Best Ways To Fall In Love Again As Couples. I watched a video sent by a friend. It was about a couple having a slight argument. In fairness, the husband was cool and handled the situation well. The wife on the other hand was almost losing it probably out of frustration.
What happened was that the wife was to use a blender and it wasn’t working fine. She asks the husband to come and have a feel of the frustration she goes through in cooking a single meal without his appreciation. He rather gives her a cold shoulder with a complaint that the salt is not enough, the food is too dry, too oily, etc.
The video was very hilarious and I had a good laugh with my husband.
We should always remember and not lose sight of the fact that whatever happens, during the good and the bad times, we are still believers. We do things the word way and have the word result.
A lot of things could be responsible for causing frustrations in couples.
1. Increase your time of study
We should boost our love walk with each other and much more, with God. Increase your time studying the word. Let the Word dwell in you richly not sparingly.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord. Col 3:16
2. We should increase our time of prayer
Pray without ceasing. – 1Th 5:17
3. Meditate on God’s Word
This is different from reading or studying. This is muttering God’s word.
But his delight is in the law of the LORD; and in his law doth he meditate day and night. And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. – Psa 1:2-3
4. Sing in psalms and hymns and new song
Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
5. Walking in love and confessing the word
Love is very important. When we walk in love, we are actually the better for it. Our own heavens are opened and God works mightily in our lives.
And if I give all my goods to the poor, and if I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it is of no profit to me. Love is never tired of waiting; love is kind; love has no envy; love has no high opinion of itself, love has no pride; Love’s ways are ever fair, it takes no thought for itself; it is not quickly made angry, it takes no account of evil; It takes no pleasure in wrongdoing, but has joy in what is true; Love has the power of undergoing all things, having faith in all things, hoping all things. – 1Co 13:3-7
It is my prayer that God keep us in His love in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to fall in love again and again.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord; – Eph 5:19
Four Ways To Guard Against Adultery – Part 3. Continued from yesterday… We have been looking at ways to prevent you from falling into adulterous relationships.
I mentioned that if you can do these four things, you will be doing yourself a lot of good to guard against adultery.
1. Guard your mind
2. Guard your heart
3. Guard your mouth
4. Guard your body
Having identified ways to guard against adultery, what do you do next?
Keep your heart. Don’t be given to unproductive discussions with people who have no regard for God. Deliberately avoid such people that you know will influence you negatively! Be selective with your associations.
Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life. – Pro 4:23 KJV
Message Translations says:
Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts. – Pro 4:23 MSG
What else to do?
Wherefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and hope to the end for the grace that is to be brought unto you at the revelation of Jesus Christ; -1Pe 1:13 KJV
Take up the loose ends of your mind and tuck them in. Do not allow your mind to ramble endlessly on just anything. Be deliberate in filling your heart with God’s word.
Amplified version puts it this way
So brace up your minds; be sober (circumspect, morally alert); set your hope wholly and unchangeably on the grace (divine favor) that is coming to you when Jesus Christ (the Messiah) is revealed. -1Pe 1:13 AMP
If you are already entangled in adultery, seek help immediately. Destroy that which seeks to destroy you. Open up to trusted mentors or any other authority figure. Just opening up to the right person weakens the power of iniquity. If you hide it, you are ensnared by it.
I pray that the help you need at this time be available for you in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
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Now, to today’s devotional which is continued from yesterday.
3. Guard your mouth
At this stage also, you begin to verbalize your desire and intention to spend more time with him or her. You no longer hide your compliments. That which has been entrenched in your heart through your thoughts begins to find expression through your mouth because out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
You tell him/her how much you desire him. You both begin to enjoy talks that have to do with sex and how it is not so harmful to have an affair with someone other than your spouse. You both talk about the negatives of your spouses and find comfort in each other. You talk about the good, bad, and the ugly, you simply talk and talk. You talk about anything and everything.
At this stage, light pecks and kisses also begin.
4. Guard your body
Just as the body moves in the direction of our words, you set yourself in the mood for an adulterous affair. Your body begins to respond to your emotional words to each other. Words are that powerful. Actually, the scripture says words are spirits, and you know spirits don’t die!
You may begin with a suggestive then seductive body language and movement. You begin to give expression to what has always been in your heart, a kiss there, a tight hug, holding hands, unguarded touches at sexually stimulating parts of the body, eye contact, etc.
