How To Handle Relationship Pressures – Part 3

How To Handle Relationship Pressures – Part 3

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SINGLES –

Still talking about pressure. If you missed it, read it HERE

Matchmaking Comments and Prophecies

Comments from friends, family and those you respect and look up to should not be allowed to constitute pressure in your relationship, especially when they are contrary to your personal convictions.

Your decisions should always be influenced by what God says; follow His directions alone!

People may tease you on how good you and someone could be together; they may say you’d make a perfect couple. Do not be influenced against your personal convictions. Pastoral, parental and friendly match-making should serve only as confirmations.

Do not yield to prophetic manipulations or some prophecies. The Bible says woe unto prophets that say that God said something He didn’t say.

No prophet or man of God has any business choosing a spouse for you. It is your responsibility to do that. God may use them to guide, confirm, instruct and advise, but not to choose or impose anybody on you. That is not the purpose of anointing. The anointing is to break yokes and lift burdens, not to add it into people’s lives! 

As singles, you should stop taking names all over the place; you will get more confused at the end of the day.

In the first place, you are not supposed to have more than one name! What you should also know is the at most of these prophets are hungry, so they will always have something to say!

Stop looking for directions and wasting your money all over the place. God’s order in the New Testament is not to start seeking direction but to develop a good relationship with God, His word and His Spirit wherein you can hear God clearly and by yourself.

Men of God are to teach, instruct, correct and confirm!

Some of these things border on manipulation and witchcraft where specific directions are being sought all the time. You almost would have to take permission on when to sleep with your spouse in marriage! That is not in the Bible!

Everyone has a responsibility to learn to hear God. It is the greatest blessing you have in life.

I pray over your relationship that God will open your ears and hearts to hear Him clearly and explicitly. He will do a new thing and He will make all things new in Jesus name!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am filled with God’s wisdom.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, strengthen me against any pressure in Jesus name.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 5:23 MSG The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Do not bow to pressure

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Luke 3


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One Important Ingredient Every Marriage Needs

One Important Ingredient Every Marriage Needs

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“Hullo dear, have you slept?”
“No, I have not, I am listening! I heard the last thing you said.”
The truth is that you have dozed off. 

It has happened to me many times, and I am sure it has happened to you as well. My wife is talking to me on the bed, and I have dozed off. I am trying to listen to her because it is a legitimate need of hers, but the son of man is tired!

Somebody said women speak more words than men. A man speaks an average of ten thousand words in a day, but a woman speaks about twenty-five thousand words! There are exceptions, though.

The man is back from work and he has probably exhausted his 10,000 quota since he derives his self-esteem and fulfillment from work.

By the time he is coming back home, he is done for the day, words have been spoken with friends, colleagues, clients, employers, employees, on the phone and so on. He wants to come back home, eat, listen to news, check a few mails, make love to his wife and sleep!

The wife too has probably exhausted 10,000 words at work, but by the time she is home, she still has 15,000 words bubbling in her! It is even worse if she is a housewife! She has nobody to talk to and so people around her say she nags, making repetitions and all that. 
The fact is that she needs to talk!

So the wife asks her husband 
“How was work today?” 
He answers “Fine!” If he is in a good mood, he adds a few more words like, “oh baby, my day was cool, Thank God!”

She is worried he is not talking, but the guy is in no mood to talk.

The husband asks the wife, “how has your day been? And he regrets afterwards!
That was all she needs to unleash the words that have been brewing in her like a molten magma. The volcanic eruption of words is so massive; the guy wants to walk away. So she starts from when she woke up, and goes on and on, and the man is wondering:
“What did I ask, what is she narrating!”

You see, that is a woman for you and you must not mute her or shut her up! Let her talk! Don’t make a mistake of shouting her down all the time or quieting her! It is a legitimate need of hers.

When a woman has no fear of God and this legitimate need of hers has not been met, she might succumb to the traps of the devil and get that legitimate need met through illegitimate means, which of course will be detrimental to the marriage and the home!

There are people out there who are waiting to capitalize on your insensitivity to your wife and take advantage of that emotional gully created by lack of communication.

You see, a lady becomes emotionally connected to the person she talks to!

To be continued…

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
My mouth is full of right words. The opening of my mouth is unto wisdom and grace.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Spirit of God, fill my mouth with right words over my spouse, children and family

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
(Pro 18:4) The words of a man’s mouth are as deep waters, and the wellspring of wisdom as a flowing brook.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Fix a time for a hearty discussion

BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Matt 14


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The Power of Your Faith

The Power of Your Faith

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Let’s look at the power of your faith through the story of Cynthia. Cynthia stood afar watching how the crowd pushed towards the table stand where some girls stood, sharing fliers for a singing audition.

She loved to sing but wasn’t so sure she would make any audition. Her toothbrush was her microphone and her younger brother was no help at all.

