I love the way our Easternbrothers usually refer to their wives. They will say “My Woman!”
Well, your wife is your woman. She is yours and no other. So you simply take care of her.
“Oh yeah, Pastor, I am taking care of her.’
“Have you really asked her and engaged her to know her definition of being cared for?
It may be way different from what you think.
What a woman interprets as care is often influenced by a lot of factors which may include background, parental upbringing, schools attended, church attended, personality type, temperament, past experiences, and so many other factors.
This is where communication becomes really important. Talk about how she wants to be taken care of.
For some wives, it’s to take them out to eat in some fancy restaurants.
For some, it’s to take them out to see a movie.
For some, it’s to buy a surprise gift.
For others, it’s to discuss the gift to be bought. For example, my wife doesn’t like surprises. She wants to know and be involved in whatever you want to do. Your own wife may be different.
For others, it’s to sit down and talk with them.
For some, it’s to write them a cheque.
For some, it’s to go on a dream vacation.
Whatever it is, ensure you pay the price in the place of pleasing and taking care of your wife.
May God enable us to be good spouses to our loved ones.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know how to take care of my wife.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for divine wisdom to take care of your wife
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Matt 19:16 (AMP) So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask your wife what taking care of her means to her
Words flew in the air likemissiles, accompanied with fire in their tails, landing like piercing swords in their souls, tearing apart and causing untold agony in the inner crevices of their souls. Like angry puppies, they bellowed at each other while their little daughter cried because she could not understand why “strong” daddy and “cute” mummy were screaming at each other vociferously! The veins stood up on his temple and her veins breathed hard from her neck. Then there was a knock on the door, and only then did they come back to their senses.
Words spoken in anger are debilitating as they are dangerous! Sadly, the words cannot be retrieved, they have gone into the belly of the sea within the soul, waiting to be retrieved for fresh scenes of provocation in the nearest future.
I want to show you a scriptural panacea for managing anger as couples.
The first rule is to ensure that both of you don’t get angry at the same time.
The second rule is that you must respond to anger or angry words with soft answer. If you can do this, you will minimize animosity in your home! Take a look
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Pro 15:1 KJV
Take a look at what it says in the Message translation
A gentle response defuses anger, but a sharp tongue kindles a temper-fire.
Pro 15:1 (MSG)
Anger is a bomb! But you can defuse it. It is better to turn away wrath in your marriage with soft answers than to prove a point that ‘you are the son of your father’ or that you are the ‘man in the house.’
Does that mean that I should play the “fool” when I am being provoked? Yes! You will soon discover that you are wise and not a fool.
When you learn this, you will give the Holy Spirit a chance to help you at such times.
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I control my tongue. I do not speak irrationally.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to speak lovingly to my spouse
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.Pro 15:1 KJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Watch the tone of your voice during communication.
Here is September To Remember – Day 17. September To Remember Fasting started few day back as we wait on God for the unveiling of His plans for our lives.
Scriptures for Today
September To Remember – Day 17
Then thou shalt see, and flow together, and thine heart shall fear, and be enlarged; because the abundance of the sea shall be converted unto thee, the forces of the Gentiles shall come unto thee.
Isa 60:5 (KJV)
Surely the isles shall wait for me, and the ships of Tarshish first, to bring thy sons from far, their silver and their gold with them, unto the name of the LORD thy God, and to the Holy One of Israel, because he hath glorified thee.
Isa 60:9 (KJV)
Therefore thy gates shall be open continually; they shall not be shut day nor night; that men may bring unto thee the forces of the Gentiles, and that their kings may be brought.
Isa 60:11 (KJV)
Violence shall no more be heard in thy land, wasting nor destruction within thy borders; but thou shalt call thy walls Salvation, and thy gates Praise.
Isa 60:18 (KJV)
Prayer Points
September To Remember – Day 17
1. Go ahead and thank God for the seventeenth day of the fast.
2. Pray that in this season God will bring you deliverance that cause you to be radiant and your heart filled with joy.
3. Begin to pray that the abundant wealth lying fallow in the earth be converted to you.
4. Pray to God to release angels to bring the wealth of the nations to you.
5. Begin to pray that they that are apportioned to be your sons will begin to aggregate to you from all over the world.
6. Pray that the LORD will glorify you on all sides.
7. Begin to bind every spirit that is in charge of ‘closing your gates’ to prevent wealth and kings from coming to you; declare that your gates are always open.
