In these days and these times, you fall in love deliberately and with your eyes open, not hopelessly and thoughtlessly!
You don’t fall in love or walk down the aisle in marriage without taking into considerations some pertinent questions in order to protect yourself and to be sure you know what you are doing!
Gone are those days when you should fall in love blindly and go into a marriage without your common sense!
Well, if you are still with the slogan that love is a blind, I have news for you, marriage is an eye opener. Reality settles in after marriage.
It is for this reason careless marriages end few months after! Trust me, I get calls every other day, of brides who are still supposed to be in the moon taking some honey, crying and weeping profusely and talking about regrets.
I get calls of ladies who are married for less than six months and they want to walk out of the marriage because they never knew ‘he was like this!’
There is a popular saying that God gave us brains that He may rest! It is true because after God finished the work of creation, the bible says God rested.
I believe God is resting because everything is completed, all we need for life and Godliness is already provided.
The same is true of our relationships, everything we ever need is already available, we only need to look within us and draw it out.
Part of drawing all we need, I believe, is asking ourselves certain questions.
Questions are very powerful, what they do is that they draw out wisdom from within us or from people around us who are graced with such wisdom.
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I possess wisdom, wisdom directs my actions. I am not blindly in love that I do not apply wisdom. I am patient to find out what I need to find out before saying ‘I do’.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, help me to do my part and follow your leading in my decisions especially in the area of my relationship.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY ‘Ask (questions), and the answer shall be given you; seek, and you shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you’. –Matthew 7:7
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Take a pen and paper and write down all the questions you are going to ask the person you intend to marry, whether he/she is already around or not.
The son is playing football initially, but the moment he hears the dad’s car horn, he jumps into the living room, opens Modern Biology textbook and starts reading.
Dad comes in and sees son sweating like Christmas goat. He asks why he is sweating like that and the boy has no choice but to point to the Modern Biology textbook, ‘it’s the Amoeba sir!’
The wife hurries into the kitchen and puts food in the microwave oven, while dad clears his throat. The lion of the tribe of his house has come!
That is not an ideal home, something is defective! When those children have the slightest opportunity to be outside the home, they will misbehave.
There is something about having a home that radiates with God’s love. The husband and wife must work together to achieve this.
A husband comes home drunk. He comes home late. He beats his wife in front of his children. He scolds his wife in front of his children. He keeps malice with his wife and sometimes with his children. He does not provide for his family. He is involved in extra-marital affairs. He does not eat his wife’s food. The list is endless.
Those behaviours are not ‘house binding’ but ‘animal husbandry!’ The man is unwittingly sowing wrong seeds into his home and when the harvest comes? The scripture aptly says when you sow wind, you will reap whirlwind!
Dear husband, be good. You will enjoy yourself and your family that way. Don’t compromise. Don’t cheat on her. Be faithful!
When you are faithful to your wife, you will enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings, favour and approval. Learn the art of conflict resolution.
Be patient with her! I pray God bless and keep your home and marriage in Jesus name. Amen!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a great husband. I love my wife like Christ loves the church.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me the grace to be a good husband to my wife and a great example to my children.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man! –Proverbs 5:18 (MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write out seven special things you can do daily in the coming week to rekindle your marriage and affirm your wife.
One wonderful attribute of God is His ability to remember and his ability to forget! And the good news is that He doesn’t remember our faults to count them against us, but He remembers His own covenant of blessings to us. He forgets our misdemeanors and remembers our good seed!
And God heard their sighing and groaning and [earnestly] remembered His covenant with Abraham, with Isaac, and with Jacob. – Exo 2:24
He remembers He is our God, to help us, deliver us, protect us, vindicate us and do for us all He has promised. If you have a relationship with God, then it is a big congratulation to you. It does not matter what is going on in your marriage, home, and family right now. God hears, remembers, and will have respect unto you because you are His covenant child.
The attack of the enemy may be strong over your relationship, life, family, a courtship on the verge of breaking up, financial crisis, or whatever challenge has troubled you. All you need to do is to give God something he can hear and remember.
