SINGLES – Three Types Of Men Ladies Need To Know About
Continued from yesterday…
2 SCAVENGERS
They capitalize on the weaknesses of ladies with low self esteem. They weaken already weak ladies. They take advantage of their weaknesses.
They have a way of locating needy ladies and low self esteem ladies who will offer their body endlessly in order to get love which will forever remain elusive.
The scavenger is not looking for love or romance, he is simply looking for intercourse, and he will feign love and care to get what he wants. The day he stops getting that, he moves on, and the lady is left heartbroken.
What the scavenger does not know is that life is all about seed, time and harvest! He has unwittingly sown bad seeds and the harvest will spring up in time.
How do you avoid a scavenger? Learn new creation realities. Know who you are in Christ. Meditate on his word and develop God-confidence.
What do you do as a single if you find yourself here? Stop offering your body! Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost. Start over and get out of all ungodly relationships
3 GARDENERS
These are the real men and I know this is where you belong! They cultivate their women, make them blossom, fruitful and bring out the best in them.
Ladies, you are like a fruitful vine, tender, yet full of great potentials. You have the responsibility of watching where and who plants you.
The environment (relationship) you agree to get involved with determines whether you will blossom or not.
Is the guy you are going out with a hunter? Is he always draining you financially, telling you it’s ok, promising to marry you? Is he a scavenger? He knows your story of abuse, low self esteem, that you have been deflowered and he feels he is the next person to sleep with you?
Make sure you do not enter into a relationship until you can vouch that the guy is a ‘gardener’, ‘a real man’, a ‘groom’, someone who will cultivate you, lead you and take you on a journey of self discovery and self confidence.
You can do it by God’s grace, if you trust and seek his help.
Always remember this, the wisdom you need to resolve the present issue lies with God.
I pray for you this day that God will surround you with His love.
Ladies, you will blossom in Jesus name. You will burst forth with full manifestation of your gifting in Jesus name.
Men, receive grace and wisdom to be the best that God has called you to be over your wife and your home! Three Types Of Men Ladies Need To Know About
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not fall into the hands of a hunter or scavenger. I am a a fruitful vine.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father I receive help to be all you desire me to be. I refuse to be the object of abuse of any man.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY ‘Thy wife shall be like a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house’ Ps.128:3
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Get yourself out of any abusive relationship. Seek advice and help where necessary.
There are different types, kinds, shades and forms of trouble in life and of course in marriage. Some of these troubles we face in marriage are due to our carelessness most of the times, while others are just the devil wanting to stir up issues.
Whichever way, God has told us how to handle troubles in His word.
I must admit that there are some troubles or challenges that are so bigger than us. There is no way we can come out of them successfully without God intervening.
King David, even though he was God’s beloved Psalmist, faced different situations way bigger and stronger than him. The good news is that God brought him over them all.
When troubles comes, at whatever season in our marriage, if we are believers, we are assured victory.
Some challenges are spiritual and must be dealt with by engaging in spiritual warfare. Whether they are in-law issues, financial, child birth, barrenness, betrayal, infidelity issues, health issues or we just noticed some resistance on our way, or there are constant quarrels between us as couples that really has no basis, or any other attack on our marriage, it calls for spiritual warfare.
That is the time we should deal with and take charge of whatever strange oppressive spirit from the devil that wants to destroy our marriages.
We must know how to intercede for our marriages more than anything else. We fight on our knees.
The bible says
For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; – 2 Corinthians 10:3 – 5 KJV
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. – James 4:7 KJV
Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. – Luke 10:19 KJV
Our major work is to bind the wrong spirit behind such issues and loose the power of God. We come against the different spirits causing troubles for us and not allowing us to enjoy peace, love and joy in our marriage.
Some problems are not with the third party, but with our spouses. You have to learn to take charge and exercise authority over such anti peace, anti unity spirit. All they are after is to cause division, disunity, distress and fight in the marriage.
Also praying for the eyes of the understanding of the other party to open is important.
That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him: The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints, – Ephesians 1:17 – 18 KJV
By the time you have engaged in spiritual warfare, God promised victory. The victory may not come the way we we want, but victory is sure and peace will be restored into our marriage.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage is blessed.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask for wisdom to handle marital troubles
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. – Luke 10:19 KJV
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take authority over the devil.
Do you honour God daily? Do you know that there is a relationship between honouring God and making your marriage work?
