be sincere with your spouse to the last details, you will not be trapped!
If you know you cannot but tell your spouse everything that happened, then you are cautious about what you do because you still have to say everything.
The moment you can internalize it and hide it in marriage, you have just given the devil a foothold to operate!
Be sincere! When you are sincere, the power of iniquity will be broken!
Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.
Iniquity is perpetuated in the atmosphere of secrecy. Make up your mind to hide nothing from your spouse, and you would have freed yourself from a lot of demonic strongholds without any deliverance sessions!
This does not necessarily mean having to dig into the past to bring out unnecessary issues that have been long forgotten and forgiven by God.
I am talking about present issues, daily happenstances, make up your mind to hide nothing, you will be amazed at how you have liberated yourself.
Your life of truthfulness or deception goes beyond you, it will be consequential upon your destiny, your lover, spouse, your children, and generation unborn.
This is because truthfulness or deception will inform your decisions and your decisions will inform how your life, that of your spouse, and your children turn out.
Decide today to be fruitful. It pays.
Amplified Bible sums it all.
The heart of her husband trusts in her confidently and relies on and believes in her securely, so that he has no lack of [ honest ] gain or need of [ dishonest ] spoil. – Proverbs 31:11 (AMP)
May God grant you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a person of integrity.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a person of integrity
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Let integrity and uprightness protect me, for I wait [expectantly] for You. Psalms 25:21 KJV
Here are four reasons why you should strive to be truthful and be a person of integrity in your relationship and marriage.
1. That is the way God wants it
I strongly believe that God wants you to be a person who is truthful and sincere in all your dealings in life and with people.
Take a look at the scripture:
He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight. (Psalms 101:7 KJV)
Look at the way The Message translation puts that:
But no one who traffics in lies gets a job with me; I have no patience with liars…(Psalms 101:7 Message)
Getting the fullness of God’s blessings in your life, relationship and marriage requires that you strive to be a person who is sincere.
Now, this does not mean that once you make a mistake and tell some lies, you are down and out. Almost everybody has done that anyway.
What this is saying is that when you make such mistakes, you quickly recognize and realize it was a mistake, and you strive not to repeat such mistakes.
However, it is a different ball game when a person is a habitual and impulsive liar! I don’t think God likes that.
Basically, because God Himself is truth; and in Him is no lie. So, He would also want His children to be children of light, not of darkness.
2. Trust will be built in your relationship or marriage
When you are a person of integrity and your spouse knows, there will be trust in your relationship or marriage. It is all for your good.
When your spouse has been disappointed many times and had to find out a lot of lies and deception, trust will be ruptured.
When trust is destroyed in a relationship or marriage, what will be left will be suspicion and mistrust.
Even when there is nothing, he or she will be suspicious. With that, the power of agreement; which is the greatest advantage of a couple, will be tainted.
They eventually will slow themselves down! Be a person of integrity in that relationship or marriage! Integrity preserves!
Let integrity and uprightness preserve me; for I wait on thee. (Psalms 25:21 KJV)
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will be a person of integrity.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to be a person of integrity
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Let integrity and uprightness protect me, for I wait [expectantly] for You. Psalms 25:21 KJV
I’ll whistle and they’ll all come running. I’ve set them free—oh, how they’ll flourish! – Zechariah 10:8 (MSG)
3. When a period of play has ended due to the expiration of time
You know what?
I am here to announce to you this morning that the operation of the enemy in your life has expired!
God has blown the whistle on them!
Your time is here!
Shout it if you can “My time is here!”
When your season comes, no man can stop you. All of hell combined cannot stop you!
The time to favour you is now!
I curse every delay in your life!
I terminate every spirit behind rejection and abandonment in your marital pursuit in Jesus name!
Every work of the devil, manipulation through dreams, sexual dreams, spirit husband, spirit wife, dreams of delays, are expired today in Jesus name!
…For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil. – 1 John 3:8b (KJV)
God has blown the whistle on the enemy of your soul!
I declare by the power of the Holy Spirit, you will rise from those disappointments.
You will share your testimonies.
God will honor your labour of love.
God will compensate your heart of service with a beautiful and godly marriage
God will cause your mouth to laugh at the points where you have cried.
God will cause your feet to dance at the points you have mourned.
God will decorate your destiny with His glory!
So shall it be for you, in the name of Jesus whose I am and whom I serve!
The God behind this mandate will avail for you!
You will not regret it.
You are blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, blow the whistle over every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Zechariah 10:8 [KJV]I will hiss for them, and gather them; for I have redeemed them: and they shall increase as they have increased.
I’ll whistle and they’ll all come running. I’ve set them free—oh, how they’ll flourish! – Zechariah 10:8 (MSG)
2. If a match is suspended or abandoned
A whistle is used when a match is suspended or abandoned.
Were you abandoned by a supposed lover?
Was the marriage plan suspended after you have announced the date and the boo on Facebook?
Did you have to change “Engaged” to “It’s complicated?”
