How To Find A Spouse Without Disappointment. It is wise to find God before you try to find a spouse! It is good that God becomes your Lord, before you seek for a spouse. Your relationship with God will stablise your relationship with your lover. There should first be a lover of your soul before a lover in your soul. There is a space in your heart that only your maker can fill. If you try to put a lover in that spot, you will eventually frustrate that lover and yourself.
There is one of God’s promises that says when you look for Him, you will find Him.
It is a sure promise, because God’s word will never fall to the ground. His word has never been known to fail, and it will never fail. His word will always come to pass!
How do you look for God? How do you look for God in a pragmatic day to day sense?
Now, understand this, the first order of things is to seek and find God before you try to seek a spouse! The foundation that will sustain a successful relationship that will lead to marriage is knowing God, by seeking Him daily and consistently. There is nothing as powerful as that! This is How To Find A Spouse Without Disappointment
13″When you come looking for me, you’ll find me. ” Yes, when you get serious about finding me and want it more than anything else, 14 I’ll make sure you won’t be disappointed. “God’s Decree. “I’ll turn things around for you. I’ll bring you back from all the countries into which I drove you “–– God’s Decree––” bring you home to the place from which I sent you off into exile. You can count on it (Jeremiah 29:13-14 Message) The phrase in the above verses says, “…Yes, when you get serious about finding me and want it more than anything else, I’ll make sure you won’t be disappointed.”
Now, that is awesome! King James Version says “…when you search for me with all your heart…”
I want to challenge you this morning, as a spokesman for Jehovah, that it is time you get serious about finding God more in your life. It is something you have to prioritize! When you do that, search for God with all your heart, and really get serious with God in all your endeavours, God gives you a promise that sounds too good to be true, “You will not be disappointed!”
Finally, that scripture says, “I will turn things around for you!” King James Version says “I will turn away your captivity!”
That is only what God can do, not a spouse! That is a job for your Jehovah, not your lover. Marriage cannot turn things around for you, only God can. So you see, that the earlier you settle the God factor in your life, the more you are getting ready for settling down in marriage!
In the ensuing days, weeks, and months, I want you to dedicate time for God in your life, give it some priority, and as God said in His word, I make bold to say that you will not be disappointed! This is How To Find A Spouse Without Disappointment
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will search for God with all my heart
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will strengthen you to search for Him the more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
I love them that love me; and those that seek me early shall find me. Riches and honour are with me; yea, durable riches and righteousness (Proverbs 8:17-18 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Step up your time of devotion with God
Two Ways To Love Your Spouse. Sally is in love. Butterflies are flying in her tummy, her heartbeat accelerating, and there are twinkle little stars on her face always! George is floating on Cloud 9. He is crazily in love with Sally. The mere sight of thinking about her would elicit goose pimples all over him.
So, Sally and George are in love! How would they take care of each other?
The Johnsons are married, and somehow the butterflies have decided to rest, the heartbeat is stable and the stars have hibernated. How do you take care of each other or probably rekindle this love?
Here are some ideas for singles and married couples.
Two Ways To Love Your Spouse 1. Communication
Stay in touch. Words are powerful; use them to your advantage. As singles, don’t let your courtship season be a memory of fights, quarrels, and arguments. Be mature with each other. Avoid being incommunicado.
Make it a rule; we must keep talking. That can be a powerful principle to live by as a married couple as well. The devil feasts on silence; assumptions will persist and complicate the issue because assumptions are the lowest form of knowledge.
What is a man looking for? Respect! What is a lady looking for? Love!
If you learn to communicate this, there will be less tension!
Singles should however note that it is wrong to say you are showing respect while you are disobeying God’s injunctions! More aptly put, you are not showing respect to your fiance by cooperating with him when he asks for sex!
2. Spirituals
Oh, pastor, what has this got to do with being romantic? It’s got a lot to do! Somebody said, in order to be romantic, read the book of Romans! Lol…
Well, candidly, your spiritual life as single or married can determine the success of your relationship or marriage.
There are two elements to your spiritual life: reading God’s word and praying to God. If you can make this regular and consistent, some order will come into your relationship/marriage.
As you read, you will come to understand God’s thoughts and plan for a good relationship or marriage.
As you pray, God will give you ideas, resources, and energy to take your relationship/marriage to the next level. Here are Two Ways To Love Your Spouse
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have the wisdom of God to the needful
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that God will teach and instruct you in the way to go
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye (Psalms 32:8 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discuss the issue of mentorship
Who Is The Right Woman For Marriage? George really loved Sally, beautiful and charming, but he felt her height wasn’t what he wanted. Deborah was spiritual and prayerful, but he felt, she wasn’t spiritual enough. Comfort was actually tall and but he felt she was too muscular because she was a Kungfu enthusiast. His brain taunted him with what could happen if a quarrel ensued. George had many ladies as close friends, his issue was not who to marry, but who to marry out of the numerous ladies who swarmed like bees around him.
George was simply confused. Would he marry like this? What exactly do you look for in a lady?
Yesterday, I started writing about what to look for in a godly woman. Let’s look at it more.
Who Is The Right Woman For Marriage?
2. She has a mentor or Pastor over her.
She is submissive to spiritual authority. If she is not submissive to spiritual authority, there may be issues afterward with submission.
