We don’t like waiting. Singles hate waiting for the right person; couples hate waiting for a change in their partner. But love, real love, always passes through seasons of delay.
Abraham waited for Isaac. Hannah waited for Samuel. Joseph waited for freedom. Yet in the waiting, God was forming something deeper than desire—He was forming trust.
Singles, don’t rush the waiting season. God is not punishing you; He’s preparing you. Waiting is not wasted when it builds wisdom.
Couples, be patient with the process. You may not see change today, but growth often happens quietly, beneath the surface. Keep watering your relationship with prayer and kindness, even when you don’t see instant fruit.
Love that endures waiting becomes stronger. It stops being about timelines and becomes about trust.
In God’s hands, delay is not denial—it’s development.
Obedience is one of the purest proofs of love for God. It’s not about following rules for fear of punishment, but about trusting that His instructions lead to life. In Deuteronomy 28:1–2, God promises that if we diligently obey His commands, “all these blessings will come upon you and overtake you.”
Every blessing in Scripture is connected to obedience. Abraham obeyed God even when the instruction made no sense, and his obedience made him the father of nations. Noah built the ark when there was no sign of rain. Mary said yes to an impossible calling. Each act of obedience opened doors no human effort could achieve.
John 14:23 records Jesus’ words: “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them.” True obedience flows from love, not obligation. When you truly love God, you trust Him enough to follow even when you don’t understand.
James 1:22 warns, “Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” Hearing without action limits your growth. Obedience requires surrender, letting go of your will to embrace Him.
When God gives an instruction, it’s not to burden you but to bless you. Every “yes” you give in faith draws you closer to divine favor, provision, and peace. The secret to living under an open heaven is simple: trust and obey.
In Matthew 19:6, Jesus said, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Becoming one flesh does not mean becoming identical. It means embracing unity in diversity. God intentionally brings two distinct individuals together — with different personalities, backgrounds, strengths, and weaknesses — to create a stronger, more balanced whole.
Adam was strong, visionary, and driven. Eve was nurturing, intuitive, and relational. Together, they reflected God’s full image — strength and tenderness, vision and sensitivity. The beauty of marriage lies in these contrasts. Differences are not meant to divide but to complement.
In every marriage, there will be friction — not because something is wrong, but because two people are learning to synchronize their lives. One may be expressive, the other quiet. One may plan ahead, the other may live in the moment. The goal is not to change your spouse into your image, but to grow into God’s image together.
For singles, this means learning flexibility now — learning to understand others, listen, forgive, and adjust. The way you handle differences with friends, colleagues, and family prepares you for the realities of marriage.
For the married, unity is an intentional choice. It’s choosing to see your spouse’s uniqueness as a blessing, not a burden. It’s learning to say, “We’re different, but we’re on the same team.” When couples stop fighting for individual victory and start fighting for collective peace, oneness begins to blossom.
Marriage is a union of two imperfect people learning daily to love like Christ. It’s not always easy, but grace makes it possible. Colossians 3:12–14 encourages us to “clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.” These key virtues don’t come naturally; they grow as we walk closely with God.
Every relationship faces moments of misunderstanding and frustration. In those moments, grace is the oil that keeps love from running dry. Grace says, “I choose to see your effort, not just your flaws.” It is patience that listens, even when the heart feels weary. It’s the quiet strength that forgives before being asked.
Ephesians 4:2 says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” That “bearing” is the picture of endurance standing together through differences and disappointments. “Love covers a multitude of sins” 1 Peter 4:8.
Growing in patience and understanding are key virtues that require spiritual maturity. It means inviting the Holy Spirit into every disagreement and allowing His wisdom to guide your words. When grace leads, ego fades, and peace takes its place.
No marriage is perfect, but when two people make grace their lifestyle, they reflect God’s love to one another and to the world. Every day becomes another opportunity to show mercy, extend kindness, and grow deeper in unity.
3 Hidden Mindsets That Make You Run From Good Love – Part 2
2. “I do not deserve something this good.”