Have you had to change “Single” to “Engaged” and then back to ‘Single” and then “Engaged” over and over again?
I have good news for you!
God is about to blow the whistle on your behalf.
He or she might have abandoned you, but God has not rejected you!
That is all that matters!
If he leaves you, let him go! Maybe his name is Abed-ne-go!
If she leaves you, let her go! Maybe she is not qualified to handle the greatness of your future which she cannot see now.
Never beg a guy to stay with you who wants to go. Let him go. In his heart, he is gone. If you beg him to stay and he stays, he is staying to leave soonest, after enjoying more sexual escapades from you!
If he gets to marry you, you will need to keep begging him all through your life!
The rejection of man often becomes the direction of God!
Rise from the doldrums of that agony and move into joy of the Lord that awaits you!
The wedding plan might have stopped, but don’t stop your life. God is the referee!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, blow the whistle over every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Zechariah 10:8 [KJV]I will hiss for them, and gather them; for I have redeemed them: and they shall increase as they have increased.
I’ll whistle and they’ll all come running. I’ve set them free—oh, how they’ll flourish! – Zechariah 10:8 (MSG)
Yes, God will whistle and that spouse will come running! God will whistle and set you free from all oppression! God will whistle and you will flourish in all you lay your hands to do.
But you see, there are many uses of the whistle!
In a football game, the whistle is put to many uses.
The whistle is used to start play, 1st or 2nd half and after a goal, but it is also used to stop play.
Other uses of the whistle are;
1. for a free kick or penalty kick 2. if a match is suspended or abandoned 3. when a period of play has ended due to the expiration of time
Take a look at this scripture before we look at the different scenarios.
You blow the whistle on godless nations; you throw dirty players out of the game, wipe their names right off the roster. – Psalms 9:5 (MSG)
God is blowing the whistle on every godless entity harassing your destiny! God is throwing all dirty players away from your life. God is wiping off names of deceivers, froward men, liars, strange women off the roster of your destiny! No more distractions for you!
Let’s look at the scenarios when a whistle can be used
1. For a free kick or penalty kick
For every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in your life, God is blowing the whistle on them.
No more will you be cheated on the field of play! God is the referee!
No longer will you attract time wasters, destiny killers, distraction entities, and wicked men.
Your marital life will no longer be a field of play with countless fouls from energy-sapping players who have no intentions of walking down the aisle.
Can I hear an amen in the comment section?
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, blow the whistle over every pretentious lover who is planning to commit fouls in my life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Zechariah 10:8 [KJV]I will hiss for them, and gather them; for I have redeemed them: and they shall increase as they have increased.
Let’s look at more points to note that will set the link between spirituality and tongues straight.
5. The Flesh Dimension
Judging a person’s spiritual depth by how the tongue sounds is operating in the flesh and walking in pride. The flesh will always be wrong and will lead to wrong conclusions.
6. Same-Word Tongues
Some can be repeating the same words (as it sounds to your ears) and yet be communicating with God.
For with stammering lips and another tongue will he speak to this people. – Isaiah 28:11 (KJV)
7. Utterance Is By The Spirit
Nobody determines how his tongue will sound. The utterance is given by the Holy Spirit.
But that’s exactly how you will be addressed. God will speak to this people In baby talk, one syllable at a time— Isaiah 28:11 (MSG)
The effectiveness of tongues is not in the vocal rhymes and vowels, but in the result that shows in your life.
8. Don’t Be Deceived
Some of the finest tongues to the ears were spoken by unrepentant fornicators and men of evil and perverse mind. Don’t be deceived.
There are experts in tongue-talking who are experts in sexual perversion!
9. There Are Counterfeits
There is a counterfeit of tongues. Every original stuff has its fake. There are tongues used to summon demons by Satanists.
There are familiar spirits. This is the answer to the puzzle wherein you see adulterers and fornicators performing miracles and giving words of knowledge.
There are familiar spirits, lying wonders of the devil, and manipulations of the occult.
Don’t be caught with a man who performs wonders and yet has character defects. They don’t go together.
Get out of churches where the Pastor who is married is attempting to sleep with you. Don’t fry yourself alive!
10. Rest and Refreshing
When you speak in tongues regularly, it will bring you into rest, refreshing, and give you direction.
To whom he said, This is the rest wherewith ye may cause the weary to rest; and this is the refreshing: yet they would not hear. – Isaiah 28:12 (KJV)
Tongues are to edify you and to strengthen you in the inner man.
If with all your tongues, you end up sleeping around, committing serial abortions, compromising every day, something is wrong somewhere. Get help and stop being proud of your tongues.
Tongues are not meant to clean you up so that you can go back into sin and then speak in more tongues and then go back again. It is to lead you into consecration and not into a habitual lifestyle of sin.
Selah!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be carnally minded.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me not to choose by the flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:6 NKJV For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
Jane sat before me, completely downcast. She was exasperated.
“Pastor, I don’t really understand.” She said
“What is the issue?”
“Pastor, Scott broke up with me! I mean, I could not believe it. I was so sure I had found my God-ordained man.
