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How To Deal With One-Sided Love. When love is one-sided, it can be difficult and painful for the person who is not reciprocating the feelings. It’s important to remember that love is not something that can be forced or controlled. Here are a few things that can be done when love is one-sided:

1. Accept the situation
As singles in a dating situation or courtship, It’s important to accept the reality of the situation, that the feelings are not mutual, and move on. There is no point beating a dead body, once the love is not mutual and you have to pursue, run after, give your eyeballs, and yet you won’t get love, just move on! Don’t even think if you give sex, anything will change. You simply end up giving your body for nothing while also getting into disfavour with God because we all know, right, that premarital sex is not what God advocates! 

For those who are married, accepting the situation simply means you start digging in to know why it is so and what you can do to correct the marital anomaly! You want to be in a marriage with the one you love and who loves you! 

How To Deal With One-Sided Love

2. Reflect on yourself
Take the time to reflect on what you may have done differently and how you can improve yourself in future relationships. What caused it? What could be responsible? Why am I unlovable or why can’t I love properly?

3. Practice loving yourself first!
Nobody will love you if you don’t love yourself! For singles, take care of yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically in order to heal and move on if you need to.  It is important you love yourself! Embrace your imperfections and learn to love yourself for who you are, rather than constantly striving for perfection in the flesh. Stay away from sin and trust the Holy Spirit to give you the grace to get better by the day in that relationship or marriage! 

4. Talk to someone
Talking to a trusted Pastor or a therapist can be helpful in processing your feelings and getting a different perspective. 

Jas 5:16 (MSG)
Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed. The prayer of a person living right with God is something powerful to be reckoned with.

How To Deal With One-Sided Love

5. Be honest with the person
If you are the one unable to love the other person, decide to tell the person how you feel, be honest but also be prepared for the possibility that they may not feel the same way. Rather than stay in the relationship and struggle through with the possibility of continued struggling even after the wedding, it is better to open up and move on! 

If you are married, you are not opening so that you can leave, because you are already married. You are opening up so that you can both get help. If you think your partner will not be able to handle it, then seek help first all by yourself once you see the issue is from your end! It is important to confront the issue! 

These five ways about How To Deal With One-Sided Love are by no means exhaustive, but will guide you in taking the right steps! 

Good morning! 


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