Many singles harbor a quiet, often unspoken belief that they are unworthy of love. So when someone treats them with honesty, respect, and intention, they doubt it. They assume there must be a catch or that disappointment is inevitable. This mindset is dangerous because it creates self-sabotage, making you dismiss or undermine a relationship before it has a chance to grow. God wants to replace this belief with truth: you are worthy because He made you, and the right love will reflect the value He sees in you.
3. “If it is real, it must be perfect.”
Expecting flawless communication, constant understanding, or zero mistakes is unrealistic and sets relationships up for failure. Real love is imperfect people learning together, adjusting, and growing over time. When we demand perfection, we reject love that is actually healthy and life-giving. God wants us to embrace growth and maturity, understanding that His love is perfect even when human love is not.
Recognizing these mindsets is the first step toward change. God can renew your mind so that your heart stops rejecting the blessings He is sending. It takes honesty, prayer, and reflection to identify where fear, insecurity, or unrealistic expectations have been shaping your decisions. But once you allow Him to transform your thinking, your actions in relationships begin to align with His truth, and you create space for good love to flourish.
CONCLUSION
Today, take time to reflect on the thoughts you carry about love. Pray for God to reveal areas where fear, unworthiness, or perfectionism have been holding you back. Ask Him to renew your mind, reshape your expectations, and help you recognize and receive the love He has been preparing for you. Transformation starts in the mind, and a renewed mind allows your heart to embrace love fully and wisely.
3 Hidden Mindsets That Make You Run From Good Love
Romans 12:2 (NKJV)“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
Sometimes we pray and pray for the right person, someone kind, honest, and intentional, yet when that person appears, we sabotage it without even realizing. We feel uncertain, suspicious, or distant. Many singles experience this, and the root is often not the person—they are good—but the mindset we carry into relationships. Our heart may be ready, but our mind may still be shaped by fear, past hurt, or false expectations. God knows this, and Romans 12:2 reminds us that transformation begins in the mind. Until we renew our thoughts about love, our hearts will continue to reject what we truly need.
Here are three mindsets that commonly push love away, explained so you can recognize them in yourself and allow God to renew you:
1. “I must protect myself at all costs.”
This mindset may sound wise, but it often comes from fear, not discernment. When you believe that guarding your heart means keeping everyone at a distance, you unconsciously push away good love. You misread kindness as manipulation, overanalyze every gesture, and withdraw when someone approaches sincerely. Protection is important, but fear-driven isolation keeps you from receiving the very love you are praying for. God wants you to guard your heart, yes, but He also wants you to trust Him enough to open it when His timing and plan bring the right person.
To be continued…
3 Hidden Mindsets That Make You Run From Good Love
Not every relationship feels balanced. Sometimes one person gives more, prays more, forgives more. Singles often face this tension while dating someone who seems less invested. Couples experience it when one spouse feels they’re carrying the emotional or spiritual weight alone.
But here’s the truth: love will never always be 50/50. Some days it’s 80/20, other days 40/60. What matters is whether both people are committed to closing that gap when they can. What matters is whether both are giving their 100% whilst striving to do better.
However, my dear singles, if you constantly feel like the only one giving, kindly step back and assess. Love shouldn’t drain you before it blesses you.
Married couples, here’s for you: instead of keeping score, focus on building balance. Communicate. Appreciate what your partner does, even if it’s not in your preferred way. Encourage growth rather than resentment.
God’s love toward us is always greater—and that’s our model. We keep giving, but not foolishly; we love, but not blindly.
8. Guard Against Worldly Influences The world often promotes values contrary to God’s design for love and marriage—selfishness, lust, materialism, and independence. To remain two lovebirds who love God, you must intentionally resist these influences. Romans 12:2 urges us, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”
Solution: Surround yourselves with godly influences—friends, mentors, sermons, and resources that reinforce biblical principles. Avoid media or activities that promote sinful behaviors or undermine your commitment to Christ-centered love.
9. Dream and Plan with God at the Center As you envision your future together, include God in your plans. Whether it’s career goals, family planning, or ministry aspirations, seek His will and trust His timing. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.”
Solution: Pray about major decisions and evaluate them against Scripture. Ensure that your dreams align with God’s purposes, knowing that His plans are always greater than anything you could imagine (Jeremiah 29:11).
