What A Lady Expects From Her Lover. We are going to be looking at five things that a lady expects from her lover.
1. She expects that she would be genuinely loved Every lady wants to be loved. The need for love can be so strong that ladies can give their body to get it, but sadly, they never get it that way. Love can never be gotten on the platform of sexual compromise.
Husbands love your wife, so says the scripture because God knows this is a great need of women. If you are not going to love her genuinely, let her be!
Don’t leave that beautiful, vivacious lady depressed, despondent and disappointed! Love her genuinely!
2. She expects that he is no longer living in sin A believer does not live habitually in sin. He can make mistakes, but that is different from a habitual sinful lifestyle. He is not constantly talking about some hyper-grace message in other to keep living in sexual sins.
Rom 6:1-2 (KJV) What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? [2] God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein?
She does not want the man that would spend hours trying to show her in the Bible why sexual sin is not really a sin!
3. She expects himto pray for her Every lady wants a priest! A priest, not a pest! Honestly as a man, if you cannot pray for her, if you cannot take spiritual responsibility and provide spiritual leadership, leave her alone!
Don’t tag along into marriage with that attitude. Being a man is not just about pointing your nozzle and filing tanks all over the place, it is about leadership and modeling God to her and the children.
It’s a huge responsibility! What Else Does A Lady Expect from her Lover?
4. She expects that he will not take advantage of her She wants a man that will not take advantage of her! She wants a protector, a man of integrity, a head, not a headache, a gardener, not a scavenger. Are you in that lady’s life to take advantage of her? Don’t do it, remember seed time and harvest.
A lady expects you will not capitalize on her weaknesses to set her up. She expects you will not use all info about her against her eventually.
5. She expects that he is responsible and will be able to care for her Finally, a lady expects to be cared for. As a man, be responsible. If you are out of job, find a work. Sometimes, the loss of a job or inability to get a job while your other friends are getting could be an avenue to lead you into the discovery of God’s purpose for your life.
It takes a wicked man to willfully and deliberately rip apart a lady’s once peaceful life. God judges such things! If you are not going to care for her, stop telling her lies.
If you want her as a side chick, you will bring chaos into your life and her own. Ladies, allowing yourself to be labelled as a side-chick is an embarrassment on your dignity in God.
Disallow such. Why be a side-chick when you can be the main and the only chick?
Your husband cometh! Do not give up on God! These are What A Lady Expects From Her Lover. Be blessed
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be shortchanged
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, surround me with your favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 6:1 (MSG) So what do we do? Keep on sinning so God can keep on forgiving?
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Read a good book on relationships
How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage. When the devil wants to finish a person, he would plant bitterness in the person’s heart.
It could be bitterness toward men or towards God.
However, it is, bitterness will cripple every good thing that God is trying to do in your life.
Heb 12:15 (KJV)
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
The grace of God over a man would fail when bitterness is allowed.
Grace for finances will fail.
Grace to have a good marriage will fail.
Grace to succeed in business will fail.
Grace for financial abundance will fail.
Not only that, bitterness will not only affect the one that is bitter, the scripture says it will cause many to be defiled.
And then, the scripture calls it the root of bitterness!
Roots are hidden, but they are there!
Roots are not visible, but they are responsible for everything happening to the plant.
Their invisibility should never be interpreted as impotence.
This is the same way it is, bitterness will not show on the face, but it will take over that person’s life.
Like the root within the soil, the fruits will come forth.
Like the bitterness within the heart, the fruits will wreak havoc.
Just as the root is responsible for the kind of fruits that eventually come forth, bitterness will ensure that wrong fruits come forth.
Bitterness would literally cause praise to be suffocated.
Learn to laugh like a little child!
Don’t let the bitterness of past relationships and disappointments of the past keep you from the reality of today’s praise!
Praise is powerful. You must learn How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage.
Thank God for where you are.
Thank God for where He is taking you.
Praise your way out of rejection.
Praise your way out of delay.
Praise your way out of generational curses.
Praise your way out of diabolical influences.
Praise is a potent weapon.
Praise puts a sword into your hands.
Psa 149:6-9 (KJV) Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a twoedged sword in their hand; [7] To execute vengeance upon the heathen, and punishments upon the people; [8] To bind their kings with chains, and their nobles with fetters of iron; [9] To execute upon them the judgment written: this honour have all his saints. Praise ye the LORD.
The moment high praises are in your mouth, a two-edged sword will be placed in your heart!
You don’t need to take vengeance on people, praise will handle it.
Praise will punish destiny offenders.
Praise will bind erring kings with chains.
Praise will execute the judgment written.
All saints have this honor.
What honour?
To praise your way into victory.
To lift up your voice without lifting your hands.
Praise! This is How To Praise Your Way Into Marriage.
Keep praising!
You will surely see that salvation of God in Jesus’ name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a God-praiser
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me reasons to praise you for the rest of my life
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 149:5 (KJV) Let the saints be joyful in glory: let them sing aloud upon their beds.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Schedule a praise time for today!
How To Tongue Your Way Into Marriage. I practically tongued my way into marriage! Literally! There is tremendous power available for you as a believer, to get anything you want, to create the kind of life you want, and to superimpose the grace and power of God upon any situation.
You can have victory every time and anytime, only if you know the vast power that lies in your belly.
“Oh, common Pastor, I am not for that tongue business! I am good as I am!”
Well, you may be ignorant! Really!
“How can I be speaking some strange language?”
Because there are strange troubles in this world!
“Well, how can I be saying something I don’t understand?”
Because there are impossible situations you wouldn’t understand!”
“So I will now be speaking a little child?”
