The greatest power you have as a single is not your handsomeness or beauty. It is not your height neither is it your hot legs. It is not your phonetics, and it is not your finesse.
Your greatest power, strength or advantage is your CHOICE!
Marriage is not or is not supposed to be by force but by choice.
Your choice!
You will live with your choice! You will live with the consequences of your choice. You will live with the strengths of your choice. You will live with the weaknesses of your choice.
If your choice is good, it translates into a good life. If your choice is bad, bad stuffs awaits.
A lady has the power of choice before wedding. After wedding, she still has choices, but her choice is subdued and influenced by the ultimate choice of her husband.
Many choice ladies on fire for God as singles ended up using the fire to cook only because of their choice.
Destinies have been warped and distorted by the choice of their choice!
In deciding who to marry, go beyond the obvious and plunge deeper to see what is beyond the pulchritude.
Go beyond the flesh of the flesh and check out the bone of the bones.
After you have seen the hot legs, does she have a hot heart as well? His height attracted you, but does he have a life a well?
A man who doesn’t have a life should not seek for a life partner.
You love his beard gang, are you sure it is not a gang-up against your destiny? Her smile slays you, but behind the smiles, are you sure there lies no bile?
The choice of a man is zeroed up after wedding, so choose well. The choice of a woman after wedding is final, choose well.
There is no clean divorce, it is always a tearing apart.
To be continued tomorrow.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make the right choice in God.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to choose wisely.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Isaiah 30:21 And thine ears shall hear a word behind thee, saying, This is the way, walk ye in it, when ye turn to the right hand, and when ye turn to the left.
Marriage requires a lot of hard work and focus. You must be so focused that all your thoughts are filled with how to make your home a success through hard work and holding on because the storms of life are real.
And there arose a great storm of wind, and the waves beat into the ship, so that it was now full.
Mar 4:37 [KJV]
Woe to any marriage that does not have Christ in their marriage. Only Jesus is the calmer of every storm of life. When you have Him, the storms of life bow. He is the Prince of Peace and the only one qualified to say peace be still.
Usually, when storms come, their only aim apart from killing and destroying is to distract us.
And he was in the hinder part of the ship, asleep on a pillow: and they awake him, and say unto him, Master, carest thou not that we perish? And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.
Mar 4:38-39 [KJV]
Storms distract us from our focus. A storm is anything contrary to the peaceful state of our marriage. A storm could come in form of a fight, strife, disagreement, sickness, pressures at work, pressure from the in-laws, unpaid bills, children, whatever affects our state of peace is a storm.
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Whenever there is a storm, Jesus is inactive. May Jesus not be inactive in our home!
You have to be together as a couple and avoid distractions together. Your husband and Jesus in your boat are your main focus. Every other thing or person is a distraction.
God has a race set for each of us. That race should be our focus. Whatever will not help us in achieving our goal in marriage is a distraction.
You have to learn to stay by each other. Be a pillar of strength to each other and support yourselves to achieve your divine destiny.
Stand by your husband with your finances. Stand by your husband emotionally, don’t let him be vulnerable. Stand by him with encouraging words. Stand by him with your prayers. Stand by him by being obedient and in agreement or being agreeable with him.
God bless our marriage
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not distracted. I am focused
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help to focus on Jesus and not see the storms
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Mar 4:39 [KJV] And he arose, and rebuked the wind, and said unto the sea, Peace, be still. And the wind ceased, and there was a great calm.
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Keep Jesus at the center of your focus in your marriage
The scriptures talk about the way of a serpent upon the rock, right in the church! How did something so sinister find its way into something so good?
Let’s look at some dimensions of lust hidden or masked in love this morning. You think it is love, but it is actually lust! What a contradiction!
1. The Fainting
Oh! Give me something refreshing to eat—and quickly! Apricots, raisins—anything. I’m about to faint with love!
Son 2:5 (MSG)
Ladies are enthralled by attention and non-verbal expressions of love.
Their goals are different. The lady wants care, attention, and love. The guy wants sex, period!
The contradiction of goals results in confusion of the soul. Two cannot walk together except they be agreed…
2. The Cradling
His left had cradles my head, and his right arm encircles my waist!
Son 2:6 (MSG)
In no time, his manifesto begins in aggressive fulfillment of intentions.
The left hand that should be busy with the meals travels to the head and cradles it lovingly or “lustingly?”
The right hand in daring progression surpasses the timidity of the left hand and encircles the waist. Desires travel into blood veins.
The heart races and gallops like a horse who just sighted waters! A rush of adrenaline colliding with dopamine!
