This Is How To Be Intimate With Your Spouse

This Is How To Be Intimate With Your Spouse

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The ultimate goal of every marriage is for both the husband and the wife to grow increasingly in love and intimate with each other.

When you look at your marriage, can you say of the truth that you and your spouse are growing in love?

You may start out not being so close with each other in terms of understanding each other, but as the years roll by, you should be growing in intimacy.

However, it takes some couples longer years to grow to that level of intimacy. Some couples are like cat and mouse. They have not been able to work out their differences.

It is like a rat race, the husband always wants the wife to be exactly like him and vice versa. They always want to fashion their wife into what they want or what they feel she should be like. The same thing with the wife, always trying to make her husband into her image of what a husband should be.

God has not called us to the ministry of changing our spouses. It is a futile ministry, a ministry that will never prosper. If anything, you will end up having a spouse who is a clone of himself or herself.

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Allow your spouse to grow at his/her pace.  Don’t try to change your spouse. Your spouse is not essentially your primary responsibility in terms of monitoring him /her. Do more prayer and intercession for your spouse and allow God to get through to him/her.

Don’t let us be too hasty in judging our spouse. Let’s learn to rather commend them to God and to the word of his grace which is able to build up and give them an inheritance among them that are sanctified, as instructed in Acts 20:32

Here are some characters to watch out for that can hinder intimacy in marriage

1. Immaturity
Learn to handle things in your marriage maturely. Learn to separate issues from your spouses’ personality.

2. Being temperamental
When you are too strong on your personality or being a difficult person.

3. Being too emotional

4. Not forgiving easily

5. Not respecting your spouse as an individual and God’s child.

6.  Not being easy to talk with

7.  Lack of understanding
If you don’t understand that you and your spouse are different and that you see things from different standpoints, intimacy is going to be difficult

All these and much more are things that can prevent any marriage from experiencing the intimacy they so much desire.

God bless your marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I choose to be intimate with my spouse

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Oh Lord, teach me how to love my spouse with all my heart

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Gen 2:24[NKJV] Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
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BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Eccl 1


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Five Levels of Communication – Part 3

Five Levels of Communication – Part 3

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In our concluding part, I will be talking about how your marriage can move up on the level of communication and become an intimate couple. The goal in every marriage should be to know each other and be as intimate with your spouse as much as possible.

We stopped at level 3 communication. Today, we will be looking at levels 4 and 5.

Level 4: Emotional Talk.

‘Let me tell you, How I feel’.

In this fourth level of Communication, we share our feelings. When our feelings are shared, we share ourselves. Because we are what and how we feel.

We are simply making ourselves vulnerable. When we share with our mate how we feel, the intention is not whether we are right or wrong. We mostly don’t want to be judged because of how we feel. We just need our spouse to listen, understand and accept that, thats the way we feel.

We kill intimacy when we are quick to judge the feeling. Am not saying we should not correct but first acknowledge your spouse feelings.

It is difficult for most people to share their feelings than their thoughts. These are 2 very different things

‘I feel that guy is a thief’.
‘I feel, the car will break down’
‘I am thinking the issue with the woman is not natural’.

When you share your feelings you are expressive. When you don’t share your deepest feelings, a path of you is left hidden or covered. When you share your feelings, you are vulnerable, open, unashamed, no inhibitions.

Couple should aim at growing together into this fourth level of Communication, to enjoy a higher level of intimacy.

There is still the fifth level which is highest level of Communication.

Level 5 of Communication.

Loving, Genuine Truth Talk

‘Let’s Be Honest’.

This level allows us to speak the truth in love. It is a place of honesty without condemnation.

Most couples are finding out that such open, honest and loving communication enhances a much deeper level of intimacy. Where couples can share their feelings and thoughts without feeling unsafe. Both have a sense of safety and security. This requires an attitude of acceptance.

You know your spouse understands you even if they don’t agree with you.

We can always agree to disagree without shaming ourselves or making us look like less smart.

We can have differing opinions and still be friends. No hurts, no guilt, no condemnation and we are still good to go.

We can’t be the same. Remember, acceptance is the key.

We may start out on the first level of Communication, bit please don’t let us remain there.

As a couple we should aim at moving higher in the way we relate, understand and communicate with each other.

This will require certain level of work and being intentional about getting to understand your spouse.

The higher we grow in our Kevel of communicating with ourselves the more intimate we grow with our spouse.

I pray God will grant us wisdom and grace and help is all to communicate better in Jesus name.

God bless our marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I know how to communicate with my wife

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, give me wisdom

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 5:22 KJV Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
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