Unless you come as a child, you really cannot receive anything!
Mar 10:15 (MSG) Mark this: Unless you accept God’s kingdom in the simplicity of a child, you’ll never get in.”
That’s quite punchy! Arrogant people have no place here!
And the combination of ignorance and arrogance is not a nice idea!
How To Tongue Your Way Into Marriage
Isa 28:11-12 (KJV) For with stammering lips and another tongue will he speak to this people. [12] To whom he said, This is the rest wherewith ye may cause the weary to rest; and this is the refreshing: yet they would not hear.
The scripture says there is a rest that awaits you as you pray in the Spirit.
Rest from delays, from broken hearts, disappointing relationships, and rest from froward men who are liars!
Rest from strange women as well! If you have been weary from the stress that comes with wrong relationships, there is a rest and a refreshing.
But the sad part is the concluding part, YET THEY WOULD NOT HEAR!
Don’t be part of those that would not hear! They prefer to do things their own way, so that rest eludes them.
They prefer to experiment with online dating, so refreshing is far! There is nothing like cyber-refreshing!
They prefer to learn from experiences rather than from wisdom, wasting many years of falling in love with a man that was never in love and then all ending in frustration!
There is rest! It is in the place of speaking in tongues There is a rest and a refreshing!
It is in the place of taking time and spending time in God’s presence and praying in the Holy Ghost!
I am not talking about thirty minutes, but some hours of sustained praying in the Holy Ghost, moving heavens on your behalf, causing a rain of favor to come upon you, causing heaven to move on your behalf, and releasing unprecedented blessings like never before!
There is a hurricane of favor and blessing you can only access as you stir the river, for out of your belly shall rise rivers of living water!
Rather than complaint, pray in the Spirit. Rather than get depressed and despondent, pray! I pray that you receive strength now to pray! This is How To Tongue Your Way Into Marriage
You will enter into that rest in marriage in Jesus’ name!
Waters of refreshing will move over your soul, life, and destiny! Rejuvenation and fresh energy are your portions in Jesus’ name!
Your love life will not be a waste!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am refreshed
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me rest in my relationship
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 28:11 (CEV) So, the Lord will speak to his people in strange sounds and foreign languages.
Here’s What To Do When All Fails. Sandy believes something is wrong with her. Her biological clock ticks without consideration. How she wished she could do with a Pause button. Relationships after relationships are failing. Nothing seems to be working.
She will begin a relationship and everything seems to be working fine, but then, in a moment and without warnings, it crashes. And then it happens again and again.
Each time, she approaches a new relationship, trusting, believing, and praying that it would work out. But nothing worked, except that she was getting worked up.
What do you do as a child of God at such times? How do you get out of the rut of failure after failure?
That is what I want to teach you this morning with the help of the Holy Spirit.
Here’s What To Do When All Fails Letting Go of All Offences The important thing is to get rid of all offenses and every form of bitterness. If you romance with bitterness, it will stop any good thing you might be trying to start.
Heb 12:15 (KJV) Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
The scripture calls it a root. You don’t get to see the root of a plant, but it is surely there.
Bitterness can be submerged in the belly without showing forth its dangerous fruits until much later when more damage would have been done.
I know your “Ex” hurt you and did the unbelievable and unthinkable! But that is not enough for you to now discard the blessing!
Don’t stop yourself as a result of that!
Your parents did this and that.
One friend betrayed you.
The other person stabbed you in the back, and then in the front!
The list is endless, but whatever anybody has done to you, you must make up your mind to forgive!
Let God handle it. Let God fight for you!
Don’t allow the emotions of hatred to have the better part of you.
You really don’t want anybody’s foolishness to become your own folly.
Bitterness can scatter that new relationship.
The Bible says bitterness is a root and can spring up from nowhere, and many other relationships, opportunities, and doors will be defiled!
John the Baptist died because of offense. When he had a problem with his spiritual leader, his spiritual head, his physical head followed. Don’t let the daughter of one insignificant child of the devil request for your head. Don’t let your head become one of the awards on a prize giving day!
Deal with bitterness. Confront it.
Bitterness and iniquity are cousins. They work together.
Act 8:23 (KJV) For I perceive that thou art in the gall of bitterness, and in the bond of iniquity.
Ask God to help you.
If you have to cry, gladly do that so that your destiny can gather motion.
Extra luggage will attract extra costs. You don’t need that luggage that is weighing you down.
With those dangerous emotions, you cannot fly like an eagle.
That is why a suitcase is weighed when you want to fly in the air. But as long as you remain on the ground, nobody really cares about your luggage.
May your destiny not be permanently assigned to the ground. May you mount up like an eagle! May you fulfill destiny!
There are people reading this who just went through a breakup. You have been disappointed, left in the cold, abandoned, and discarded like unwanted trash.
Don’t cry too much, a little is okay. Don’t sulk, rather deal with your heart. Protect your heart from bitterness.
And let God compensate you for the loss! I pray that God will give you more understanding!
Be blessed and have a beautiful, productive, and blessed day in Jesus’ name!
We love you and we celebrate you!
Greatness beckons, you will not miss it! Here’s What To Do When All Fails
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am free from all offenses
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, heal me and cleanse my heart of all hurts and bitterness THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 4:31 (KJV) Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:stickers
Are All Men Scum? All men are scum! Really? If that is what you believe, that is what you might keep attracting! All men are not scum! You cannot use a personal experience to summarize everybody!
Most men will ‘toast’ you and promise you heaven and earth, but a faithful man who can find?
Most men will tell you they are the best, but a faithful man who can find?
Most men will claim they love you more than anybody, more than their mothers, but a faithful man who can find?
