My Name Is Delilah. Samson and Delilah’s story never ceases to fascinate me. Samson was called, anointed, and assigned by God. He was among the fortunate few whose birth was announced by an angel! That was the significance of his birth and assignment.
He did, however, have a dreadful weakness: women! Samson had a penchant for women. When he saw a woman, he would utterly lose his bearings. His erection would become his direction.
Jdg 16:1 KJV Then went Samson to Gaza, and saw there a harlot, and went in unto her.
When it came to girls, he was uncontrollable! Despite being anointed and appointed, he later proved to be a failure since he refused to address his shortcoming.
He was so disorganized that all it took for him to lose his bearing was to ‘see’ a woman. He once saw a lady and couldn’t speak correctly! “…get her for me to wife!” he exclaimed.
Jdg 14:2 KJV And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife.
My Name Is Delilah
Samson was the type of person he was. The end result? His eyes had been gouged out, and he had been caught off guard in the middle of his days.
Delilah sought to learn the secret of Samson’s power in order to kill him. Samson was well aware of Delilah’s desire.
Samson tricked Delilah three times about the secret of his power, and each time the Philistines came to murder him, so Samson understood exactly what Delilah’s aim was. Nonetheless, he clung to Delilah and refused to let go.
How many of us are in this situation right now? We find ourselves in an unholy relationship that we know is deeply flawed, but we refuse to let go!
You fall in love with someone who continuously abuses you, yet you do not flee for your life. You fall in love with someone who isn’t in love with you.
You fall in love with someone who does not value you.
You fall in love with someone who beats you up at the slightest provocation, and yet you cling to that connection.
You can see that the person you’re madly in love with is taking you straight to hell, but you still cling to them. You can see that the person you love is preparing to expose you to the world of illegal drug use, but you continue to express your love!
You can tell that the person you met at church is not a true child of God based on what he or she has done to and with you, but you refuse to listen to warnings.
My Name Is Delilah
My suggestion to you this morning is straightforward. Don’t end up like Samson.
You have a gift; don’t waste it by begging God to let you die!
Don’t let it lead to you being delivered right into the hands of your adversaries. Don’t let it get so bad that your spiritual eyes are severed and you can’t see the perfect law of liberty!
Don’t let the brother or sister who has been greatly utilized by God become a pitiful sight to behold.
Escape for your life! If Samson had fled, he could have been rescued. However, his lack of discipline led to his death. Flee! That is what the Bible says. When the Bible says to run, don’t say, ‘Let’s reason together!’
Now, This You Should Do. One of the greatest things every couple should do is pray!
This is so important, and how I wish you can understand the weight of it.
But before I go on, I want to appreciate everybody for the show of love for Father’s Day and all the wishes.
Such a joy that so many lives are being touched by our ministry.
However, as Apostle Paul said, Pray for us and continue to pray for us. Every day, mention us in your prayers. Our ministry is so significant to many lives, many relationships, and many marriages, so many people let me know this is the only devotional they have been using for years… the devil is not going to be happy about that and he would try a lot of things just as he has been trying all kind of stuff.
But he is defeated; continue to pray for us, for our home, family, children, marriage, finances, and ministry.
It has not been easy doing this, writing daily for more than sixteen years strengthening homes and families at no cost. You will never have an idea about the price we have to pay to keep this on. The enemy has tried all kinds of things and attacks, he has attacked us on every level, finances, health, our marriage, and all.
The scripture says we should not be ignorant.
So I am saying like Apostle Paul, Pray for us! Every time you read a devotional, single or married, and you get blessed, remember us in your prayers. Pray for our home.
Pray for the ministry, of which you are a part.
Pray for our finances.
Now, This You Should Do!
1 Thessalonians 5:25 (KJV) Brethren, PRAY FOR US.
2 Thessalonians 3:1 (KJV) Finally, brethren, PRAY FOR US, that the word of the Lord may have free course, and be glorified, even as it is with you:
Hebrews 13:18 (KJV) PRAY FOR US: for we trust we have a good conscience, in all things willing to live honestly.
Just as you expect the devotionals to come daily and some of you will even chat me up if it’s coming late, can I also expect that you lift us up in prayers?