At this stage, jeru trap is just a step away. The day you are alone together (out of reach of other people) then your bodies come together in a sexual affair.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus Name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
Four Ways To Guard Against Adultery. There are steps you take and your destination can be predicted. It is just a matter of time. Every step you take, whether good or bad, is meant to lead to a destination. You cannot be on the path that leads to the house of ‘Mr. Marital Wrong’ and expect to find yourself in ‘Mrs. Marital Bliss apartment.’ It does not work that way in natural things; so don’t expect it to work out in your marriage.
There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. (Pro 14:12 KJV)
Here are some steps you avoid taking if you don’t want to find yourself in adultery.
1. Guard your mind
Adultery starts in the mind. The seed first makes its contact with the mind where it is just a seed of simple admiration. You toy with a first glance and then a good look. It is still a ‘secret’ admiration. But like every seed, it has the potential of growing and becoming a forest. Wise men and women guard their minds and kill the seed of adultery. Don’t give it space, suffocate it, it is unnecessary.
You can admire anybody but desiring someone that is not your spouse is simply uncalled for. Simple innocent admiration can lead to an emotional affair and eventually adultery. At this stage also, you begin to wonder if he/she admires you too, finds you attractive, and enjoys your company. You desire to see him or check him out and consciously make yourself attractive to him/her, you even flaunt your admirable qualities for his/her observation.
2. Guard your heart
The second step into adultery after an unguarded mind is an unguarded heart. The heart is deeper than the mind and at this stage, you develop deeper emotional bonding. You deceive yourself that nothing is going on but in actual fact, this person begins to occupy your thoughts, you even imagine and fantasize your being together, you desire and work out a time to spend together without hesitation.
At this stage, the thoughts of him or her becomes an obsession despite knowing that it is wrong. You start acting it out in your heart. The seed begins to sprout, in no time the fruits will spring forth.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I guard my heart, mind, mouth, and body. I take responsibility for the things I do.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, let the fear and love of God keep me on the right path in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY After all, we don’t want to unwittingly give Satan an opening for yet more mischief – we’re not oblivious to his sly ways! (2Co 2:11 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a ‘to-do list’ Plan today. Replace every wrong thought with God’s word
In our many years of counseling married couples, we have had to handle different kinds of issues in marriage. Some of the issues, simple and direct while others are pretty complicated and not direct at all.
The Holy Spirit helps us handle these issues. Some of these issues have their root causes in some generational issues, a complex parental issue, a background issue or a habit that was developed while growing up.
Some husbands are good with silent treatment to their wives. There could be a lot of reasons responsible for this kind of treatment but it takes digging into the issue to get to the root cause.
It will be good to note that there could be different things responsible for such actions. The husband could be frustrated at the wife nagging. The husband could be having issues at work. The husband might have difficulties communicating his deepest feelings. The husband might grow up seeing his dad do the same to his mum. The husband may be involved in extra marital affairs, thus his cold actions. The husband might be dealing with issues that the wife knows nothing about. It could be an act of wickedness on the husband’s part.
So, in the scenario above, let’s assume we are in the shoes of the wife, we have to be tactical in finding out the real cause of our husband’s coldness. E.g if he is cold because he is having an affair and we treat it as having issues at work or overact believing he is mean, we would have ended up majoring on the minor and minoring in the major, and not dealing with the issue.
That is why we have to depend on the Holy Spirit in handling issues in our marriage. Some issues may be complicated while some are not as complicated.
Let’s try to be more patient and think deep through the issues that may arise in our marriage.
Let’s also be prayerful, asking God for the spirit of wisdom and revelation. We also need discernment to discern the root cause of issues.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a discerning spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Our marriage is an integral part of our lives. We will notice that nothing weighs us down more like marital issues. If things are not working between us, the joy level in the home is affected.
Although, Some people might try to do as if they don’t care, but the truth is they do care.
As couples, we need to work together to ensure that our marriage remains intact at all times, no matter the situation or under whichever circumstances.
We should always stick it out together. Remain committed to each other and remain supportive of each other.
You can do these five things to keep your marriage interesting.
1. See you spouse as part of you that nothing can change.
So no matter what challenges, you remain true to each other. Whether loss of job, loss of contract or money in an investment.
2. Learn to make fun and laugh over issues
Even if your spouse is not too much of a jovial temperament, let the other less serious of the two help in lightning the atmosphere. When your spouse is dealing with guilt, shame or not just in a generally good mode, help your spouse feel a little better.
