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What Version Is Your Lover? Sally is such a beautiful girl. Her gentle mien, so angelic was an attraction to George who is hopelessly in love with her. Their love story looked straight out of the movies. Everything looked good. Till they began their courtship. Well they say, beauty is only skin deep. The person who lies beneath the skin showed up. the real Goerge within George met the real Sally within Sally! Things began to fall apart and the center could not hold.

They managed and got married thinking once wedded, their demons would leave them. Alas, it was not to be. It was as if the issues got married too and followed them to honeymoon and then to home.

Every time, Sally wished she could have back the George she met when he proposed to her. George longed for the Sally that used to cause all the butterflies to spread their wings in a romantic matric within his tummy, but he couldn’t find her.

What really happened? What Version Is Your Lover?

Do you want to know what happened?

You see, when two people are together, as singles in courtship or as a married couple, and begin to “abuse” the relationship or marriage, they inadvertently create another version of a lover or spouse!

When you “mistreat” your spouse continually, taking advantage of him or her, always the one doing one wrong thing or the other, there would be a reaction. That reaction is the version of a lover you have created with perpetual carelessness and insensitivity to your spouse. There comes a time, you are almost looking for your lover and can’t find him or her, yet beside you!

Son 3:1 (KJV) By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not.

And the devil loves this. Both the person causing the issue and the one reacting are both in the flesh. Both sides believe the other is wrong. The hatred with which you hate now becomes greater than the love you use to love!

2Sa 13:15 (KJV) Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.

May you not be found in this milieu!

What Version Is Your Lover? Depending on who is on the receiving end, you either have a version of a husband who is cranky most of the time, prefer to come home late to avoid trouble, and whose vulnerability without the home is beginning to trap him or a version of a wife who is withdrawn, withholding sex, bitter and depressed.

This happens in courtship too. You keep taking advantage of that relationship, apologizing every day and yet going back the next day to do the same thing, like you are the one anointed to create problems and the other is empowered to deal with the mess. After a while, you create a version of an angry lover who might eventually walk away.

The coordinates I am trying to establish this morning are very simple. What version of lover or spouse do you think you have created? What Version Is Your Lover?

How long will you stay in the flesh, remain stubborn, and stay in strife because you think you are right? How long will you open the door for the devil because of ego? How long will you continue to deny your weakness and bad habits that is causing woes for your spouse? For how long will you allow a spirit of deception to have a hold on your soul and refuse to confront the obvious?

Will you cry to the Lord this morning and ask for help? Will you seek the needed counsel you need or watch as thing degenerate more?

This is my conteplation this morning! You’ve got to take charge come out to open and honest and begin to treat and love your lover or spouse as the scripture recommended.

Amo 3:3 (KJV) Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Are you truly submitting to your husband? Are you truly loving your wife? Are you truly having a godly relationship without sex as singles? Selah before you answer the questions and let them lead you to a point of change and decision!

Good morning!


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