When you honour God, trust me, you are going to have His favour and mercy work for you in every way. In the same way, when you dishonour God, things are going to get real though. The ways of a transgressor are hard.
How do you honour God?
Read, study and meditate on God’s word regularly. You need that for your spiritual health. Have it regimented into your life and do it daily. Start your day with that. That is simply honouring God!
Go to church. Fellowship with believers! That is simply honouring God!
Pay your tithe. Give to God. That is simply honouring God!
Somebody says, “I am confused in my marriage. The panacea is God’s word. It will cause light to shine over your soul. It will give you direction and lead you on the right path.
Do you have troubles in your marriage? The answer is in God’s word, not in weeping profusely or looking for pity parties. Stop getting depressed daily, rather get energized in God’s word!
Do you also know that just by staying in God’s word, you can avoid adulterous relationships?
Decide to honour God in your marriage and you will see Him come to your aid.
Selah!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY God’s word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Open my eyes to wondrous truths in your word, O Lord
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 119:105 [MSG] By your words I can see where I’m going; they throw a beam of light on my dark path.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Get into God’s word now and ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes.
You might be the head of the house, but don’t hesitate to apologize when you have wronged her. You really don’t want to be head over troubles and quarrels. Strife will stifle your spiritual voice and render your prayer useless!
3. Don’t Ignore her.
Let her feel appreciated that she is contributing to the progress of the family. Take her along in your decisions and outings. Pay attention to her words and ideas. Don’t make her feel she has nothing to offer. When you don’t let her help through her opinions, she is frustrated because her ministry is to be a helpmeet.
When you do these seemingly little things, they will make a great difference in your life. She might not be logical and factual when she is advising you, but she could be accurate because of her natural intuition. She can know a bad friend from afar, she can sense a bad business deal from just listening to you share with her.
4. Don’t criticize her.
Correct in love. Don’t treat her like a doormat. Give her the respect she deserves. She will in turn love you dearly and your home will be peaceful.
5. Never act as though you were superior and she is inferior.
She is not subservient, only submissive. God wants wives to be at their husbands’ sides, not at their feet. That was why God made Eve with bones from Adam’s side, not his feet.
6. Never show preference to others at the expense of your wife.
Believe in her, affirm her, encourage her and she will in turn do the same to your children. Women are multipliers. Give her sperm and she gives you a baby. Give her ingredients and she gives you a sumptuous meal. In the same way, give her stress and she will give you frustration, pressed down and shaken together and running over!
In that marriage, the wisdom you need to run a successful home, a loving family, and a strife-free milieu, may God grant unto you in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse dearly. I will honour my spouse in all ways.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY I receive grace to love my spouse dearly and to be faithful to him/her.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. (Mal 2:15 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Surprise your spouse today by doing one of those things you use to do that made him/her happy when you were courting.
COUPLES – How To Make Your Wife Happy And Love You Forever
Mr. John is heavily frustrated. His wife is never happy. He has exhausted all the wisdom and skills in his arsenals, yet no hope. All his romantic antics have been displayed, all to no avail. He feels so incapable. What else can I do to make this woman happy?
Pleasing a woman really is not so much about doing so many things but doing what appeals to your wife specifically. Why do you need to ensure she is happy anyway? You need each other’s agreement to have spiritual potency. You need each other’s help to forge ahead as a couple. When she is happy, the home will be great too.
You see, the moment you prefer to hang out with the ‘boys’ rather than your wife, and you deliberately go home late, you are no longer in good terms with your wife and the devil can take advantage of that to bring all kinds of attacks, especially adultery.
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. (Pro 5:18 KJV)
1. Listen to what she is really saying.
Don’t watch television or read newspapers while she is talking to you. For your wife, attention means a lot to her.
Women are not logical, rather, they are emotional. So her discourse with you might seem illogical, but if you want to make your wife happy and your home great, you must make time to listen to her.
This is very important! In some countries, there are people who work as ‘listeners’ and all they do is listen to women talk and they are paid on an hourly basis. This is to let you know how important it is. If you allow the driver or cook to become the listener, a love affair might erupt over time. Spend time with her a lot.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love my spouse dearly. I will honour my spouse in all ways.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY I receive grace to love my spouse dearly and to be faithful to him/her.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. (Mal 2:15 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Surprise your spouse today by doing one of those things you use to do that made him/her happy when you were courting.
