From Conflict to Connection: Using Gentle Responses
By the power of the Holy Spirit, I want to share with you something this morning that will help us avoid conflicts that might cause contention, malice, hurts, and offenses in our relationships and marriages.
It appears to be extremely easy because, in my experience, simple yet deep things are what lead to tremendous success in life. While they are straightforward, they are not simple to execute. We shouldn’t be having problems in our marriages if they were so simple.
We are unable to bring ourselves to do so, though, due to our pride, ego, human impulses, selfishness, lack of patience, and understanding.
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From Conflict to Connection: Using Gentle Responses
I’m referring to our reactions here. How you and your spouse or fiance converse. In every moment, the way you respond is crucial.
In reality, the way we respond determines how things will go. The actual words that are said are not as significant as our reactions and attitudes.
Pro 15:1 KJV A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
As a partner, we should be particularly mindful of our reactions. Never let your answer as a wife come from a place of rage. Find out what a gentle response entails.
Find out what a kind response is as a spouse. Instead of demonstrating that you “are the son of your father” or the “man of the house,” it is preferable to turn away wrath in your marriage.
Does that imply that I shouldn’t respond severely to my wife or husband when they speak to me? That is, after all, what the verse is stating.
That is quite challenging. That is why I previously stated that something simple does not automatically make it simple to perform.
From Conflict to Connection: Using Gentle Responses
It requires our knowledge, judgment, and perseverance.
You must decide if you want to maintain your ego and correct your wife or husband brutally or whether you want to learn how to provide a “soft answer.”
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No matter how much you might want to respond brutally, resist the urge and instead to respond gently instead. God will intervene and divert the rage, struggle, disagreement, offense, and malice that will cause harm and an implacable spirit if He can get one spouse to respond gently.
From Conflict to Connection: Using Gentle Responses
As singles, if you are already being abused and battered with words that are like arrows, you might need to consider counseling, By no means should you keep quiet and continue with wedding plans without addressing such abuses. Everything you are seeing before the wedding is a snapshot of the reality that awaits you. If you are not happy as a single in courtship, a wedding will not change anything!
How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
Everything will work out for your benefit.
Stop the regret bile by wiping your tears. Since you love God and are in His will, all things will work together for good, according to the Lord’s word.
Despite all the demands, you refused to compromise and remained true to His will, yet it still did not happen. Listen, it is genuinely occurring, you simply are not seeing it.
God’s invisible arm is hard at work behind the scenes, manipulating events and coincidences to work in your favor.
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” (Rom 8:28, KJV
You can never lose when you believe in God!
How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
2. Forget about the past.
“Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history.” (Isa 43:18, MSG)
You were, indeed, dumped. You were, indeed, abandoned. Indeed, you believed, but it did not occur, and so forth.
God refers to them as “old history!” Because that is exactly what they are. What God is going to perform in your life will erase every unpleasant event!
Forget them, abandon them, and quit obsessing about what didn’t work. Keep an eye out for what is going to happen and allow your trust to be renewed in Him, who is faithful, capable, and will never disappoint!
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How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
3. Look, I’m trying something new.
“Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.” (Isa 43:19, KJV)
Yes, something new is happening to you! Believe it!
You must be vigilant. This is not the moment to respond with “absent!” Now is not the time to give up your devotionals or quit attending church.
It’s bursting at the seams! Do you not see it? There you have it! That is occurring right now for you!
How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
4. Seek Him through fasting and prayer.
“If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.” (2Ch 7:14, KJV)
As you fast, get ready for yokes to be broken and burdens to be lifted. God said He will hear you from heaven, He will forgive you your sins and there will be healing.
It is time to get the title deed for everything you are believing God for in the next year!
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How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
5. Never stop believing
“When everything was hopeless, Abraham believed anyway, deciding to live not on the basis of what he saw he couldn’t do but on what God said he would do. And so he was made father of a multitude of peoples. God himself said to him, “You’re going to have a big family, Abraham!”” (Rom 4:18, MSG)
The devil may flood your intellect with doubts, but never allow them enter your heart.
