In today’s world, it is so easy to fall into the temptation of getting all worked up or worried or anxious about so many things.
Our relationships as singles are not spared from this strategy of hell to snuff joy, understanding, and bliss from them.
You will always see ladies more beautiful, more caring, more understanding, richer, and more respectful than your fiance or fiancee. Make up your mind with the help of God to stay focused on your partner.
You will always have desires, especially of material things. Don’t focus on what you don’t have and get anxious or agitated about those things
Celebrate your partner. Be intentional about seeing the best in each other.
Appreciate what you have and leave what you don’t have.
The same goes for us Couples. Other ladies and men will not suddenly become ugly. There will still be countless good men out there. Don’t compare the qualities of other women and men to your spouse.
Accept and love your spouse the way they are.
We are all a work in progress. The human tendency is to complain about what God has given you. The more you complain the more you will have reasons to complain. The more you appreciate your spouse the more grateful you are for them.
Don’t become anxious, especially about the good things of life, you don’t have YET. A pregnant woman does not envy the woman carrying her baby. They both carry something, it’s just a matter of time and the pregnant one will also carry her baby.
These things are not bad in themself but when you have your mind focused on them, they tend to choke the bliss out of your marriage.
Philippians 4:6 NIV Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Enjoy your spouse. Thank God for the spouse God has given you. What you lack now, will become plenty only if you have the right attitude of thanksgiving.
Material prosperity will come. Let us learn to enjoy ourselves on the way to our destination.
God does not want us to be worried and get preoccupied with things we don’t have.
He expects us to make our request known to our maker through prayers.
Enjoy your spouse. Enjoy your children. Enjoy where you are and what you have in the present.
God the Present Help in your Relationship and Marriage
God’s word is powerful enough to be trusted. The word from His mouth will never go back to Him void but will accomplish what it says it would.
If you are a child of God, take refuge in His word and promises.
Whatever the issue or challenge is with your relationship trust God. He is the very present help in times of trouble. You will testify to His faithfulness. ( So far as the perfect will of God is known)
Maybe you are having issues with parental consent. Maybe it is the finances for the wedding that is the issue. Maybe it’s a misunderstanding that has been lingering for long. Maybe it’s peer pressure or listening to the wrong advice.
I want to encourage you this morning. Take hold of God’s word.
If you can have it in the word, you can have it in your world.
That marriage will not end in separation or divorce. The dry bones of that marriage will rise again. Finances will flow again. You will enjoy marital bliss once again. Or if you do not know what it is to enjoy bliss, God’s word will manufacture it.
Isaiah 41:18 GNT I will make rivers flow among barren hills and springs of water run in the valleys. I will turn the desert into pools of water and the dry land into flowing springs.
God’s word promises restoration. God promises to make rivers flow among barren hills. He will turn the desert into pools of water and dry lands flowing springs.
What a wonderful promise to hold on to.
Whatever looks like dryness in your relationship and marriage, in your finances, or business, God promises to turn it around.
The issues you face in your relationship and marriage are not meant to break you. They are there to make you stronger.
Jesus told Peter, when thou art converted strengthen your brothers.
Whatever you are dealing with right now is only for an appointed time. Its season will soon come to pass. Then you will be furnished to strengthen your brethren.
Fight the good fight of faith. After it all, we are still standing.
God’s word is a sure foundation to stand upon.
Don’t give up, believe His word and it will happen for you in your relationship and marriage.
God was the one who created Adam in His likeness and image.
Looking at the Godhead, we will know that God created man to be like Him. That is why we have God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. They are in perfect harmony, yet different in personality and functionality.
Genesis 2:18 CEV [18] The Lord God said, “It isn’t good for the man to live alone. I will make a suitable partner for him.”
Genesis 2:21-22 CEV [21] So the Lord God made him fall into a deep sleep, and he took out one of the man’s ribs. Then after closing the man’s side, [22] the Lord made a woman out of the rib. The Lord God brought her to the man,
God knew perfectly what He had created and knew how best it would function. He knew the man would not be optimally efficient, so He made the woman solely for this purpose. To complement and complete the man.
