Character flaws are not death sentences but defects that we should be willing to change. Change doesn’t come easy. However, to grow we all need to change. The only constant thing is change. No one is born with the perfect set of characters, we all learn and cultivate them.
Many character flaws are destructive in relationships and marriage. It is essential to talk about them because once we are in love, we may not realize or pay attention to the signs that character flaws are present in your fiance or fiancee.
Here are four character flaws
1. Pride
Once married you and your spouse are joined together as one and you don’t want to be destroyed along with your spouse. Pride goes before a fall. You will notice pride when your partner has an over-inflated ego, doesn’t listen to correction, thinks he knows it all, and feels they are always the boss. Humility is a virtue and it can be learned. Satan was proud and that was why he was cast down. So if you notice even the slightest trace of pride begin to do something about it. Often the person with the flaw may be ignorant of it.
Job 36:9 (MSG) God tells them where they’ve gone wrong, shows them how their pride has caused their trouble.
2. Insincerity
This is a character flaw that may have been learned from childhood as a coping mechanism. Some use it as a defense mechanism. It is not being truthful. The Bible recommends that our Yea be Yea and our Nay be Nay. When your partner has problems with being sincere you need to pay attention to this character flaw.
3. Laziness
A lazy person is the devil’s workshop. One of the virtues one should look for in a partner is hard work. Not just working hard but also working smart. If you learn to work hard, you will learn to cultivate your garden and grow your barren land turning it into a green pasture. There is dignity in labor while a lazy partner will always find fault with his tools. Fulfilling our destiny requires some level of tenacity and hard work. If you notice your partner is lazy, please pay attention to this character flaw.
Pro 15:19 (MSG) The path of lazy people is overgrown with briers; the diligent walk down a smooth road.
4. Greed
This is another character flaw that will eventually lead to destruction. Yes, one should have the drive to want more in life, but greed happens when there is an insatiable and burning desire for more material things. This is what we call the mundane things. Anyone chasing the mundane things cannot be a God chaser and a chaser of His kingdom. A greedy person will chase shadows at the expense of the real things. A greedy person will neglect his family all in the name of making more money.
Pay close attention to these character defects to avoid stories that touch the heart.
Everyone especially the ladies had a dream marriage in mind, what we call, childhood dreams. (not necessarily a dream wedding). A marriage is far more important than a wedding. Our childhood dreams of a ‘happily ever after’ can come to pass.
How we love to feel loved, is usually expressed in those dreams.
It is best to start preparing for that dream marriage as a single lady or guy.
The problem is that most people do not take the time to pursue their dreams.
Their dreams are not even clear enough to them. They have not sat down to conceptualize their dreams and know what their dreams require.
It remains as a wish and never gets actualized.
I believe the process of writing the vision and making it plain upon tablets that he may run that read (Hab 2:1) is very important.
Habakkuk 2:2 – 3 NKJV [2] Then the Lord answered me and said: “Write the vision And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it. [3] For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, It will not tarry.
As a young person, the dream marriage you have always wanted is not meant to just be a dream, it is meant to be pursued.
Knowledge about marriage, application of what you learned, and prayers are 3 important keys to making your dream marriage come to reality.
Whatever stage you are whether you are single, married, having troubles in your marriage or a relationship about to divorce, you can still pursue your dream.
Here are the 3 keys that can help
1. Knowledge about marriage
Marriage is an institution that requires adequate and proper study. You study and never give up. Be a studious student of marriage before you get married and while you are married.
As a lady, study to understand the guy you will marry and study to know and understand yourself and vice versa. Learn about marriage itself. So many people are making a shipwreck of their marriage at different levels because of a lack of knowledge.
How many books do you have or have you read on marriage is a good question to ask yourself
Remember if wishes were horses, beggars will ride.
2. Application of what you have read.
What you read or learn through books, seminars, and conferences is of no use if they are not applied. It is in the doing that we are blessed.
Knowledge creates awareness. We have Awareness, Application, and Accountability where you become accountable to God who gave you the dream and desire of a blissful marriage
3. Prayers
I believe marriage is not meant to be done outside of God. From choosing the right spouse as a single and being the right spouse ( being compatible) to living and becoming one in marriage. You need God all the way. Prayer allows you to commit yourselves to the author of the marriage institution. You receive the needed guidance and help and you learn to talk to God and listen to Him.
Your dream marriage is worth pursuing. Pursue it and don’t give up. Don’t settle for less.
Alright, so let’s dive into this whole respect thing, especially when it comes to your guy and not stepping on God’s toes in the process.
You know how crucial respect is, right? It’s like the glue holding relationships together, making sure everything runs smoothly. But here’s the deal – ladies, we’re good at giving props, showing love, and giving credit where it’s due. But, oh boy, when the guys mess up, it’s like a respect withdrawal party.
Get it. Respect isn’t something you just throw around randomly. It’s earned and deserved. You respect your dad, your boss, your pastor – they’ve got their roles, and you acknowledge that.