3. You can watch a comedy or action film together
The marriage should not always have to be tensed or serious. You can bring laughter of those who have packaged laughter into comedy shows. It is very helpful to do as you won’t have to bother about cracking expensive jokes or getting on your spouse nerve.
4. Eat out, order a meal or cook a favorite meal
You might want to order something nice for your spouse to eat and indulge your spouse to a treat just to take their minds off whatever is bothering them. A good snack and ice cream could also do the trick for those who like that.
5. Offer your spouse to pray for them or with them.
Prayer is the most powerful and helpful thing you can offer to your spouse when they seem to be down or things are not working.
You offering to pray speaks volumes. It shows you genuinely care and that you recognize the power of God as the ultimate power that can change things.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage will not be an adage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me to be a loving spouse oh Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
The Family Altar And Your Marriage. You can have the eyes of the Lord upon you as a family and leave His presence with the assurance that He is around you.
The eyes of the Lord cannot be upon you and you not have His presence. His presence is all you need in this life. His presence is the carrier of His glory, His wisdom, His beauty, His intelligence, His understanding, and all of His personality.
His presence gives all-round victory.
The eyes of the LORD are upon the righteous, and his ears are open unto their cry. – Psa 34:15
There is an assurance that comes to you as you gather together as a family to call upon the Lord. That’s one of the reasons the family altar or devotion is very important.
In my family, we didn’t use to have family devotion before. We all woke up at different times and had our prayers separately. My husband was busy with our online ministry and had a different waking time. He was so busy that at times he will be up from 3 am and wouldn’t leave his desk until 9 am or 10 am.
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Thank God things have since changed and now our day does not start without our family devotion, where we pray, take daily confessions, and read the Bible.
During our family devotion this morning, I learnt that the eyes of the Lord are upon the righteous, and His ears open to their cry. When we come together as a family, the Lord’s presence is with us. He sees us and He is there. Our gathering together is not a waste of time or religion.
We come together as a family and are confident that He is with us and that His eyes and ears are present with our family. We approach our altar with this attitude.
We also leave our family altar with confidence and assurance that God is with us. We know that we are not alone as we go about our daily activities. Whatever we face in the course of the day, we know He is with us. We rejoice all day knowing that He has got our backs.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I know that God is with me as I go out today.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the grace to always stay faithful to your family’s devotion
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalm 34:15 [ESV] The eyes of the Lord are toward the righteous and his ears toward their cry.
Celebration is the source of life and joy. Keep Celebrating. If you want to experience constant life and joy in marriage, learn to celebrate. Let there be a constant feast in your marriage.
By feast, I don’t mean a party. It is more of the condition of the heart than it is a physical thing.
All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. – Pro 15:15
All forms of moodiness and gloominess are not meant to be allowed in your home. You have to learn to disallow certain things in your home and family. You allow joy and happiness.
Celebration is something you practice consciously. You make it a habit in your family. There are a lot of opportunities to celebrate that God brings our way. We should seize these opportunities.
Celebration puts us in faith. Abraham celebrated God by giving glory to God even when the covenant child was not even born. His celebration kept his faith alive.
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When you learn to celebrate, you acknowledge God as the source of your very life. You recognize God as the Lord over your marriage.
There are several opportunities in which we have to be sensitive to celebrate. Some people in a bid to appear humble say to celebrate is not to be sober like the Bible says. But the same bible says we should rejoice and again it says we should rejoice.
To celebrate is to be thankful and grateful. Celebrate every of your birthday. Celebrate the life and the lives of all those around you. Be grateful to God for victory and sparing your life. Many have been laid aside, so be grateful and celebrate life.
Celebrate your children. Celebrate your husband. Celebrate events. Create memorials. Celebrate the beginning of the term for your children. Celebrate the end of term. Celebrate anniversaries, Christmas, holidays. Look into each and find out what to celebrate.
Make things special. Make every dinner and lunch a memorable one. Let your spouse and children have sweet memories. Celebrate your pastors, your boss. Celebrate your parents, your siblings, celebrate everything and anything.
As you celebrate, you will have more reasons to celebrate.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I choose to celebrate at every opportunity I get.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:25 [KJV]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Husbands should endeavor to pray for their wives daily. This may sound religious but I have found it to work. Apart from the fact that it draws the husband to God, making him take his rightful place as the priest, it takes the pressure off the wife also.