Somebody once commented offline, that who are these pastors that churn out devotionals every day and it comes in the emails as if they are robots?
Well, we are not robots. We are human, so human. With all the attendant needs and weaknesses!
Now, This You Should Do!
So, continue to pray for us. It would be a pride and spiritual cockiness not to ask for prayers.
In the same vein, never cease to sow words of prayers into your marriages
Don’t stop praying, especially praying in the Holy Ghost.
Keep sowing words of prayers into your marriage.
Keep firing. Never let the fire die.
Stay on the same page.
Avoid strife like a plague.
I pray for you this morning, dear members and partners of KHC, your faith will not fail you in Jesus’ name!
God will keep you!
He will uphold you.
He will honor you!
Your home will be blessed.
Ìpónjú kò ní ba yín! (You will not be frustrated or disconcerted)
E ò ní sì se! (You will not end in an error!)
Aso ègàn kò ní jé tiyín lórúko Jesù (Shame will not be your portion in Jesus name!)
Step Out Of The Rushing Traffic. You’re not married? Cool. Are you single and desperate to marry? That’s not cool. Are you single and praying to God for a nice spouse? Cool.
Are you single and willing to hook up with anyone who comes along? That’s not cool.
One of the most important decisions you must make as a single is to avoid using the haste mode. We frequently become desperate as a result of the stresses we face.
Mothers who wish to modify their status and add “grand” to become grandmothers are unintentionally pressuring you!
“This is my back, eheen, I will use it to carry your baby before I die!”
Does this sound familiar?
These and other factors can cause you to make poor decisions. You must maintain your cool.
Step Out Of The Rushing Traffic
This is the counsel I have for you this morning. Psalms 46:10 (KJV) Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.
In your patience, God moves faster. Your patience indicates your agreement with the divine marital goal.
Even if it appears that time is passing, I trust in you, God, to set all things right in your own time. I abandon my timetable in favor of the divine purpose!
Psalms 46:10 (MSG) “Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.”
Step Out Of The Rushing Traffic
Step away from the congested streets that often lead nowhere. When you get out of that traffic, you’ll realize that God is in control of your circumstance.
As long as you are desperate, you are telling God that He is too slow and that you can figure it out on your own. Allow God to be God!
That’s how it should be. That’s how sweet it is.
Today, may your relationship and marriage be blessed!
My God will keep and strengthen you to carry out His will. You will be the last to laugh.
Delving into the Magic of True Love. One of the questions I asked God was, “How do I know which of the millions of guys on the planet truly loves me?” In my seriousness, I asked God to help me discern who the guy is who truly loves me. God did it. The rest is today’s narrative. True love discovered me.
The question is, how do you know whether you’ve found true love? Everyone will tell you that you should never marry someone who does not sincerely love you. This morning, I’ll teach you how to recognize true love. You can use a litmus test to determine true love. Singles can use this as a guide. Couples can use this to develop their love more!
True love can be detected no matter how well it hides itself.
Don’t fall in love with anyone until you’ve put what appears to be love to the test.
Delving into the Magic of True Love
1. There will be commitment, not just feelings if it is true love.
Many people are persuaded, but how dedicated are they to you?
Commitment necessitates sacrifice. Is he or she prepared to make a sacrifice for you? The more the sacrifice, the greater the sincerity of the love. He doesn’t actually love you if he exhibits no signals of commitment.
It is not difficult to determine commitment; merely look for his/her commitment in small things. How devoted is he to the partnership and to your personal well-being?
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2. There will be tranquility if it is sincere love.
Peace is a solid indicator that God has approved you. There is peace in pure love – nothing is missing or broken. Peace is the umpire who gives you the green light to proceed.
This tranquility is both spiritual and natural. True love is absent in situations where there is constant turbulence, strife, dispute, and abuse. If he or she loves you, he or she will desire peace.
Colossians 3:15 (AMPC) And let the peace (soul harmony which comes) from Christ rule (act as umpire continually) in your hearts [deciding and settling with finality all questions that arise in your minds, in that peaceful state] to which as [members of Christ’s] one body you were also called [to live]. And be thankful (appreciative), [giving praise to God always].
