I almost can hear someone say, ‘can one really have a model marriage?’ My answer is an absolutely yes. You can have a model marriage, but you have to be willing to work at it. Marriage is work, but God promised that our labor of love will be rewarded.
The work requires the input of both the husband and the wife. It is not supposed to be the sole responsibility of one spouse to do all the laboring. Both should labour for the marriage but in different aspect of the marriage.
Marriage requires hard work, commitment, sacrifice and like someone puts it, you have an appointment with 4 things,
1. Appointment with losing
2. Appointment with dying
3. Appointment with sacrifice
4. Appointment with suffering
All these look negative but in reality, they are just God’s way of developing our faith muscle and causing us to die to the flesh.
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It is not only women who need to lose, die, sacrifice and suffer, but both the husband as well as the wife.
A wife loses her life just to care for her children. So it’s not really losing, dying, sacrificing in terms of punishment but to gain something higher and worthwhile.
So also, you have to die to your own convenient ways or your opinions if things will work out In the marriage.
Tomorrow, I will point out some things the wives can do to have a model marriage.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am supportive of my husband in all areas.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, teach me to be a supportive spouse in Jesus name.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Eph 5:22 For wives, this means being supportive to your husbands like you are tenderly devoted to our Lord.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Begin to look at areas you can give your support and begin to give it.
You should be part of the fold. A sheep doesn’t exist on its own or should say it wants to stay alone. That poses a huge danger to it as wild animals can prey easily on it. Also, it won’t be able to enjoy other benefits of having a shepherd around.
What is the key reason why you shouldn’t move away from the flock? The bible says that the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy. The enemy doesn’t come to be your friend but to make sure you don’t become who God says you are.
How does this translate to you as a child of God? It simply means that you shouldn’t move with and or act like unbelievers. The bible says again that one shouldn’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers.
As a child, make friends with Christian believers like yourself, attend church regularly, practice what the bible says, and obey your parents.
A flock of sheep consists of sheep, not sheep and lions or other animals. If you find a pride of lions, it only has lions in it, not lions and gorillas. So why would a sheep want to be with a pride of lions when the lions only want to tear it into pieces?
Your place as a sheep is with your fellow sheep guided and guarded by your shepherd. The shepherd can only watch over sheep, not lions. And a sheep that has been with lions cannot be like a sheep again unless it drops the lion’s attitude and behavior.
Any sheep that refuses to be like a sheep beside its shepherd will definitely be removed from the flock. Why? So that it doesn’t influence the other sheep into becoming like it. It doesn’t contaminate their minds and teaches them how not to be sheep.
Stay with your flock so you don’t fall prey to wild animals. Let Him shepherd you as you should be.
Once you were like sheep who wandered away. But now you have turned to your Shepherd, the Gaurdian of your souls. 1 Pet.2:25 NLT.
Prayer: Lord, help me to stay within the reach of my shepherd always. Amen
Action point: Have you wandered away? Retrace your steps home.
Today is Oil For Today – Day 199. Let’s lift up our voice one more time as we pray to God! Watch Video on Youtube HERE. Check other days HERE.
Scriptures For Today
Oil For Today – Day 199
And David enquired at the LORD, saying, Shall I pursue after this troop? shall I overtake them? And he answered him, Pursue: for thou shalt surely overtake them, and without fail recover all.
1 Sam 30:8
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 199
1. Begin to thank the Lord for today.
2. Every weakness of my flesh preventing me from seeking the Lord is removed over my life in 2022 in Jesus name
3. Lord, let my strength be renewed to be able to pursue overtake and recover all in Jesus name
4. I receive Grace to pursue through my prayer sacrifice in Jesus mighty name
5. Everything that the enemy has stolen in life in marriage, relationship, finances, health,I recover all in Jesus name
6. This is my year of Recovery and limitless joy. I bind every spirit contrary to my recovering all and limitless joy in Jesus mighty name
7. This year I experience a forward movement in marriage, relationships, career, business, no stagnation, retrogression or moving in circles in Jesus name
8. I set my heart to seek the Lord this year as I pursue, overtake and recover all with my whole heart in Jesus name
9. I conquer every adversaries and gain more territories in Jesus name
10. Begin to thank the Lord for answered prayers
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 199
Today my strength is renewed. I have clarity of vision. Wisdom and inspiration in my mouth. Speed on my feet. I hand can bend a bow of brass. I take new territories and conquer new grounds. This week I experience new victories. I exercise power and authority over every power of the enemy. This is a week of victory. A week of rejoicing. A week of abundance. A week of prosperity.
