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Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 134
And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent take it by force.
Matthew 11:12 KJV
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 134
Begin to thank God for today.
Fire of God, consume any obstacle standing against my advancement in the name of Jesus.
Every hand pushing my business/career backwards, I declare you’re removed right now in the name of Jesus.
By the Blood of Jesus, I loose myself from every lawful captivity in the name of Jesus.
By the Blood of Jesus, I nullify every negative word that was spoken to ensnare me and cause serial failure in my life.
I cast away every weight and the sin that so easily besets me in the name of Jesus.
Today, I declare that the work of my hands gain visibility in the name of Jesus.
Do a quick work in my life O LORD; let there be a ‘suddenly’ in my life.
I cry for mercy today over every adverse judgement hanging on my head.
Let’s begin to thank the LORD for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 134
In the name of Jesus, I take what belongs to me in Christ. I am advancing this day. The fire of God consumes whatever is standing as a hindrance to my advancement. My business is moving forward. No more stagnation. No more backwardness. By the blood, I nullify the effects of negative words spoken, causing my finances to remain fixated. They shall not stand in the name of Jesus. In my relationship/marriage, I see visible advancement. My better days shall be ahead in Jesus name, Amen.
So basically, today is our wedding anniversary! It has been twenty-two years! God has been good. God has been good over us and our children.
It has not always been an express road with so smooth a ride, but it has been one filled with bumps and pot-holes!
However, our marital vehicle did not break down! God kept us. At some times, the engine nearly got knocked, but God did not allow it.
Below are twenty-two things we have learned in twenty-two years of marriage
1. God leads. He always does. Finding out His Will for your life is the most beautiful thing you can do.
2. God’s mercy is real. Without that mercy, nothing remains, really. That is why we are alive! That is why we have not been consumed.
It is of the LORD’S mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions fail not.
Lam 3:22 (KJV)
3. Communication is key. The absence of it can lead to the marital life being maimed.
4. Become friends before becoming lovers. Don’t jump. Follow the process.
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5. Prayers are important. Talk to God about everything. I mean everything.
6. Be a voracious book reader. Read like your life depended on it.
7. Start your day with His word. That day will be blessed.
8. Loose living and an indisciplined sexual life will always terminate in regrets.
9. Get ready for the conflicts that come from male-female differences. Read ahead and be prepared to handle them.
10. Stay honest. Stay on the side of truth. The truth will always set free.
11. Be open with each other. It’s naked and not ashamed.
12. Be sacrificial. Seek to please your partner. That is the simple definition of marriage. Seeking to please him or her. You see, after pleasing God, the next person to please is your spouse.
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Twenty Two Things We’ve Learnt In Twenty Two Years
Today is our wedding anniversary! It has been God o! Literarily.
And the way the years moved so fast? Like it has been twenty two years! Twenty two long years!
Even though, it kind of looked so fast, I can assure you it has been a long marital road. However, I can also tell you this of which I am sure of, the long road of our marital journey is laced with mercy!
GOD’s loyal love couldn’t have run out, his merciful love couldn’t have dried up.
Lam 3:22 (MSG)
We travelled on mercy. We had junctions of His favour! We had stops where angels ministered to us. To God be the praise!
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Here are a few things things I have learnt that may help you in your marriage
1. Pray a lot as married couples. Do everything in prayer. The battle is intense, but God has all the power.
2. Stay close to each other. Do not allow a third party to break your bond.
3. Get a marriage mentor that you can speak to from time to time. Very important.
4. Be open and honest with each other. Avoid unnecessary secrecy.
5. Be faithful to each other. Avoid emotional affairs. Do not starve your spouse emotionally.
6. Be quick forgivers. Forgive quickly and avoid strife like a plague
7. Be friends. Laugh a lot. Play with each other. You need that to live long
8. Do not allow anything to steal your joy. Keep your joy intact.
9. Do not deprive each other sexually. Satisfy each other and never refuse yourselves. Sex is never a tool of punishment or a reward system. It is simply an obligation
10. Decide to be sacrificial. Live to please each other. That is what marriage is all about.
11. Never stop communication. Do not give each other silent treatment. Crack jokes a lot and play together
12. Give a lot. Work hard and trust God for His favour upon the works of your hands.
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I celebrate my spouse today and always
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, increase my passion for my lover.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Thou shall not judge. Beatrice scolded Mary from afar with her eyes. How could she not know that taking money from the cashier’s table was stealing? And now everyone knew what had happened.
