This morning, I want to talk to all sisters, ladies, women, and to all guys and men who have ladies in their lives as siblings, wives, or otherwise.
The lady always ends up as the one who is hurt, used, and disadvantaged
She ought to be wiser!
When a relationship breaks or doesn’t work out, who gets hurt the most?
The guy or the lady?
When there is a disappointment concerning the wedding, who cries endlessly for days?
The guy or the lady?
When there is pre-marital sex, who is afraid of getting pregnant?
The guy or the lady?
When pregnancy is anticipated, who starts drowning in pills like a fowl?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes for all kinds of tests in the hospital?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the pain of abortion in the event of that?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the psychological trauma of murdering a life the most?
The guy or the lady?
Who combines psychological trauma with emotional pain and then with physical discomfort?
The guy or the lady?
If there were complications in the abortion process, whose body was affected?
The guy or the lady?
If a complication arises and life is threatened, who loses her life?
The guy or the lady?
If the womb is affected, who won’t be able to conceive eventually?
The guy or the lady?
If the decision is to have the baby, whose tummy protrudes?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through the seeming stigma of carrying an unwanted pregnancy?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through all the morning sickness?
The guy or the lady?
Whose body adjusts to the different trimesters with accompanying inconveniences?
The guy or the lady?
Who goes through labour pain, at that moment when a lady goes through enough pain that would drown any man and make a grown-up man cry like a baby?
The guy or the lady?
Hours or days before childbirth, who goes through the cramping, the tightening, the pounding, the stabbing, the back pain, the waves, the pressure, the pushing, and the exhaustion?
The guy or the lady?
Who becomes a “single mother?”
The guy or the lady?
Who does the breast-feeding afterward?
The guy or the lady?
I can go on and on….but wait a moment..
Who ought to be wiser? The guy or the lady?
But really, who seems to be unwise? The guy or the lady?
Overcoming Wicked Spirits That Manipulate and Deceive
Valentine’s is tomorrow! This wicked spirit will be in operation! Beware
What do I mean?
Yesterday, I established that the spirit realm is filled with good and bad spirits.
We are not supposed to yield to these bad spirits that are wicked. We are supposed to yield to the Spirit of God!
There are wicked spirits that operate through manipulation and deception.
How can one identify these spirits? How can one protect themselves from such influences?
Do you remember the story of Samson and Delilah?
Jdg 16:4 (KJV) And it came to pass afterward, that he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah.
Loving this particular woman was the beginning of Samson’s nemesis.
The lords of the Philistines have tried several means to snuff out the life of Samson but to no avail. They were frustrated each time. They resorted to using Delilah.
Delilah obliged having been promised some large chunk of money!
Three times, Samson deceived Delilah and in those three times, he saw clearly that Delilah was after his life!
But he still became a victim?
How?
There was the operation of wicked spirits employing manipulation and deception.
Jdg 16:15 (AMPC+) And she said to him, How can you say, I love you, when your heart is not with me? You have mocked me these three times and have not told me in what your great strength lies.
How many times have you heard this statement?
And you say you love me? That was what Delilah used and Samson fell for it. This same statement will fly around a lot on Valentine’s Day! Please don’t fall for it! Don’t lose your virginity if you still have one! And even if you are not one, don’t sleep around on that day!
The goal of this manipulative and deceiving spirit is constant harassment till you yield.
Jdg 16:16 (AMPC+) And when she pressed him day after day with her words and urged him, he was vexed to death.
Samson fell asleep on her lap!
A lot of destinies have fallen asleep, and hibernated under the influence of these wicked spirits!
You will not be caught sleeping when you should be awake in Jesus’ name!
Jdg 16:21 (MSG) The Philistines grabbed him, gouged out his eyes, and took him down to Gaza. They shackled him in irons and put him to the work of grinding in the prison.
They eventually caught him and the first thing was to take out his eyes! That is the goal of this wicked spirit, to make you stop reading and studying God’s word!
Your eyes will not be taken out!
We judge every wicked spirit operating through manipulation and deception in Jesus’ name!
Do you have a problem you are bothered about? Do you have an issue that has constantly unsettled you? Are you troubled?
Here is what Jesus Christ said about troubles.
These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. (John 16:33 KJV)
How I love this scripture! There will be tribulation, but be of good cheer because I have already overcome on your behalf. Then He said you can have peace during any trouble when you learn to heed what He has spoken unto you!
Here are three things concerning anything you are going through.
1. Your problem cannot last forever That is the number one problem of any problem. They don’t have a forever status. Listen to me, the problem you see today, the issues you see as grave today, that make you cry and weep, will not be there tomorrow. Egyptians were a generational problem to the Israelites, but one day, God said to the Israelites, the Egyptians you see today, you shall see no more! I feel you should start taking a last look at your problems because very soon, you shall see them no more! That is the word of the Lord unto you!
Problems are fickle, they are temporary, and they cannot last forever! The fruitful man has not always been fruitful, he was once barren, but today, he hardly remembers, because when God visits you, He will cause you to forget the shame of your youth!
This year, God will visit you! This year, God will turn His countenance upon you and cause it to shine endlessly upon you!
Covenants can often last a long time, but you see you were not covenanted into troubles and problems, you were covenanted into peace, and shalom, nothing missing, nothing broken, and that will be your experience in Jesus’ name! I speak peace into every storm now in Jesus’ name!
2. Your problem has an expiry date! One of my favorite scriptural phrases is “And it came to pass!” It is a remembrance and a pointer to the Almightiness of God, that what you are going through will soon become a thing of the past!