Hey! Destinies are about to be ruptured. Glorious futures are about to be tainted. Promising ministry hopefuls about to morph into miseries!
3. The Stirring
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer: Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Son 2:7 (MSG)
Oh, there comes a warning Don’t do it. Don’t excite love!
In a moment, his voice and words are so gentle and caressing, the next moment, his biceps pins you to the wall in a wicked hold, because love has been excited. Be warned!
Eh, the time is not ripe. You are not ready!
Don’t let the “glee” take over the “flee!” It is time to flee!
Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem, by the gazelles, yes, by all the wild deer…
The gazelles and the wild deer know how to run from the enemy!
Run! Flee! Don’t go to that guest house again. Don’t follow him to that hotel again. Don’t go and meet him on campus again. Don’t frolic with him in the office again. Don’t take his money again, because his money controls you.
Take a cue from the gazelles and the wild deer. When they see the lion crouching, they take off. They are not ready to be preyed upon.
Don’t be a prey! Don’t even follow him home!
As a father, I say to my daughters, don’t excite love, don’t stir it up, until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.
Have a great day!
God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I love genuinely. I am not filled with lust
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to love genuinely.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Disconnect from every wrong relationship
A person is said to be committed when he or she is pledged or bound to a certain course or policy, when he or she is devoted to a task or purpose, exclusively allocated to or intended for a particular purpose.
So a person is committed to his/her spouse when he/she is bound or pledged to the course of the marriage covenant.
First, being committed to your spouse is a thing of the heart. You must have it settled in your heart that you have the best spouse given to you by God.
You may have to work hard at achieving being the best. Being committed to your marriage vows is doing everything possible to keep the bond of peace.
There will always be differences but the ability to handle our differences in a mature way is love.
A good understanding of what is expected of you as a married couple is very important. You must have a personal vision for your marriage.
It shows you are 100% committed to your spouse when you give him/her your undivided support. Some are giving their support but it is not full support.
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Some are committed and in the marriage as long as their feathers are not rough and everything is fine.
Job’s wife was not totally committed. Our commitment is revealed more during the hard times. I believe that is why the marriage vows says ‘ ….for better for worse, for richer for poorer’ that is 100% commitment.
Ruth is a good example of a wife that is committed. Her commitment was even unto death and way after death.
Ask yourself are you like Ruth or Jobs wife?
In these days when husbands and wives commitment to each other are just on border line. We ask God to give us Christian homes and make us Christ like husbands and wives, whose commitment is 100%
God bless our marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am committed to my marriage.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to be committed to my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY 1 Corinthians 13:7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
How To Get Fresh Wine For Your Marriage. Every once in a while, it is important to attend a place where other couples are sharing their experiences.
We all experience burn out and we often get tired of the whole daily routine of house chores, taking care of the children, wives tending the home and taking care of the husband, going to the market, husbands going to work daily looking for money to pay bills and so on.
All these routines day in day out leave us sometimes frustrated and just getting along.
However, the wine of marriage must be kept renewed from getting stale because of the imminent dangers.
There are marriage ministers and ministry set aside and instituted by God to help us. Marriage could be the greatest blessing and as well the greatest regret of one’s life, depending on how it is handled.
Marriage is highly spiritual and it takes spiritual principles to have a blissful marriage. For example, you cannot be selfish and expect your spouse to live joyfully with you. Because it is spiritual, we often need men of God to speak into our lives and marriage and break satanic strongholds off our marriages.
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Obviously, one of the aims of the devil is to destroy homes, families, and marriages, but thank God He came to give us life and to give it to us in abundance. This life is the very life of God that gives us the capacity to function in the class of God.
Such couples’ program is what we have put together to help your marriage experience the new life and new strength to carry on.
This year’s KHC Marriage Bootcamp is not to be missed. We will be discussing issues like communication, conflict Resolution, spicing your sex life, parenting, finances, health Talk, and lots more.
The venue is the Redemption Camp and it starts today.
Friday, 17th – From 4 pm
Saturday, 18th -All Day
Sunday, 19th – Departure by 5.00 am
Amongst many things, we will be looking at Communication, Conflict Resolution, Spicing Your Sex Life, Parenting, Finances, Health Talk, And lots more!
You don’t want to miss this wonderful opportunity. Plan and prepare to attend. Your marriage is worth all the sacrifice.
Remember, pour into your marriage and invest in it and you will enjoy the dividends thereof.
God bless your marriage!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I make plans to renew and refresh my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me understanding and wisdom in the affair of my marriage
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Heb 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
ACTION READING FOR THE DAY Register for KHC Marriage Bootcamp