They were good friends at school and Beatrice couldn’t bear the shame and embarrassment her friend had brought on her. She vowed not to be friends with Mary again.
Weeks before, Beatrice’s mother had followed her to school to see the principal. Beatrice had four textbooks that didn’t belong to her. She had taken them from the bags of her classmates without them noticing.
The principal had scolded her and asked her to return the books and meted out some punishment to her.
All through this, Mary never disowned her or felt embarrassed or ashamed as Beatrice felt now. How come Beatrice suddenly thinks she is better than Mary and labels her a sinner?
Here is what the bible says about sinners.
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.”
Romans 3:23
The verse tells us that we were once sinners and not fit to receive God’s love but for Jesus who died that we might experience the glory of God in our lives.
No one can say that he or she has never sinned. Only God can not sin. Once we were sinners and now God has redeemed us from the consequences of sin through Jesus.
With this verse, understand that we can only continue to ask for forgiveness for our sins and receive help to not sin consciously.
And we are not to also judge others as sinners. Do not be like Beatrice, be like God, and don’t judge.
May the Lord give you the grace to not judge anyone. Amen
Prayer: Lord, help me not to judge anyone, most especially my friends. Help me to love them.
Action point: Before you judge anyone, ask yourself if you have ever done anything like they did. Would you like to be judged?
Today is Oil For Today – Day 133. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 133
But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; My glory, and the lifter up of mine head.
Psalm 3:3 KJV
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 133
Begin to thank God for today.
Begin to declare that you’re shielded from every wicked force seeking to keep your head bowed.
I receive great helpers in the area of my business today in the name of Jesus.
Whatever I have lost in the past, I receive them back in multiple folds in the name of Jesus.
Every foul spirit covering my glory, I declare that the Blood of Jesus is against you.
Those areas of my life that I look at and tears fill my eyes, I declare that laughter emerges from them in the name of Jesus.
I am open to every revelation I need in order to be lifted in the name of Jesus.
Every ‘near-success’ spirit operating in my life, I command you to leave now in the name of Jesus.
Begin to pray for massive lifting in your relationship/marriage, ministry, business, etc.
Let’s begin to thank the LORD for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 133
The Lord is my strength and shield. I will not fear what man can do unto me. Today, I am shielded from the arrows that fly by the day and the terrors of the night. My family is protected. No harm comes near us. My relationship/marriage will bring glory to God. I declare, everywhere my head is bowed, God is lifting it up. Everywhere my finances has nosedived, God will raise it up. Today, I will experience you as the lifter up of heads in Jesus name, Amen.
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4. Two people who are sentimental
When two people who are sentimental get married, their lives will be devoid of principles that are meant to keep them focused and energetic in their marriage and home.
Two sentimental people will always judge a situation from a sentimental point of view rather than principles. In no time, they can ruin themselves because you cannot go very far living and swimming in the ocean of sentiments.
They would not be able to achieve much because they would have excuses for their mediocre lifestyles.
5. Two people who are often uncontrollably angry
Two angry people in a relationship and marriage cannot go far. See the scriptures:
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Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go: Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul (Proverbs 22:24-25 KJV)
The scripture here advises that you should not get involved with somebody that has anger problems and who refuses to work at it.
An angry man can take a knife or gun one day and end it all. An angry wife can ruin things in seconds.
Take a look at the Message Translation:
Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads. Bad temper is contagious–– don’t get infected (Proverbs 22:24-25 Message)
6. Two people who are deceptive
Another dangerous combo is ‘two people who are deceptive.’ They both operate under the delusion of grandeur. They tell themselves lies and refuse to confront each other.
They sweep things under the carpet and live under illusions. They deliberately flout God’s principles hoping that somehow things will work out.
Everybody around them wonders why they can’t see the obvious. They are unapproachable and unreachable. But the scripture is very clear:
Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
(Galatians 6:7 KJV)
No matter how we pretend, we cannot mock God. You can do all of that with humans, but not with God. At the end of the day, it is not worth it to waste time on what would not work.
We started on the topic of keeping love alive in our marriages in yesterday’s devotional. Let’s delve in the remaining things we need to keep love alive.