10. Enjoy Each Other While Honoring God Loving God doesn’t mean neglecting romance or fun—it means enjoying each other within the boundaries of His design. Song of Solomon celebrates marital intimacy and affection, showing that God delights in our enjoyment of one another.
Solution: Create space for laughter, adventure, and romance. Plan date nights, write love notes, or simply spend quality time connecting. Keep physical intimacy pure and sacred, reserving it for marriage if you’re not yet wed.
Final Thought: Becoming two lovebirds who love God requires intentionality, humility, and a steadfast commitment to putting Him first in everything. As you prioritize your relationship with God, serve others together, communicate openly, and extend grace to one another, you’ll find that your love deepens and flourishes in ways that honor Him.
Remember, Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” When you add God as the third strand in your relationship, you create an unbreakable bond that reflects His love to the world.
So today, recommit yourselves to loving God wholeheartedly and loving each other sacrificially. Let your relationship be a testimony of His faithfulness and goodness, shining brightly in a world desperate for true love. After all, “Love is patient, love is kind… It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres” (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)—just as God loves us.
How to Become Two Lovebirds Who Love God is continued from yesterday.
4. Study Scripture Together God’s Word provides wisdom, encouragement, and direction for your relationship. Reading and discussing Scripture allows you to align your hearts with His truth and build intimacy through shared faith. Psalm 119:105 declares, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.”
Solution: Set aside time weekly to read the Bible together. Choose devotionals or books of the Bible that address marriage, love, and godly living. Discuss how you can apply what you’ve learned to your relationship.
5. Practice Forgiveness and Grace No relationship is perfect, and misunderstandings or mistakes will happen. Becoming two lovebirds who love God means extending forgiveness freely, just as He forgave us (Ephesians 4:32). Holding onto resentment creates distance, while grace draws you closer.
Solution: Be quick to apologize when wrong and equally quick to forgive. Remind yourselves that no one is without flaws, and your commitment to grace reflects God’s unconditional love for you.
6. Cultivate Communication Rooted in Love Healthy communication is essential for any relationship, especially one centered on God. James 1:19 encourages us to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. Loving communication builds trust and prevents unnecessary conflicts.
Solution: Speak kindly, avoid harsh words, and seek understanding before responding. Practice active listening by truly focusing on what your partner is saying without interrupting or jumping to conclusions.
7. Celebrate Spiritual Milestones Just as you celebrate anniversaries and achievements, take time to acknowledge spiritual milestones in your journey together. Whether it’s answering a prayer, overcoming a trial, or seeing fruit from your ministry efforts, celebrating these moments reinforces your shared faith.
Solution: Mark special occasions by giving thanks to God, journaling your blessings, or planning meaningful dates to reflect on His faithfulness. These celebrations remind you of God’s hand in your relationship.
A relationship that thrives isn’t just about two people falling in love—it’s about two people growing together in love for each other and for God. When Christ is at the center of your relationship, you create a foundation that withstands life’s challenges and reflects His glory. Here’s how you can become two lovebirds who not only adore each other but also passionately pursue God as a couple.
1. Prioritize Your Relationship with God First Before you focus on loving each other, ensure that both of you are deeply rooted in your individual relationships with God. Jesus said in Matthew 6:33, “Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” A strong spiritual connection with God enables you to love one another selflessly and faithfully.
Solution: Spend time daily in prayer, Bible study, and worship—individually and together. Encourage each other to grow spiritually and hold each other accountable to stay close to God.
2. Pray Together Regularly Prayer unites hearts like nothing else can. When you pray together, you invite God into every aspect of your relationship—your joys, struggles, dreams, and decisions. Acts 4:24 says, “When they heard this, they raised their voices together in prayer to God.”
Solution: Make prayer a regular habit. Start by thanking God for your relationship, interceding for each other’s needs, and seeking His guidance for your future. Even short prayers throughout the day can keep your bond spiritually vibrant.
3. Serve Others as a Team Serving others shifts the focus from yourselves to reflecting God’s love to the world. It strengthens your unity and deepens your shared purpose. Galatians 5:13 reminds us, “Serve one another humbly in love.”
