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You can’t afford to fail God or your spouse in your marriage. Apart from the fact that marriage is a wonderful relationship with the one you love, there is also the responsibility part. There is something always there to remind us of his truth. Yet for some of us our flesh, stubborn self, ego, revenge, the taste of tit for tat, strife, unforgiveness keeps us constantly with our spouse, like a mosquito always thirsty for blood.

When you view your marriage from another perspective, from the perspective of Covenant, it will change the way we view your marriage.

My husband, during our midweek service, taught along this line. It was such a blessing and it changed my perspective about my marriage forever. God is cutting a new covenant with His people. To God, our marriage is about the covenant and not just about our spouse.

And I will give them one heart and one purpose: to worship me forever, for their own good and for the good of all their descendants. And I will make an everlasting covenant with them: I will never stop doing good for them. I will put a desire in their hearts to worship me, and they will never leave me. I will find joy doing good for them and will faithfully and wholeheartedly replant them in this land. Jeremiah 32:39 – 41 NLT

More so, God was in Christ when He cut a new covenant with us by His blood. Jesus became both the offering and the offerer. When He had to fulfill the demands of the law to set us free from death and its consequences. Jesus took the cross, suffered great agony, endured such shame and pain that He might see us free.

When you begin to see your marriage as a vital art of you, that Jesus paid the price for you will sit up.

Just like the Israelites, Pharaoh wanted to negotiate them out of taking their children, livestock and all that belong to them. They were wise enough to know that God was giving them a total and complete deliverance that includes all they have.

Your marriage to God is all about the covenant. There is a higher purpose, there is a more important agenda in the father’s heart. Which is total deliverance.

Jesus didn’t just die for our spirit not to be lost in hell. He died for everything about our lives. Our health, children, marriage, finances, mental health, emotional life, everything.

We owe God to respond back in gratitude, faithfulness and obedience to our part of the covenant. Our part is to obey every instruction in the word.

For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything. For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. Ephesians 5:22 – 26 NLT

My marriage before God is obeying Ephesians chapter 5 verses 22 to 26, whether I feel like obeying or not, is not the issue.

That Jesus also despise the shame. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne. Hebrews 12:2 NLT

Necessity is laid on is to carry our cross of fulfilling our marriage covenant.

If you refuse to take up your cross and follow me, you are not worthy of being mine. Matthew 10:38 NLT

We become worthy of the sacrifice of Jesus when we carry our cross daily and follow Jesus. We carry our cross by obeying Him despite how or what we feel like doing.

To our spouse, our marriage is a responsibility that we must not fail to fulfill. It is spelt out in Ephesians 5: 22-26. What husbands should focus on doing as well as what wives should focus on doing. Here each party must focus on his/her part of the deal.

We owe our spouse to appropriately respond to our part in our covenant with them. To make sure we provide a conducive environment that will not leave our spouse vulnerable to the attacks and lies of the devil.

We owe our spouses to conduct ourselves in such a way that makes them comfortable in our presence. In being submissive, loving, caring, forgiving, available et cetera. We owe our spouses to be covenant partners in all ways and all aspects of our lives and existence. Whether spiritual, in the soulish realm, and physically.

But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys himself. He will be wounded and disgraced. His shame will never be erased. Proverbs 6:32 – 33 NLT

We owe our spouses to surround them so that we shut the door against the senseless and foolish sin of adultery and every form of emotional affairs.

May God grant us understanding.

God bless your marriage.

I will not fail God in my marriage

Lord, help me no to fail you.

then I will give them one heart and one way, that they may fear Me forever, for the good of them and their children after them. (Jer 32:39 NKJV)

Pray in the spirit

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