2. Don’t Compare
The grass always seem greener at the other side. Never fall for the comparison trap.
Don’t compare other couples or marriages with your own.
Yes, you can learn from them but never compare.
The truth is you never know that other husband or wife.
Every good marriage you admire sacrificed on their path to get to where they are now.
So rather than compare and blame your spouse for not being like husband A, work on your own marriage, pay your own price and make your own sacrifices.
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3. Don’t withdraw
The withdrawal syndrome is one thing that destroys a marriage fast.
It’s a temporary shield you build around yourself to avoid confronting and dealing with issues.
Don’t withdraw into work, yourself, your passion, activity, church project, children, porn, friends, outings or keeping late nights.
When you hide in withdrawal, you have simply created a vacuum for the devil to fill in your home.
You need to understand each other’s temperament and know how to lovingly respect each other’s differences.
Extroverts and introverts are very different and handle issues differently.
Give each other space. Allow your spouse grow without nagging them.
Be patient with your demands. Don’t expect your wife to change over night. Let the fruit of the spirit grow and manifest in your life.
Allow your marriage to grow. Let it blossom.
If you are presently experiencing a not too pleasant moment in your marriage, let grace flow towards you now, releasing peace, strength and courage to you.
I pray for you, may God’s love and a fresh love for your spouse be shed abroad in your heart now in Jesus name.
My children will flourish. A well nurtured garden is always pleasant to look at or to relax in, but no one will desire to stay in an untidy garden.
A garden is not left all by itself to be well nurtured, it takes a conscious effort.
May our sons in their youth be like plants full grown, our daughters like corner pillars cut for the structure of a palace;
Psalms 144:12 (ESV)
Likewise for our children, we must work towards nurturing them by teaching them the word of God, praying for them and believe in God to become what he has created them to be.
We should always pray that our children will be strong and straight and pointed toward heaven.
Not dwarfed by bad habits or foolish choices, not choked out by the weeds of the world, but they will be of visible character who stand alone, strong enough to withstand the storms of life.
Also, that God will grant them visible strength, godly character, and the beauty of full development.
Prayer: My children will flourish in Jesus name. Amen
Action point: Pray for your children
Declaration: My children are blessed to flourish at an early age so that they bring forth the good fruit of godly character.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 132. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 132
Your shame and disgrace are ended. You will live in your own land, And your wealth will be doubled; Your joy will last forever.
Isaiah 61:7 GNT
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 132
Begin to thank God for today.
Every force in my bloodline responsible for shame in my finances, I nullify you now in the name of Jesus.
I terminate every marital delay and marriage destroyers in the name of Jesus.
I release great grace for quantum leap over my business in the name of Jesus.
I lay hold and take possession of every land that God has given me.
Thou spirit of sadness, mourning, and depression, take your leave out of my space now in the name of Jesus.
The Spirit of joy envelopes my house in the name of Jesus.
As this year ends, I declare that it will not end in shame for me in the name of Jesus.
I activate the covenant of “no shame” in my life and family in the name of Jesus.
Let’s begin to thank the LORD for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 132
According to God’s decree, I will not see shame. God is rewriting my story. Every shame causing factor in my life is coming to an end. God will deliver me from imminent disgrace. Because I trust in the Lord, I will not be embarrassed. I posses landed properties. I will build my own house. I open up myself to multiple streams of income. Today, nothing will steal my joy. No devil will make me sad. No power of hell can cut short that which God has begun in my relationship/marriage in Jesus mighty name, Amen.
As singles and married couples, you are to deliberately work things out in your relationship or marriage and with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Here is what the scripture says:
…work out your own salvation with fear and trembling. (Philippians 2:12b KJV)
In courtship, you are to work things out. Courtship does not lead to marriage automatically, you are to work things out in your disposition, attitude, and reactions.
Now there are some couple combinations that are sure to crack along the way. When you find yourself in these spots, you need to seek help prayerfully and with a lot of wisdom to address the lurking issues. Here are those combinations:
1. Two people who are unbelievers
Two people who are unbelievers may love themselves, may be committed to each other, but when the storms of life come, they will fight their battles alone and you know, some of those battles can be very fierce.
They will not have God’s support since they don’t have a relationship with God. They will not have the benefit of sonship and it can be very intense! They need to connect with God!