Delving into the Magic of True Love
3. True love is quick to forgive.
True love exists where there is forgiveness. True love covers a plethora of sins. If he or she is constantly picking on every small mistake you make, the love is not genuine.
True love finds it easy to forgive and to seek pardon. A real “I am sorry” is an indication of deep affection. If he or she constantly puts you on the spot and is critical or judgmental of you, it’s not true love.
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4. Communication will be effortless if it is pure love.
The love isn’t genuine if he/she claims to love you but hasn’t called you in three weeks. True love appreciates conversing with the person he loves. Silence and boredom are not signs of deep love. True love never regards communication as a chore. When conversing becomes pleasurable, you know you’re in love.
5. Pre-marital sex is never required by true love.
If they truly love you, they will not ask for or demand sex. They will rather want to wait till after the wedding. Whether it is an outright demand, a subtle demand, a polite or deceptive request, sex outside of marriage is a shred of solid evidence that the love is not true according to God’s standard.
Some people mistakenly feel that pre-marital sex is what proves and solidifies true love. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Lovers Who Are Thieves and Robbers. Not all lovers genuinely want to love or are in love. Some people are nothing more than thieves. They only care about your ATM card.
They are not in love with you, but rather with your money.
They understand that what you want to hear is “love,” so they are willing to tell you what you want to hear in order to obtain what they want.
There is no link to the heart.
They can’t feel your pulse and are only interested in your purse.
Because it is based on lies and greed, this form of relationship is faulty and unhealthy.
Lovers Who Are Thieves and Robbers
Now the question is, how do you recognize these types of lovers?
You certainly want to avoid such people.
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Let us now examine the scriptures.
John 10:1 (KJV) Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that entereth not by the door into the sheepfold, but climbeth up some other way, the same is a thief and a robber.
Jesus is defining a thief and a robber in this passage.
A thief or robber might be identified by the way he enters your life.
The door represents the proper place of entry.
Attempting to utilize other places as entrances into a place is prohibited and, of course, may have a hidden motive.
Lovers Who Are Thieves and Robbers
Did that lover enter through the front door?
Did he knock on your heart’s door, or is he attempting to barge inside your emotions?
Did he wait for your reaction after knocking on your heart’s door, or did he go ahead and brutally shatter the door regardless of your response?
Is he willing to wait for you to open the door, or is he set on desecrating you before the wedding?
Is she willing to love you for who you are, or is she more interested in “climbing” into your purse with her body?
Is he or she implying that once you have feelings for yourselves, you don’t have to use the door, that you may leap the fence, compromise, smash down the door, throw away the key, and enter via the window, and so on?
If you are not careful, the one who is ready to tear down the door will also break down your heart.
A thief or robber is someone who is eager to “climb” without first following the proper procedure.
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Remember how your lover used to climb through the window to avoid your parents?
Similarly, a thief and robber is someone who conceals his plans from your parents. He is not prepared to marry! He’d be hesitant to meet your folks!
Should you ever fall in love with a thief or a robber?
Did he enter your life suddenly? A robber and a thief?
He claims you don’t need to include authoritative figures all the way? A robber and a thief!
I could go on, but I’m sure you get the idea!
May God guide and bless your marriage as you endeavor to follow His intentions for you.
My marriage is blessed. My spouse and I are led by the Spirit of God. When we pray together in unity, our prayers are powerful and we get results. We make every effort to establish peace and harmony in our home. Together we walk in agreement and are an unstoppable force.
If we get angry, we are quick to forgive so that we do not have strife in our relationship.
We are not self-seeking, rude, proud, boastful, or jealous. Instead, we are loving, kind, patient and we put each others needs before our own. We trust each other and protect the sanctity of our marriage. God joined us together as one, and we will not be separated.
Scripture References: Deuteronomy 28:1-14, Romans 8:14, Matthew 18:19, I Peter 3:7, Mark 11:25, Romans 13:13, I Corinthians 13:4-8, Matthew 19:6
“Father, in the Name of Jesus, I ask You for N/$______. I have this money in my heavenly account as a result of my seeds sown and I am withdrawing this amount now.
