The quality of meekness is one state of the heart that should not be compromised. Marry a teachable woman. You need a lady that is submissive.
Submission is not subservience or servitude. It is just a cooperation to allow your husband have the final say.
As a lady, never marry a man you detest or that you cannot defer to.
In talking to women, Apostle Peter listed some qualities every woman should have and every man should look for.
When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your [a]reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him—to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband]. 1 Pet.3:2
Now, listen very carefully. You will not always find a perfect woman! You have to allow her to grow. You have to be patient.
If you are looking for that Mrs. Perfect, I have news for you, she does not exist!
4. Look for a woman you love and your heart blesses!
Marriage is by choice and not by force, so it is important you look for a lady you truly love and your heart blesses. Don’t marry out of pressure or suggestion.
When you marry a woman you truly love, when there are crisis or challenges, the first statement from you won’t be, “I want a divorce,” rather it would be “how can I salvage this situation?” Why? Because you love her!
The scripture likened marriage to Jesus Christ and the church. If Jesus Christ is like the husband, and the church is like the wife, the question is “has the church, the wife of Jesus Christ been perfect?”
The answer is No! How is Jesus Christ coping? How come Jesus has not divorced the church? The church is truly in a messy state and the body of Christ seemed divided and yet the scripture made a shocking statement that all husbands must learn from.
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. (Ephesians 5:27 KJV)
How will Jesus achieve this for God’s sake? You see, because I am supposed to take a cue from Him since I am a husband or husband-to-be like Jesus Christ is the husband of the church.
Message Translation even made it more incredible.
Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor––since they’re already “one” in marriage (Ephesians 5:26-28 Message)
I must look for a woman I truly love and I am comfortable that everything I do or say is designed to evoke her beauty and bring the best out of her!
Verse 27 tells us how Jesus Christ would achieve this.
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. (Ephesians 5:27 KJV)
May God grant you more understanding.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am deliberate in my approach to find love
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, turn things around in my favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor––since they’re already “one” in marriage Eph 5:28 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start preparing for your marriage now.
It is important you look for a lady who is your friend. Friends don’t want to hurt one another. Friends love each other truly. Friends forgive each other easily. Friends want to be with one another. Friends don’t have problems with communication. They talk all the time.
It is important that your love grows from friendship. That is why it is not good to rush into a relationship with a person you barely know. There is a huge difference between marrying an acquaintance and marrying a friend.
It is even worse when you decide to marry a stranger that you met on social media. You will not live on Facebook. You will not give birth on Google Plus. You will not cook on LinkedIn.
So, why establish and maintain a relationship over social media?
Why fall in love with a profile? Why become emotionally attached with a voice over the phone? You have to go for a friend and friendship involves constant communication and a committed relationship.
Before you fall in love, before you are caught in a rapturous ecstasy, try and see her one on one! It is impossible to fall in love with a person you don’t know, so become friends first and don’t be caught up in infatuation.
2. Look for a homely woman
The next thing to look for in a woman is homeliness. Look for a lady that can cook! Yes, she is not a house-help, but she has to know how to cook! Good food is very important to men.
As a single lady, train yourself to know how to cook well. If she cannot cook, there will be issues.
If as a lady, you had grown up among several house-helps and you barely go to the kitchen, you have to deliberately teach yourself how to prepare good food in preparation for marriage.
If you visit your fiancée and all you are served are always noodles, flakes, beverages, and refreshments, you should start suspecting! That’s a joke!
Be creative with cooking. Get on the Internet and download recipe ideas.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am deliberate in my approach to find love
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, turn things around in my favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor––since they’re already “one” in marriage Eph 5:28 MSG
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start preparing for your marriage now.
You were born in one day! Nobody is born in days or weeks. That is why it is birthdays that are celebrated and not birth week or birth month.
You started school in one day. You matriculated into a higher institution in one day. You will graduate in one day.
One day, you will propose. One day, you will give or get an answer.
The processes may take weeks and even months, even years but the crescendo, the actual happenstance is one day!
You will have your wedding in one day. It is called wedding day!
Heaven was created in one day. The earth was fashioned in one day.
The man was made in one day. Eve became a reality in one day.
Jesus was birthed in one day. He was crucified in one day. He rose up in one day. He ascended in one day.
Death comes once and takes one day! Life comes in one day when you received Jesus into your life.
I am here to tell you this morning, that all you have gone through, what has made you cry, what has messed you up, the past that seems to have dragged for years, the delay in marriage that seems would not end, all will be sorted out in one day!
Sometimes, the issues we face seem so gargantuan that we conclude it cannot be solved in one day! But in one day, God will turn things around for you.
Who hath heard such a thing? who hath seen such things? Shall the earth be made to bring forth in one day? or shall a nation be born at once? for as soon as Zion travailed, she brought forth her children. – Isaiah 66:8 (KJV)
But it happened in one day!
They have been in servitude and slavery for over four hundred years. Their slavery is not only acute but generational. Grandsons met their grandfathers as slaves and their own children met them there!
If such slavery and bondage has extended for over four centuries, certainly it would take years to dislodge and be free.