8. Pray that violence, wasting, and destruction be far from you and your land.
9. Lift up your voice and raise your personal requests to God.
10. Go ahead and begin to thank the Lord.
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 17
In the name of Jesus, the capacity of my heart is enlarged. My capacity is increased. I have the ability to receive more. I do not have a shallow mindset. I have the mind of Christ. Abundance is coming unto me. Wealth is coming unto me. Increase is coming unto me. Advancement is coming unto me. My sons and daughters are coming from afar. They are coming with their gold and silver. My gates are opened forever. I operate under open heavens. My needs are met supernaturally, day by day. The Lord is my shepherd, so I lack nothing in Jesus name, Amen.
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Today, we are on September To Remember – Day 16. September To Remember Fasting was called by God to cause us a birthing
Scriptures for Today
September To Remember – Day 16
Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the LORD is risen upon thee.
Isa 60:1 (KJV)
ARISE [from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you–rise to a new life]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you!
Isa 60:1 (AMPC)
And the Gentiles shall come to thy light, and kings to the brightness of thy rising.
Isa 60:3 (KJV)
And the sons of strangers shall build up thy walls, and their kings shall minister unto thee: for in my wrath I smote thee, but in my favour have I had mercy on thee.
Isa 60:10 (KJV)
Prayer Points
September To Remember – Day 16
1. Go ahead and thank God for the sixteenth day of the fast.
2. Begin to pray that the glory of the LORD rises from within you and becomes expressed in your life.
3. Pray against any form of depression or discouragement that the devil wants to bring into your life.
4. Begin to pray that God will straighten you up in the areas where circumstances has made you to be bent over.
5. Begin to pray that your light gets brighter in the spirit realm, attracting kings and every helper you need to you.
6. Pray for the strength and wisdom to keep learning and sharpening the skills that will set you apart in this world.
7. Begin to cry for the mercy of God to fill up your life.
8. Begin to invoke the favour of God upon your life, that will make strangers help you build and kings to minister to you.
9. Lift up your voice and raise your request to God.
10. Go ahead and begin to thank the Lord.
Confession For Today
September To Remember – Day 15
I am a shinning light. My light has come. My life is full of God’s glory. I will no long be depressed. I will no longer be given to offence. I will no longer be sad and gloomy. I rise to a new life in Christ. I am radiating his glory. People seek for my knowledge from far and near. My name is on the lips of many for good. Wealth and increase come to me from afar. For my business and the works of my hands, I receive favor from the Lord. My relationship/marriage moves to the next level by the mercy of the Lord. So shall it be, Amen.
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Most times, we need to be reminded not just what to do, but what not to do in a relationship that will lead to marriage. God is clear in His word regarding the Don’ts. It is your ability to stay within the parameters of God’s word that will guarantee a great relationship that will lead to a wedding. Here are those things you need to pay attention to.
1. Do not stop praying for each other Hear this again and again, in addition to working on your relationship, you are going to need a lot of prayers. You are going to need that spiritual energy to sustain the relationship. The devil doesn’t want you to get married! He is going to do everything possible to throw tantrums and bring confusion into the relationship. When you pray constantly, you will not enter into his temptation and traps!
2. Do not ignore each other Stay in touch through calls and chats. If there is someone not to ignore, it’s your loved one! Ignoring each other will open the door for the devil to feed your souls with assumptions; and assumptions are the lowest forms of knowledge.
3. Do not stop buying gifts for each other. Gifts should not be one sided. There is nowhere in the scripture where it says it is the destiny of guys to buy gifts while the ladies collect. It should be mutual. You will always be creative with giving gifts to the one you really love.
4. Do not stop sharing spiritual truths. Talk to each other from time to time about your dealings with God. Whatever God is sharing with you in your personal closet, share the same with your spouse. This will enable you to be on the same page. In the coming days when you forget, your spouse is the one that will remind you.
5. Do not discourage each other Don’t wear each other out with criticism and discouraging words. Do not disparage each other. Rather, invest in each other’s esteem and build yourselves up in God. Say good words and prophesy unto yourselves! It works!
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Have a blessed day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know the things to do to make my lover feel loved
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me the things I need to know.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Cor 13:4 (AMP)Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the devotional again and make plans.