Now, relationships, that’s a whole different ball game. Your boo isn’t just a boss or a dad; he’s someone you know inside out – the good, the bad, and the ugly. And let’s be real, he’s probably messed up once or twice, and it stings.
But here’s the kicker – don’t let that mess with your view of him. Respect is like following God’s playbook. When you respect your guy, you’re not just playing by relationship rules; you’re respecting the bigger picture, the whole God-and-marriage thing.
So, how do you do it? How do you respect him without making God frown?
Mind Matters: Respect starts in your head. Accept that your man is the head – it’s not a mistake; it’s by God’s design. Your job? Support that. Remind yourself it’s your duty, and do it with joy.
Learn the Ropes: Some of us didn’t grow up seeing respect in action. You can learn it. Humble yourself, pick up the skill, and show some respect – for God’s sake.
For some ladies, it may not come naturally to them to respect maybe because of their choleric temperament or background. Whichever way, you have to humble yourself and learn to respect him out of respect for God.
Define and Refine: Respect isn’t just a word; it’s an action. Ask yourself, how can I admire this guy more? When you slip up, correct it. Ask, “Is this respect or disrespect?” Treat disrespect like a no-go zone, because, hey, you don’t want to disappoint God, right?
Remember Joseph and his stand against temptation? Well, your ultimate motivation here is not disrespecting God.
Keep that in mind, and respecting your man will be a breeze.
Let’s dive into the respect pool, especially regarding our men. Like, seriously, why is respect such a big deal for them?
It’s not about whether your guy is a superhero or not. It’s more about God’s grand plan – respect and honor are the secret sauce to keeping the relationship vibe alive.
Living life by God’s rules is like sticking to a recipe. No arguing, no adding your secret spices – just follow the script. And guess what? Your opinion doesn’t get a starring role. It’s all about playing by God’s rules.
Now, for all you single ladies out there, respect isn’t just a married folks’ thing. It starts way back in courtship. If you’re dissing your dude-to-be now, turning into a respect queen will be difficult after tying the knot.
And hey, respect and submission are not forced on anyone. The Bible’s like, “Respect and submit to your hubby.” Simple, right? So if a guy is not who you can respect, honor, and admire to the point of submitting to him, DON’T marry him.
Marriage is like a legal pact, and breaking it is a big no-no. So, if you’ve decided to say “I do,” it’s like signing a respect contract.
All attention is placed on the head because that is where the seat of decision, thinking, sight, speech, smell, hearing, and eating is. All vital action takes place in and on the head. Beauty and radiance, intellect, and reasoning are all found on the head.
Yes, the body is very important too. But by design, the head gets the full attention and responsibility rises and falls on the head. The lady or wife is equally important.
Let’s say she is the heart. We know there is no life apart from the heart. The head honors the heart because of its life-giving ability. But the heart is secured and protected because of its makeup and vulnerability.
That is God’s design. And it makes a whole lot of sense, both logical and spiritual sense.
Respect is:
a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
admire (someone or something) deeply, as a result of their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
To help you learn respect go through the definition and synonyms of respect and note where you are lacking.
Synonyms: esteem, admire, think highly of, have a high opinion of, hold in high regard, hold in (high) esteem, think much of, approve of, appreciate, cherish, value, set (great) store by, prize, treasure, look up to, pay homage to, venerate, revere, reverence, adulate, worship, idolize, put on a pedestal, lionize, hero-worship, honor, applaud, praise, favor
Eph 5:22 -24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so [let] the wives [be] to their husbands in everything.
In this world full of chaos and hustle, taking a moment to celebrate the ones we hold dear becomes a beacon of light
My husband is my world, my sunshine, the guy who makes everything in my life sparkle. He’s my mentor, pastor, coach, and the one with a crown shining with precious gems. Seriously, he’s more than words can express.
I could go on and on, not just because I’m a writer, but because he deserves all the celebration. Grateful to God for this rare gift.
You know, special moments in our loved ones’ lives are like gold mines. Birthdays, anniversaries, promotions – they’re not to be missed. Once-in-a-lifetime stuff! And, hey, celebrating is not a one-way street. Your boo needs it too; it’s a two-way deal. Today is not his birthday, just celebrating him.
Thinking of celebrating your spouse? Here are five laid-back tips:
Be genuinely happy for your loved one. No fake smiles, please – authenticity is key. Let the joy radiate from within because authenticity is the key to a celebration that truly touches the soul.O
Be thoughtful and intentional. What does this day mean to them? Let your celebration reflect that. Every celebration is an opportunity to deepen your connection. Be intentional; let your actions mirror the depth of your feelings.
Who said celebrations need to break the bank? Get creative! Sometimes, a heartfelt gesture speaks louder than an expensive gift.
Find out what they’d appreciate and make it happen. Discover what makes your loved one’s heart skip a beat. The right gift is not just an object; it’s a symbol of your understanding and appreciation.
Words matter. Express your inner thoughts; our spoken emotions become cherished memories, engraved in the heart forever. Remember, celebrate your lover like there’s no tomorrow. They’re your only one on this planet.
