Being a good husband can be difficult. In today’s society, with more pressures than ever, it’s no wonder that some husbands feel like they don’t know how to be good husbands.
So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. – Eph 5:28 (KJV)
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a partner in life because this will help to fulfill your wife’s needs as well as your own. However, you also need to have respect for yourself. This blog post will give you some practical tips on how to be a better husband and maintain your relationship with your spouse.
Important qualities of a good husband
There are 10 qualities that make a good husband. One of the most important is the ability to make your wife feel loved and respected. A close second is being a great partner in life.
How to make your wife feel loved and respected
One of the most important qualities of a good husband is the ability to make their wife feel loved and respected. One way you can do this is by creating time for your spouse and making sure that both you and your wife have time to pursue your own interests. Another way to make your wife feel loved is by building up her self-worth. You need to show her that she matters and it’s important for her to be able to talk about any problem she may be facing.
How to be a partner in life
It’s important to be a partner in life for your spouse. This means making sure you’re supporting them through both good times and bad. If your spouse has a problem, help them solve it. Don’t shut them down or tell them they’re wrong.
It’s also important to respect yourself as well as your wife. You want to feel like you have a say in the relationship, too. That way, you’ll both feel more fulfilled and satisfied with how things are going.
Don’t always put your wife first; make sure that your needs are met, too. Your wife should be able to depend on you if something bad happens so she doesn’t have to bear the weight of it alone.
Loving someone is hard work and requires effort on both ends. You’ll need to make an effort at all times if you want to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
Conclusion
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CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a good spouse
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord Jesus, help me to put to use what I have learnt
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Prov 31:23 [TLB] Her husband is well known, for he sits in the council chamber with the other civic leaders.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Decide to be a good husband
Bode has always lived to impress other people. He has always compared himself to others, allowing other people’s lives and purposes to determine his own goals. He has never been true to himself. In no time, he had worn out himself and at the end of the day, he still lacked fulfillment.
For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise. (2 Corinthians 10:12 KJV)
Why would the Bible say that falling into comparison trap is foolish?
1. You are unique
You are uniquely created. There are over seven billion people on planet earth and yet nobody else has an exact match of your fingerprints. As I write now, the world’s population is at 7.9 Billion!
You have been uniquely packaged for a specific assignment on earth. It is foolhardy then for one to compare himself with another.
2. You have different assignments
Everybody has a unique purpose to fulfill on earth. God told Jeremiah that
Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. (Jeremiah 1:5 KJV)
Your purpose precedes your creation. That is how powerful it can get! Everything you need on earth to fulfill your purpose was packaged into you while God is creating you. You are not inferior, you are gifted and you only need to discover it!
3. You have a different life span
Some people would have achieved so much by thirty that you are wondering how they are able to do so many things in a few years. But then before they are fifty, they are out of this world. Some people are great achievers too, just that they are latecomers. Their limelight begins when they are over forty or fifty! Stop comparing yourself with what others are doing, focus on God to help you do what you are supposed to do!
4. You will weary yourself
When you compare yourself, you will end up getting tired because you will be drawn to do what you are not gifted to do. You will want to impress others and you will soon get tired trying to do that!
5. You will be distracted
Comparison trap breaks your focus. It gets you on the wrong lane of purpose. It is a wasted and futile effort with no reward from God.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am focused
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord Jesus, help me to be focused
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations. (Jeremiah 1:5 KJV)
Betty is so frustrated in the relationships she had been involved with. She seems to have the knack for attracting the wrong people all the time. From deceivers to casanovas and then out-rightly wicked people, she kept having broken relationships. At a time, she began to think that there might be a curse lurking somewhere.
Andy had similar experiences in the hands of what he can only describe as strange women. They kept ripping him off, collecting his money, and eventually eloping just at the times commitments were about to be initiated. He didn’t know what to do again. He seems locked up in the pit of confusion with no flicker of light or hope?
Is there ever a way to know the right person as a child of God? Is there ever a way to avoid the wrong man or woman? Will God lead? If God leads, how? How can I be kept from ungodly people, deceivers, and liars?
Sometimes, you don’t even know which Pastor to talk to because there are so many charlatans who call themselves Pastors but will readily take advantage of naive ladies and end up abusing the abused! It’s pathetic and heart-rendering!
Let us get into the scripture to see some verses in answers to avoiding wrong people in relationships. The truth is that if you are able to avoid the wrong people, you will not waste time and resources on what will not eventually work. You will not be dissipating your energy on wasteful and useless relationships.