Most men will tell you how much they will take care of you, but a faithful man who can find?
Are All Men Scum?
No be today dem day find man way go day faithful o! E don dey since Bible time! See am!
Pro 20:6 KJV Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
The word from which ‘faithful’ is translated from the Greek is ‘emun’ which means ‘trusty’ or ‘trustworthiness.’ In essence, the question above is ‘most men are good toasters, but who can find a man that can be trusted?
David made the situation worse when he said
Psa 12:1 KJV Help, LORD; for the godly man ceaseth; for the faithful fail from among the children of men.
Are there good husbands at this age? Will one ever find a man that will love God and love his wife as well?
Are there still men who will not compromise and cheat on their wives? Are there still men that will not pounce on the tempting house girl? Are there still men that will remain faithful even if they have traveled to places where sex is available and almost free?
Well, there are still faithful men! Elijah went before God and said he is the only one that remains. God said, ‘you are wrong, there are still thousands that would not bow to Baal.’
The issue is that the moment you conclude in your heart that “all men are evil,’ that is the kind of men you keep attracting! You see, you cannot make conclusions about men generally because of a few bad trends and experiences with men.
There are still faithful men, and there is a man that God has for you!
If you will trust God to lead you and guide you in making decisions, he will surely help you out.
But if you decide to do it your own way, try to buy your way into a man’s heart by offering your body, it usually wouldn’t work out because that is not God’s order. Are All Men Scum?
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I receive the grace to do it God’s way and not my way
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Ask God for wisdom and direction in your daily affairs
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 12:1 (AMPC) HELP, LORD! For principled and godly people are here no more; faithfulness and the faithful vanish from among the sons of men.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Study “faithfulness” in the scriptures
One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You. Things are not going fine. You are not happy. You don’t even know where the problem is coming from.
You have prayed, fasted and even sought counsel and nothing seems to be working.
You are even at the point of compromising your faith or you have even done so out of frustration and done what you knew was clearly wrong!
Like it is often said, “the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”
Well at this point, when you have done all you know to do, and you don’t know what else to do, here is what to do!
Mercy! Lord!
That is One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You
I guess when Apostle Paul said to pray without ceasing, this is the kind of prayer point he has in mind!
1Th 5:17 (KJV) Pray without ceasing.
See another translation:
1Th 5:17 (TPT) Make your life a prayer.
Again this is corroborated in the book of Hebrews.
Heb 4:16 (KJV) Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.
If you read it backward, it will say something like this:
In the time of need, you should find grace after obtaining MERCY, by coming boldly to the throne of grace!
Mercy over my relationship!
Mercy over my life!
Mercy over my finances.
Mercy over my decisions.
Consciously ask for His mercy all day long and you will see God intervene in your situation! This is One Prayer That Shouldn’t Leave You
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY The mercy of God will work for me
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, have mercy on me!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 4:16 (AMPC) Let us then fearlessly and confidently and boldly draw near to the throne of grace (the throne of God’s unmerited favor to us sinners), that we may receive mercy [for our failures] and find grace to help in good time for every need [appropriate help and well-timed help, coming just when we need it].
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Meditate on God’s mercy today!
Don’t let Anything Faze You! The present times require that you are resolute in your walk with God and that you know what you are doing!
This present age is hostile to easily deceived people! And yeah, we all know the devil is the master deceiver. He seeks to deceive you by any possible means. The very reason why you have to know what you are doing as a child of God and refuse to be tossed to and fro!
The scripture refers to some people as unscrupulous con men! They are out to exploit the faith! Check it out in the Message Translation.
2Ti 3:13-14 (MSG) Unscrupulous con men will continue to exploit the faith. They’re as deceived as the people they lead astray. As long as they are out there, things can only get worse. [14] But don’t let it faze you. Stick with what you learned and believed, sure of the integrity of your teachers—
Oh, I love it, Don’t let these wicked humans faze you! In other words, in places where you have been deceived, abused, exploited, manipulated, short-changed, jilted, treated unjustly, and so on, do not allow such experiences to expunge you from the faith! Don’t let Anything Faze You!
The devil wants you obliterated from the kingdom! Do not cooperate with that agenda! Do not plug yourself into his evil plot! Rather cooperate with heaven’s agenda and all that is lost will be restored.
Never allow any human being to make you decide against God or loathe the things of God! It says, stick with what you have learned! I pray this week finds you in pleasant places, I pray God hearkens and honours your prayers and I declare that this week, God will fill your mouth with laughter indeed! Don’t let Anything Faze You! Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I remain steadfast in God!
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the strength to stick with you, no matter what
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2Ti 3:14 (TPT) Yet you must continue to advance in strength with the truth wrapped around your heart, being assured by God that he’s the One who has truly taught you all these things.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from all who are causing you to trip
Don’t Fall Like A Pack Of Cards. The pressures are mounting, the environment is intense, the media is saturated with sexualized content, the phones are bombarded with explicit content, and x-rated videos are uploaded daily, available at just a scroll away on your gadgets.
Sex toys are advertised openly, the bum and the breasts are jiggled and wiggled to attract followers; the voluptuousness of the breasts and rotundity of the backside are now money-spinning assets. Nudity is nothing again, indeed, these days are living up to what the scriptures declared:
2Ti 3:1-7 (MSG) Don’t be naive. There are difficult times ahead. [2] As the end approaches, people are going to be self-absorbed, money-hungry, self-promoting, stuck-up, profane, contemptuous of parents, crude, coarse, [3] dog-eat-dog, unbending, slanderers, impulsively wild, savage, cynical, [4] treacherous, ruthless, bloated windbags, addicted to lust, and allergic to God. [5] They’ll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they’re animals. Stay clear of these people. [6] These are the kind of people who smooth-talk themselves into the homes of unstable and needy women and take advantage of them; women who, depressed by their sinfulness, take up with every new religious fad that calls itself “truth.” [7] They get exploited every time and never really learn.