You may be going through an intense time in your relationship right now; courtship seems not to be working, for some there is even nobody to court. Issues are diversified and endless. I want you to know that you are not the only one going through an issue in your relationship or marriage right now. There are no custom-made problems.
I want you this morning to know that God has not forgotten you, even though it looks like that in the physical. So was the experience of Noah in the ark, and it looked like God has forgotten him in the ark, disenfranchised from the whole world and sentenced to life in the ark with animals…but then the scriptures says
And God remembered Noah… – Gen 8:1 KJV
God will remember you this morning! He will intervene in that relationship!
The Massage translation says:
Then God turned his attention to Noah … – Gen 8:1 MSG
Common! God is about to turn His attention to you! Don’t give up on God! That good man will locate you! You will find that beautiful lady! That relationship will not crash!
So all I want you to do this morning is lift up your voice before your father. In other words, make a sound, your father can hear. Not a faithless cry, but a cry full of faith, knowing that our God is merciful and He will not fail of His promises to us. Your God will have respect unto you in Jesus Name. He will visit you and turn the story around for good. He will make the bitter waters.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not abandoned. I am loved of God.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Oh God, turn every captivity around for me.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY And God heard their sighing and groaning and [earnestly] remembered His covenant with Abraham, with Isaac, and with Jacob. – Exo 2:24
One of the meanings of ‘husband’ is ‘he that binds the house together’ He keeps the home, the wife, and children, and makes sure they are well taken care of.
Taking care of them is not just providing money for them, but being there for them, nurturing them, and connecting with them emotionally.
A father’s care is powerful. Most of the perverts and criminals we have in our society today are those that have been deprived of fatherly care.
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church-a love marked by giving, not getting. – Ephesians 5:25 (MSG)
It is said that most husbands don’t understand the extent of grace and authority that God has bestowed on them as head of the house.
My Pastor once said jokingly but truthfully that the only husbandry we are taught in school is animal husbandry and that is why some husbands behave like animals at home.
There is no course in school titled ‘Marriage 101.’ Your school of marriage begins after collecting the certificate! Marriage is the only institution where you collect the certificate before the learning begins.
The Daddy comes home, and all the children plus the wife dive into different corners looking pious…
To be continued…
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am a great husband. I love my wife like Christ loves the church.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY Lord, grant me the grace to be a good husband to my wife and a great example to my children.
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Pro 5:18 MSG Bless your fresh-flowing fountain! Enjoy the wife you married as a young man!
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Write out seven special things you can do daily in the coming week to rekindle your marriage and affirm your wife.
Jesus is the foundation. Be careful what materials you are building on His person. I will like you to make a decision this morning, break free from every lying devil. Sin is sin, no matter your office! Sin is always a reproach and that is the end of it!
Embrace God’s love this morning. Do not take his love for granted. Ask for genuine repentance. Go to your pastor or mentor and stay accountable. Then if you have to go on a retreat and fast and pray, please do.
Fill yourself afresh with God’s word and let it become life to you! I challenge you this morning. Clean up! Delete that number before you yourself are deleted from trhe face of the earth! Cancel that ungodly relationship.
Destroy those instruments of sin. Take charge of your life this morning and break free from all oppression!
The truth is that God still loves you. That is why you are still alive despite all. He loves you beyond your imagination. He is full of tender mercies over you! Accept His love and He will restore your soul. He will clean you up, heal you and restore your dignity.
I pray for you this morning, that every yoke and demonic influence over your life and destiny be broken in Jesus name! If you need someone to pray for you or lead you to Christ, feel free to pick up my number and give me a call. God will send help your way today in Jesus name. Your life will not be a waste. Your labour of love in God’s Kingdom will not be devoid of reward in Jesus name!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I declare my freedom today from all oppression; I receive God’s help and mercy over my life; I severe myself from all ungodly relationships in Jesus name.
PRAYERS FOR THE DAY I receive God’s help to be free in Jesus name. Lord, send help to me now in Jesus name
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY So if the Son liberates you [makes you free men], then you are really and unquestionably free. – John 8:36 (AMP)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Become accountable today to someone your respect and value a lot.
