In our many years of counseling married couples, we have had to handle different kinds of issues in marriage. Some of the issues, simple and direct while others are pretty complicated and not direct at all.
The Holy Spirit helps us handle these issues. Some of these issues have their root causes in some generational issues, a complex parental issue, a background issue or a habit that was developed while growing up.
Some husbands are good with silent treatment to their wives. There could be a lot of reasons responsible for this kind of treatment but it takes digging into the issue to get to the root cause.
It will be good to note that there could be different things responsible for such actions. The husband could be frustrated at the wife nagging. The husband could be having issues at work. The husband might have difficulties communicating his deepest feelings. The husband might grow up seeing his dad do the same to his mum. The husband may be involved in extra marital affairs, thus his cold actions. The husband might be dealing with issues that the wife knows nothing about. It could be an act of wickedness on the husband’s part.
So, in the scenario above, let’s assume we are in the shoes of the wife, we have to be tactical in finding out the real cause of our husband’s coldness. E.g if he is cold because he is having an affair and we treat it as having issues at work or overact believing he is mean, we would have ended up majoring on the minor and minoring in the major, and not dealing with the issue.
That is why we have to depend on the Holy Spirit in handling issues in our marriage. Some issues may be complicated while some are not as complicated.
Let’s try to be more patient and think deep through the issues that may arise in our marriage.
Let’s also be prayerful, asking God for the spirit of wisdom and revelation. We also need discernment to discern the root cause of issues.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a discerning spouse.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray for the spirit of discernment.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
There are side effects of not forgiving. Your failure to forgive has made you unholy before God, which won’t make Him listen to or even answer your prayers.
That’s because when God looks at you, He sees the mark of sin on you – resentment, unforgiveness, hatred, and He can’t look at you like that.
When you ask for forgiveness before you pray, it takes the mark of sin away from you.
Or even while praying and the Holy Spirit convicts your heart of unforgiveness, quickly forgive whoever you need to forgive so that your prayers might be answered.
When God sees your entire heart as unholy, He also sees your body as unholy too.
By allowing unforgiveness to stay in your heart, you are causing yourself more harm than good.
An unforgiving heart affects your entire body. It can cause you to have medical conditions.
Be holy today and forgive who you need to forgive.
There are trends in your life you should reject completely. They are not God’s plan for your life.
Never call them “My problem” They are not your problems, the devil is only trying to impose them on you.
There are things that are already dealt with and finished as a result of the death and the resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Let’s take a look at them.
1. Delay
There are delays caused by natural situations. There are self inflicted delays as a result of disobedience. But there are also demonic delays, a direct attack from hell.
Whichever way, whatever is attempting to steal your joy is not of God. In God, the price is paid through Jesus Christ.
Whatever has been a hindrance and obstruction on the path of your destiny, it is removed in Jesus name!
A major cure for delay in your life is a passionate cry unto the Lord to satisfy you early with mercy that you may be glad all the day of your life!
Mercy Lord!
2. Compromise
Like plagues, that is how you treat habitual sins, because that is what they are!
Listen to me, if your life must gain traction, if help must reach you, if the heavens be opened over you, you have to let go of habitual sins.
Sin is not supposed to lord it over you again. Jesus dealt with it once and for all!
Read these verses slowly and meditatively.
A new power is in operation. The Spirit of life in Christ, like a strong wind, has magnificently cleared the air, freeing you from a fated lifetime of brutal tyranny at the hands of sin and death. [3] God went for the jugular when he sent his own Son. He didn’t deal with the problem as something remote and unimportant. In his Son, Jesus, he personally took on the human condition, entered the disordered mess of struggling humanity in order to set it right once and for all. The law code, weakened as it always was by fractured human nature, could never have done that. The law always ended up being used as a Band-Aid on sin instead of a deep healing of it. [4] And now what the law code asked for but we couldn’t deliver is accomplished as we, instead of redoubling our own efforts, simply embrace what the Spirit is doing in us. [5] Those who think they can do it on their own end up obsessed with measuring their own moral muscle but never get around to exercising it in real life. Those who trust God’s action in them find that God’s Spirit is in them—living and breathing God! – Romans 8:2-5 (MSG)
Hallelujah!
To be continued tomorrow…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will no longer be delayed. I cooperate with God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray against the spirit of delay.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
Our marriage is an integral part of our lives. We will notice that nothing weighs us down more like marital issues. If things are not working between us, the joy level in the home is affected.
Although, Some people might try to do as if they don’t care, but the truth is they do care.
As couples, we need to work together to ensure that our marriage remains intact at all times, no matter the situation or under whichever circumstances.
We should always stick it out together. Remain committed to each other and remain supportive of each other.
You can do these five things to keep your marriage interesting.
1. See you spouse as part of you that nothing can change.
So no matter what challenges, you remain true to each other. Whether loss of job, loss of contract or money in an investment.
2. Learn to make fun and laugh over issues
Even if your spouse is not too much of a jovial temperament, let the other less serious of the two help in lightning the atmosphere. When your spouse is dealing with guilt, shame or not just in a generally good mode, help your spouse feel a little better.
3. You can watch a comedy or action film together
The marriage should not always have to be tensed or serious. You can bring laughter of those who have packaged laughter into comedy shows. It is very helpful to do as you won’t have to bother about cracking expensive jokes or getting on your spouse nerve.
4. Eat out, order a meal or cook a favorite meal
You might want to order something nice for your spouse to eat and indulge your spouse to a treat just to take their minds off whatever is bothering them. A good snack and ice cream could also do the trick for those who like that.
5. Offer your spouse to pray for them or with them.
Prayer is the most powerful and helpful thing you can offer to your spouse when they seem to be down or things are not working.
You offering to pray speaks volumes. It shows you genuinely care and that you recognize the power of God as the ultimate power that can change things.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY My marriage will not be an adage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Help me to be a loving spouse oh Lord.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
There is the law of life, and it is found in the Word of God. It is good to know, once more, that God has you in mind. As the scripture says, he has plans to take care of you and not abandon you.
Not only will you be cared for, all that concerns you will also be taken care of.
See this verse of promise in the second book of Moses, the book of Exodus:
Exoduses 9:4 And the LORD shall sever between the cattle of Israel and the cattle of Egypt: and there shall nothing die of all that is the children’s of Israel.
What a promise! This is a word of assurance that nothing that belongs to us will die.
Let us therefore approach God with that confidence over our health, business, academics, finances, and even our parents.
If your parents are having a hard time in marriage, take it to God in prayers, using the above scripture.
God is a prayer answering God, so be rest assured that a change will happen.
Till we meet tomorrow again, keep basking in the euphoria of God’s love.
Prayer: Nothing dies in my hands in Jesus name. Amen