Everybody now looks up to God who is able to transform our marriage and make us better people. The focus shifts to God. The husband sees God as the One who will answer his prayers and he’s patiently waiting on God.
It also affords the husband to pray for those virtues he likes to see in his wife. Praying together brings God into the scene where He becomes a partner with us. He sees to it that there are changes and our marriages become better.
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:25 – 28
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The husbands should be responsible in the transformation process of their wives. They should be committed to seeing their wives transformed to what they want them to be.
So dear wives, a little trick that works is to always ask your husband to lay his hands on you and pray for you. It gives your husband a feeling of your being submissive to him and a willingness to want to please him. It will also reduce quarrels. You can’t be fighting and your husband praying for you.
Note that the devil will try and fight this. He hates this kind of unity and agreement because of the power it generates. Even when there is a fight, make sure you apologize and ask your husband to pray for you.
For example, if your husband is always complaining that you are slow, let him begin to talk to God about it. So he prays for you that God should make you faster or quicker in doing your things.
Two things will likely happen. It is either he begins to see himself as complaining and begins to see the good side of your being slow, or he accept you that way and work on being more patient. If he still complains, you tell him, Senior, we have prayed about it.
In this way, the wife takes the pressure of performance off her and allows the process of change to take its course. You could use this method to kick start praying together for those who don’t pray together at all.
May God give us victory, Amen!
God bless our homes and marriages.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I cooperate with my spouse to have an award winning marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:25 [KJV]Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Has your husband ever told you that you are not talking to him well? It is either he says you speak in a disrespectful manner or you are not just logical.
My own husband used to tell me that often. I used to wonder how best to speak to him. My own husband is very, very intelligent, coupled with the fact that he is a strong choleric. You really have to make a lot of sense to get his attention.
To prove a point is a very bad move because it will not just work. So I quit trying to make a point.
I discovered a secret that has helped me and I believe will help every woman out there. I am not talking about remote controlling your husband to do as you say, but to have regards for what you say.
Your husband will respect what you say more when your words are weighty and carry power. You know in the world, the wives do charms so that their husbands can listen to them. But we believers have the real thing.
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I am not talking about native intelligence or academic prowess. I am talking about possessing the spirit of wisdom and understanding that comes from God.
And they were not able to resist the wisdom and the spirit by which he spake. – Acts 6:10
See it in the Amplified version
But they were not able to resist the intelligence and the wisdom and [the inspiration of] the Spirit with which and by Whom he spoke. – Acts 6:10
It is possible to possess such intelligence and wisdom that your husband will not be able to refuse you, shut you up, or won’t listen to you.
You don’t have to be manipulative with your words, no auto planning, no rehearsals before speaking.
The fact has been established that you can speak with intelligence. But how can one come to the point where you have such a spirit?
You cannot learn it from school or from your parents or mother. What was the secret of Stephen? He was full of the Holy faith and the Holy Ghost as recorded in Acts 6:6
Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God. So Stephen was a man dedicated to the study of the word of God and prayers.
When you give yourself to the study of the word of God and you become controlled by the Holy Spirit, you will possess an intelligence that will be beyond your age.
You will speak with much grace and power. You will not be forceful or manipulative but your words will be gracious. The Holy Spirit will give you insight and foresight.
You will advise your husband and your advice will turn out the best decision. By the next time, he will seek counsel from you. He will disregard your words and treat your words with levity. He will come to respect you and honor you because of your intelligent words.
This is what my mentor possesses and that is what I am getting. I am giving myself to the study of the word and to prayers.
I have made up my mind to go for wisdom in words and in deed, so that I will become relevant and impact my generation. You too can take on the journey of being full of faith and the spirit of God.
God bless your marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am full of wisdom and the spirit.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of wisdom
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Acts 6:10 [KJV]And they were not able to resist the wisdom and the spirit by which he spake.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take out time to pray in the spirit
What A Mother Told Her Daughter. An ever-green story was told of a beautiful lady who got tired of her husband and sought the help of her mother to get rid of her spouse. She was however afraid the law of the land will hold her responsible.
I would like to bring back the lessons learned from the advice given by her mother.
Her mother answered:
Yes, my daughter, I can help you, but there is a little task attached.
The daughter asked ‘what task? I am willing and ready to do any task attached to getting rid of him.
Ok, said the mother.