I believe I receive N/$________. As in Mark 11:23-24, I believe it in my heart and confess now that it is mine in the Name of Jesus. I declare that I have N/$______ according to Matthew 18:19.
From this day forward, I roll the care of this over on You and thank You for it. “Satan, in the Name of Jesus, I take authority over you; I bind your operation now and render you helpless. Because I am a tither, you have no access to my finances.
“Ministering spirits, I charge you to go forth and cause this amount to come to me through the works of my hands and through God’s favour according to Hebrews 1:14. Father, I praise Your Name for meeting my needs according to Your riches in glory by Christ Jesus and for multiplying my seed for sowing, in the Name of Jesus. Amen.”
Lord, I thank you for my wife and the mother of my children. I thank you for giving me such a great woman as my wife.
Lord, I declare that I am taught how to live considerably with my wife, I have intelligent recognition of the marriage relationship, I honour my wife as physically the weaker, and so I will never raise my hands against her.
I declare my prayers are answered because I treat my wife gently and appropriately.
I am faithful to my wife and she will continually make me happy. I am delighted with my wife’s body and I am excited at her appearance.
I love my wife and I value her contribution as a help-meet in my life. My wife is a virtuous woman and I greatly delight in her.
My wife is a spring of water and a fresh flowing fountain for me. My wife is lovely as an angel and beautiful as a rose. I will keep taking delight in her body and I will not take her love for granted.
I honour my wife and I will always protect her. I will listen to her and will not shut her up or mute her.
We are enamoured by God’s power and our union is blessed. Our family is favoured and it is well with us every day of our lives.
We are of the same mind, united in spirit, sympathizing with one another, and loving one another.
I will not scold, tongue lash or berate my spouse but rather I will bless and pray for our welfare, joy, and protection every day. I forgive easily and I declare our family blessed in Jesus name!
My father, I thank you for the man you have given unto me as my husband and my crown.
I am submissive to my husband, I adapt myself and I defer to him as the head of the family, just like Jesus is the head of the church. I have reverence for my husband; I respect him, defer to him, revere him, and honour him. I esteem my husband; I appreciate, prize and adore him.
Lord, teach me daily to deeply love my husband. I will not be distracted by negative influences.
I cultivate inner beauty; I am kind and gracious. I am good and loyal to my husband. I will not be a hindrance to our destiny, but a help-meet suitable for my husband.
I respect my husband and I allow him to have the last say. Our family is covered by the blood of Jesus.
I declare that I am a homemaker and a home builder. I receive the grace to function in that which God has called me to as a wife to my husband and a mother to my children. I am not overwhelmed, confused or depressed.
I have the joy of the Lord at all times. I am not frustrated and disorganized. I am strengthened in God and I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.
We are of the same mind, united in spirit, sympathizing with one another, and loving one another.
I will not scold, tongue lash, or berate my spouse but rather I will bless and pray for our welfare, joy, and protection every day. I forgive easily and I declare our family blessed in Jesus name!
I belong to God’s kingdom, I am a member of the unshakable kingdom. I am unshaken, undaunted, and undismayed. in the face of contradictions. I will not compromise, I am satisfied with God, I am gratified with Jesus,
I am sanctified by the Holy Spirit. I am decided for Jesus and my mind is made up, It is settled, there is no going back, No turning back, no retroversion, and no retrogression!
I am sanctified,
There is no doubt. My past might have been a mess, But it is now a message. I might have been abused, But I was not reduced. I might have compromised, But I am now consecrated, The flood came against me, But the blood also came for me. Jesus grabbed my arch-enemy at the jugular, I can now breathe freely.
I am Sanctified,
I put God’s word first place in my life,
I read my Bible daily and I live by the words therein, I live by the Holy Spirit, I walk in the Spirit daily, Meditation of God’s word is my habit, I relish in God’s word, and I value His word.
I honour His word, I eat His word, I speak His word, I think His word, I breathe His word. Jesus is my Redeemer, He is my Savior, He is my guide, and He is my peace. He is my joy, He is my comfort, He is my Lord, and He rules my life.
