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Yes, we’ve only been kissing, nothing more.

If as singles not yet married, you are not cool at all!

You are more like carrying fire in your bosom! 

Okay pastor, show me in the scripture where kissing is wrong!

Well, you will never find anywhere in the scripture where the Bible says ‘thou shall not kiss! In fact, if the Bible says anything about it, it is the fact that we can kiss one another with a holy kiss! Why then do we make so much issue and big deal on what the scripture says we are advised or commanded to do?

So, let’s take a look at the scriptures.

Greet one another with an holy kiss. (2 Corinthians 13:12 KJV)

Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss. (1 Thessalonians 5:26 KJV)

Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you. (Romans 16:16 KJV)

So why would Pastor say that I should refrain from kissing my fiancé or fiancée when the Bible permits us of such? Ok, let’s take a deeper look.

It is true that the Bible says, we should kiss one another with a holy kiss, but you need to understand the cultural context under which that is said!

The Jews normally kiss one another with a kiss.

If you remember, Jesus was even saying at a time nobody offered him a kiss. That is because a kiss at the side of the mouth is a form of greeting in Jewish culture.

Thou gavest me no kiss: but this woman since the time I came in hath not ceased to kiss my feet. (Luke 7:45 KJV)

If you also see the scriptures above, they use the word “greet” and “salute” with a kiss. This Jewish cultural practice dates back to the Old Testament days.

And his father Isaac said unto him, Come near now, and kiss me, my son. (Genesis 27:26 KJV)

Having established that this is a Jewish cultural practice, we can understand that this is not our culture in this side of the world. The western world is also a little bit disposed to greeting with a kiss without lust attached. But in a place like Nigeria, we don’t greet with a kiss!

In our culture, (even though this is fast disappearing) when a boy wants to greet his father, in some part of Nigerian culture, he prostrates. A girl kneels down! As the lady grows older, she is taught to genuflect when she wants to give something to an older person.

My point? There are holy kisses and there are unholy kisses! The Jewish kiss is holy because it is a form of greeting! The Nigerian kiss is unholy because it is not a form of greeting! Period!

If I walk into a meeting to preach with my wife beside me, and one of the ushers grabs my wife and plants a kiss saying “welcome ma,” I am going to remove my suit and fight real good! 

Somebody will say, “but you are a pastor,” and I will say “Yes, and that is why I am fighting!” Why is that example funny? Because we don’t greet with kissing in this part of the world!

That is why we often do it behind doors!

If I am kissing my wife behind the church and you bump into us, you will have to apologize. If I bump into you kissing a girl you are not married to, you are still the one that will apologize!

The problem with kissing as we see it in this part of the world and why we say you should avoid it as much as possible, is that it will lead you into some other sexual sins! Before you know it, you are involved in Jericho trap!

Whatever you did the last time you met, will not satisfy you the next time you meet because intimacy will increase when two people are in love, which will keep calling for more physical expression. That is what the law of progression says. Sincerely, there is nothing wrong with a peck, but the question is will you stay on that alone? Your body will call for more!

I usually tell ladies, you cannot submit your lips to a guy for kissing like you are submitting a paper in the exam hall. If the guy is hungry, let him go to the market and buy Kpomo (a type of meat from cowhide). Must it be your mouth he turns into food?

As Married Couples, don’t stop kissing one another in marriage. Do it regularly and at all times! 

Singles, wait for your time, okay? Don’t fan the embers, stay off every form of iniquity!

A lady came into my office years ago with her mouth doubled up like she’s been hit. I said, “what’s wrong with you, who hit you?” She hesitated and she knew she couldn’t lie. So she said, “it is one rough kisser!” Can you imagine? 

That one is not a Jewish kiss, nor Nigerian kiss, that is a German kiss! Just kidding!

When you are married, if you like, you can decide to kiss from morning till evening. God will say, “Well done!” But not before marriage! 

The power of life and death lies in your mouth, keep it well. Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost! Respect it!

Married Couples, don’t stop kissing one another in marriage. Do it regularly and at all times! Singles, wait for your time, okay? Don’t fan the embers, stay off every form of iniquity and God will help you.

I discipline myself. I put my body under.

Ask for grace to stay chaste in thoughts, words, and deeds.

1 Corinthians 9:27 (KJV) But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.

Decide to stop kissing

1cor 9


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