Well, the days are here! But God expects you to raise the standard. He doesn’t expect you to fall like a pack of cards when flipped or drop like hot potatoes at the slightest provocation!
Don’t Fall Like A Pack Of Cards. You are a believer! God’s child! You cannot be sending nudes because you want some clout! You cannot be masturbating like it’s just the norm. You cannot be offering oral like it’s just Oral English!
I don’t want to go on and on, I just want you to wake up this morning to the reality of who you are in Him!
And of course, if you have strolled away from God, you are not condemned. But He won’t condone those acts either.
So go back to your maker. Then let your spirit man be nude with Him. Ask for mercy and rekindle your fire for Him.
Remember this, nobody serves God the right way and loses. He will fight for you. He will favour you and cause all things to work together for your good! Jesus is waiting for you now, this every moment! Get back to Him and rekindle your love for Him! He will fill your inner man with strength at this moment! Go ahead and talk to him now!
Have a fantastic weekend! Don’t Fall Like A Pack Of Cards!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Father, create a new spirit within me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2Ti 3:5 (MSG) They’ll make a show of religion, but behind the scenes they’re animals. Stay clear of these people.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Clean up today and get new fire!
Why Can’t I Get Someone To Love Me? Before anybody can love you, believe me, you have to love yourself.
Yes, love yourself!
The most Herculean task anybody can embark on is to start loving persons who do not love themselves.
Oh, what a frustrating journey!
The junctions and stops of that pathway is laced with depression, quarrels, several blue days, and emotional blackmails. That is just to mention a few.
Depression will be constant because the person will be most unhappy, always falling into comparison traps and never appreciating himself or herself.
2Co 10:12 (KJV) For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
Why Can’t I Get Someone To Love Me?
Constant quarrels will percolate the relationship because the other lover will be mostly confused as to why unhappiness clouds the relationship. It is a truism that men are confused when their lover is unexcited about them.
No energy, no passion, no excitement, no anticipation, just going through the motions! It is noteworthy that a relationship can be like that and yet filled with pre-marital sex! They would think sex would solve the problem but it would actually add to the confusion.
Several blue days because the devil will plow such a mind, make negative suggestions, plant assumptions, dampen the little morale left and fill the mind with condemnation darts. The presence of such a person is an effulgence of negative vibes!
Emotional blackmails because such a person is good at excuses, always explaining why things went that way, blaming others for his woes, and making his or her lover take the blame for the failures.
The beginning of solving this issue is to resolve the identity crisis, take a journey into God’s word to discover what God says about you, start refusing negative thoughts and suggestions from the devil, and start walking in the Spirit. Walking in the Spirit means listening to hear God and following His direction and wisdom!
Why Can’t I Get Someone To Love Me? One thing you can also do immediately is to saturate your life with the truth of God’s word. Light will always dispel the darkness!
Lastly, be truthful with yourself and stop living in denial. Nobody is able to deal with any situation while still in denial. Confrontation is part of the process of repentance!
May God bless you today!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love myself and I understand who I am in Christ
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, open my eyes to see me!
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2Co 10:12 (TPT) Of course, we wouldn’t dare to put ourselves in the same class or compare ourselves with those who rate themselves so highly. They compare themselves to one another and make up their own standards to measure themselves by, and then they judge themselves by their own standards. What self-delusion!
Communication In Courtship Is A Sign. George and Sally are in love or so they claim. George had promised Sally marriage immediately they met. Sally’s joy knew no bounds. She was thankful that her “single years” are about to end.
However, rather than for the love to become established and grow, doubt increased in her. George was working in Port- Harcourt while Sally was in Lagos. George stopped calling, practically. Sally was doing the calling, making efforts while George kept saying he was busy.
Communication became a one-way street. Sally became the pursuer as she sensed that George was not going to change.
In no time she came frustrated and she gave up. The relationship came to a resounding crash.
On the part of Sade and Bode, it was Sade that stopped picking calls. Bode was confused since they are at different locations as well. She would say she was tired, she replied to chats with monosyllables, and some were not replied to until three days later. He eventually got the message and moved on!
My point this morning, once communication begins to die, that relationship will die as well.
Don’t spend your courtship years tearing yourselves apart in quarrels here and there because precious moments of communication will be lost.
Once this attitude and habit are taken into marriage, it can really be frustrating.
People in love talk! They want to talk all the time. The moment you see that communication is dwindling, there is an issue there. Communication In Courtship Is A Sign
The moment he tells you he is too busy and that you should already know he loves you, there is a problem.
The moment she is withdrawn and not talking and yet she is talking to others, there is a problem.
The moment you are seen as a nuisance without any cause as it were, there is an issue.
I pray God will grant you wisdom indeed!
Be blessed today in Jesus’ name! Communication In Courtship Is A Sign
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be deceived. I am sensitive to the Holy Spirit
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Father lead me into your ordained relationship for me and teach me to work at it.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gen 11:6 (KJV) And the LORD said, Behold, the people is one, and they have all one language; and this they begin to do: and now nothing will be restrained from them, which they have imagined to do.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be committed to your relationship through consistent communication
After Failed Relationships, What Next? Hey! This must be my village people o!
Sandy has been in five relationships! Not one lasted a whole year! She moved from one guy to another seeking true love, but true love evaded her. She ended up being used by guys who could sense she was needy.
