One way you can achieve this is by rejecting the victim mentality in your relationship.
There are people who live with a victim mentality. It is not a good place to be. It is a negative mentality, an unfortunate place to be.
The guy with the victim mentality goes into a relationship expecting it to break up. The lady with victim mentality expects to be heartbroken, expects to be disappointed, and expects to be jilted.
Somehow, that person is addicted to pain. Until he or she is treated in some bad way, he or she is bored. It is a contradiction. He or she prays against pain but then looks forward to it through actions and in-actions. Such a person enjoys the depression and despondency that comes after being hurt.
So the person indirectly positions himself or herself to be hurt. Even when the hurt is not forthcoming, he ensures something happens that will create the scenario.
It is a victim mentality, a time-waster, a destiny twister.
And there we saw the giants, the sons of Anak, which come of the giants: and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.
Num 13:33 (KJV)
How did these people know that they were like grasshoppers in other people’s eyes? It was their belief system.
When you go into a relationship with this mentality, the break up is guaranteed.
This mentality and feeling must be rejected.
Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be abused. Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be jilted. Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be cheated and conned.
Don’t go into a relationship believing that you will be dumped and discarded. Don’t go into a relationship when you don’t even love yourself.
Believe the best of God. Love believes the best. Give yourself some hope, stay positive and constantly declare God’s word over your life.
I will stop here this morning.
May God bless your relationship!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am loved of God
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, take away from me every negative spirit
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Num 13:33 (MSG) Why, we even saw the Nephilim giants (the Anak giants come from the Nephilim). Alongside them we felt like grasshoppers. And they looked down on us as if we were grasshoppers.”
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Confession God’s word over your life
The second thing that must be present in every marriage that will succeed has to do with communication.
2. Constant Communication A man was once asked what the three most important things in a marriage are.
His response:
1. Communication 2. Communication 3. Communication
Do I agree? Yes, I fully do!
When communication dies, assumptions, suspicions, lies and deception will take over. There is nothing as beautiful as a marriage where both parties can fully express themselves.
Hear each other out!
When a man talks, his goal may be a logical explanation, but when a woman talks, it is more than an explanation, it is a release; an emotional release. So every time she is muted, there are pent-up tensions being stored up for a later time.
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It is akin to the molten magma within, nothing shows on the surface much, but one day, the magma can no longer hold still, there will be a volcanic eruption causing untold havocs!
Unexplained hurts, unexpressed bitterness, are all like the molten magma in the belly of the ground.
So, when you tell your spouse to “shut up” continually, and it looks as though you are in charge and winning, well, you are not really in winning, you are actually losing!
Allow free expression in your matrimonial home.
3. Renewal and Recharge Junctions In marriage, you must learn to take breaks from work and relax. You have to have time that you spend together as husband and wife.
You need to go back to what used to excite you before wedding and do those things again and again.
Apart from reading your Bible and praying in the Holy Ghost which re-fires you and recharges your spirit, you should also learn to be relaxed once in a while.
4. Mentoring Every marriage must have a mentor that you defer to and seek wisdom from.
There is something that a couple who has been married for thirty years know that a three-year-old couple is oblivious of.
It is plain wisdom to seek counsel. Most issues that lead to serious strife and possible separation and divorce could easily have been resolved by seeking knowledge.
That is why I am a little scared of couples who talk to nobody! Something is not quite right with that. Part of having a marriage mentor is being humble.
5. Sincerity and Openness Finally, this is so crucial to the survival of any marriage!
Be open! Marriage is not a secret cult! Talk about everything and anything.
Hiding things and allowing your spouse to discover will only lead to mistrust and suspicion.
The rule of the game is to talk about everything. That will go a long way to establish trust.
If you keep talking exactly how it is, it would be difficult to go into adultery, because adultery is perpetuated in the platform insincerity and deception
May God help us all.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will pray for my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to pray
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 4:7 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 106. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Prayers Today
Oil For Today – Day 106
Then said the LORD unto me, Thou hast well seen: for I will hasten my word to perform it.
Jer 1:12 (KJV)
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 106
Begin to thank God for today.
2. Pray that the eyes of your understanding be enlightened.
3. Ask the LORD to show you the great things written about you.
4. Begin to declare that the power of God is available to perform His Word in your life.
5. Pray for your local assembly; that there will be a performance of that written concerning her.
6. Come against every force of darkness fighting against the manifestation of God’s prophecies in your life today.
7. Pray that the grace for speed will rest upon you today.
8. Begin to call forth resources today.
9. Go ahead and make your personal requests for the day known to the Lord.
10. Begin to thank the Lord for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 106
I declare today that I have the seeing eyes. My eyes are open to see that which God will have me do for my lifting. I see that which God will have me do for my relationship/marriage. I receive wisdom for daily living. I declare that every promise of God for me will be made manifest. I do not live a life of unfulfilled promises, for the LORD Himself will hasten His Word to perform it. I receive the oil of speed today. I run ahead of my contemporaries. I move forward. I will not be put to shame, for the LORD God will help me. So shall it be in the name of Jesus; Amen
1. Dating is an appointment between two people (not in a hotel or some guest house)
2. Dating is a meeting to conduct a long-range interview with the purpose of knowing a person.
3. The purpose of dating is to eliminate all surprises eventually if a romantic relationship ensues.
4. Dating seeks to know the person, not the body.
5. Dating is a discovery of who the person is, not what is under the clothes.
6. Once jeru trip is involved, the mind enters into confusion and you can no longer trust your judgment.
7. Dating seeks all information as regards the person in consideration, medical, spiritual, and all.
8. Dating helps you not to fall in love blindly.
9. Dating is perfectly okay for a child of God. However, meeting in his place or at some ungodly hour is not dating! When you are in a guy’s territory, anything can happen.
10. Finally, after dating, take everything back to God. Do all of this before any emotion is involved and let God guide you by His peace!
God bless your relationship.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not be deceived
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, guide me by your shepherding grace
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2Ti 2:22 (KJV) Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Talk to God every step of the way
There are a lot of things that must be put in place for a marriage to succeed. There are conscious and deliberate inputs that must be in place so that marriage can bring bliss and not blisters.
Here are some of those things.
1. Prayers A family that prays together stays together. A husband and wife that pray together will overcome the flesh easily. Prayer protects, shields and connects you to your inheritance in God.
As husband and wife, pray for one another rather than tear one another apart. Intercede for each other. What the devil wants is a tearing apart, do not cooperate with him. Wake up in the middle of the night and pray together. The power of agreement is better harnessed as a couple.
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In the first few years of our marriage, my wife and I would wake up by 12.00am and pray in the Spirit. I am persuaded that those prayers advanced our lives and ministries.
There is a purpose for coming together in marriage. It is not just for making love and then dying at the age of ninety. There is a purpose in the heart of God. That purpose is not to be decided, it is to be discovered. When you discover that purpose, you just stepped into your wealthy place. You can only discover in the place of prayers.
The devil will do all he knows to do to make sure you don’t pray.
I will stop here today and continue tomorrow.
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will pray for my loved one
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to pray
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Jas 4:7 (KJV) Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
