True love is never a straight course. On, there are winding roads, there are stops, there are resting places there are places for refuel, there are moments of flat tires, there are moments of complete engine breakdown.
The good news? If you stay together, you easily navigate this stormy and windy moment of the marital journey.
Still, on the scripture, we looked at yesterday,
Song of Solomon 2:1-2 (KJV) I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys. [2] As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.
Exploring the Trajectory of True Love
Lily of the Valley and the Rose of Sharon are two separate plants with distinctive traits.
Hibiscus syriacus, sometimes known as the rose of Sharon, is a blooming shrub that normally reaches heights of 8 to 10 feet. It produces big, spectacular blooms in the late summer and early fall. The flowers are available in several hues, such as white, pink, blue, and purple.
Whereas, the perennial herbaceous lily of the valley reaches a height of 6 to 12 inches. Little bell-shaped flowers that bloom in the spring can be found on them.
In the same way, you will not always gain the height in marriage. Yes, there will be high moments, as the rose of Sharon, but there will also be low moments as the lily of the valleys.
Rose or lily, your love must be constant and unchanging!
True love ensures you do not abandon your spouse when they come with the garb of the lily of the valley! Rather you join hands together, to navigate your way out of the valley!
Exploring the Trajectory of True Love
For singles, looking for roses and avoiding the lilies is a mistake, because in no time, the rose lover may soon find themselves in the lily moments and vice versa. It is important to love the person and not just the shape, fragrance, and aroma of the rose.
The hips will not always be like that. The lips change sizes during pregnancy. Figure eight often morphs into figure football!
Stop looking for the rose, look for God’s direction. It is only God that knows the rose that will still “rose” you fifty years down the line!
Ade and Sade! What a rhyme in their nomenclature! The rotundity of her backside gives you goose pimples. The strength of veins in his arm tickled your insides. Their love seemed made out of the very heavens, when they met! Everything seemed to click. The lips, hips and tips all fell in place! Their heats would vibrate upon setting eyes on each other! They eventually got married, and then the winds and the storms arrived in quick successions. Their love were tried. They vacillated between the cross road of “ Irreconcilable differences” and “My marriage will not crash”
Their love became doubtful. They spoke angrily to each other. Hot words were thrown as arrows, causing damages within.
What happened?
The Rose and The Lily of Our Love Life
They started with the rose but could not handle the lily!
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The rose of Sharon talks about the beauty, the effulgence of cuteness and prettiness all rolled together. This is what often bring you together.
You so much loved one another that nobody else existed. Even God was sometimes put at bay! Baba nla mistake!
You both wanted to stay with the fragrance, shape and the aroma of the rose! The rotundity of her backside gives you goose pimples. The strength of veins in his arm tickled your insides.
Life seems like a perpetual ecstasy!
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The Rose and The Lily of Our Love Life
I remember promising my fiancee back then, in 1996, after I asked her out, that I will never quarrel with her, because I loved her so much. Was I drunk? Probably drunk in love!
Have we quarrelled? Ha! O ti poju! You start promising all kind of impossible things because of rush or adrenalin.
Till you discover that life is mountain and valleys!
The problem is that there are no roses in the valleys! You would be inundated with lilies!
Song of Solomon 2:1-2 (KJV) I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys. [2] As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.
Surrounded by marital thorns, you became overwhelmed.
You now begin to ask funny questions.
Did I really hear God?
Haba! You did not hear God and you went down the aisle, forsook, your parents, dropped their names and took another, cried some crocodile tears on wedding day, and exploded into joy and laughter as you proceeded to honey moon!
Haba! You heard God! Or who did you hear before you took all that risk!
Life is about roses and lilies! Mountains and Valleys!
In the valley, stay together and navigate your way back to the Mountain!
Don’t drop your spouse because the roses seemed to have died and you are choked in between thorns!
Marriage is about staying other, through thick and thin!
This matter is deep o, but I will rest it here and we will still visit it!
Sister Sade can pray for Africa. She prays so much that people drop prayer points with her. What about Bro Sunday? He can pray from Sunday to Sunday!
It was said of Bro. Sunday that when he was praying, he can stay in one spot and be vibrating his head for seven hours straight!
There was also this brother that loves to pray on the roadside and would often wander into the bush still praying. The day he impregnated one precious sister was when we knew he had other missions in that bush he would always enter!
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There is frustration with a lot of people who pray but really do not get answers!
A lot of married couples pray, but are just doing it religiously because a tenth of their prayers was not really answered!
What could be wrong?
Let’s take a look at the scripture!
Matthew 6:7-9 (MSG)
[7] “The world is full of so-called prayer warriors who are prayer-ignorant. They’re full of formulas and programs and advice, peddling techniques for getting what you want from God. [8] Don’t fall for that nonsense. This is your Father you are dealing with, and he knows better than you what you need. [9] With a God like this loving you, you can pray very simply. Like this: Our Father in heaven, Reveal who you are.
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Strengthening Your Bond: From Prayer to Forever
Take a look at what we can get from the above scripture:
Amazing! Prayer warriors can be prayer ignorant!
Formulas, programmes, advice, and peddling techniques will not work in prayer
It says all that above is nonsense
You are dealing with a Father, not a tyrant of some stranger god!
God knows what you need, better than you know it!
God loves
Prayer begins with “Who He is,” not “give me this or that!”
