And it is definitely not “if it’s meant to be, it will be.”
Love is work.
It’s showing up on days you’d rather check out.
It’s choosing to pray together when talking feels hard.
It’s saying “yes” to service when your body says “rest.”
Singles—don’t just pray for love, prepare for labour… prepare to work it out. Marriage is a responsibility, so you have to be responsible in order to do marriage well. Can you wake up daily and keep choosing one person? Can you plant seeds of kindness even when you’re not in the mood? Can you lose sight of yourself in order to care for another?
Couples—remember, butterflies don’t keep flying forever. You must build the love you have. Think of it as a garden. That therefore means planting, watering, and weeding. Keep planting new memories again and again. Keep pouring into your spouse’s emotional tank. Then water with patience and weed out bitterness and comparison.
Love does not thrive because feelings are always there, but because work never stops.
Let us not grow weary in DOING good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.Galatians 6:9
Don’t give up. Keep working. That’s how love lasts.
Some time ago, I went to pick up my son from his school. As busy as the road was, I had no issue crossing it since I was alone. On my way back, with my son, I was more careful about crossing the same road. I stood there for a very long time, waiting for the road to be entirely clear before crossing.
I remember I saw others crossing with the speed of light while I stood there, calculating my next move.
People were watching me, wondering why I was finding it difficult to cross. I heard someone say,’ this man cannot live in Lagos State.’
Eventually, when the road was clear, I crossed.
On my way to his school, I crossed the road without thinking twice. On my way back, I had a tough time crossing the road – the same road, the same me…lol.
What happened? I was more conscious the second time because I was carrying something. I was carrying someone. I was carrying my son.
That consciousness altered the way I thought, acted, and even spoke. I didn’t mind the insults rained at me. I didn’t mind the time wasted. I couldn’t afford to miscalculate because it wasn’t just me this time.
How conscious are you of the one you are carrying? It is not enough to say it. You must act it and live in that consciousness. That consciousness won’t allow you to slide your hands into a lady’s blouse. That consciousness won’t allow you to send your nude pictures to him. That consciousness won’t allow you to alter that document. That consciousness won’t allow you to take advantage of the one you are meant to protect.
Perhaps I should remind you of who you’re carrying.
II Corinthians 6:16 [NKJV] And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will dwell in them And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.”
God dwells in you. You carry God inside. Let that consciousness guide you throughout today.
