Decide To Be A Good Lover/Spouse
You can either learn through wisdom or from experience.
Learning from experience comes with its downside. You would have made so many mistakes. Yes, God forgives, but the consequences of the mistakes will stare you in the face and you might have to live with them for a long time.
Let me give you an example. David went into an adulterous relationship with Bathsheba. He later admitted his error when God sent Prophet Nathan to him. God forgave him, but two things happened. The son from the adulterous union died, despite David’s pleading. Sword was never to depart from his house. That was a consequence that stared him in the face all through his lifetime.
Yes, God restored and even blessed their union eventually when Bathsheba gave birth to Solomon who later became a king, but there were issues in David’s family!
What I am saying to you this morning, is that the best way to go is the way of wisdom!
Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding. (Proverbs 4:7 KJV)
My dear, go for wisdom. That is how to get the best of relationships and marriage. It is not tantalizing yourselves alone or having outings that will sustain a relationship.
Next verse says:
Exalt her, and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. (Proverbs 4:8 KJV)
So one of the things to watch out for in a spouse is how passionate he or she is about learning and going after the things of God.
You don’t want to get involved with someone not spiritually minded.
Look at a scenario, you are married and it is Sunday morning. It doesn’t happen, but you don’t feel like attending church. Your wife will either say, “It’s okay, even me, I want to rest,” or “ No, dear, we have to go to church.”
That is why the scripture calls a wife a helper. You see, there is a difference between a wife and a knife! A helper is an encourager, a factor you need for functioning well for total productivity.
That is why as a man, you should never lift your hands against your wife. You don’t beat your helper. It is not done!
A man would beat up his wife and then say it was the devil. Why didn’t the devil push the man to go and beat up a soldier? Just wondering!
Good Morning