(10)When wisdom entereth into thine heart, and knowledge is pleasant unto thy soul; (11)Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee: (12)To deliver thee from the way of the evil man, from the man that speaketh froward things; (13) Who leave the paths of uprightness, to walk in the ways of darkness; (14)Who rejoice to do evil, and delight in the frowardness of the wicked; (15)Whose ways are crooked, and they froward in their paths: (16)To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words; (17)Which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God.(18) For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead.(19)None that go unto her return again, neither take they hold of the paths of life. (20)That thou mayest walk in the way of good men, and keep the paths of the righteous. – Pro 2:10-20 KJV
In verses 10 and 11, the Bible says that you will be protected and preserved from falling into the wrong hands.
Verse 12 says ‘it will deliver you from the evil man.’ This means wisdom and knowledge will help you not to say YES to the wrong man.
Message translation of verse 12 says,
‘They’ll keep you from making wrong turns, or following the bad directions.’
That is very profound. It will keep you from making emotional decisions.
Message translation of verse 14 says it will deliver you from ‘These losers who make a game of evil and throw parties to celebrate perversity’ That is, you will be kept away from men that are out to deceive you.
Message translation of verse 15 says it will deliver you from people that are ‘Traveling paths that go nowhere, wandering in a maze of detours and dead ends.’ That is, you will be kept away from jobless, visionless, directionless men. This is how to avoid wrong men.
Further down in verse 16, the Bible says ‘To deliver thee from the strange woman!’ This is awesome. You don’t want to get involved with a strange woman. Solomon married strange women and they turned his heart away from God.
Whether you are a man or woman, you are protected. But notice it all boils down to the fact that wisdom must enter your heart and knowledge must be pleasant to your soul. Go after wisdom. Stay in church and learn. Buy books and study.
The key to all this seems to be in verse 10, …when wisdom enters your heart. If wisdom can only enter my heart, I can avoid evil men and strange women. I can be kept from time and resources-wasting relationships.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will go after wisdom. I will locate the right person
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY O Lord, help me locate the right person
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And here’s why: GOD gives out Wisdom free, is plainspoken in Knowledge and Understanding. (Pro 2:6 MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Start searching for knowledge of God’s word now.
It really doesn’t have to be expensive if you are not buoyant, but you should trust God for constant supplies.
There is a large part of the brain that is dedicated to shiny things in ladies.
In men, it is gadgets, anything that looks like a box, phones, cars, sound systems and so on. But in women, it is anything shiny, shoes, bags, jewelries and the likes.
If you don’t agree, buy her one and see how she will grin from ear to ear.
4. Give her time and attention
Hear what she is saying and what she is not saying.
Do not allow communication to die.
Keep talking no matter what.
If you are not in the same city, make sure you contact each other daily unless you are working in a medieval forest where there are no communication networks.
Otherwise, you have no excuse that you are so “busy” and you cannot call.
I really will not agree that a man can be so busy and cannot steal out five minutes out of twenty-four hours to be in touch with the one he professes to love.
If he forgets to call from time to time, it is either he loves another wherever he is or he is deliberately developing cold feet towards the relationship.
If a man loves you, his heart will be with you and he will stay in touch no matter what.
If he has not called you in three weeks, you are the only one in love, he is not.
It can really be painful to be in love with one who is not in love with you. It is a time waster and you should not waste your time on such.
So, time and attention are very important to a man.
I pray that God will grant you more wisdom on this topic in Jesus name!
A shout to all our partners, God will continue to honor you in Jesus name! Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My lover is very happy with me. I do things that please him/her.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, teach me how to make my partner happy.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Corinthians 10:12 For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Tell him/her how much you love them
Your fiancee will sense your genuine love for her when you pray for her from the depths of your heart.
She will feel well taken care of and her assurance that the future will be great will increase.
Every lady is looking for a man that they know will be there for them spiritually. It is only carnal minded ladies that don’t care a hoot about the man’s spirituality.
You cannot place your spiritual responsibility on your loved one, but at least, you can be inspired by each other’s faith.
It is beautiful when you dedicate time of courtship for the spirituals and not just for carnality and fun all the way.
Thank God for Cinemas and movies, but what about some fasting and prayers as well?
Thank God for the Ice cream and the burgers, but what about some christian books on marriage to read and discuss as well?
2. Take her out
As spiritual as she may be, she wants to be taken out and sweet nonsense whispered into her ears. She finds that very romantic.
As much as she likes to take confessions, she also want to hear you confess your love for her.
As much as she wants you to share scriptures with her, she also wants to share pop-corn and drink with you while at the cinema.
There must be a balance here. One must not be sacrificed for the other and you have to learn to create a balance.
There is a time for fasting and prayers towards your wedding. There is a time for taking a walk and telling her how much you love her.
There is a time for speaking in tongues together. There is a time for holding the tongue and listen to her speak.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My lover is very happy with me. I do things that please him/her.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh Lord, teach me how to make my partner happy.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 2 Corinthians 10:12 For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Tell him/her how much you love them