Here is the concluding part of yesterday’s devotional
3. Marriage will not make you more spiritual
Before, all the worship is unto God, but now, it’s some for God, some for your wife! After you are through with “God I worship you, I bless you, I honor you” and so on, then you resume part two which are ‘Dear, I love you, you are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen, you are this and that!’
And trust me, it is something you have to do because the scripture advises that you love, embrace and let her thoughts fill your heart!
So the real deal is creating a balance and to make sure one does not suffer for another.
But in all of that, the couple should learn to give God the first place in their lives. When they do that, God will help them and teach them by His Spirit how to make the marriage work better.
4. Marriage will not bring joy
Marriage will not bring joy. It can bring happiness, which is temporary. The only guaranteed factor that brings joy is the word of God. So, both of you should fill your hearts with the word of God. Apart from all the chocolates and delicacies, you should also learn to “eat” God’s word regularly.
Thy words were found, and I did eat them; and thy word was unto me the joy and rejoicing of mine heart: for I am called by thy name, O Lord God of hosts (Jeremiah 15:16 KJV)
That way, joy is guaranteed, even in the midst of contradictory situations. The reason joy is so important is that it is your strength. You need that strength in marriage. Depression weakens you.
But the joy of the Lord brings strength!
…for the joy of the Lord is your strength. (Nehemiah 8:10b KJV)
Know this and understand that a successful godly marriage will not be on tripping, outings, eating out, vacations, and cinemas alone, but in righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Ghost.
For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost. – Romans 14:17
Be blessed!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I will not miss it in marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, open my eyes to the realities of life.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Romans 14:17 [KJV]For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.
There is tremendous power available when we as couples live in agreement. Agreement does not mean we are the same or have the same opinion.
Husbands and wives are by design different because their roles and assignments in the marriage are different.
To enjoy a wonderful marriage where both are in sync, the husband and wife must understand this perspective. The devil understands this and that is why he fights our agreement all the time.
Again I tell you, if two of you on earth agree (harmonize together, make a symphony together) about whatever [anything and everything] they may ask, it will come to pass and be done for them by My Father in heaven. – Mat 18:19
The Bible emphasizes this truth. Couples should have a vision or goals for their family. They should make up their minds right from the onset of the marriage that it’s a No, No to divorce, they will try and communicate their needs to each other, forgiveness will be a priority and they will support one another.
You may not agree on trivial things but they must ensure they are in agreement on some core values. Unity is very important in marriage. In fact, the essence of marriage is for husband and wife to be in unity so that their strength can be multiplied.
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God Himself promised to be in their midst.
For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them. – Mat 18:20
The power of God flows in a marriage where there is unity and agreement, where the husband loves the wife and the wife is submissive to the husband. They move forward and are able to fulfill their dreams and accomplish great feats just as God ordain it.
When the wife gives her full support to whatever the husband is doing, knowing that if he succeeds they succeed together.
It is high time husbands and wives everywhere begin to see what the devil is doing and wants to do and shut the door against division and disunity in their home.
Their focus and aim should be to always line up in agreement with each other, to be each other’s greatest fan.
Wives, even if you don’t understand him, (as you will not most of the time), you should still give your support as an act of obedience to God and then allow God do the rest. Your position as a wife is not to tackle him, but to support him.
The instance you may not support him will be if it is a direct violation of God’s commandments.
May God help us all in Jesus name.
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY We seek to be in agreement always.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be constantly in agreement with my spouse.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mat 18:19 Again I tell you, if two of you on earth agree (harmonize together, make a symphony together) about whatever [anything and everything] they may ask, it will come to pass and be done for them by My Father in heaven.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Be in agreement with your spouse, that is what makes you one flesh.
