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3. Out of all my girlfriends, you are the best
This is often a logical way to manipulate the emotions of the lady. As a lady, I don’t know what you are doing with someone who tells you out-rightly that you are not the only one he is seeing.
Are you encouraging adultery after marriage and giving him the go-ahead? Men don’t change after marriage! When a man has the guts to tell you that he has several ladies as lovers including you, then as a lady you should have the guts to walk away from such affliction!
4. We don’t have to tell anybody about this relationship
When a guy begins to make this statement, your antenna should go up! Something is defective right there. There are no commitments when he hides the relationship from friends and family.
There may be occasions when the parents are not interested in marriage and it is wise to keep quiet for some time, but at least, he should be willing to notify his pastor. What if he doesn’t have a pastor? The answer to that is another question. What are you doing with such a person?
5. I am just managing you and you should thank your stars
When a guy doesn’t love you, he will verbalize it one day, one way or the other. If you are sensitive, you can pick it up from his words. When a guy says he is just managing you, that sounds like wickedness to me.
Probably the lady in question has a self-esteem issue, but as a lady, you don’t have any business with anybody who doesn’t value you or appreciate you as a person. After marriage, you don’t want to be treated as a doormat, you want to be valued as a help.
Problems don’t just erupt like a volcano in relationships and marriage. They have always been there. Sometimes, we close our eyes to all the warning signs and red lights because we are in love. It is however wise to be alert and be open to take heed of all these warning signs.
God is not a wicked God. He will attempt to talk to you through His Holy Spirit and try to warn you about some of these things. It is always good to pay attention and try to listen to what God is trying to say! Here are some statements that are symptomatic of deeper issues!
1. There is nothing wrong with sex. Everybody does it
One statement that reflects deeper issues is when a partner tries to justify premarital sex by saying “there’s nothing wrong with it, everybody does it.
When a guy begins to pressurize you to compromise using logic and persuasion tactics, it shows he doesn’t love you. All he wants is your body and once he gets that, anything can happen. As the lady, you are responsible for preserving your virtue by insisting on waiting till after marriage.
A guy who truly loves you will be willing to wait as against satisfying his rush of adrenalin at your disadvantage. God’s word is so clear on premarital sex and any guy that loves you and fears God should be looking for ways to obey God, not the other way.
2. I may not call you or send SMS often. You have to understand.
Another sign to consider is when a partner is distant and fails to communicate regularly.
When a guy loves you genuinely, he wants to be in touch. He wants to call, send SMS, or chat. He just wants to stay in touch one way or the other. I know there are times he can get so busy depending on the intensity of his work or the level of attention needed, but I also believe he should be able to talk to his loved one daily, even if it is for five minutes.
A brief conversation or text message can demonstrate thoughtfulness and caring, and a partner who is genuinely in love will prioritize staying connected regardless of external factors
The only tenable reason is when he is working where there are no networks, which could be rare. Even at that, a guy who is in love will climb mountains; go to the top of buildings, and hold his phone high in the sky searching for network!
Overall, these signals indicate potential relationship issues that should not be dismissed. Recognizing and addressing them early on can help maintain a healthy and loving connection. It’s essential to value and respect oneself, and to seek a partner who shares the same values and is willing to invest in a mutually fulfilling and loving relationship.
You know, when I read Ephesians 4:32, it got me thinking about something really important for couples.
Eph 4:32 (KJV) And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
The verse suggests three key things: being kind to one another, having a tender heart, and forgiving each other. I think these are super crucial in marriage and can help iron out a lot of issues, you know?
Imagine having a kind and gentle partner – it’s like having a shield against unnecessary arguments. And being tender-hearted? It’s all about treating each other with the same love and care a mom gives her newborn. What if we could be that tender in our relationships? I bet there would be less yelling and definitely no hurtful words thrown around.
Then, there’s the part about forgiving one another. This one’s powerful. Holding onto bitterness can be toxic, so why not just forgive quickly and completely? I like how The Message translation puts it: “Be gentle with one another, sensitive, and forgive as quickly and thoroughly as God forgave you.”