2. Two people who are believers but refuse to grow
The second group of couples are those who may be believers but whose minds are not renewed. The only thing is that they already have a relationship with God, but apart from that, they are still carnal.
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They still do their stuff like unbelievers would do. They still want to have fun in forbidden areas and they still want to explore the perverse, which would often come with dire consequences.
My advice for couples in this group is that they seek help as soon as possible.
3. Two people where one is born again and the other is not
Here is another scenario that doesn’t always play out well, except with a lot of patience, prayers, and perseverance. I always advise singles, don’t think of getting married to someone who doesn’t have a relationship with God.
It would always be filled with challenges that you might have to fight alone because you are not agreed on your choice of weapons.
It can be frustrating while one is praying, the other is clubbing.
You want to pray, but he or she thinks you are just being fanatical. That can be very disconcerting, to say the least.
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
It’s beautiful seeing newly wedded couples. The love spark is amazing.
There is a love wave, love current and all the love vibes around them. They set out professing their eternal love for each other.
They are deeply in love and could never imagine hurting each other not to talk of harming themselves whether emotionally or verbally.
The question is what happened? At what point did they start to deviate from the love zone?
Really, no husband or wife starts out over night from being loving to being rash, unkind, abusive and insensitive.
There must have been little actions or in-actions here and there, that crept into their love affair.
The Bible talks about little foxes that destroy the vine, the tender vine.
Our marriages are like these vines that are very tender. Little foxes are like poisons slowly released that will eventually destroy the marriage. We therefore, need to place close attention so that we don’t allow these foxes.
Here are three things not to do if you want to keep love alive in marriage.
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1 Don’t blame
‘It’s his fault’ ‘She very disrespectful’ ‘He’s not kind and loving’ She’s lazy and overly sensitive’ ‘He’s always hurting’
Stop the blame game. You have a choice, either you keep blaming and remain hurt, bitter and full of regret and revengeful.
When you keep on blaming the other person you focus on their negatives.
You become blind to their positive sides and you put him/ her on edge.
Remember, when you were in love, it was because you were blind to their negatives and only focused on how good, handsome & lovely they were.
Do the same now. Blaming your spouse continuously is poisonous.
I am not asking you to keep completely silent on your spouse’s weakness but rather confront each other respectfully and lovingly.
Remember you have your own faults too. Forgiveness and mercy is reciprocal in marriage.
There is a way God expects us to give. Joyful giving is another wonderful way of giving. It comes from your heart. Especially when you see the amount of happiness you put on the faces of others.
2 Cor 9:7(ESV) Each one must give as he has decided in his heart, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
The bible tells us to give with joy at all times. Not with grumbling or anger. But with intense joy. That is the way God expects us to give.
God gives us with joy. He created the earth with joy in His heart. The bible tells us that while creating the earth, He kept seeing the things he was creating as good.
He kept creating out of the joy in his heart from seeing the wonderful things He was creating.
Be like God today. Give with joy. That is the way God expects us to give.
As you bless others with joy, God will equally bless you too with joy.
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Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 131
And Elisha prayed, and said, “Lord, I pray, open his eyes that he may see.” Then the Lord opened the eyes of the young man, and he saw. And behold, the mountain was full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.
2 Kings 6:17 NKJV
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 131
Begin to thank God for today.
I plead the Blood of Jesus over every means of transportation I will use today, in the name of Jesus.
Every negative word that has been spoken against me, I reverse it now in the name of Jesus.
I nullify every destruction that has been orchestrated against my business in the name of Jesus.
O angels of protection, mount guard over my family for the remaining part of the year, in the name of Jesus.
I halt every negative wind blowing in my direction in the name of Jesus.
I bind every foul spirit that seeks to open me up to any physical attack in the name of Jesus.
I rebuke every spirit that wants to steal my joy in the name of Jesus.
In the name of Jesus, the angels of God bear me in their hands and lift me over every pit that has been dug for me.
Let’s begin to thank the LORD for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 131
My eyes are opened. Oh yes, the eyes of my understanding are opened. The Lord is surrounding me with chariots of fire. I am protected divinely. Everywhere I go, the eyes of the Lord is following me. My business is protected. My relationship/marriage is protected. The blood of Jesus speaks for me. Everywhere I have been earmarked for destruction, the blood of Jesus rises on my behalf. Angels are activated for my sake today and always, in Jesus’ mighty name, AMEN.
