Life presents unique seasons. Singleness and marriage are both gifts from God, each carrying its own joys and challenges. Whether single or married, no one can walk faithfully without the help of the Holy Spirit. He is the Comforter, Counselor, and Helper whom Jesus promised to all believers in John 14:26. His guidance ensures that we live wisely, love well, and honor God in every season.
Being single is not a waiting room for marriage but a calling to serve God wholeheartedly. Like Apostle Paul said,
But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 1 Cor 7:32 (NKJV).
This is a season to deepen intimacy with God and grow in purpose. The Holy Spirit helps singles overcome loneliness, guard against distractions, and cultivate godly character. When doubts arise or temptations feel overwhelming, He strengthens with truth and peace.
By listening to His leading, singles can make wise decisions about relationships, careers, and daily life. Yielding to the Spirit keeps the heart pure and hopeful while preparing for whatever future God has in store.
Marriage is a covenant that requires love, humility, and patience. No couple can thrive on their own strength. The Holy Spirit empowers husbands and wives to love each other as Christ commands. He produces the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and self-control in the home.
When disagreements arise, the Spirit softens hearts and reminds each partner of grace. He also equips couples to pray together, raise children in godliness, and face challenges with faith instead of fear. A Spirit-filled marriage becomes a witness of Christ’s love to the world.
Whether single or married, maximizing the Spirit’s help requires surrender. This means daily prayer, studying God’s Word, and obeying His promptings. The Holy Spirit does not force His way into our choices; He waits for yielded hearts. When we welcome Him, He supplies wisdom for decisions, comfort in trials, and strength for obedience.
These days, I’ve noticed that many young people struggle to be thankful. A lot of people are upset, tired, and always complaining.
I get it. There are so many reasons to feel frustrated or even sad, especially if you live where I am. But there is something important that never changes:
God will always be God. Nothing will ever change that. You can be angry, ignore Him, or even say you don’t believe in Him, but He is still God and will always be God forever.
So the wisest thing you can do is to stay close to the One who made the world, the One who created you, and who knows everything from start to finish.
But knowing about God isn’t enough. Almost everyone believes there is a God somewhere. What matters is truly trusting that He knows what He’s doing with your life.
No one understands you better than God—not even you. Some people might say this sounds like preaching. Maybe it does. But the truth is, if you want your life to have real meaning, you must have a personal connection with God.
The devil doesn’t have real joy to offer. Money or things can make you happy only for a short time. Even marriage or dating can become disappointing if God isn’t part of it.
So why am I saying this? Because I want to encourage you as a single person: always be thankful. If you’re still unmarried at 35 or 40, it doesn’t mean God has forgotten you. He’s not some delivery service that gives you everything you want right when you ask. You were created for His purpose.
You are worthy, O Lord our God, to receive glory and honor and power. For you created all things, and they exist because you created what you pleased.Revelation 4:11 (NLT)
You keep asking God for things, but have you stopped to ask what He wants from you? You dream about loving your future husband or wife. Well, you should first learn how to build that kind of loving relationship with God. My pastor used to say the most romantic people are those who spend time in the book of Romans. It sounds funny, but it’s true.
For in him we live and move and exist.Acts 17:28 (NLT)
Don’t let ingratitude steal tomorrow’s joy. Focus on what really matters. Stay close to the Holy Spirit.Remember, God doesn’t owe you anything, so let’s not act like He does.
We all as believers have an inner advantage that the world doesn’t have. Now, most of us are not making use of it as we ought to, maybe because we don’t quite understand the gift.
When we pray in tongues, the Holy Spirit is praying for us and through us.
God’s Spirit also helps us to do this. Because we are weak, we do not know how we ought to pray. But God’s Spirit himself prays for us. He cries to God on our behalf in a way that nobody could say with words. Romans 8:26 (ERV)
Praying in tongues is more than just a spiritual gift—it’s a divine tool for supernatural growth. When you pray in tongues, you’re speaking mysteries to God (1 Corinthians 14:2). You’re bypassing your mind and allowing the Holy Spirit to pray through you perfectly, aligning your spirit with God’s will.
“He who speaks in a tongue edifies himself…” – 1 Corinthians 14:4 (NKJV)
Think of it as spiritual exercise: every time you pray in tongues, you strengthen your inner man, sharpen your spiritual senses, and tune into God’s frequency. This is how your relationship with God can grow in quantum leaps—rapid, exponential growth that doesn’t follow the normal pace.
It also builds your faith, energizes your spirit, and often brings clarity and peace, even when your mind doesn’t understand everything.
“But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit…” – Jude 1:20 (NKJV)
Praying in tongues is a direct highway to spiritual strength and a deeper relationship with God. It’s one of the most powerful ways to grow faster, stronger, and deeper, beyond what you could achieve on your own
Let’s pray
Holy Spirit, thank You for the gift of tongues. Help me to lean into this gift daily and experience deeper intimacy, strength, and revelation. I receive the grace to grow spiritually in leaps and bounds. Amen.
In the world of Christian service, it’s easy to celebrate spiritual gifts like preaching, singing, prophesying, healing, and teaching. These gifts are beautiful, powerful, and God-given. But there’s something even more important in God’s eyes: the fruits of the Spirit.
Galatians 5:22-23 says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control…” These are not glamorous abilities we show off on platforms. They are quiet proofs of maturity. They reflect who we are, not just what we can do.
You can be a firebrand preacher and still be proud. You can sing like angels and still lack patience. You can prophesy accurately and still treat people with contempt. Sadly, we sometimes place more value on being “gifted” than being Christlike.
God desires our character before charisma. The gifts draw men, but it is the fruit that keeps them. You may attract a spouse, an audience, or an opportunity with your talent, but only fruit will sustain relationships, influence, and favor.
The Bible warns in Matthew 7:16, “By their fruit you will recognize them.” Not their gifting, not their title, but their fruit. This means our love, humility, gentleness, and faithfulness are what truly matter to God.
In your walk with God, aim to bear fruit before chasing platforms. Let people say, “She is kind,” “He’s gentle,” not just “Wow, they’re anointed!” Because when gifts fade or slow down, character will still stand tall.
So, let’s seek to be fruitful first, and then let the gifts flow. Meanwhile, a life rooted in the Spirit will naturally grow into both.
How do you know who is truly right for you? With so many voices from family, friends, culture, and even your own emotions, it can be hard to tell the difference between a good option and God’s best. The truth is, not every good person is God’s person for you.
Someone can check all the boxes on paper, but they still may not be the right fit for your purpose. That’s why discernment is so important. It’s not just about what you want, it’s about seeking God’s wisdom and letting Him guide your heart.
What a Relationship from God looks like:
1. It Aligns with God’s Word
God will never bring someone into your life who pulls you away from Him. If a relationship is leading you to compromise your faith, walk in disobedience, or put someone else before God, then it’s not His best. A godly relationship should strengthen your faith, not weaken it.
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” (2 Corinthians 6:14)
2. It Brings Peace, Not Confusion
You may not have all the answers when something is from God, but you will have peace. This doesn’t mean the relationship will be perfect, but it won’t leave you in constant anxiety or emotional chaos.
“For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.” (1 Corinthians 14:33)
3. It’s Rooted in Purpose, Not Just Feelings
Being attracted to your partner is great, but that isn’t enough to sustain a godly relationship. God’s best for you is someone who aligns with your purpose and encourages your growth. A person can be kind, loving, and even a Christian, but if they don’t align with what God has called you to do, they may not be the one.
“Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” (Amos 3:3)