1. You will have to make peace with him so that no one will not suspect when he is dead.
2. You will have to make yourself beautiful in order to look young and attractive to him.
3. You have to take good care of Him and be very nice and appreciative of him.
4. You have to be patient, loving, and less jealous, have more listening ears, be more respectful and obedient.
5. Spend your money for him and don’t get angry even when he doesn’t give you money for whatever.
6. Don’t raise your voice against him but encourage peace and love so that you will never be suspected when he must have died.
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Can you do all these? The mother asked?
Yes, I can, she replied.
She gave a powder to her daughter. Add it to his food daily. It will kill him slowly, she said.
After 30 days of adhering to all the tasks, she came back to her mother and said;
Mother, I have no intention of killing my husband again. As of now, I have grown to love him because he is completely changed. He is now a very sweet husband than I ever imagine.
What can I do to stop the poison from killing him? She asked in a sorrowful tone.
Do not worry my daughter. The powder is only turmeric powder. It is not meant to kill him.
In reality, you were the poison that was slowly killing your husband with tension and dispassion
When you start being nice, respectful, loving, and cherishing your husband, he begins to be nice, caring, and wonderful.
Every woman has a magic wand in her hands to change her marriage and her husband. Your husband will respond to your change.
Ask yourself, if you were in a secret reality show that is willing to offer you $10, 000,000 if you will follow the above task, will you commit to following the task?
If you can do this for riches, how much more for the invaluable, unquantifiable benefits of obeying God and honoring our husbands?
Think about this and may God grant you understanding.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I am a patient and loving spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me the wisdom to know how to love my spouse.
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Put the above points to practice
Yesterday, we started talking about money. I explained to us how money can be a defence in our marriage and shield us from several things.
This morning, I’ll love to point out a few areas we can discuss with our spouse about our finances.
1. Being transparent about our income.
Be as open and sincere as possible about letting your spouse know about our income.
2. Discuss paying of tithe.
Let it be an established rule in your home.
3. Discuss your family budget
Have a budget your home and family run on. Let every single aspect of your marriage be under a budget. The kids, parents, projects…etc
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4. Discuss about saving
This is so important. A particular percentage should be set aside regularly as savings.
5. Discuss about how to improve and make more money.
Start looking at having multiple streams of income.
6. Discuss about investments.
In the parable of the talent, the servant that invested his master’s money was commended. Get information about investment opportunities. Search the internet about money making ideas.
7. Discuss about your needs
When a woman’s needs are not met, she has a tendency of trying to sort herself.
8. Discuss about contentment.
This is very important. We are believers and our lives must be guided by scripture. Our lives do not consist of what we have. Let your spouse know that money is not everything. We have to learn to trust in God and not in riches. Let our driving force not be money but God, His kingdom and using whatever we have for His glory.
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION OF THE DAY We have money. Money doesn’t have us. We are rich.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give us wisdom to know how to multiply whatever amount of money we have in Jesus name.
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discuss the points with your spouse
We know money is a major part of our lives as married couples. In fact, we make about 70% of our decision based on finances.
The house we live in, the area we stay in, how many kids we have, what school they go to, what type of clothes they wear, the type of food they eat, how comfortable the house we live in is, do we rent an apartment or buy one, what work we do, where we work, what part of the country we live in, what type of friends we have, the type of car(s) we have, what church we attend, our spiritual level…and it goes on and on.
Money is so important that it appears 123 times in the Bible.
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The only thing that can compete with God in our hearts is mammon or money. Every sin of covetousness, especially of material things is traceable to money issues.
Most Adulteries and fornications are basically traceable to money. For example, a beautiful lady or handsome who you get attracted to is attractive because she/he can afford expensive things that make her beautiful.
No one is attracted to an ugly and poor fellow.
Money is a defence! It can defend our spouse and marriage from falling if properly used
For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it. – Ecc 7:12
So as couples, it is important we talk about finances and guard against its adverse effect on our marriage because we can make money serve us at whatever level we are in. Money will answer and solve the majority of our marital problems.
A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things. – Ecc 10:19
To be continued…
CONFESSION OF THE DAY We have money. Money doesn’t have us. We are rich.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give us the wisdom to know how to multiply whatever amount of money we have in Jesus name.
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Ecc 10:19 A feast is made for laughter, and wine maketh merry: but money answereth all things
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Discuss the points with your spouse
How To Fall In Love Again With Your Spouse. During the pandemic, it was recorded that in some places in China, there were more divorce cases than ever before.