She began to feel something is wrong with her! Is something wrong with her? Is she under a curse? Her the village people meeting over her case at the village square under the Banana tree?
Let’s get into this!
There is nothing negative about failed relationships. It simply means you still need to learn more. What is negative there is refusing to learn and repeating the same mistakes over and over again.
In itself, nothing is negative about missing it. Even the Bible attested to that.
Pro 24:16 (KJV) For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief.
Staying down by repeating the same issues is where the problem is.
So after failed relationships, what next? I will talk about one out of several things you can do.
Sit down. Calm down. Be calming down! Smiles.
Don’t be a Boy Scout! Don’t be jumpy! Cool those hot hormones.
The scriptures advise you to do the same.
Psa 46:10 (KJV) Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.
Be still! Hey, don’t rush into another relationship! It is in your stillness that you know God in your situation!
I particularly love the Message Translation:
Psa 46:10 (MSG) “Step out of the traffic…
After Failed Relationships, What Next?
Get out of the traffic of pursuing guys or ladies who don’t love you, of offering your body to get love, of allowing yourself to be emotionally manipulated all in the name of love! That is one traffic that is worse that Lagos traffic!
May God grant you more understanding! Have a fantastic day!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be hasty. I am teachable.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, teach me to be patient and wait on you
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psa 46:10 (AMPC) Let be and be still, and know (recognize and understand) that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations! I will be exalted in the earth!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Don’t rush into another relationship within six months of a failed relationship.
Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover. Whatever you are experiencing now is a snapshot of the whole marital album, it is a trailer of the season movies in your marriage. Rev. Dunamis Okunowo
Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover. We are looking at The Incredible Hulk as a type of man or woman not to marry.
In the cinemas, the hulk brings himself to high levels of gamma radiation which results in his transformation into a monstrous green being, whenever he experiences negative emotions.
One type of man or woman you cannot marry is that man who looks cool on an average day but who turns into a monster at any little provocation as a result of anger that is uncontrollable
The hulk is known for turning into a monster when he’s livid with anger and causes destruction all over the place.
Yes, there are people who become destructive when they are angry. They will break stuff, destroy things and let out their anger in ridiculous ways.
The scripture clearly advises that you do not marry such a person. In fact, it says that you don’t become friends with persons with uncontrollable anger not to talk of falling in love with them.
Falling in love with a lover who has uncontrollable anger is like falling in love with a nemesis, as even your life is not safe, neither is theirs!
Pro 22:24 (KJV) Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:
A word is enough for the wise. Don’t let anybody damage your exterior because you are in love!
Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover. How do you know an angry person?
The Hebrew word used in the above verse is “ânaph” which means to “breathe hard or to be enraged.”
You would know angry persons from their countenance, mien, reactions, outbursts, tones, body language, and dispositions.
The Message Translation puts it this way:
Pro 22:24 (MSG) Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hotheads.
Yet another translation says
Pro 22:24 (GNB) Don’t make friends with people who have hot, violent tempers.
Perhaps, an even more risky arrangement is two angry people getting married. They will not likely go far in their marital journey before crashing their love vehicle with irreparable damages.
There were two angry brothers who came together in anger. It all ended in tears. They were scattered, divided.
Gen 49:5-7 (KJV) Simeon and Levi are brethren; instruments of cruelty are in their habitations. [6] O my soul, come not thou into their secret; unto their assembly, mine honour, be not thou united: for in their anger they slew a man, and in their selfwill they digged down a wall. [7] Cursed be their anger, for it was fierce; and their wrath, for it was cruel: I will divide them in Jacob, and scatter them in Israel.
As you can see, it is not really worth it getting married to an incredible hulk who will get angry at no notice, who will manipulate your emotions and beg you, but the damage is done and the next feud of anger could be the next moment.
Why live with a person with whom you have to hold a knife around you just in case?
Why subject your tender emotions to a violent emotion whose expression makes you a victim all the time?
Why get beaten over and over again till you are almost losing your mind because this person exhibits a dual personality or bipolar tendencies?
Today he is calm, loving, and romantic, the next moment, there is a lump on his head and he is fuming as if he will strangle you.
As a single, why allow him/her to make love to you and then make mincemeat of you the next moment?
Why give blow jobs (which is sinful in itself as singles) only to take back blows on your head?
Whoever did this to you does not love you! Are you really planning a wedding with such a person? Sit down and think, prayerfully, if that is what you want all your life.
Whatever you are experiencing now is a snapshot of the whole marital album, it is a trailer of the season movies in your marriage.
If you don’t like what you are seeing now, then run for your life! Run From The Incredible Hulk Lover
I think I will stop here this morning.
I pray that God will give you more understanding and guide you into a great marriage in Jesus name! Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will marry right
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to the right person for me.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 22:24 (AMP) Do not even associate with a man given to angry outbursts; Or go [along] with a hot-tempered man,
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Ask that the eyes of your understanding be opened.
Don’t Marry The Batman Or The Batwoman. Batman and Batwoman are known for being secretive. They are mysterious, secretive, and totally withdrawn.
Getting married to a secretive person can be risky. This guy or lady has no mentors, trusts no one, and relates with no one.
Mostly been abused in the past, disappointed by some persons in authority, or let down by people he or she trusted in.
There is usually a story that touches the heart around Batman And Batwoman.
The problem is that he will eventually create more stories that touch the heart in the lives of others.
What he hated and is running from becomes that which he inflicts on other people. She becomes a problem rather than a help in marriage.
Nobody really goes far by being secretive. Yes, I am not saying you should mouth your issues with everybody and anybody, that will be foolishness. However, there are people, usually less than three, that you have in your life and you can confide in.
