Intimacy Without Covenant Is Theft

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1. Intimacy is governed property, not public access.

Scripture treats intimacy as covenant-bound stewardship. Access without covenant violates order. Taking what is reserved is theft by definition.

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
— Genesis 2:24

2. Covenant establishes legal right; desire does not.

Right is conferred by covenant, not chemistry. Desire claims permission it does not possess. Claiming without authority is trespass.

“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”
— Hebrews 13:4

3. Intimacy transfers value; covenant secures accountability.

Intimacy always transfers—trust, vulnerability, influence, attachment. Covenant alone secures responsibility for what is transferred. Without covenant, value is extracted without obligation. That is exploitation.

4. Consent does not sanctify theft.

Mutual agreement does not override divine law. Agreement without authority remains unlawful.

“Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned?”
— Proverbs 6:27-28

5. Intimacy creates debt; covenant accepts payment.

Bonding creates expectation and cost. Covenant absorbs the cost through permanence and duty. Without covenant, the cost is imposed on the soul with no payer assigned.

6. Spiritual theft disguises itself as connection.

What feels mutual can still be unlawful. Emotional language does not legalize spiritual violation.

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”
— Jeremiah 17:9

7. God does not bless stolen access.

God blesses order, not appetite. What begins in theft ends in loss.

“And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.”
— Malachi 2:15

8. Restitution begins with order.

Return what was taken by withdrawing access. Restore boundaries. Re-submit intimacy to covenantal authority. Anything less preserves theft.

Intimacy without covenant is not freedom. It is unlawful access.