Why was this? Husbands and wives were not used to being at home together. They were simply flat or roommates who just shared the house and essential commodities together.
The truth is that we may be used to our own space, being alone doing our own things, and being in control of our own time. It may first of all be awkward being home with the kids and your spouse, not just for a few hours but for weeks, so you have to learn to be very patient and determined to enjoy the time spent with your spouse.
When both spouses are at home with the kids, it is also a good time to bond well, so I am pointing out few ways to bond with your spouse and kids.
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1. Depending on what age your kids are, the younger ones will do well with playing around. Be creative and invent plays, do hide and seek, trust God for strength to roll on the carpet with them.
2. Cartoons are good. You can unwind with them watching and enjoying their world with them. Don’t let the cartoons be too much.
3. Do some intellectual talks and ask personal questions about their friends and special friends. Attend to their many questions.
4. Take time to teach your girls new dishes. For the boys, let them use their energy to help out in the house.
5. Play games with the whole family and it is the best time for drawing the quiet ones from their shell.
6. Be happy and content with what you have. Create fun out of what you have. Do a lot of teasing and rough plays. Never allow any member of the family to be moody
7. Be pleasant to your spouse and don’t do things that will spark up arguments.
8. Make sure you have sex as often as possible. This will keep the bond between you and your spouse. The tension will also reduce between the two of you.
9. Be very patient with your spouse as it may take some time for them to adjust to being with you. Pray for the Holy Spirit to help you and teach you to meet your spouse’s needs.
10. Give attention to your spiritual bonding. Take time to play together and read your bible and have bible discussions together.
11. Ensure finances don’t cause you to get frustrated. I know it’s difficult but please try. Trust in God together for open heavens. Do a lot of cuddling and please help each other do house chores.
I hope these few tips will go a long way to help you bond well with your family.
God bless you family
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a loving spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me how to love my husband/wife well
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 1:18 [GW] Then you will have deeper insight. You will know the confidence that he calls you to have and the glorious wealth that God’s people will inherit.
A devourer is anything that eats up greedily or a voracious eater. It can also be defined as anything that consumes for nourishment. Devourer is used in the Bible to describe anything that seeks to steal, kill and destroy. It particularly seeks to waste resources, years, food, time, and anything of benefit.
Bring all the tithes (the whole tenth of your income) into the storehouse, that there may be food in My house, and prove Me now by it, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it. And I will rebuke the devourer [insects and plagues] for your sakes and he shall not destroy the fruits of your ground, neither shall your vine drop its fruit before the time in the field, says the Lord of hosts. – Mal 3:10-11
The antidote for rebuking the devourer according to the Bible is paying of tithes. The Devourer is to be rebuked, not cried over or ignored but rebuked. Your tithe forms a basis and gives you a voice to effectively rebuke the devourer.
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Non-payment of tithe gives the devourer the license to devour anything valuable to you, from your health, children, marriage, finances, time, relationships, career, opportunities, to peace of mind.
Some people argue about the tithe. Some even say it is an Old Testament law that should not be obeyed. There are different arguments about the issue of tithing, especially on social media.
One thing is sure. If you are a faithful tither, the blessing you enjoy from it will not make you want to stop paying it. Your tithe is the first 10% of any income that comes your way and God commands us to pay it as a sign of honor to him.
You pay your tithe by being in awe and reverence of God, you do it first thing when you receive the income. That is honor.
When we put and keep our faith alive in the covenant of tithing, we set in motion the protective power of God in staying the hands of the enemy to waste or destroy from us.
You rebuke the devourer by speaking boldly and commanding the devourer to take its hands off everything you hold dear. You command sicknesses and diseases not to come near your abode.
Is it that we are paying God so that we don’t experience the devourer? Not exactly! It is a covenant principle and covenant practice. You do your human part and then God does His part.
As we obey this instruction, may God hear us in the day of trouble, and may the name of the God of Israel defend us in Jesus name.
God bless our marriages
CONFESSION OF THE DAY We rebuke every devourer over our finances
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, I rebuke the devourer over my health
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mal 3:11 [BBE]And on your account I will keep back the locusts from wasting the fruits of your land; and the fruit of your vine will not be dropped on the field before its time, says the Lord of armies
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Declare God’s promises over your life
We cannot claim ignorance of the times we are in. The spirit of fear is upon the people and men everywhere are left mere hoping it will not get to them. We need more than hope to navigate these times. We need to engage the promise of protection. We need faith in God’s word.