Taking on this attitude of compassion, understanding, and love can change the game. It can put a stop to shouting matches, violent tendencies, and all the negative stuff. I hope that this understanding and love will seep into your marriage and overcome any challenges that come your way.
I wish you all the best and pray that every obstacle in your marriage gets crushed. Here’s to a blessed and loving marriage journey!
In the realm of matrimony, there exist certain indispensable elements that serve as the lifeblood of every successful union. Let’s dive into the nitty-gritty of what makes a marriage thrive
1. Keep the Chatter Flowing
Picture this: a friend once asked, “What are the three crucial things in marriage?” The reply echoed, “Communication, communication, communication!” Couldn’t agree more, right?
When the art of communication wanes, it’s like opening the door to a host of unwelcome guests—assumptions, suspicions, lies, and deceit. A marriage truly blossoms when both partners can freely articulate their thoughts and feelings. So, let’s make a pact to hear each other out!
Remember, when a man speaks, it’s often for a logical explanation. On the flip side, when a woman shares, it’s not merely an explanation; it’s an emotional release. Silencing her voice stores up tensions, akin to the silent magma beneath the earth’s surface—seemingly calm, but a volcanic eruption could be lurking.
2. Revitalize the Romance
In the marathon of marriage, pit stops are crucial. Take breaks from the daily grind and rediscover the magic that brought you together. Recall those pre-wedding sparks? Reignite them! Besides the spiritual recharge from prayer and Bible reading, spice up your life with moments of relaxation.
3. Seek Counsel
No marriage is an island; it thrives with the wisdom of mentors. Couples married for decades possess a treasure trove of insights. Seeking counsel isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a beacon of wisdom. Let’s drop the facade of self-sufficiency and embrace the humble act of seeking guidance.
4. The Power of Transparency
Sincerity and openness are the glue that holds marriages together. Imagine marriage as an open book club; discuss everything, leaving no room for secrecy. Hiding the plot twists only breeds mistrust. Adultery finds no foothold where transparency and honesty prevail.
As couples, let’s take note of these pillars—communication, rekindled romance, wise counsel, and transparent dialogue. They are the threads that weave a resilient and enduring marital fabric. May our unions be a testament to the beauty of connection and understanding!
What do ladies really want? Let’s take a look at some of them.
The Romantic Rituals:
Every lady dreams of her man being a smooth operator, a Casanova exclusive to her alone! But let’s face it, most guys unleash their inner Romeo only until the wedding bells ring. After that, the ‘romance’ button goes on a permanent vacation, leaving ladies wondering if it ever existed. Prayer and speaking in tongues are great, and yes, well needed, but a well-timed compliment can work wonders too!Speak in tongues and speak in love too!
2. The Defender Dilemma:
What’s the point of having a knight in shining armor if he abandons his post when things get dicey? Remember, defending your lady doesn’t mean challenging her to a duel. Avoid public condemnations and stranger alliances. You’re her superhero, not a sidekick with questionable loyalties. She expects you to be loyal, within and without!
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3. In-Law Intervention:
Dealing with in-laws can be trickier than juggling flaming torches. If your folks are on the difficult side, shield your beloved from unnecessary drama. Don’t let her play the role of a wife before her time. After all, navigating family dynamics requires finesse, not a battlefield strategy. Even after, wedding, you have to continue fending her. If you don’t, she can easily become the “errand girl” for the extended family during family meetings or functions.
4. PDA (Public Display of Affection):
Your fiancée wants a bit of romance on display, not a choreographed parade where she always takes the lead. Hold hands, share a laugh; always. Walk with her. Hold her hands. It won’t lead into sin out there. It is what you do in the dark and behind closed doors as singles that lead to sin.
5. Humor Harmony:
Laughter is the key to a lady’s heart, and no, that doesn’t mean you need to moonlight as a stand-up comedian. Be the guy who adds spice to life, not the one who turns every moment into a dreary episode of horror. Remember, being a source of joy is way better than being a source of confusion!
Let her get some hearty laughter from you and not from Basket Mouth and Bovi all the time!
Don’t become a source of depression. The moment you are around, despondency descends. Nah!