Remember what Jesus said: “To him who believes, all things are possible.”
How to Get Back on Your Feet After Disappointments
6. Don’t ever get weary in giving!
“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.” (Gal 6:9, KJV)
Some of the things you should never stop doing are giving, honouring God with your substance, supporting God’s work, and paying your tithe.
That scripture says there is a due season and that you will REAP if you FAINT NOT!
The key is not to get tired of giving. When you faint, you pass out! Then, the harvest is missed! That will not be your portion. Keep giving, keep honoring God.
6. Rejoice and again I say unto you, rejoice
“Rejoice in the Lord always [ delight, gladden yourselves in Him ]; again I say, Rejoice!
Rejoice, God’s people, no matter where you are right now. Rejoice in the fact that you are still alive. Listen, there are many people who married and then died!
The greatest gift is life itself. Your miracle will occur while you are still living. That door will swing open. You’ll get the job. Heaven will open its doors to you. Destiny’s helpers will appear for you. You will be remembered. His word over your life will come true!
Celebrate because your future is bright! It’s so brilliant right now that I need sunglasses to see it!
Continue to rejoice. And then there will be true joy. Blessed be the Lord’s name!
We, as a nation, have had many presidents and commanders-in-chief over the last few years. Each one is unique in personality, but also shares certain characteristics which make them who they are today. These characteristics are what make us love or maybe even hate certain presidents. Who knows, perhaps history will find one of these qualities in our next president?
A presidential candidate should be smart, strong, and charismatic. These are a few qualities you should look for in your ideal president.
10 Qualities of Your Ideal Presidential Candidate
Smart You want your next president to be intelligent and have an encyclopedic knowledge of the world. He or she will need to be able to think quickly on their feet and come up with solutions that others may not have thought of. They will also have to understand complex issues like global warming, terrorism, the economy, and more.
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Strong Your president must be strong enough to face any challenge head-on, even if it means standing up against his own party. He or she must also possess patience and persistence when dealing with problems that may take months or years to resolve. He must be healthy, agile, and quick-witted.
Charismatic You want someone who exudes confidence and charisma when speaking with the public, as well as being able to connect with people from all walks of life. Your next president must also inspire hope through their words and actions so that Nigerians will continue working hard for their country’s future.
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10 Qualities of Your Ideal Presidential Candidate
The following 10 traits are representative of the most important qualities in a good candidate.
1. He is sincere and authentic. He is not a rogue or criminal.
2. He is inspirational and has a vision. He knows where he is going and what he wants to do
3. He can inspire others with his sheer presence.
4. He has grit and perseverance
5. He can overcome adversity and obstacles that stand in his way
10 Qualities of Your Ideal Presidential Candidate
6. He is organized and strategic
7. He is respectful of others’ opinions and ideas
8. He is comfortable in his own skin so that he can relate to others’ situations on a personal level (and thus gain their trust)
9. He leads with integrity, honesty, and character so that he never compromises his principles or values for political gain or personal gain
10. He is principled, fair-minded, honest, humble, and compassionate
So go out there and vote for the above! May God help us all today and help us to choose a man after his heart!
Who are you going to vote for? There are three top contenders, namely Tinubu, Atiku and Obi.
Tinubu, is the old guard, experienced, a crazy war chest of resources, underestimate him at your own risk. He probably understands “Nigerian politics” more than them all. He is also probably the only political mentor who contested with his mentees at the primaries! He is the undisputable kingmaker who now wants to be king! The originator of “Emilokan”
Atiku is the former vice president, who has been contesting for years to have a bite at the Number one spot at Aso Rock but has been unlucky so far. His influence comes mostly from the core North. He is a serial presidential aspirant for many years.