I am sanctified,
I raise God’s standard in this generation,
I am focused; I am not distracted, deflected, or perturbed. I am not flurried and I am not disconcerted, Depression is not my portion, I will not disappoint God, I will not let Him down. By the Spirit of God, I am strengthened and toughened.
By the Spirit of God, I am energized and stimulated, By the Spirit of God, I am blessed and favoured. By the Spirit of God, I am fortified and stabilized, By the Spirit of God, I am protected and defended, By the Spirit of God, I am intelligent and level-headed.
I am sanctified,
The power of hell is broken.
Its arsenal is bankrupted. Every negative power is subdued. I conquer every opposition,
I defeat every enemy. My mind is blessed, renewed, and refreshed, Every soul tie is severed and broken. All wrong bondings are disbanded and dissolved, I have the mind of Christ, and Lust loses its power over me. I am an overcomer, a subduer, and a surmounter, I am victorious, prosperous, and productive
I am sanctified,
I am not afraid to say No. According to God’s word, I say No. In the name of Jesus, I say No.
By the power of the Holy Spirit, I say No to all forms of sexual perversions!
I am sanctified,
I stand for God, I raise the banner. I am committed to the vision of Kisses and Huggs, I am sold out to its vision, I am aggressively committed, My NO is strong, I live for God,
My victory is certain, My family is established, Favour is my portion. He has signed with His blood, I have also signed with my service and obedience, All glory to His name. I am blessed today, my result is sure, My testimony is secured, and my life is surrounded.
Favour surrounds me today, Joy wells up in me, His word is my light, and his grace upon me. Blessed be His holy name!
I am sanctified!
I am satisfied! It is ratified! And GOD is glorified!
I wish my husband understood this. The time and attention principle. Following God, the next person you should spend time with is your spouse! Spending time with her is so important that you don’t even want to think about what will happen if you don’t spend enough time with her. The scripture indicates that after God created man, He would leave His throne and come down to the garden in the cool of the day to commune with man!
Now read this carefully: “If you don’t spend enough time with her, there will be problems!”
I’ve been coaching couples for over two decades and can tell you that this is one area that many people miss and which the devil has extensively exploited as a route into marital seclusion.
I Wish My Husband Understood This
Consider this:
How did Satan ensnare Eve? He made time for her! Why was Eve so frail? When the devil appeared, Adam was not spending time with her!
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Even while some men are spending significant time with their spouse or soon-to-be spouse, things are not going well. What could possibly go wrong?
Some men are so skilled (pun intended) that they can “listen” without paying any attention!
That is not what we are discussing here! You can be with her for five hours and she still couldn’t reach you!
It is not the time to check Facebook when you want to spend time with her.
It is not the time to respond to emails when you want to spend time with her.
Is that all we’ll be doing? Someone asks. Spend time with her instead of working?
The issue is that you are unaware that part of your job is to make your marriage work!
My lecturer told me there are several degrees of listening when I was studying for a Master’s Degree in Communication and Language Arts many years ago. You can listen for entertainment, like watching a comedy, or for accuracy, like in class, or with precision in other situations, but the ultimate level of listening is what you practice with your spouse.
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It’s called empathetic listening, and it involves listening to her by imagining yourself in her shoes and feeling what she’s feeling.
It’s not the kind of listening to you do while using your laptops, iPads, watching CNN on TV, and taking phone calls.
You should make time for her on a regular basis in any relationship or marriage. This demonstrates your dedication to her. Make yourself available. Don’t allow it to get to the point where she wants to schedule a meeting with you!
What if my profession requires me to travel away from home?
There are two options available to you.
I Wish My Husband Understood This
1. Make it unforgettable whenever you are present.
Don’t fill it with squabbles to the point where the little time you have is filled with regrets. Show maturity. Allow the time you spend together to be an intentional deposit into her emotional bank, so she has plenty to withdraw from when you are not around.
2. Maintain your contact with your spouse by using of social media.
If you are not constantly available and yet do not have time to contact or talk on a regular basis, something is wrong somewhere!
You see, when you truly love someone, you want to stay in touch with them!
I pray that God will give you additional insight into this. In Jesus’ name, I come against every storm in your marriage and declare, “Peace, be still!”