Solution: Volunteer together at church, mentor younger couples, or participate in community outreach programs. Serving side by side fosters teamwork and gratitude for what you have as a couple.
How to Become Two Lovebirds Who Love God will be continued tomorrow.
Before God brings the right person into your life, He often focuses on making you the right person. Many singles spend years praying for the perfect partner but overlook the importance of preparation. Ruth wasn’t sitting idly by waiting for Boaz; she was living faithfully, serving diligently, and growing in character. It was her consistency in doing the right things that positioned her for divine connection.
Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” Godly relationships are not built on outward attraction but on inward transformation. When your heart is yielded to God, He refines your values, strengthens your patience, and builds your faith.
Becoming the right person means developing the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22–23), learning self-control, and being content in God’s timing. It means letting God work on your weaknesses and heal areas that could later harm your relationship. Philippians 2:13 says, “it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill His good purpose.”
Don’t just pray for a partner; pray to be the kind of person who adds value, love, and stability to someone’s life. When God sees your readiness, He aligns your steps with His perfect plan.
One of the hardest challenges for those trusting God for a life partner is learning to wait without growing impatient or making decisions out of fear, loneliness, or pressure. Many of us have experienced situations where we rushed into relationships because it “felt right” or because everyone around us seemed to be moving faster. Yet God’s timing is not about convenience or immediate gratification—it is about alignment, preparation, and purpose.
Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NLT)For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven.
The above passage reminds us that everything has its season. Love is no exception. There is a time to meet, a time to court, a time to commit, and a time to wait. Learning to discern these seasons is crucial if you want a relationship that lasts, glorifies God, and nurtures your heart.
Discerning God’s timing begins with recognizing the difference between desire and direction. Desire can be emotional, impulsive, and focused on comfort or companionship. Direction is spiritual, intentional, and rooted in God’s plan for your life. Singles often confuse the two, rushing because they feel ready emotionally or because society pressures them to “settle down.” God wants you to pause, reflect, and ask: Is this person, situation, or opportunity aligning with His plan, or am I acting on my own timing?
Another key aspect is preparation versus presence. God may bring the right person into your life, but your heart may not yet be ready to receive them fully. Timing often involves internal growth—healing past wounds, developing patience, clarifying your values, and strengthening your faith. Discernment requires self-examination: Are you seeking a relationship to fill a void, or are you ready to share life with someone in a healthy, intentional way?
God’s timing is often revealed through peace, confirmation, and alignment with Scripture. When a potential relationship is truly from Him, it often comes with clarity, consistency, and a sense of calm that aligns with Godly wisdom. Conversely, if you feel constant stress, confusion, or guilt, it may be a sign that the timing is off or that the person is not yet right. God may use circumstances, delays, or even closed doors to prepare you, sharpen your discernment, and guide you toward someone who will honor both Him and your heart.
Practical ways to discern God’s timing include prayerful reflection, seeking counsel from trusted mentors or spiritual leaders, observing actions over words, and paying attention to how your relationship aligns with God’s standards and your spiritual growth. Waiting is not passive—it is active preparation, learning, and listening. It is growing into the person God wants you to be so that you are ready to receive the love He has been orchestrating.
How to Discern God’s Timing in Love
CONCLUSION
True love rarely happens by accident—it comes in God’s perfect timing, and it is meant to strengthen, encourage, and build both hearts spiritually and emotionally. Trust Him, prepare intentionally, and let your discernment guide you to a relationship that is not only fulfilling but deeply God-centered.
Faith doesn’t always feel good. There are days when emotions scream louder than truth, and trusting God feels hard. Yet Scripture calls us to “walk by faith, not by sight” (2 Corinthians 5:7).
Feelings fluctuate, but faith remains anchored in who God is, unchanging, faithful, and true. When life gets heavy, our emotions can cloud our judgment. Fear, anxiety, and disappointment can make us forget what God has already done. That’s why the Psalmist asks in Psalm 42:5, “Why, my soul, are you downcast? Put your hope in God.” Faith speaks to the soul and reminds it of God’s promises.
