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How Mindset Can Make or Break A Love Life

Many single ladies and guys are finding it difficult to know who the perfect will of God is for them. The guy is cool, and the ladies seem pleasant but is he/she the one God has in mind for me? 

This is one of the questions that has bothered the singles ever since, at least those that fear the Lord.

Some other carnal believers just think, ‘I am the one marrying here not God, so let me choose what I like and I will be good’. Nothing is farther from the truth than this.

For us married folk, I used to think, but we have the Holy Spirit and He knows all things but why are we not led by Him all the time?  Especially in our marital affairs.

The answer is in the state of our mind. 

It is our privilege as born-again believers to be led by the Holy Spirit. That is what distinguishes us from unbelievers. That is our ‘X’ factor. And you know what, whether you are single or married, the Holy Spirit delights to lead us.

Romans 8:14 NIV  For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. 

The problem is in the state of our minds. The Holy Spirit has information, wisdom, and strategies He wants to download to us, but our minds are too busy. He wants to tell us things, secrets about our spouses, about our intended partners. 

We will however not be able to receive this leading because our minds are too busy. There is the normal state of mind, which is serene, calm and quiet. There is the abnormal state which is busy, filled with worries, evil thoughts, doubts, etc

God can only lead us in our relationship and marriage affairs if our mind is stayed on Him.

Isaiah 26:3 NIV You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you.

Isaiah 26:3 AMPC   You will guard him and keep him in perfect and constant peace whose mind [both its inclination and its character] is stayed on You, because he commits himself to You, leans on You, and hopes confidently in You.

The Amplified Classic translation explains it well. God will only guard and guide us with His peace which is the umpire that tells us we are on the right track when choosing who we are to marry.

He will guide us with His peace when we know that the Holy Spirit is teaching us what to do in our marriage.

Our minds have to be stayed on the Word. We have to discipline our minds for it not to be wandering. 

Our minds have to be focused on meditating on the word. If we want to enjoy the leading of the Holy Spirit, we have to actively keep our minds pondering, thinking, contemplating on His word, worship, and praying.

To know the voice of the Holy Spirit, we need to be ‘used’ to how He speaks.

Be disciplined with your mind. Think about what you are thinking about. Be quick to keep your mind stayed on the word. Keep your mind in worship, thinking of God’s goodness and His wondrous works. Plead the blood of Jesus on your mind to cleanse it from every dead works of unrighteousness.

Let your mind be free enough for the Holy Spirit to communicate with you and you being able to receive whatever He wants to say.

God bless you


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