How to Become Responsible Lovers. Over the years, from counseling experiences, and even from the scriptures, one surefire reason for a marriage to fail is a lack of mentoring or tutelage.
God’s kingdom is so intricately planned that you are not expected to remain isolated.
Here’s what God says:
God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land. (Psalms 68:6 KJV)
In His wisdom, God has surrounded us not only with physical families but also with spiritual families. You must be able to recognize and stay with your spiritual family.
God has placed a man or woman over you to whom you can seek knowledge and who will be able to speak into your life during storms.
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There are times when you are confronted with a problem, but the solution is only a sentence or two away in the lips of a God-anointed servant.
How to Become Responsible Lovers
This is why I am often afraid of couples who have no one to hold them accountable. I am often afraid of couples that do not have mentors. Someone correctly stated that you need mentors to avoid life’s tormentors!
Now I’ll explain why it’s critical to maintain accountability in marriage.
There are instances when couples seek counseling and there is just one way to go after listening to them.
So I’d like to pose the question,
“Who do you think is your spouse’s mentor?”
It is always disappointing when the response is
“Nobody, sir!”
As a result, I frequently reword the question,
“Who does your husband admire? “Who can speak to him?”
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Then comes a sadder response.
“Nobody, sir!”
Then I’d give it one more shot.
“What about his parents?” I would ask.
“He doesn’t pay attention to his parents!” Nobody can communicate with him!”
At this moment, the situation appears to be dire… since it is difficult to assist a solitary person!
A soul that has been disenfranchised is a vulnerable soul.
One of the most important aspects of marriage is the question of accountability!
How to Become Responsible Lovers
Let me close with this verse:
Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established. (Proverbs 15:22 KJV)
Purposes might be sincere, but when they are unaided, they can lead to frustration and disappointment.
Check it out in The Message translation:
Refuse good advice and watch your plans fail; take good counsel and watch them succeed. (Proverbs 15:22 Message)
Good morning! Your relationships and marriages are blessed!
Today, we’ll look at the signs of an unhappy or dying relationship and marriage. This will allow us to diagnose and eliminate these problems swiftly. Let’s get started.
Signs of a Dying Relationship or Marriage
1. When trust has died and has been cremated
The foundation of any marriage’s success is trust.
Create trust! Please don’t break it! Without trust, the marriage has no foundation.
How do you sever trust?
When you consistently disappoint your partner with lies and deception, trust will crumble. When confidence in a marriage is lost, the end is imminent. You cannot do without trust! Build trust deliberately through honesty.
Do everything you can to maintain trust by being truthful to a fault. Let your spouse r finance be able to line up your words with your actions! Be completely honest.
A trust may be re-established once it has been destroyed, but it takes time and perseverance.
Signs of a Dying Relationship or Marriage
2. When the couple disregards God
There is really little you can accomplish without God.
God is the one who builds homes. God is the architect of marriage.
It is a waste of time to strive to construct without God.
Psa 127:1 (KJV) Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
As a form of retaliation, some couples engage in adulterous acts. It is only a matter of time before the impending crash becomes apparent.
Iniquity is always a destructive path. Don’t toe that path!
Sin’s wages are death, thus when sin enters a marriage system, it dies by default.
I pray your marriage does not end in divorce!
I prophesy over your marriage and household, and I pray that God will protect you in Jesus’ name!
Hello and good morning! I’ll pick up where I left off yesterday.
We started with some prayer topics that every couple should pray, and we looked at two of them yesterday. We continue from there.
3. Remove selfishness from my heart.
This is another prayer that every couple and singles should say together. Selfishness simply implies failing to consider your spouse/fiancee. In what ways may couples be self-centered? Let me name a few.
Gal 5:17 For there is a root of sinful self-interest in us that is at odds with a free spirit, just as the free spirit is incompatible with SELFISHNESS. These two ways of life are antithetical, so that you cannot live at times one way and at times another way according to how you feel on any given day.
No More Selfishness Towards My Lover
a. Communication selfishness
You enjoy talking to the whole world except your loved one. That is inappropriate!.