This confidence reposed in trusted people brings healing on a level you don’t understand.
Jas 5:16 (KJV) Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.
Yes, there is healing there.
However, the Batman husband is that man you live with and you really don’t know. He hardly talks. The wife is usually miffed because he talks to others, except her.
Don’t Marry The Batman Or The Batwoman. The Batwoman type of wife is the one who punishes you with silence. She starves you emotionally by withdrawing from you! You see her get excited with others except you.
He is that guy you know as a single and you don’t know any of his friends. He says he is not social, but the reality is that he is usually withdrawn for a reason.
Secrecy in relationships and marriage is dangerous. This is why every adulterous fling and cheating are predicated on secrecy.
You see, iniquity is perpetuated in secrecy.
He has the capacity to have flings, secrete chats, passworded phones, mysterious calls, girls’ names saved with carpenter, vulcanizer, Bolt man, and so on! Same with a Batwoman in marriage. She lives inside her thoughts and hardly talks.
In marriage, we are to be naked and not ashamed.
The Batman hides in the shadows obtaining information. He is suspicious of people and even suspicious of the person he wants to marry. He trusts nobody. She trusts nobody too.
Batman is never out to kill anybody. He appears to be a good person, but his secrecy will eventually leave you hurt.
He is a solitary lone fighter. He consults nobody. He doesn’t believe in having a spiritual father. He is the lover that tells you that you should keep your relationship in the cooler. He says he doesn’t want attention.
She refuses to introduce you to friends. Your relationship is like a secret cult.
But the more secretive a relationship is, the tendency to let go and drop it like hot potatoes. No commitments, zero casualties in terms of people involved, and so on.
Generally, people who talk to no one end up having major issues they can’t resolve all by themselves.
Don’t Marry The Batman Or The Batwoman
And it could get worse. Beaten in secret. Abused in secret. Manipulated in secret. Sexually starved in secret.
Sooner or later, the pain will be public. The shame will be open. The mystery will turn to misery.
Batman is the kind of man you don’t want to marry! The Batwoman is the type you should run from.
I pray that God will grant you more understanding in Jesus’ name. Your path will not cross with the wrong person. God will preserve you in Jesus’ name! You will not miss it! Did this devotional bless you? Don’t forget to share! Consider Partnering with us too!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be held in bondage in marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me wisdom to discern
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Job 20:8 (KJV) He shall fly away as a dream, and shall not be found: yea, he shall be chased away as a vision of the night.
Don’t Marry The Flash. He wants to marry you because you are too beautiful, hours after meeting. He says you are the best thing that has ever happened to him, hours after meeting. Mr. Flash, slow down, it doesn’t work like that.
Who is the Flash? The flash is a scientist named Barry Allen who acquired super speed through a freak accident and becomes the fastest man alive.
Why shouldn’t you marry him? Beware of that guy who wants to sleep with you minutes after meeting you.
He is not interested in your person, he is only interested in your body. Those are two different things entirely. How does a person want to quickly sleep with the lady he just met? Something is out of place with that proclivity.
Knowing a person requires time. Besides, in this kingdom, we don’t compromise before the wedding! The moment he is rushing you, be careful. It takes time to know a person. Knowing a person requires time and several conversations!
You cannot fall in love with a person you barely know. There is a difference between love and lust.
Mr. Flash is driven by hormonal rushes. He’s had so many quick relationships that never worked out. He is the type that can ask three ladies out in one day. He is quick, nimble, and daring.
He is the type that convinces a lady he meets on the bus to follow him home and they are together for the next few weeks, sleeping together with a person he barely knows.
Once you see a flash in that guy, that is all it is, a flash, never a call.
People who hurry too much to arrive will also depart hurriedly.
Pro 21:5 (MSG) Careful planning puts you ahead in the long run; hurry and scurry puts you further behind.
Whenever it is too fast, and everybody is warning you, slow down and pray again.
Beware of the Flash!
Jer 2:25a (MSG) “Slow down. Take a deep breath. What’s the hurry? Why wear yourself out? Just what are you after anyway?
The Flash wants to marry you weeks after meeting you. A lot of ladies fall into this trap only to end up in a solo song titled, “He was not like this!” But the reality was that you never knew him.
Time is a tool to prove authenticity. Time reveals. Time exposes. Waiting on God to seek His face as regards that man will eventually put you ahead in life.
I conclude with this scripture!
Psa 46:10 (MSG) “Step out of the traffic! Take a long, loving look at me, your High God, above politics, above everything.”
In being still, you will know God, you will know His plan for you and you will avoid a whole lot of heartache.
I pray that God will give you more understanding in Jesus’ name. You will not be too hasty, but you will cooperate with God’s speed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not in a hurry. I am patient for God’s best.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, deliver me from unnecessary haste.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 46:10 ESV “Be still, and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!”
One Man You Should Not Marry Is A Thanos. Today, we are looking at Thanos
Who is the “Thanos” husband? And why should you avoid such?
Thanos was a genocidal warlord from Titan, whose main goal was to bring stability to the world by wiping out half of all lives.
His objective to bring stability and peace is good. But his method is destructive. Thanos wants to bring peace by destroying lives.
Thanos kind of husband doesn’t mind crushing you to have his way.
Your emotions mean nothing to him, as long as his selfish objectives are achieved.
He is that guy who has paid for several abortions, terminating several conceptions because he doesn’t like using protection.
Run from Thanos. He doesn’t mind putting your womb at risk as long as his rush of adrenaline is satiated.
The reality is as singles, condom or not, sin is sin.