She moved towards the crowd, biting her lips and clenching her fists.

“Here goes nothing”, she told herself as she got closer.

There was a lady in the bible who felt just the way Cynthia did. A woman with a long standing health issue stood where Jesus was.

She had heard of how Jesus had been healing people and wondered if He would heal her.

The woman thought, “If I can even touch his coat, that will be enough to heal me.”
Mark 5:28 ICB

After much deliberation, she found her way through the thick crowd around Jesus and touched the hem of His garment. Instantly she was healed and Jesus knew someone had touched Him. He asked who had, the woman came forward, told Him her condition and He further prayed for her (Mark: 5:29-34).

I am sure the woman too said, ” Here goes nothing”, as she went ahead to touch Jesus’ garment. Just like Cynthia did too.

You never know what will happen if you don’t take that much needed step.

Are you still unsure of taking that step forward to accept Christ as your Saviour and Lord? You think He will reject you or that you are not good enough for Him? Jesus Christ will never reject anybody that comes to Him. He loves you more than you could ever imagine.

So, take a bold step today and touch the hem of His garment, let Him help you.

May the help of God always find you, Amen.

Prayer:
Lord, Jesus, like the woman with the issue of blood, I hold on to the hem of your garment. I receive all that I need right now. In Your mighty name, I pray, amen

Action plan:
Reach out to Jesus today and always. Touch His garment daily and as much a stout need to.

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How To Handle Relationship Pressures – Part 2

How To Handle Relationship Pressures – Part 2

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SINGLES –

Yesterday, we started looking at some pressures singles face, especially in the areas of relationships and marriage.

Let’s continue…

f. Self-imposed Deadlines

Deadlines are good and advisable, especially in goals achievement; however, they could be a source of pressure, especially in relationships.

You need to be patient and understand that God is involved in it too. He is even more interested than you are in your relationship, and He wants you to marry the right person, at the right time. Things become beautiful in His own time, not your own time.

Do not unnecessarily be in a hurry. The decision of a life-long relationship is worth giving all the time you can reasonably afford. Don’t rush into marriage. Courtship is necessary! Get to know him or her!

g. Emergencies

Do not get pressurized into a relationship because of emergencies. He just won a visa lottery, or got transferred to a distant location, or got a political or ministerial appointment, so he decided to make haste and get married for reasons that could range from ensuring he wouldn’t lose her due to distance or some other reasons.

If you are not very sure of him/her as your right life partner, do not make a marital commitment. Don’t yield to pressures when things become so fast you cannot think again.

Be wary of getting married to somebody you met last week online and then you are planning to resign your job and travel somewhere!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I am filled with God’s wisdom to rule my house.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, strengthen me in Jesus name.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Eph 5:23 MSG The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
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BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Luke 1; John 1:1-14


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When Do You Need Jesus In Your Marriage?

When Do You Need Jesus In Your Marriage?

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Continued from yesterday…

You should not only call the disciples (other friends) into your marriage, but you need to call Jesus as well. Both Jesus and his disciples were called. When they needed a miracle, it wasn’t the disciples that turned water into wine, they were busy drinking wine, but it was Jesus. There are times when the wine of the marriage dries up, and it is Jesus you need at such times.

In marriage, you need the person of Jesus and the principles of Jesus to make it. But you know, a marriage full of sexual compromise and lack of self-control is not giving space for Jesus at all. When you start having adultery, you are doing things worthy of self-rustication from the school. You are kicking at your teacher and you are trying to say you want things done your own way.

A marriage where the husband, wife or both of them are cheating are disenfranchising themselves from the very help and wisdom they need in their marriage! The scripture advises that you drink water from your own cistern!

Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? – Proverbs 5:15 – 20

When you drink water from your own cistern (talking about making love with your wife), it is like water turned into wine. How sweet it is!

But, when you drink water from strange women and cisterns, you are taking poison! It tastes sweet in your mouth but it will hurt you!

Bread of deceit is sweet to a man; but afterwards his mouth shall be filled with gravel. – Proverbs 20:17

The teacher is compassionate! He stands at the door of the class, in your heart, and simply wants you to extend an invitation to him to enter the class! In your marriage, the wine will always be insufficient.

Your own wisdom will fail you. But he is there to help you out, if you invite him!

Will you invite him today? It is the best thing to do. He will save you from shame and keep the wine of your marriage, life and destiny flowing beautifully. He will teach you how to make your marriage a bliss and not full of blisters, how to make it a haven and not an oven!

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
In my marriage, I will not be cut off in the midst of my days. I will last in the marriage institution.

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, open the eyes of my understanding as regards my marriage

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Mal 2:15 MSG GOD, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God, that’s what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don’t cheat on your spouse.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
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BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY
Matt 8:14-34; Mark 4-5