It becomes our responsibility to declare and confess God’s word over members of our household.
We don’t have to claim to be ignorant of the devices of the enemy. We cannot afford to be careless with our lives or members of our household. We have to switch into the defensive mode.
We have to engage with weapons like our biblical prayer of faith, daily pleading the blood of Jesus on our house, taking communion, and everyday prayers for God’s mercy to prevail over judgment.
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Now, the best psalm for such a time as this is psalm 91. You have to read it meditatively. Take time to study this portion of the Bible. Read it in different translations and see what God has promised us. Fill your heart with this scripture and pray it.
God is faithful to His word. His word works
The name of the LORD is a strong tower: the righteous runneth into it, and is safe. – Pro 18:10
There is safety for us, if we learn to trust in the Lord. We take hold of His names and we run into it literally.
Let us see psalm 91 in The Passion Translation.
When you sit enthroned under the shadow of Shaddai, you are hidden in the strength of God Most High. He’s the hope that holds me and the Stronghold to shelter me, the only God for me, and my great confidence. He will rescue you from every hidden trap of the enemy, and he will protect you from false accusation and any deadly curse. His massive arms are wrapped around you, protecting you. You can run under his covering of majesty and hide. His arms of faithfulness are a shield keeping you from harm. You will never worry about an attack of demonic forces at night nor have to fear a spirit of darkness coming against you. Don’t fear a thing! Whether by night or by day, demonic danger will not trouble you, nor will the powers of evil launched against you.
Even in a time of disaster, with thousands and thousands being killed, you will remain unscathed and unharmed. You will be a spectator as the wicked perish in judgment, for they will be paid back for what they have done! When we live our lives within the shadow of God Most High, our secret hiding place, we will always be shielded from harm. How then could evil prevail against us or disease infect us? God sends angels with special orders to protect you wherever you go, defending you from all harm. If you walk into a trap, they’ll be there for you and keep you from stumbling. You’ll even walk unharmed among the fiercest powers of darkness, trampling every one of them beneath your feet!
For here is what the Lord has spoken to me: “Because you have delighted in me as my great lover, I will greatly protect you. I will set you in a high place, safe and secure before my face. I will answer your cry for help every time you pray, and you will find and feel my presence even in your time of pressure and trouble. I will be your glorious hero and give you a feast. You will be satisfied with a full life and with all that I do for you. For you will enjoy the fullness of my salvation!” – Psa 91:1-16
We are kept by His mercies in Jesus name.
God bless our homes.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY My family is protected by the mercies of God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for protection from all evil
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ps 91:10 [NET] No harm will overtakes you; no illness will come near your home.
Wives ought to respect their husbands as a service to the Lord. That is the order of God. To make something worthwhile of the marriage institution, we have to follow His order.
Only when we follow God’s order do we experience the fullness of God’s blessings.
Husbands are commanded to love their own wives. This commandment does not exclude any husband. You are to take that wife of yours and love her, obeying God.
Love means several things to several women. Husbands are to love their wives based on what the wives see as love. You have to learn and speak your wife’s love language.
For example, you don’t give your wife flowers for her birthday when she loves chocolates. You have to love your wife not based on what love means to you but on what love means to her.
Women have basic needs and it is part of the husband’s responsibility to see to it that he meets these basic needs.
However, we should note that our husbands will never to able to fill the void in our hearts meant to be filled by God.
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God is love and to effectively love your wife, you have to know God. The Bible says those who walk with the wise will be wise and the companion of fools shall be destroyed. So if we walk with God, we are guaranteed wisdom. It will simply rub off on us.
Every husband has a mandate in their life to love that woman. Love her with all your heart and let your love be genuine.
Understand her person and cherish her. You cannot love your wife and maltreat her. You cannot love her and belabor her with house chores without offering a helping hand.
Care for her and be sensitive to her needs and feelings. You also have to correct her because love does not seek your wife’s destruction. As a husband, it is your duty to also forgive her because love covers a multitude of sins.
In fact, 1 Cor 13, the love chapter, should be the manual for all husbands
May God pour the love of God into every husbands’ heart for their wives in a new way in Jesus name
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
Today is Valentine’s day, otherwise known as Lovers day.