The woman was custom-made for the man. She is the help needed, fit, suitable, adaptable, meet, right for him, sufficient, complementary, perfect, complement to him, companion he needs, one just right for him, one who balances him, a counterpart who is suitable and complementary to him, companion suitable for helping him, a suitable companion he needs…
All these qualities are what describe the help God provided for Adam.
Can you trust God in all His Almightiness that the helper He has given you, is the best for you?
Can the helper trust God enough to believe she possesses all these qualities? And that God packaged her, with all her gifts to help the man?
Husbands and wives, can you trust God enough that you are fulfilled and complete with each other? That all you will ever need is packaged in your wife.
She may not look like it. He may not look worthy of your companionship.
Your wife was never meant to be exactly like you. Rice and stew are complementary but very different.
Enjoy your wife, she is God’s best for you.
Wives, be satisfied with your husband, that is the one you were sent to.
Let’s begin to trust God afresh.
Dear single guys, every lady around you is to be protected and not violated! An understanding of this will start preparing you to become that man that God wants and can trust!
Thoughts or mindsets are very powerful. The mind rules the man. Where the mind goes, the man follows. Victory in life is so much as the victory in your mind.
If you can master your mind, then you can positively channel it for a victorious living. Your level of victory in life is directly proportionate to the level of victory you have in your mind or soul.
Now your mind is the seat of your will, thoughts, emotions and your intellect.
3Jn 1:2 (KJV) Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth.
The soundness or health of our minds or souls is so important that we should constantly be checking on the state of our minds.
You need to constantly check your thoughts. Are your thoughts leading you to victory in your relationship, marriage, and life?
You must see these negative thoughts as they truly are. They can destroy your relationship and marriage if you don’t destroy them.
The Bible teaches us how to handle our thoughts, especially the negative ones that can destroy our lives and marriages.
2Co 10:4-5 (KJV) (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) [5] Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
Every negative, ungodly, selfish thought must be cast down. They must not be allowed to govern your marriage, home, and life.
You have to take up that responsibility because nobody will do it on your behalf.
How do you handle negative thoughts? You use godly thoughts to cast down those negative thoughts or mindsets.
Here are ten wrong mindsets or thoughts that can ruin your marriage.
1. My spouse hates me and only shows he loves me when he or she wants something from me.
2. There is no ‘God’s perfect will’ in marriage. Just marry anybody, bear his name, and don’t expect too much.
3. There are no blissful marriages. It exists only as a figment of one’s imagination.
4. Husbands don’t have the ability to love their wives.
5. As a wife, I refuse to allow my husband full authority over my life. He will still end up hurting and cheating me.
6. Faithfulness in marriage is not real. Just pretend everything is okay and pray you don’t get caught or catch your spouse in adultery
7. You don’t have to be one hundred percent sincere, open, or transparent, it’s not worth it.
8. Without money in marriage, there is no love.
9. The Bible, God’s principles, or learning about marriage is not necessary or very relevant to having a blissful marriage.
10. Once my children are okay, that is okay. Expecting my husband to love me unconditionally is asking for too much.
If you have any of these mindsets, it is time to throw them away and discard them.
These are simply the four most important persons in a marriage or relationship setting that will make it balanced and blissful. We all desire blissful marriages, but have you asked yourself why is it so far-fetched? I think the answer lies in this quadrant of marriage. Know these and know peace
This quadrant includes (not in any particular order)
1. God
2. The person of the Holy Spirit
3. The wife
4. The husband
Knowing each person in this quadrant will go a long way in making a success of your marriage. These four persons are key and are also interwoven. Knowing one at the expense of the other could be detrimental to the success of the union.
It is to be noted that the husband and the wife (fiance and fiancee as the case may be if in a relationship). They are both given the responsibility to first know God, then themselves, appreciate themselves, understand themselves, and celebrate themselves before trying to know and figure out the other person.
As I said earlier the knowledge of all four persons is very important and each has its place.
1. God – the big G
He is the sovereign God who rules in the affairs of men and wants the take the wheel in every life if He is permitted. God instituted marriage and He already figured out that we will have directions and instructions both for our lives and for our marriage. So each of us is to follow this Manual. The extent to which we follow it is the extent to which we will know peace in our home and marriage. God cannot be wrong, so also His word. Follow His instructions to the letter for marriage and you are good to go.
Are you getting blessed? I will continue on this tomorrow by God’s grace. Have a fantastic day!