You simply forget to converse with your spouse! You have no recollection of it. It’s understandable if you don’t talk to or call others very often. But don’t you think something is amiss when you virtually live on Whats App or Messenger, chatting up the entire world except your spouse or loved one?
You absolutely must change your approach! Allow your spouse to be your biggest fan! The most important conversations on your phone should be with your spouse, not with an old acquaintance or family member.
Pastor, we see every day! It makes no difference. Protect your marriage by doing whatever you can. You cannot truly say you tried unless you have given it your all and made some mindset modifications.
The same way for singles in courtship. Decide to ignore the whole world rather than your lover.
No More Selfishness Towards My Lover
b. Shopping selfishness
Do you go shopping and just buy your things, fully forgetting about your spouse? That’s not quite fair!
Even if the shopping is for you, make sure you grab something for your spouse. This is how you keep the flames alive.
Dear husbands, don’t buy all the electronics unless you also buy some lady stuff. Dear lady, don’t get all the powders and make-up kits unless you also buy some guy items! Be prudent.
Pray that God should remove selfishness from your heart in every way!
Prayers have tremendous power. God answers requests. My mother told me when I was about 10 years old that I would be a pastor. I didn’t agree with her. I stated that I aspired to be a businessman. She stated that she will pray, and we shall see!
When I was sixteen, she went home to live with the Lord. When I was nineteen, Jesus appeared to me in a night vision, and I was immediately called to ministry.
God heard her requests!
I will not claim that God answered all of my prayer points, but God did respond to my prayers most of the time.
I prayed for folks over the phone and online for fruit of the womb, jobs, marital breakthroughs, liberation from sexual perversion, bodily healing, and many other things, and God answered by fire!
God responds to requests. Do not give up on your partner, marriage, or house, and do not stop praying!
Pray, and then pray some more! Never stop praying in the Spirit. God will astound you.
Here are five prayer points you should use on occasion.
Dear Couple, Never Stop Praying
1. Lord, reveal to me what I don’t know that I think I know.
The majority of marriage problems are caused by ignorance. There are a lot of things we don’t know that we think we do.
There may be no development as long as you remain stubborn, without adjusting, and without being open to the possibility that you are incorrect. Nobody knows everything, not even me.
I might have written a devotional a day for a while, then two each day for a while. Every day, I am reminded that I still don’t know a lot of things. I continue to learn, read, and am open to revelations from God’s Spirit. I am not a marital specialist. I am merely a vessel in the hands of God.
Jer 33:3 (KJV) Call unto me, and I will answer thee, and shew thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.
Your marriage will improve if you start learning things you didn’t know before and decide not to stick to what you used to know.
Dear Couple, Never Stop Praying
2. Lord, shield me from the enemy’s flaming darts.
The Bible speaks about the burning darts that the enemy throws at us. But have you ever needed to summon someone to remove darts from your back or neck?
No!
So, where have those darts gone?
Those darts are the devil’s thoughts and suggestions. They are mental assaults.
The Amplified Bible refers to them as missiles!
The modern English version refers to them as flaming arrows!
Be cautious, husband and wife, when unpleasant thoughts enter your minds!
I believe this is why the scriptures says:
Eph 6:16 (KJV) Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
Rick Renner explained that
“The words “fiery darts” are from the Greek word belos. It referred to an arrow with its tip wrapped with fabric soaked in flammable fluids so it would burn with hot and angry flames. The famous Greek writer Thycidides used this Greek word belos to depict specially-made, long, slender arrows that outwardly looked harmless; however, the hollow interior of the arrow was filled with flammable fluids that, upon impact, exploded into a raging fire. This last arrow is most likely the picture that Paul had in his mind when he wrote about the “…fiery darts of the wicked.”
He continued:
“Often when the devil strikes, his attack looks inconsequential at first, like harmless little arrows that can do little damage. But when those arrows strike into the heart or emotions, they often explode and set human passions aflame, causing a minor issue to develop into a fierce, flaming situation. The damage done in such a moment is very serious — and all of it could have been avoided if the shield of faith had been held high and regularly doused in the water of the Word!”
In collusion, soak yourself in the word, it will render the arrows and missiles useless.
