Yes, we’ve only been kissing, nothing more.
If as singles not yet married, you are not cool at all!
You are more like carrying fire in your bosom!
Okay pastor, show me in the scripture where kissing is wrong!
Well, you will never find anywhere in the scripture where the Bible says ‘thou shall not kiss! In fact, if the Bible says anything about it, it is the fact that we can kiss one another with a holy kiss! Why then do we make so much issue and big deal on what the scripture says we are advised or commanded to do?
So, let’s take a look at the scriptures.
Greet one another with an holy kiss. (2 Corinthians 13:12 KJV)
Greet all the brethren with an holy kiss. (1 Thessalonians 5:26 KJV)
Salute one another with an holy kiss. The churches of Christ salute you. (Romans 16:16 KJV)
So why would Pastor say that I should refrain from kissing my fiancé or fiancée when the Bible permits us of such? Ok, let’s take a deeper look.
It is true that the Bible says, we should kiss one another with a holy kiss, but you need to understand the cultural context under which that is said!
The Jews normally kiss one another with a kiss.
If you remember, Jesus was even saying at a time nobody offered him a kiss. That is because a kiss at the side of the mouth is a form of greeting in Jewish culture.
Thou gavest me no kiss: but this woman since the time I came in hath not ceased to kiss my feet. (Luke 7:45 KJV)
If you also see the scriptures above, they use the word “greet” and “salute” with a kiss. This Jewish cultural practice dates back to the Old Testament days.
And his father Isaac said unto him, Come near now, and kiss me, my son. (Genesis 27:26 KJV)
Having established that this is a Jewish cultural practice, we can understand that this is not our culture in this side of the world. The western world is also a little bit disposed to greeting with a kiss without lust attached. But in a place like Nigeria, we don’t greet with a kiss!
In our culture, (even though this is fast disappearing) when a boy wants to greet his father, in some part of Nigerian culture, he prostrates. A girl kneels down! As the lady grows older, she is taught to genuflect when she wants to give something to an older person.
My point? There are holy kisses and there are unholy kisses! The Jewish kiss is holy because it is a form of greeting! The Nigerian kiss is unholy because it is not a form of greeting! Period!
If I walk into a meeting to preach with my wife beside me, and one of the ushers grabs my wife and plants a kiss saying “welcome ma,” I am going to remove my suit and fight real good!
Somebody will say, “but you are a pastor,” and I will say “Yes, and that is why I am fighting!” Why is that example funny? Because we don’t greet with kissing in this part of the world!
That is why we often do it behind doors!
If I am kissing my wife behind the church and you bump into us, you will have to apologize. If I bump into you kissing a girl you are not married to, you are still the one that will apologize!
The problem with kissing as we see it in this part of the world and why we say you should avoid it as much as possible, is that it will lead you into some other sexual sins! Before you know it, you are involved in Jericho trap!
Whatever you did the last time you met, will not satisfy you the next time you meet because intimacy will increase when two people are in love, which will keep calling for more physical expression. That is what the law of progression says. Sincerely, there is nothing wrong with a peck, but the question is will you stay on that alone? Your body will call for more!
I usually tell ladies, you cannot submit your lips to a guy for kissing like you are submitting a paper in the exam hall. If the guy is hungry, let him go to the market and buy Kpomo (a type of meat from cowhide). Must it be your mouth he turns into food?
As Married Couples, don’t stop kissing one another in marriage. Do it regularly and at all times!
Singles, wait for your time, okay? Don’t fan the embers, stay off every form of iniquity!
A lady came into my office years ago with her mouth doubled up like she’s been hit. I said, “what’s wrong with you, who hit you?” She hesitated and she knew she couldn’t lie. So she said, “it is one rough kisser!” Can you imagine?
That one is not a Jewish kiss, nor Nigerian kiss, that is a German kiss! Just kidding!
When you are married, if you like, you can decide to kiss from morning till evening. God will say, “Well done!” But not before marriage!
The power of life and death lies in your mouth, keep it well. Your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost! Respect it!
Married Couples, don’t stop kissing one another in marriage. Do it regularly and at all times! Singles, wait for your time, okay? Don’t fan the embers, stay off every form of iniquity and God will help you.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I discipline myself. I put my body under.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Ask for grace to stay chaste in thoughts, words, and deeds.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1 Corinthians 9:27 (KJV) But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Decide to stop kissing
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
1cor 9
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I receive wisdom and strength, amen
Good one Alfreta. God uphold you in Jesus name
I receive Grace to discipline myself.
I receive grace to be discipline always.
I disciplined, I put my body under, by the mercies of God I receive grace to stay chaste in my thoughts, words and deeds
God grant me more wisdom and strength over my relationship 🙏
I put my body under, my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit and I respect it. Thank you for today’s devotional.
Nice one. But, limiting kissing to being wrong in Nigeria alone is where I am confused. Is the Bible standard different from culture to culture or place to place?
Also, I think it’s possible that people from other nations of the world are reading this article. So, should those from Europe, Asia, Australia and America accept kissing and we in Africa reject it? I need more clarity
It is not limited to Nigeria or Africa. Nigeria is just a case study/example here. the word of God is the same, regardless of geographical locations.
I pray for grace to put my body under ijn
1 Thessalonians 5:22 NLT
[22]Stay away from every kind of evil.
2 Timothy 2:22 NLT
[22]Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts. Instead, pursue righteous living, faithfulness, love, and peace. Enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts.
Every appearance of evil includes kissing outside the confines of marriage because the end result of kissing is SEX, but for those of us who will not have sex till we get married because we are “disciplined”, but involved in kissing, something must sha happen. It is either we remove cloth, or we touch something…
2Tim2:22, underline the word STIMULATE. Whether we agree or not, kissing is a stimulus (it excites, it arouses). Uncle will get hard and aunt will get wet because kissing is progressive…..it cannot just end like that na…..lie lie! Sex begins with a kiss.
I never saw anything wrong with kissing oh….how can I be in a relationship and not “feel” my partner? What kind of boring relationship is that? I thought kissing was a form of commitment/bond. I thought it was an expression of love, It took me a very long time to realise that it is a gateway to fornication. It is a trap that doesn’t look like a trap.
I’m grateful for Shouts of Grace Center. My Father, Rev. Dunamis, has taught me that I can be in a relationship and not be involved in such because SELF CONTROL is still a fruit of the spirit and above all, God still has sons and daughters 🙌.
Therefore, I choose to honour God with my body. I flee from every and any appearance of evil. I put my body under.
Every kiss outside marriage can be likened to a brick, arrange alot of it together and you have a mighty mansion called Fornication.
I put my body under, my body is the temple of the lord, flesh doesn’t lord over me. In Jesus name, amen
Good illustration, Samuel. May God give Grace to put the body under in Jesus name
I receive the grace to be disciplined
I receive grace to wait for my time.
For this thing when done at the right time are usually sweet and sweeter than when stolen.
Omo…this one is a table shaking Devotional. I receive grace and strength to put my body under
Amen
I put my body under.. I discipline my flesh… I walk in the Spirit in the name of Jesus