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5 Phrases That Kill Marriages – Ladies, Avoid These! Ola, who was not speaking to his wife for days, buried himself in work. On the surface, the Johnson family appeared to be the epitome of the ideal couple, admired by everyone. Their marriage seemed to have been meticulously planned out by the heavens. They were considered as role models for the younger generation due to their top-notch PDA!

However, all of this was merely superficial! Ola Johnson was not happy! They despised each other when alone in the house. Ola would not speak to his wife for days, and Kelly Johnson was confounded as to how her once romantic husband had become so emotionally shut down towards her.

Despite putting on a show for the public, they were wrecked at home. They kept up with social media appearances while their reality was crumbling!

The order of the day was strife. Small actions would result in massive provocations. They both knew that they could not keep going on like this. Ola was unyielding. Their sex life lacked emotion, and the few times they did engage in it, Kelly could practically read a novel in the meantime!

What went wrong?

5 Phrases That Kill Marriages – Ladies, Avoid These!

Yesterday, we discussed “5 Things Men Shouldn’t Say In Marriage.” 

Today, we will be examining “5 Things Women Shouldn’t Say In Marriage.” Ola Johnson had been battered by words. Being a chronic phlegmatic, and his wife the sharp-mouthed choleric, he felt the only safe recourse was to resort to intimacy anorexia. He withheld his affection because he felt disrespected, and he believed his wife would not change!

The Ola Johnsons would undoubtedly require therapy!

But what were Kelly Johnson’s mistakes? These are some of the phrases she used repeatedly!

5 Phrases That Kill Marriages – Ladies, Avoid These!

1. ”I feel you are not being a man in this marriage.”

This statement would undoubtedly crush his ego, rendering him powerless since we are dealing with personalities here.

2. ”Why can’t you learn from Mr. So-and-so?”

Never compare your husband with another man. The outcome will not be pleasant.

3. ”With the way you’re going, I’m not sure you can provide for me and the family.”

Avoid making such statements to your fiance or husband. If you know you love him and are led by God, you should intercede for one another.

4. ”You’re just slow and lazy. All you do is sleep and watch football.”

Your fiance or husband will not take kindly to these words being repeated in their ears. Such words will not cause them to change either.

5. ”I made a mistake marrying you. I never had to suffer like this in my parents’ house. Why did you marry me if you knew you couldn’t take care of me?”

If you understand the principle of becoming one flesh in marriage, you will not even speak in this manner!

5 Phrases That Kill Marriages – Ladies, Avoid These!

Refer to 1 Pet 3:2 in the Amplified Version for further insight!

That concludes this morning’s discourse. It is worth noting that this devotional is not intended to justify unhealthy spouse habits, but rather to emphasize that wrong, inappropriate words uttered in marriage can jeopardize the survival of that marriage!


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