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Baggage Claim: Unpacking Your Past Issues. Hey! Have you claimed your baggage yet? Hm, you can’t really disown it, you rather unpack it! Doesn’t matter what kind of embarrassing and funny items are in your bag! What matters is to unpack them so that you will not frustrate the one you profess to love! 

A woman’s baggage is different from that of a man, however, both have their baggages! 

It’s important for couples to be aware of these potential “baggages” and to be willing to address them in a constructive and healthy way. This may include seeking therapy or counseling, learning effective communication and problem-solving skills, and developing healthy coping mechanisms. 

By working through these issues, couples can build a stronger foundation for their relationship, and create a deeper sense of trust, intimacy, and connection in their marriage.

Baggage Claim: Unpacking Your Past Issues

A few Types of “baggages” that couples can bring into their marriage include:

1. Past relationship baggage 

If a partner has had a past relationship that ended badly, it can be difficult for them to fully open up and trust again. They may be unconsciously bringing in old hurt, anger, or resentment from their past relationship and then the present lover or spouse suffers unnecessarily.

Baggage Claim: Unpacking Your Past Issues

2. Family dynamics

The way a person was raised, their family background, and the dynamics within their family can all have an impact on how they relate to others, including their partner. 

For example, someone who grew up in a home where there were a lot of conflicts may have a harder time with communication and problem-solving in their marriage. To unlock this baggage, one might need to improve listening skills, express thoughts and feelings clearly and directly, practice empathy, practice active listening, seek couples therapy

Baggage Claim: Unpacking Your Past Issues

3. Personal traumas

Trauma, whether it be physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, can have a lasting impact on a person’s mental and emotional well-being. It can affect the way they relate to others and can make it harder for them to trust, feel safe, and connect with their partner.

To unpack this, one might need to seek individual therapy, practice self-care and self-awareness, open communication and honesty with a partner, and work through unresolved issues.

If this baggage is not unpacked, the marriage might experience difficulty in forming connections, difficulty in trust, and difficulty in sexual intimacy.

Are you beginning to see why you need to enter the bag? We have a paid course on unpacking your baggage and getting healed. Reach me via WhatsApp if you need to take the course and it would be set up for you. 

Isa 43:18-19 (MSG)
[18] “Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history. [19] Be alert, be present. I’m about to do something brand-new. It’s bursting out! Don’t you see it? There it is! I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands.

There are many other baggages, but I will stop here this morning! 

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