When a lady has issues with parents, pastors, Uncles, and so on, the people are not the problem. The problem is that the lady has issues with authority figures. She doesn’t know what it means to submit. Probably she didn’t grow up with her dad, so she learned early to be independent.
Unless she renews her mind and decides to unlearn and learn, there will be serious issues in marriage.
Who Is The Right Woman For Marriage?
3. She is not a strange woman.
Only strange women go after men and look for sex! They are not even interested in the money that comes with it, they just wanted sex!
A good lady will want to keep her virtue!
At this junction, I must mention that there are genuine cases where it is not as if the lady in question is promiscuous, but she has been introduced to sex and sundries at a tender age and she has grown up sexually active. Esteem has been battered and sex is seen as the price to pay to get love.
To such ladies, sex is no different from any other thing. While this experience is not her fault, the reality is that she is not supposed to stay in this clime. Her background is not enough reason for her back to remain on the ground. With the help of God, she is to clean up and stay away from every compromise!
Sin shall not have dominion over you! It means you can be in control with the help of God’s Spirit. You see, the seed of God in you is life, and it doesn’t go together with a sinful lifestyle! If you find yourself, in this scenario, I want you to cry to God and ask for His help. He will send help to you! Or you can call me on phone, and we will deal with this perverse spirit that seeks to destroy your destiny!
I pray that God grants you more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have God’s wisdom to live right
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I resist every sinful trap in my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. (Romans 6:14 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to resist all appearances of evil
Job 19:25 (ERV) I know that there is someone to defend me and that he lives! And in the end, he will stand here on earth and defend me.
Day 1 – 3rd Oct
Ask God for Mercy!
Heb 4:16 (KJV) Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
2. Thanksgiving. Thank God for the last few months this year! Just use today to thank Him throughout. As you go about the day, let thanksgiving flow out of your heart! Be grateful. Worship Him. Use music if you can.
Thank God for your life, family, and friends. Thank God for your Pastors and mentors.
Remember to thank God for me for preserving me in the last 50 years. I will be fifty in a few days!
Thank God for your spouse and loved ones.
Day 2 – 4th Oct
Start with thanksgiving again.
Ask the Lord to DEFEND you in all areas!
Specifically mention different areas of your life where you have been cheated, scammed, rejected, abused, despitefully used, opposed, and so on, and ask God to DEFEND you!
Day 3 – 5th Oct
Thanksgiving
Pray in the Spirit for more than an hour. Two to three hours will be good. Wait on Him and listen to him to give you instructions for this month.
Write out declarations for this month which you will confess daily throughout based on what God has told you in the last three days!
Thank God because victory is sure this month!
NB – You can break your fast from 4pm. You can use water if necessary!
This Is What To Look For In A Wife. There are different kinds of ladies out there. There are godly ladies and ungodly ladies. There are born-again sisters and those who are not born again. There are those who have given their lives to Jesus at one time and have also collected back the life from Jesus after some time!
There are those who are born again but their minds are not renewed yet, hence, they still do all they used to do before they got born again. There are strange women which the scripture warned about. There are ladies who will genuinely be an addition to you because he that finds a “wife” finds good and obtains favour from the Lord!
Interestingly, you can find all these categories right in church! This morning, I want to tell you a few things to take note of ”
The scripture says “ He that finds a “wife,” not a sister!
So, the indication is that every lady must become a wife before being found! And this talks about your preparation, not relocating to your fiance’s house!
You are not supposed to move into his house before marriage to go and prove anything. That is not what we are talking about here. If he does not trust you enough to love and believe He has been led by God, then it may not be worth it. It is not scriptural for you to move into a guy’s house before marriage to go and cook, wash clothes, boxers, and singlets, nay, that is an affliction!
If a brother insists you should be pregnant before marriage, something is wrong somewhere, because he is more or less telling you to despise God’s commandments.
So if you agree and get pregnant, and then you are preparing for the wedding and it’s just two weeks away, God forbid, if there is a miscarriage, what happens? He will postpone the wedding? God has not called you into such sexual experiments, which translates to disobedience to God! That way, you risk losing God’s favour and support!
If you already made that mistake, it’s okay, don’t allow the devil to plummet you with agonizing guilt, ask for forgiveness and move on with your life. But if you are about to do such things, I stand as God’s mouthpiece and servant to let you know that it is not God’s plan for your life!
And you know what? You will have the greatest level of result and fulfillment when you are in God’s plan!
This Is What To Look For In A Wife
1. She is a genuine child of God, born again and spirit filled with the evidence of speaking in tongues.
Pastor, why speak in tongues? That is the power of Christianity! Without it, Christianity will be a bore. You have been configured to survive as a child of God with the help of the Holy Spirit, not without Him. He is the one that will help you live above sin!
Listen to me, there are certain things you will just not understand when you are not filled with the Holy Spirit! Do you know the Holy Spirit is the one that will help you identify the right spouse and warn you against wrong relationships? As a wife, do you know you need the help of the Holy Spirit to submit to your husband fully? This Is What To Look For In A Wife
I will conclude this tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have God’s wisdom to do the right thing
PRAYER FOR THE DAY I resist every sinful lifestyle in Jesus’ name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY For sin shall not have dominion over you: for ye are not under the law, but under grace. (Romans 6:14 KJV)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to stop all sinful lifestyles