First of all, there is a difference between one’s love language being “gifts” and when one is just being covetous or greedy.
If your fiancé/fiancée/spouse’s love language is gifts, what it means is that until you start appreciating him or her with gifts in a consistent manner, he or she will not feel loved.
How do you know if someone is not just being greedy?
1. Do or Die?
He will not always demand gifts in a do-or-die manner.
2. Love Gives
When you are in a relationship, and no gifts are forthcoming, there may be an issue there because love gives.
What if he or she has no money or has no job? As I said, a gift is a gift and it doesn’t have to be expensive. Writing her a poem is a gift!
Buying him one tiny little chocolate is a gift! What is important is not the gift itself, it is the gesture that brings assurance of being loved and cared for.
When you are able to give gifts in the midst of not too much provision, you will also be able to do so when you eventually have more income.
Your giving spirit is more of an attitude than spending power.
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3. Love is patient
He will not back out just because gifts are not forthcoming. She will not break the relationship because you are not financially buoyant.
4. He will not just be a receiver
He will not just be demanding while he folds his arms and never gives back. Love gives.
5. Giving Back
He will give away gifts too because that is the language he understands and that is what he craves. She would want to give back gifts as well.
6. Gift is not Payment
When a lady gives out her body for money, that is not about love language because what she gets is no longer ‘gifts’ it has become an illegal payment for services rendered and that is not God’s order.
7. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone. Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
May God grant more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not greedy.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love correctly.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Joh 3:16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes, should not perish, but have everlasting life.
Gifts are one of the love languages as postulated by Gary Chapman.
Below are a few of my thoughts concerning this topic.
1. Don’t Manipulate Your Spouse Into Gifts Buying
As married couples, the idea is not to disconnect or quarrel with your spouse if he or she is not speaking your language.
You can lovingly discuss with your spouse what makes you happy. You can also reach out and buy him or her gifts and then your spouse does the same in return.
2. Intertwined
As married couples, acts of service and gifts are intertwined. This is because you can give your time, encouragement, empathy, show your love to her in the kitchen and give her some of your time, watch a football match with him when you will rather be having a nap.
But there are people who associate gifts as a love language to have a lot of money.
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3. Eat your cake and have it?
Some single ladies have different guys for different purposes. Some to buy them phones and tabs, some to pay their rent, some to load their phones, some to buy them air tickets, some to load them with cash… well, this is not about love language, it is more of trying to eat your cake and have it.
If this idea and way of living is brought into the marriage, there will be a lot of issues.
It is more of greed and covetousness. It is more of being caught in the web of the deceitfulness of riches. It is not consistent with God’s principles and this will rather slow you down in your journey to a good marriage.
4. Conclusion
In conclusion, and in expressing this language, let God’s word guide you and keep you within godly boundaries.
Don’t borrow to give gifts. Don’t take a loan just to impress someone.
Don’t start what you cannot sustain. Don’t spend the money you don’t have to buy things that are not needed in order to impress people that are not looking.
Learning the principle of giving. Examine this: Sade tossed the bag of chips to Titi. The bag hit the sharp edge of the table and its contents spilled over the dirty floor. The whole class burst into laughter at this and Titi ran out of the class with tears streaming down her face.
‘I wanted to give her the chips since she asked for it.’ Sade said, laughing with the others. ‘Now she made me waste my chips.’
‘Then why did you throw it? You could have just given it to her.’ Anne scolded Sade.
‘She should have caught it. it’s just a bag of chips.’ Said Sade.
‘How would you feel if someone did the same to you?’ Asked Anne.
Yes, how would you feel if someone wanted to give you something and did so in the wrong way? Like Sade did to Titi.
When you want to give someone something or do them a favour, do so the way you would want to be done for or to you.
The bible tells us that how we give is how we will receive; “Good measure pressed down and running over”
Remember, God gave us life and He never treats us bad just because He is our Maker. He expects us to give in a way that will please Him. A way that we will expect to be given too.
So, remember to give the way you would want to be given. I trust that you have learntLearning the principle of giving
Prayer: Dear Father, forgive me for the times I have given the wrong way. Help me to remember to always give the way I would want to be given too, in Jesus name. Amen.
Action point: Give just the way you would want to be given.
Declaration: I am not selfish. I give the way I would love to receive.
