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How To Get It Right In The New Year – Part 2

by Rev. Sophia Okunowo | Jan 8, 2022 | Couples

Reading Time: 3 minutes

We started this instructive devotional yesterday. If we will be successful, get it right and gain speed in 2022, we need to take these points seriously.

Not striving to be super couples only slows us down. We move in circles and we achieve very little. Whereas, God’s intention for us is to multiply grace and do ten times our normal capacity.

We looked at the following yesterday:

1. Worship
2. Understand your spouse
3. Excellence

Today, we will continue from where we stopped.

4. Forgiveness

If you can’t forgive, don’t bother getting married. Forgiving in marriage is a compulsory course. You only slow yourselves down if you find it difficult to forgive.

Some couples hold their spouse and refuse to forgive because they feel their spouse doesn’t deserve the luxury of their forgiveness. They want to hold on to wrong because they feel they are punishing their spouse.

How humorous that is. I have always said it. Not forgiving is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die. You cannot afford it.

Be like a duck that water doesn’t stay on its back. Let nonforgiveness fall off your back like a duck.

Deal with every form of hurt, malice, bitterness, strife et cetera. These are Satan’s most common arsenal.

Forgive because God says to forgive and trust God to reward you.

And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him. So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses. – Mat 18:34-35

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5. Fun

Be fun-loving. Don’t be too serious. Have a child-like approach to life and cast all your care upon the Lord once and for all.

Casting your care is like throwing your care on God. Don’t pick it back, drop them and leave them with the Double-breasted one.

Laugh, make jest of yourselves, play like clowns, behave like little children, pull your husband beards, do funny faces, and so on. Be creative with fun. By all means, play.

I know you are busy, but out of no time, create time. If you were told if you don’t play, you will not live past 2 months, you will take playing seriously.

It takes away the boredom and monotony out of your marriage. It even helps you to forgive better. If you have to pray for God to make you playful, do. Some of us are not naturally playful. We need the Holy Spirit’s help.

Fun in marriage is not complete without doses of intercourse. Let it be regular, spontaneous, creative, and pleasurable.

6. Be the best

This is simply being your spouse’s best friend. Remember when you were younger, how you did with your best friend. Bring the same into your marriage.

Cherish your time with your spouse. Talk about everything with the exception of nothing. Talk, talk, talk, and listen, listen and listen. Be concerned and truly care from your heart.

Think of ways to outdo yourself in being kind.

Being the best spouse to your own husband or wife entails looking into your marriage and finding out the ingredients that are missing.

Remember, you cannot change your spouse. Love your spouse without trying to make him/her conform to your own standard. Who told you your standard is the best?

Best friends never attempt to change one another. At best, they seek to lovingly influence the other person.

Do the above things, and you will be on your way to becoming a super couple. It is the doer that God promises to be blessed in his ways. Don’t just read, be a doer.

God bless your marriage.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I get it right in my marriage.

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Pray for the spirit of excellence

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Mat 6:33 [KJV] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Worship God

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Psalms 1-2

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Be Your Husband’s Playmate

by Rev. Sophia Okunowo | May 31, 2021 | Couples

Reading Time: 2 minutes

Have you ever been unresponsive to your husband’s playful advances? I have been several times. That was before I learned that part of my role as a wife is to be responsive to him and to be his playmate every time and any time.

Do I respond every time? No. I still consider my husband playful and don’t join, thankfully we have three boys who can play with him.

My husband sometimes considers me as being too serious. I never grew up with a sanguine in the house so having fun was not a regular thing. We were quiet in our family and our idea of fun was little laughter here and there.

My husband is not so much of a Sanguine but his Choleric tendencies have made him an extrovert at least to me. He seems quiet when he wants to but when he is in his rhyme, he really wants to talk and play.

Sometimes he wants to play, sing *winks*, be funny, talks, disturb me and all the rest. He is just full of energy and he wants to release some.

The one thing that men don’t leave behind from being boys is playing and having fun. They love to have fun and as their wives, you have to learn to have fun with them.

You may be pushing your husband out to look for a playmate. You must learn to be jovial. Be responsive to his jokes. Laugh with him. Laugh at him. Your role as his wife is not to stop him from playing, it is to play with him.

Don’t stop him from watching his football games or any other games, join him in. Don’t be too busy for him. I know you have a lot to do especially when you don’t have help. The idea is to let your husband occupy the first place and every other thing will find its place.

God bless your marriage

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am my husband’s playmate

PRAYER FOR THE DAY
Help me Lord to cast my care upon you

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 5:23 (KJV) For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Be responsive to your husband’s play and jokes.

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Psalms 25