Choosing faith over feelings means deciding that your trust in God will not depend on circumstances. It’s waking up and declaring, “Even if I don’t see it yet, God is still good.” Isaiah 26:3 assures us that “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.”
Faith stabilizes your heart in seasons of uncertainty. It teaches you to pray instead of panic, and sing praises instead of complaining. It’s not a denial of how you feel; it’s a decision to let God’s truth define your reality.
Your emotions are valid, but they should never lead your life. When faith leads, peace follows. Trusting God above your feelings will always lead you to victory.
The Love That Builds Together – Priscilla & Aquila
If there’s a couple in Scripture who understood partnership, it’s Priscilla and Aquila. They weren’t just in love—they were in purpose. Together, they built tents, hosted Paul, and taught Apollos about the way of God more accurately.
Their love wasn’t loud, but it was strong. It wasn’t flashy, but it was fruitful.
In the journey of seeking “the one,” look beyond chemistry—look for compatibility in calling. Chemistry is okay, but don’t forget compatibility. Can you build something meaningful with this person? Can they strengthen your faith, or will they stretch your peace?
In marriage, Priscilla and Aquila remind us that love isn’t only about affection; it’s about assignment. As a couple, support each other’s callings. Build something that outlives you. Let your home be more than a comfort zone—make it a kingdom zone.
The world may not remember how perfect your wedding was, but it will remember what your partnership produced.
Love is sweetest when it’s serving purpose together.
We started this series last week. If you missed it, you can read it HERE
Part 2 – Leaving and Cleaving
Genesis 2:24 begins with a key phrase — “A man shall leave his father and mother…” Before the union comes the leaving. This leaving isn’t just about moving out of your parents’ home; it’s about a shift of loyalty, priority, and identity.
When a man or woman marries, their primary allegiance changes. The emotional center that once belonged to parents, siblings, or even friends must now be given to their spouse. Many marriages struggle, not because of external enemies, but because the couple never truly left. They are married physically, but still attached emotionally or financially in unhealthy ways.
To “cleave” means to cling tightly — like glue that bonds two surfaces so firmly that separating them would cause damage. That’s the level of commitment God desires in marriage — one that is permanent, exclusive, and deeply loyal.
For singles, understanding this helps you prepare your heart for true partnership. Learn to build healthy boundaries with family and friends. Learn to stand on your own spiritually and emotionally. When you know how to “leave” rightly, you will “cleave” rightly when the time comes.
For the married, leaving and cleaving is a continuous practice. It means protecting your spouse from unnecessary external interference — whether from family, work, or ministry. It means honoring your spouse as your first human priority after God.
One flesh cannot exist where there’s divided loyalty. A man or woman who hasn’t learned to leave cannot cleave. True intimacy is born when both hearts are fully present and free from competing ties.
We often imagine hearing God as something that happens in deep prayer or during life’s major crossroads—like choosing a spouse or a career. But what if God speaks just as clearly in the grocery aisle, the traffic jam, or while folding laundry?
Joseph, the earthly father of Jesus, teaches us that divine direction isn’t reserved for dramatic moments. He wasn’t a priest or prophet—just a carpenter trying to live right. Yet every time God spoke, Joseph heard.
In Matthew 1:20, when the angel said, “Do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife”, he listened. When told, “Get up, take the child and his mother and escape to Egypt” (Matthew 2:13, NIV), he obeyed. Later, “Go to the land of Israel” (Matthew 2:20, NIV). No thunder. No burning bush. Just quiet clarity in ordinary life.
What made Joseph different wasn’t his holiness—it was his habit of listening. He didn’t treat hearing God as a rare spiritual event but as part of his daily rhythm. His obedience turned ordinary moments into sacred history.
Maybe God’s voice isn’t hiding—it’s just competing with our noise. The ping of notifications. The rush of deadlines. The hum of worry. But when we quiet our hearts, even in the middle of life’s routine, we might catch the whisper of God guiding us through “everyday” issues: which conversation to have, which decision to delay, how to respond in kindness.
Like Joseph, we don’t need a spotlight to hear heaven. We just need to stay tuned. The voice that guided him still speaks steadily, practically, and is present in the details of our ordinary days.