You cannot be single for life unless you so choose. But if you didn’t choose to be a nun, that singleness status will soon pass. Believe it, embrace it because that is the truth. The devil cannot overrule God’s timetable for your life. In God, your wedding will never be late; it can only be the latest in town!
3. Your problem has a name! The last problem that your problem has is that it has a name! Your problem made the mistake of having a name! If it is a sickness, it has a name. If it is a status, it has a name. If it is an emotional issue, it has a name! No form of affliction or oppression doesn’t have a nomenclature! And that is a mistake! Because the scripture says: Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name: That at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, of things in heaven, and things in earth, and things under the earth (Philippians 2:9-10 KJV)
There is a name ABOVE every other name! The source of the problem can choose to be from anywhere, in the sky where the prince of this world lives, in the earth where fellow men live, or beneath the earth where demonic powers often operate, all those are non-issues because, at the name of Jesus, every knee shall bow! Every trouble bows!
I challenge you today, to ignore that which you call a problem, and rejoice in the Lord your God who will soon fill your mouth with laughter!
You will soon share your testimony! It is our year of Boundless Opportunities on KHC, you will not miss them in Jesus’ name! I am so persuaded, I am so sure, that you will soon rejoice because this is a word of the Lord unto you this day!
What to do when you find yourself weak, down and out
Never Compromise! Delays can often make a person vulnerable. The pressures from people, friends, family, and the environment can create unbelievable pressures that quickly increase vulnerabilities to temptations. Now, I speak to you this morning, as by the Spirit of God, don’t compromise!
You see, never allow pressures to push into the “whoever-comes-corner! That is not your portion! You cannot end up with a wife-beater because of pressure! You cannot end up hooking up with a son of Belial because of pressures. You cannot dine with an adulterer because of pressure.
Listen to me, you have waited a while, your waiting will not be in vain! Your waiting will not culminate in shame! Your waiting will not be a ‘waste!”
God has you in mind and He will not fail you.
He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. (Isaiah 40:29 KJV)
When you are down and out, rather than turn to compromise, turn to God. He will lift you in that weak moment. It is not a sin to become weak, it only becomes a problem when you try to feed your weaknesses by compromise rather than turn to God. God is waiting to give power to the faint and increase in strength when you turn to him.
So, my dear, when you are so down and discouraged, when you are so weak and feel like crying all day, go back to God in that moment! He will speak to you and assure you of what He will do in your life.
When you feel like going back to the world, go to the throne of grace lest you become like the proverbial dog that went back to its vomit!
That will never be your portion. Continuing from the verse above
Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: (Isaiah 40:30 KJV)
Many people will fall around you. Many will go back and compromise and for a while, it would seem to be working for them. It would be like they are smart while you are so foolish! You cannot follow people; you are to follow God. Why? You’ll see it in the next verse.
But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31 KJV)
Let your waiting be a ‘waiting upon the Lord.” It will change your level, it will bring speed into your life, and you will be able to do a lot without getting tired.
It will all end in a testimony when you refuse to compromise in those vulnerable moments!
For those who are married and experiencing delay, in finances or particularly in childbirth, fill yourself with God’s word and never doubt God that He will do it this year! There is nothing wrong in going for a medical test and it doesn’t disturb your faith. It helps you to focus on the issues and be able to channel your spiritual energy to deal specifically with the situation.
All in all, be in agreement with your spouse. Avoid any form of hate that may lead to bitterness, for such can dissipate the anointing quickly. Don’t allow concerned family members to push into compromise of any sort, focus on God and you will surely see His salvation!
I pray for you this morning, that God will open your womb in Jesus’ name! Whatever could be the hindrance, low sperm count, blocked tubes, abnormal hormonal level, or whatever it is, by the anointing of God upon this ministry, we put a stop to it in Jesus’ name. Take a moment to pray in the Spirit for all waiting in God in this regard that God should visit them this year unfailingly in Jesus’ name!
3. Physical Attraction: A Balance of Spirituality and Reality
While spirituality holds significant weight, physical attraction should not be overlooked. Marrying someone you find attractive contributes to long-term happiness. Avoid the pitfall of spending decades with a partner solely for financial stability. Don’t marry somebody you are not attracted to physically, only because you are attracted to his or her money! Choose someone who brings joy and contentment to your life.
Balancing Spirituality and Attraction
Acknowledging the importance of physical attraction doesn’t diminish the spiritual aspects of a union. Strive for a balance that ensures both spiritual fulfillment and a genuine appreciation for your partner’s appearance.
Don’t come around and say God forced you to marry somebody you are not attracted to! God is an intelligent God and would not lead you into such afflictions!
4. Mutual Love and Romance: Nurturing the Connection
Love and romance form the bedrock of a successful marriage. Proverbs 5:19 emphasizes the significance of cherishing one another. Never take love for granted, and make a conscious effort to fill your heart with thoughts of your spouse.
Nurturing Love and Romance
Delight in your partner’s presence, appreciate their qualities and nurture a connection filled with love and romantic gestures. Cultivate an environment where both partners continuously express affection.
Don’t be too spiritual to the point of being insensitive to your spouse!
5. Purpose and Destiny Alignment: Ensuring a Fulfilling Union
Above all, aligning with your partner’s purpose and destiny is paramount. Marriage should enhance, not overshadow, your love for God. Discussing life’s purpose, dreams, and alignment of minds becomes crucial.
Singles, discover “purpose” before the “propose!”
Fulfillment Beyond Marriage
Guard against losing fulfillment in God’s purpose due to the demands of marriage. If already married and feeling adrift, turn to prayer for guidance. Just as Joseph dreamt another dream, God can provide a new vision and heart fulfillment.