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Obi, though over sixty, is the youngest of them all. He is the new kid in town, the outsider, who has gained incredible traction among those who are tired of the mainstream political parties. He is never to be underestimated, because never in the history of Nigeria has there been renewed hope through the possibility of his emergence as the president of Nigeria. He is the leader of the “obedient” and many of our Eastern brothers believe it’s their time. However, his support goes beyond the east, surprisingly.
So Pastor, who should I vote for?
The entire populace is separated into these three major groups, and they are divided emotionally and politically as well.
Whom you vote for or who receives the most votes will be elected President of Nigeria.
Perhaps, this would also be the election in which vote buying will be mostly minimized, as occasioned by the present cash crunch in the country. Hopefully, things will get better from next week. This also seems to be that election where the three top politicians have no godfathers!
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This Is Who You Should Vote For
Whoever we decide mostly for will be foisted over more than 200 Million people!
His policies will be given due consideration! He will make the decision for us. He will be in charge of us.
His views and policies will either whittle us away or build us up. His intelligence and cognitive habits will limit us or cause us to fly.
He will make the decision for us. He will append his signatures to either benefit or harm us and future generations!
Who is that person that will not sell us? Who is that person that will not betray us? Who is that person who is truly a servant leader among them? Think deeply.
This Is Who You Should Vote For
Think before you vote!
Who you vote for has authority over your life through the policies and choices made at the national level.
Rom 6:12 (MSG) That means you must not give sin a vote…
Whoever you give the vote for will rule over you.
Vote your conscience. Vote for integrity. Do not vote tribe. Do not vote for regions. Vote competence.
Who is likely to get there with a mission not to steal, amass wealth and rob us blind? Who has the least corruption issues? Who is the shrewd one?
God knows all things, but who is likely to be fit in the next eight years? Who will you likely be proud of as your president in another eight years?
Unraveling The Economy of Sealed Things. There are sealed things concerning your relationship and marriage!
The attendant puzzles and enigmas that surround your relationship and your marriage are not hidden from you but for you!
These things are sealed, and they are not stumbled upon, nay, they must be pressed into and tinkered with in a deliberate pursuit of the divine!
Many are befuddled because they are laid back in the things of God, just barely scratching the surface and never diving into the deep!
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Unraveling The Economy of Sealed Things
There are sealed things! These sealed things hold the key to the next phase of your life, the specific instruction surrounding your destiny activation are encapsulated in the seal!
The seal has to be broken!
Just like the woman cannot bear children or be fruitful until her seal is broken, ideally by the husband within holy matrimony, there are some levels of fruitfulness that would never be engaged until you learn to break the seal in the place of prayers and worship!
Rev 6:3 (KJV) And when he had opened the second seal, I heard the second beast say, Come and see.
There are things you will never see until the seal is opened.
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Unraveling The Economy of Sealed Things
Perhaps, the misunderstandings and puzzles that have attended your relationship or marriage are “attention getters” to draw you into the place where seals are opened!
Perhaps, the misbehaviors of your fiancee or your spouse will remain a perpetual frustration until you learn to open the seal with your worship and prayer!
The seals are never opened with strife, fights, trivialities, and frivolities!
They can only be opened by the deliberate pursuit of the divine, that the humane may find his expression within the bracket of that which is written in the seal.
Without the seal opened, the equation is incomplete, the relationship and marriage become experimental and guinea pigs are made out of humans!
Will you pay the price to open the seal? To know why they don’t get married early in your family? To know why there is delayed childbirth? To know why there seems to be a limit on prosperity? To know why the women in the family never stay long enough with their husbands?
These things are sealed for you, not from you and each seal opened is a victory attained, not only for you but for you, your spouse, your children, and generations locked within your laps!
I challenge you this day, separate, and begin to lactate in the milk of the word, press further till you begin to masticate the meat of the word, and be drawn further into the chambers of God where you can begin to open to seals of relationship and marriage!
Are you willing to open the seals? Get into deep prayers and worship over that issue!
