Don’t Complain, Pray
This piece of advice will work for all relationships at whatever level. This is not to condone character flaws but it is an effective way of managing our differences.
For Singles, after we are sure this is the person God wants us to marry, a period of courtship begins. We are in love, yes, but we begin to see a lot of things we don’t like in our fiance.
If we focus on these differences we will spend most of our time quarreling and trying to sort out these differences.
We will think by much talk, which I call sermonizing, change will be effected. Nagging or sermonizing is us trying to sort out our differences by insisting on our terms.
I am not suggesting that we should keep quiet on major differences but I show us a better way.
When you see things your partner does that hurt you, rather than nag, you take it to God in prayer.
That sounds strange, but it is the way to go. By doing this, you are solving some other major issues in the future.
For us couples, not complaining is even a much better option. Knowing and accepting your spouse as a gift to you from God is fundamental.
God has brought you and your spouse together to fulfill a purpose. God expects you to take matters to Him in prayers. You are meant to pray all the time for your spouse. God knows that he/she is not perfect. God does give us raw materials to work on and the extend we work at them, the better we will enjoy them.
He/ she should be your project.
Your spouse’s weaknesses should be your prayer point. Your wife talks harshly, don’t tell her she will go to hell if she continues like that. Your husband drinks, win him over, not by your many talks, complaining, or sermonizing but by your prayers. Let’s learn to take them to the foot of the cross.
Does that mean I should close my eyes to misconduct? I didn’t say that. I only said to change our tactics and pray rather than complain.
With us developing this habit, God will have a better place in our lives. We will become better by getting closer to God and then the power of God will transform our spouse.
The choice is ours. Go the way of complaining and have the devil get an inroad into your marriage and relationship thereby causing more havoc or do it God’s way.
Remember, when you notice a weakness in your spouse, don’t complain turn it to prayer points before God and the result will amaze you. This is what God told me.
Do you know God hates complaining?
Check this out.
I Corinthians 10:8 – 10 NKJV [8] Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell; [9] nor let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were destroyed by serpents; [10] nor complain, as some of them also complained, and were destroyed by the destroyer.
May God give us more understanding.