But not with God!
In one day, a nation was born. In one day, they left. In one day, they were made free. In one day, their emancipation came.
I want to announce to you this morning that the trans-generational issue is coming to an end in one day.
I say unto prophetically, as of the Lord, that affliction, that delay, that family issue that has been there is over today in Jesus name.
Weeping has endured for a night, now your joy has come!
You have been jobless for years, but your one day is here!
You have been trusting God for the right spouse for years, but today I announce to you, your marriage is born!
Now, how did the children of Israel leave? How did they cross the red sea? How did they transit from over 400 years of servitude into freedom in one day?
Here it is;
He turned the sea into dry land: they went through the flood on foot: there did we rejoice in him. – Psalms 66:6 (KJV)
It was with rejoicing! And that is what I dare you to do.
Keep rejoicing. Laugh at that situation. He that sits in heaven is laughing because your victory is sure.
He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: the Lord shall have them in derision. – Psalms 2:4 (KJV)
And you have to laugh too because you are seated with Him. Glory to God!
Refuse to be depressed. Rejoice at your victory because that one day of yours is here!
I announce to you in the name of the Lord, your one day is here!
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My one day is here! Glory to Go
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, turn things around in my favour
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Psalms 2:4(KJV) He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: the Lord shall have them in derision.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start singing and dancing now.
The spiritual husband will put the things of God first place. He takes charge of the family in the place of spiritual oversight and knows how to hear from God.
A man that doesn’t know how to hear God can make the whole family suffer because of wrong decisions.
Every day, a man is making decisions, but the consequences of his decisions go beyond him, they affect the whole family.
However, ladies don’t just want a spiritual husband. They also want a romantic husband.
4. The Romantic Husband
If he is spiritual but unromantic, he will be a bore!
Ladies would be like “Is it only Bible reading and speaking in tongues all the time? Going to the movies once in a while nko?
Ladies want a man that knows his onions when it comes to being romantic.
Every wife wants a man that can read the Bible but can also read their moods. They want a man who can interpret tongues and can also interpret non-verbal cues. They want a man who is sensitive to the Holy Spirit and is also sensitive to their needs!
Abi ladies, is that not what you want?
5. The Humorous Husband
Every lady loves her husband who can make her laugh! What is the point of frowning all over the house throughout the day?
Pastor, is it when there is no money that we would be laughing? Well, read your Bible very well.
At destruction and famine thou shalt laugh… – Job 5:22 (KJV)
Laugh about it and stop looking like Lucozade!
Make your wife laugh!
Those times when your wife is not really happy for whatever reasons, sometimes they themselves don’t even know why you should know what chords to strike that will tickle her.
If all you do is make that lady frown and sad, your relationship or marriage is at risk the day one colleague starts making your wife laugh!
You must know her password. You must learn her love language and learn how to deploy the words strategically to get her out of any pit of depression!
Laughter is like medicine! So, husbands, loosen up.
Guys in courtship, all this frowning all over the place because you are trusting God for money to get a house and settle down is not the way out. Get into God’s word, eat them and let it become a joy and rejoicing of your heart!
As you stay joyful, God will give you ideas that will bring more income, will favour you, and cause an in-flow of funds that will position you to experience God’s supernatural supply system!
I pray that God will give you more understanding!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will go after wisdom. Knowledge is pleasant to my soul. I enjoy reading God’s word. Discretion will preserve me. Understanding will keep me.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, flood my heart with the light of your word.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And here’s why: GOD gives out Wisdom free, is plainspoken in Knowledge and Understanding. (Pro 2:6 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start searching for knowledge of God’s word now.
Proverbs 20:6 (KJV) Most men will proclaim every one his own goodness: but a faithful man who can find?
Most men will tell you all kinds of stuffs while toasting you, but where is really that faithful man?
A faithful man will abound with blessings. If you have a faithful husband, treasure him. If you have a man that will not cheat on you, you are blessed!
We are in a generation where ladies would open their legs without asking for it.
If you are unfaithful, if you are careless, if you have no self control, you will fry yourself alive!
See me, I have made up my mind o… there is no going back by the grace of God!
Making up your mind doesn’t mean you are boasting, it means you are consecrating yourself unto God and by His Spirit to stay true to His word.
I am an Ijebu man. We are very shrewd.
Which one weighs more? Your destiny or seven minutes of sweating and jacking up and down? Just asking ni o!
Enjoying yourself in the pleasure of adultery or fornication versus losing God’s favour and even losing heaven when you are unrepentant! Which one?
2. The Responsible Husband
The responsible husband will ensure his family is taken care of.
He would not spend money drinking around town while his kids are sent home for not paying school fees.
He would do all possible in God to ensure the best is provided for His family.
He is not lazy.
Every woman should pray for a responsible husband.
My heart bleeds to hear of many women who are breadwinners of their families, struggling to make ends meet because they are married to a man who is full of promises and talks but will never do anything.
Marrying a lazy man is an affliction in itself. Before you walk down the aisle, watch it.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am led by the spirit of God. My feelings do not control me.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, lead me to the rightful person for me
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