One Man You Should Not Marry Is A Thanos. The Bible warns against evil men!
Pro 2:11-12 (KJV) Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee: [12] To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things;
Perhaps Thanos’ greatest ability is his capacity to rise from the dead. He can accomplish this by sacrificing others so he can live again, recharging his inner strength, so as to return more powerful and terrible than he was before.
Thanos kind of husband has no mercy for ladies. They are just tools for him, objects of sex, and nothing more.
He is the husband who will make advances on his wife’s siblings and who has no sexual decorum in any way. Thanos kind of husband believes there are too many ladies, and you can do whatever you want with them.
Thanos is also known for being manipulative. He is the husband who will manipulate you and make you feel guilty for what you never did.
He is the husband who makes you crawl on your knees to apologize whereas he is the culprit.
One Man You Should Not Marry Is A Thanos. Run from every Thanos, dear singles.
How do you know him as Singles?
Manipulation. Deceit. No regard for God.
Wants to sleep with you and you ask, what if I get pregnant? In the coldest unemotional voice possible, he retorts, “you’ll do the normal!” Abortion is normal to him!
Thanos has no mercy.
He will beat you up at the slightest provocation.
Physically, Thanos in movies stands above the average human with powerful muscles, a broad face, and a purple-hued skin tone.
You can’t match his strength. His potential wife or wife will have several black-eye moments, several bumps on the face, the result of brutality within sexuality.
Don’t put up with Thanos! Run!
I pray for you today, your path will not cross with evil men.
Good morning.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My path will not cross with evil lovers
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, deliver me from every evil relationship.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 2:11-12 NLT Wise choices will watch over you. Understanding will keep you safe. Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Pray in the spirit over your relationship
This morning, we will be looking at the Ten Commandments For Lovers Part 2
3. Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain;
This is the third of ten commandments for lovers. They say you don’t know the value of something until you lose it. It doesn’t have to be your experience. Don’t take your partner’s love and commitment to the relationship for granted. Don’t be so used to each other that you expect nothing new anymore. If you are led to each other by God, then be committed to the relationship.
4. Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. To our brothers, remember her birthday to keep it holy. Ladies have a thing with dates. Significant dates like anniversaries, birthdays, the day she said yes etc may mean nothing to you but means a lot to her. If you need to set a reminder, please do.
Make such days memorable and use them as an opportunity to be good to the one you profess to love.
5. Honour thy father and thy mother Don’t fall in love and then disregard your parents. Respect her parents the same way you respect yours. Carry your pastors along; they are your spiritual parents. Give to your parents, pastors and mentors of your substance, that’s part of honour.
Ensure you have a mentor over your relationship. Good mentors save your from tormentors of life.
6. Thou shalt not kill. Don’t kill your relationship. Don’t always shut her up. Don’t ask her for sex. Don’t pressurize him to fix a wedding date. Don’t stop communicating. Now that she has said yes, don’t stop wooing her. Don’t dress provocatively when paying him a visit. You will kill him before you know it.
Do not sow wrong seeds into your relationship, because you always reap what you sow. Here is The Ten Commandments For Lovers Part 2. Tomorrow, we will look at Part 3
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be careless with my relationship with God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, uphold me to seek you always
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isa 45:19 (KJV) I have not spoken in secret, in a dark place of the earth: I said not unto the seed of Jacob, Seek ye me in vain: I the LORD speak righteousness, I declare things that are right.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a heart to heart discussion with your lover concerning serving God
The Ten Commandments For Lovers. If the 10 commandments were written in the contemporary world, specifically for lovers, what would they look like? Let’s delve into it this morning!
The is not an attempt to change the ten commandments, no those are sacrosanct. This is just a creative way to apply them to our love life and creatively learn from them.
1. Thou shalt have no other gods before me. This is the first of the ten commandments for lovers. This means you should not double-date. Don’t add another bone to the bone God has given you. Set your face like a flint and concentrate on your partner. One god is good enough in God’s injunctions. Even the traditionalist are focused.
One guy in Abuja and another in Lagos while going out with both is not God’s idea. One babe in Canada and the other in Nigeria, while professing love to both at the same time is never the style of the kingdom.
One young man to supply gadgets and an elderly rich man to supply cash is trying to eat your cake and have it. These actions are strange to the kingdom!
2. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image This is the second of the ten commandments for lovers. This means don’t idolize anything, including your relationship. Not your family, not your career, not your friends. Your walk with God should not suffer because you fell in love. Your lover should not become a graven image to replace God.
In your attempt to do that, you may end up losing that lover. God is to be worshipped, your lover is to be loved, don’t get it twisted. Your lover is never to be worshipped. Your lover cannot be your god.
You fell in love and you stopped reading your Bible? It’s not a good idea. Thinking all day about your lover has replaced meditation in God’s word. Not cool at all.
You used to send scriptures that bless you to friends, now you are sending pictures; nude pictures to your lover! That contravenes the kingdom lifestyle!
I will stop here this morning. To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am focused on my relationship.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to focus on my partner.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 50:7 (KJV) For the Lord GOD will help me; therefore shall I not be confounded: therefore have I set my face like a flint, and I know that I shall not be ashamed.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write out all the good things in your partner.
How To Have A Blast and Still Be Blessed. Sally and George were so deeply in love! However, George wanted Sally to do certain things for him which were like crossing the red line for Sally. Sally was caught in the middle. She so much loved George but she also adored God. It was a tug of war between the flesh and the spirit.
Can one really have a blast and still be blessed? Yeah, right! You can have a blast and still be blessed in your relationship! You can have a blast in your relationship without displeasing God or losing His favour in the process.