The singles seem to celebrate this day more than couples because they are still very much in love. The butterflies are still flying in their bellies. Most couples have allowed the butterflies to die over the years.
This shouldn’t be. Every couple should still have love in their eyes, and they should still make each other’s hearts tingle. We have to learn to keep love alive.
Through the twists, bends, and turns of the married life, God wants to step in and help us live a fulfilling married life. God’s help comes to us by Him giving us instructions to follow.
Like the instructions given to wives we discussed yesterday, the married men have their own instructions to follow.
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I believe if both wives and husbands can be devoted to obeying these instructions, we will see the love of God manifest in our marriages.
In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.] -1Pe 3:7 (AMP)
The key things to note here are:
1. Married men should live considerately with their own wives.
2. Intelligent recognition of the marriage relation
3. Honoring the woman (wife)
4. Physically the weaker.
5. Realizing that you are joint heirs of the grace of life.
6. That your prayers be not hindered and cut off.
7. Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.
Let all men study these instructions meditatively.
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
Valentine’s Wisdom For Married Couples. There are so many stories about who valentine actually was. Here is one of the prominent stories.
He was a Roman priest during the 3rd century A.D. Emperor Claudius II was the king at the time. He decided to ban marriage, because of the notion that unmarried soldiers fought better than married soldiers. Valentine secretly officiated marriages. He was eventually found out, arrested, and imprisoned. He was then beheaded and he became a martyr by the Church because he gave up his life to perform the institution of marriage.
By the 5th Century, Pope Gelasius declared the 14th of February to be Valentine’s day!
Well, today is no longer a sacred day as it were! In the lives of some ladies, today would probably be the saddest day of their lives. To some others, it would be the day they would be introduced into the world of sexual compromise! A lot more have penciled today down today as the day they would desecrate the one they profess they love.
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Here are a few words for married couples
1. Be faithful with your spouse today. Do not cheat on him or her.
2. If you have quarrels, today is an opportunity to settle such quarrels. Take him or her out! Apologize, stay humble, and don’t flare up on a day like this.
3. Don’t hide under spirituality. Get something for each other on a day like this. Exchange gifts; not just husbands giving to wives but both ways.
4. If your spouse has traveled for any reason, stay in communication and resist any kind of pressure to compromise!
5. End every strife and stay away from bitterness. If you have been sexually depriving yourselves, try and make up today. Make her happy first, go back to the days you met her. What are those things you did that made her say “yes?” Those are the things to replicate and you will be amazed. Find out his or her love language and speak that language. Your goal is not to get what you want, but to make your spouse happy!
6. Decide to be joyful. Avoid strife. Refuse to be depressed on a day like this. Rather, use the pain you feel to talk to God to move on your behalf.
Tonight, we have Valentine’s dinner for Couples! More details HERE
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
I know that this might not be a popular topic. Some of the women might feel not so pleased with the topic. The feminist will definitely not find this topic interesting as they seek to fight for equality between the husband and the wife.
No matter how much we justify or look at the issue of respect between husbands and wives, God’s order will still stand.
You don’t ask the purpose of a thing from that thing. You ask the purpose from the creator.
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God is the creator of the institution of marriage. There is a purpose behind the creation of it and there is how it will run properly. If the order of operation is not followed, the purpose can never to fully achieved.
God made man first and then woman as his help meet.
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. – Gen 2:18-19
The man was created the head and handed the authority of leadership. That is not to say that men are superior to women. There are always the two extremes and that is the devil trying to pervert the truth that God stands for.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. – Eph 5:23
Wives, place yourselves under your husbands’ authority as you have placed yourselves under the Lord’s authority. – Eph 5:22 (GW)
So in order for our marriage to fulfill Gods mandate, every wife MUST place herself under the husband’s authority by respecting him, deferring to him and honor him as a service to God.
Sarah, for example, called Abraham lord. She respected him and I believe that was why she could eventually fulfill purpose. She was chosen to be the mother of the promised child.
In the home setting, the order is God first, the husband and then the wife and the children. The wife must obey, respect, honor, defer to, cherish, care for and treat the husband as lord and king. The final authority should rest with the husband. He is to take decisions and the wife must not try to manipulate him in any way.
This is God’s standard.
May God help us to obey Him and reap the reward thereof.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION OF THE DAY I seek to understand my spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord I receive grace to understand my spouse more
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1Pe 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be patient to understand your spouse