“What was his reason for doing that?”
“Pastor, you wouldn’t believe it.”
“Tell me”
“Because of my tongues!”
“What happened to your tongues?”
“He said my tongues are monosyllables. That it is not diverse tongues!”
There are many people who have found themselves in the shoes of Jane or Scott as the case may be.
One guy actually told a lady, “All your tongues are not more than Sanda…Sanda…Sanda… When will you ever get a shoe when you don’t know more than Sandal?”
While this may seem hilarious, most people keep on making this mistake.
Here are a few points to note that will set the link between spirituality and tongues straight.
1. A Spiritual Experience
Speaking in tongues is a spiritual experience. You cannot use your physical ears to judge or decode what is being said and the import of what is being communicated.
2. Communication With God
Whoever is speaking in tongues is essentially communicating with God. It is none of your business how it sounds to your ears!
For he that speaketh in an unknown tongue speaketh not unto men, but unto God: for no man understandeth him; howbeit in the spirit he speaketh mysteries. – 1 Corinthians 14:2 (KJV)
3. The One-Syllable Myth
A person can utter one syllable and yet might have communicated a volume of Information.
This is why the complimentary gift is called “Gift of INTERPRETATION and not TRANSLATION.
4. Relationship With God
The spirituality of a tongue is never determined in the rich vowels or how it sounds to the ears, it is determined more from the relationship that person has with God.
To be continued tomorrow!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be carnally minded.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me not to choose by the flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 8:6 NKJV For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Speak in tongues for 1 hour
Just go ahead and laugh at what you are going through
Hey, Pastor, you don’t really have an idea.
Yes, that is the more reason I want you to laugh and keep your joy.
When your life looks like there is nothing man can do, when that moment comes when you realize that you will need God’s intervention, then what you should do is laugh.
Why should you laugh!
A child should do what he sees his father do.
When situations set themselves against you, when people take counsel against you, when the heathen rage and the people imagine all kind of evil against you, when enemies rise up against you, and the battle seemed too much and too many for you, what do you do?
Start crying? No!
Start complaining and pity-partying? No!
Just Laugh!
Because that is what your father in heaven will do!
Psa 2:1-4 (KJV) Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing? [2] The kings of the earth set themselves, and the rulers take counsel together, against the LORD, and against his anointed, saying, [3] Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us. [4] HE THAT SITTETH IN THE HEAVENS SHALL LAUGH: the Lord shall have them in derision.
God laughs at them because He knows they are losers!
God laughs at them because He knows they can never win over Him!
Your laughter then is an expression of your faith in God that you already won!
When a two-year-old boy starts telling you he is going to fight you and kill you, what do you do? You just laugh because you know the little boy wouldn’t be able to do it, ever!
That is why God laughs! God simply holds them in derision!
Amplified Bible says; God, in supreme contempt He mocks them.
Mock your situation with a heavy dose of laughter because you will have the victory!
They said you will never marry? Just laugh, because you will!
They said you will never find a spouse because all your friends are married?
Just laugh because NOBODY can marry your spouse!
Go ahead and LAUGH!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to be joyful and laugh all through this year
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, fill my mouth with laughter
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 2:4 [CEV] In heaven the Lord laughs as he sits on his throne, making fun of the nations.
There are some of us that hold our parents in derision. You are wrong to do that.
But my parents are not born-again!
You see, the scripture never says you should honour your born-again parents!
He said you should honour your parents! That is how to last on the planet earth! So that your days will be long!
In fact, a particular translation says, honour your parents so that God can say well done to you!
Some of you are having delays in marriage because you are walking in disobedience. If your parents have ever said wrong words to you because you were at loggerheads with them, go back to them and apologize.
Humble yourself, so that you won’t slow yourself down. Dishonouring your parents and refusing to forgive them can cost you your life! Read your Bible very well.
Go back to them, buy a gift, prostrate or kneel down and ask them to bless you! That act alone will be better off than ninety days of fasting and prayers, which might not yield results because of unforgiving spirit.
Why waste your time praying? Isn’t that a religious spirit at work?
Married couples, be quick to forgive each other! Don’t allow strife in your family. Forgive your spouse. You will do yourself a lot of good if you do that. If you don’t forgive him or her, your prayers will be hindered. Don’t block God’s blessings over you at this time.
If you have been in prolonged hurt and strife, it is dangerous. End it today and allow God’s blessing to flow in your family. Leave your ego behind and obey God. Take your wife out, buy her a gift and apologize!
Go to your husband and kneel down and ask for forgiveness. It is not old fashioned; it is scripture!
Let go and let God! Let it be a beginning of a new day for you and yours! Let go of everybody you are holding in your mind. Burn your little black book of offences and stop recording hurts.
Delete them not only from your memory but from recycle bin as well. Guard your heart with all diligence for out of them are the issues of life.
May God help you and give you the strength to forgive all you need to forgive in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to forgive all who have hurt me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for the grace to forgive all who have hurt you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” (Romans 12:19 ESV)