Sally was confused. She wept severally because she loved George and she loved God. She knew she had to drop one. It was a hard decision for her. The thought of dropping George seemed suicidal. The thought of dropping God is pure hell. What would she do?
As she sat in my office seeking counsel, I had compassion for her. I knew what to tell her, but I prayed for a pearl of wisdom for the right vehicle for my words to avoid a destiny accident. Love issues can be very tricky!
“Pastor, what should I do?” I looked at her. Her mien was that of one who knows what to do but lacks the strength to do so.
“Have you been sexually involved?” I asked her
She hesitated. Her head bowed, her countenance taking a duck, I knew the answer right away!
Sheepishly, she said “Yes Pastor, but we asked for forgiveness!”
“I am not here to condemn you daughter” I chipped in so that guilt will not convolute the conversation and the devil will not explore that loophole.
“It was only five times,” she said,
“Okay, my daughter.”
“You are in a battle between your soul and your flesh. The flesh wants George. Your soul needs God. The confusion is there because there has been a compromise. Every time there is a compromise, the soul gets confused.
“Think about this daughter. George is the lover of your flesh. God is the lover of your soul. To know what to do, you have to get into your spirit. The struggle is real but the truth is there.
Gal 5:17a (MKJV For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh.
Don’t be in a rush. God is not an author of confusion. Take some time and have a sincere conversation with God. I don’t want to call it prayer. Just talk to God. From your spirit, your belly, in your knower, you will know the truth, and when you know what to do, however painful it might seem, take that decision.
Let me warn you, emotionally, it won’t be easy, but eternally, it will be a blessing!
Remember this, God knows best! He will never lead you wrong and He will never abandon you!” The safest place to be is God’s side! This is How To Have A Blast and Still Be Blessed
“Thanks, Pastor.”
As she stood up to leave, I added, “I think the greatest misery a person can find himself is to seek pleasing his lover while displeasing God. Things are going to get awry quickly.
“I understand sir,” she said.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not disappoint God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, help me to the needful and not just listen my flesh
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Gal 5:16-17 (MKJV) I say, then, Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the lusts of the flesh. [17] For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh. And these are contrary to one another; lest whatever you may will, these things you do.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide for God, and not for your flesh!
Decide To Have A Blast In Your Relationship. Sandy and George fought all through their relationship! It lasted three years and there was not one week stretch without some heartache.
They got used to such heartaches till they thought it was normal. They got involved in many wrong things in their bid to have a nice time. And at the end of the day, they still broke up as a result of constant ceaseless series of quarrels and heartaches.
Well, I am here to tell you this morning, decide to enjoy yourself in that love story!
Quickly, I want to tell you how to enjoy your relationship and of course, how not to enjoy the relationship.
Decide To Have A Blast In Your Relationship!
How To Enjoy Your Relationship
1. Let the foundation of your relationship be God’s word. Whatever is opposed to God’s word, don’t do it.
Rom 14:23b (KJV) …for whatsoever is not of faith is sin.
2. Have a mutual mentor/pastor you are both talking to. There will be things that are beyond you and your saving grace will be that there is someone you can talk to.
3. Create a balance between faith and fun. The Cinemas are good, but make sure there are Bible studies too. The ice cream is okay but ensure you have time for fasting together. Balance is key.
How NOT to enjoy your relationship.
Sex should be out of the picture. This will eventually bring agony to the heart because you will lose God’s favour when you stay in disobedience. This will not be your portion in Jesus’ name.
2. Staying over the night in your lover’s place, playing a small Mummy role, and so on is not the way to go. In the kingdom, we don’t do such things. Continually spending nights together when you are not yet married will get you into unnecessary troubles.
3. Being in love or relationship with a person and keeping it secret already is symptomatic of serious issues. When you are disenfranchised from people and from authority figures because you are in love, you will suffer alone and have nobody to talk to during the day when the storms arise.
I am going to stop here this morning! Decide To Have A Blast In Your Relationship
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will enjoy my relationship
PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Lord, keep me from falling. Hold me by the hand in Jesus’ name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Rom 14:23b (AMPC) For whatever does not originate and proceed from faith is sin [whatever is done without a conviction of its approval by God is sinful].
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Stop those things that will not work eventually
Don’t Carry That Load Into Marriage. Sade is such a sweet lady who met Bode, a charming handsome guy. It was love at first, second and third sights! They fell in love like their love story was written from heaven itself.
Their courtship was short because they were both nearing their thirties. They were the quintessential couple, serving it hot for their teeming followers on Instagram.
They were so much in love or so it seemed. After the wedding, and just a few months after, several issues emanated and both of them were wondering where they found themselves.
They both had traveling baggage that they brought into the marriage! Don’t Carry That Load Into Marriage!
People whose baggage are traveling bags, seem like they have no issues, but the reality is that they have mastered the art of tucking away their weakness for months at a time.
Just like you don’t travel every day, they don’t show their issues every time. But seasonally, their “demons” come to the fore and seek to scatter things!
As soon as the imbroglio is settled, there would seem to be peace, but it would be short-lived. After some months, the problem rares its head again. It becomes frustrating because it would now seem the issues is there to be managed for life.
Jesus did not call you to manage problems and carry your baggage all through life.
He issues an eternal invitation and asks that you come for rest!
Are you tired from this load? Don’t Carry That Load Into Marriage!
Mat 11:28 (CEV) If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens, come to me and I will give you rest.
Talk to Jesus now, and He would surely give you rest!
Good morning!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I have rest from all troubles in Jesus’ name
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to see what I need to work on by your grace
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 11:28 (GNB) “Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Empty your handbag at the foot of the cross