Having identified the above, what can you get from there? I am sure the Holy Spirit will reveal a lot of things to you, but what I want to point out is this:
In prayer, it is more of a relationship with God than requests for something!
You are dealing with a father!
Strengthening Your Bond: From Prayer to Forever
Go after that fellowship, the revelation of His person, a friendship with divinity, spend time in His presence seeking to know Him in relationships or marriage, and a whole lot of prayers would be answered.
You begin to know God as one that could do exceedingly abundantly above all you can ASK of THINK!
Don’t just ask and run off! Seek Him. Pant after Him! Genuinely, and you will begin to break the seals and the scrolls will be shown to you!
The Nigerian political landscape has been busiest in the past weeks, culminating in the presidential election that is almost concluded, as it relates to collation and eventual announcement!
It is also understandable that the entire populace is divided among the four top contestants in their choice of who should be there. I am not here to support any candidate but to provide some guidance at such times as this!
The speculation is also that there has been rigging and that INEC is compromised.
For believers, I have one scripture for you this morning and I will point out a few things.
First, read the following Scripture in KJV, Amplified and The Message Translation.
Dan 4:17 (KJV) This matter is by the decree of the watchers, and the demand by the word of the holy ones: to the intent that the living may know that the most High ruleth in the kingdom of men, and giveth it to whomsoever he will, and setteth up over it the basest of men.
Dan 4:17 (AMPC) This sentence is by the decree of the [heavenly] watchers and the decision is by the word of the holy ones, to the intent that the living may know that the Most High [God] rules the kingdom of mankind and gives it to whomever He will and sets over it the humblest and lowliest of men.
Dan 4:17 (MSG) The angels announce this decree, the holy watchmen bring this sentence, So that everyone living will know that the High God rules human kingdoms. He arranges kingdom affairs however he wishes, and makes leaders out of losers.
He Rules, He Decides, But Let The Watchers Arise!
So we can see the following:
1. There is an announcement from heaven of who should be the President. The announcement of heaven might be different from the announcement on earth!
2. There is a part for the watchers to play and it is never too late. This role is an unending intercession, as watchers.
In fact, the Message Translation says the angels announce, but the watchers bring the sentence to reality!
3. All will know at the end that God rules in the affairs of this nation, regardless of any anomaly that is playing out.
4. God will eventually give this presidency to whom He will. No man, I repeat, no mortal man will subvert the will of God if THE WATCHERS play their role!
5. God can make leaders out of losers! That one is deep. See it above in The Message Translation!
So my dear people, let’s continue to intercede. We are called to be intercessors, not interlocutors.
Let’s do our job as watchers and leave the rest to God.
When Life Hits Pause: Here Are Restart Buttons In experiencing delays or stagnation, we often resort to prayers as singles or married. However, there is an additional thing you should do with praying, you are to watch.
Mat 26:41 (KJV) Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.
To watch is to be on guard. To gather your faculties is what it implies. Think, reflect, examine yourself, and take the required steps to determine what could be the cause of the delay. What do you watch out for?
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When Life Hits Pause: Here Are Restart Buttons
Here are two of them.
1. Watch Your Attitudes Let’s address singles first. Attitude is a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person’s behavior.
It is all about you and what makes you do certain things at any given time.
A wrong attitude can drive promising potential spouses away. Bad attitudes deter.
Before you start to pray, ensure that you have worked or are working on your attitude.
Bad attitudes will lead to breakups one after the other.
Here are a few scriptures on attitudes that can help and that you should meditate on.
Php 2:14-15 (KJV) Do all things without murmurings and disputings: [15] That ye may be blameless and harmless, the sons of God, without rebuke, in the midst of a crooked and perverse nation, among whom ye shine as lights in the world;
Col 3:23 (AMP) Whatever may be your task, work at it heartily (from the soul), as [ something done ] for the Lord and not for men,
Pro 17:22 (AMP) A happy heart is good medicine and a cheerful mind works healing, but a broken spirit dries up the bones.
In marriage, do not allow bad attitudes to create loopholes for the devil which he can exploit to bring delay to different aspects of your marriage.
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When your spouse is making an effort after a disagreement or quarrel, do not reciprocate with annoying attitude. It is like dribbling the ball backward. Remember, you are a team. Your spouse is not the problem, the devil is!
When Life Hits Pause: Here Are Restart Buttons
2. Watch Your Preparation
Nobody will be fully prepared or ready for marriage, but there should be a certain level or preparedness.
Pro 18:22 (KJV) Whoso findeth a wife…
Not he who findeth a sister or a woman…
That shows that a lady should learn what it means to be a wife, a helper before venturing into it.
Do you really know what it means to be a helper?
Have you read books on communication, temperament, etc?
Are you ready to be a wife and not a knife?
The same applies to a man.
Are you ready to be responsible?
Are you ready to raise a family?
Do you have the spiritual clout to head and lead a family?
Without adequate preparation, delay can easily creep in.
If God sees that a marriage at an earlier time will destroy you, God himself would throw a monkey wrench in the whole thing, because He doesn’t want evil to befall you.
Your preparation actually enhances the speed at the end of it all.
As married couples, your preparation continues. Do not sweep issues under the carpet. Face issues and be scientific as well as spiritual with them. Read books, search for answers, and find out how you can constantly improve yourself!
