Sometimes, husbands want to please or do things that their wives enjoy. They experience frustration in trying to make them happy, especially since their wives are emotional beings.
One moment they are happy, the other moment they are not so happy. Since their emotions are not stable, it becomes difficult for the husbands to know how to meet them at their point of need.
I think there are three areas or ways that any time, a woman will always find enjoyable. A man has to be patient with his wife. An impatient husband will always be seen as a not too caring husband.
If every husband can do these three things there will always be smiles and peace in the marriage.
1. Be Understanding 2. Be tender 3. Buy her things.
1. Be understanding The man is the head and so makes a lot of decisions. A woman does certain things and may not think of the consequences, maybe because she is emotional. The logic of the husband usually corrects all these.
But in correcting, he should try and not be hard. He will be tempted to be hard and harsh in correcting her. But if you don’t yield to temptation it will be good.
There is always gratefulness that every wife expresses to an understanding husband.
It is understanding that makes a husband not flare up and get angry at every provocation. It is understanding that makes a husband read in between the lines and put himself in her shoes.
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2. Be tender Most men are by nature wired to be leaders and could be hard. But for the sake of peace in the home may choose to lead lovingly.
The password of any woman is always being tender to her. The woman does not need the tenderness of any other man but that of her own husband.
The husband must know that he has a responsibility to always meet this need of being tender. Your wife enjoys this more than giving her a million dollars.
3. Buy her gifts There is a chord inside every woman that buying gifts touches. Ladies are known to like anything shiny. A woman can never have enough gifts, there is always room for more.
The gift doesn’t have to be big or expensive. It is the gesture of being remembered and spending money to buy her stuff that matters.
The gifts should be consistent, not once in a while. Some husbands think when they buy her gifts often, she takes them for granted. Not true at all.
How often do you want your wife happy? If your answer is often, then buy her gifts often. Gifts mean taking her out sometimes. Spending time with her and just taking care of her.
Spend your money on her. Don’t be afraid to spend on your wife, God will provide. It is said that when you want to spoil your wife, God will always provide the money.
First, let it be in your heart to do and God will put it in your hands.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am not confused.
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Pray that every doubt will be destroyed
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY “Before you know it, a sense of God’s wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It’s wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life.” (Php 4:7, MSG)
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Spend time in God’s presence
BIBLE READING FOR THE DAY 2 Chronicles 6-7; Psalm 136
Praying for the unsaved is the instruction of God to everyone of His child. Who are the unsaved? There are people who don’t know about Jesus. They could be around you or not. These are the people you should remember constantly in your prayers.
Pray that the Holy Spirit will help them to accept Christ into their lives. They could have heard about Christ and still be unwilling to accept Him. It’s only the Holy Spirit that can convince them of who Jesus is and make them yield to Him. Pray also, for those who have never heard of Christ before. Pray that they will have an encounter with someone who would tell them about Jesus. Remember that praying for the unsaved is your duty.
God loves it when we pray for people to know Christ because He wants everyone to enjoy the benefits of having Christ in their lives.
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Scriptures For Prayers Today
Oil For Today – Day 109
[2] I will go before thee, and make the crooked places straight: I will break in pieces the gates of brass, and cut in sunder the bars of iron:
Isa 45:2 (KJV)
Prayer Points For Today
Oil For Today – Day 109
Begin to thank God for today.
Pray that God will go ahead of you today.
Declare your victory over that mountain standing before you.
Begin to shatter every gate of limitation that the enemy has placed on your way.
Break every demonic chain in your life – relationship/marriage, business, job, etc.
Pray that God will straighten your life today.
Pray for your local assembly; declare that the gates of hell will not prevail against her.
Begin to pray for peace in your nation.
Go ahead and make your personal requests for the day known to the Lord.
Begin to thank the Lord for answered prayers.
Confession For Today
Oil For Today – Day 109
Today, God goes before me. I have the leading of the holy spirit. All crooked places are made straight for me. I have direction and light to walk in God’s plan for me today. God is breaking and shattering the gates of brass in my marriage, relationship, health, and finances. I receive deliverance today. Glory to God. Now, even now, the shackles and bars of Iron are cut in sunder. No more will I be held back in Jesus’ name. Amen.
According to Wikipedia, A player who has been cautioned (with yellow card) may continue playing in the game; however, a player who receives a second caution in a match is sent off (shown the yellow card again, and then a red card), meaning that he must leave the field immediately and take no further part in the game.
Case 1 You are in a relationship but your lover is not interested in the things of God like before, realizes this and is trying to work on it.
As a counselor or referee, I will surely bring out a card and it will be: YELLOW!
He or she can continue in the relationship because of the willingness to work on it and consciously do something about it.
Case 2 Your lover is not interested in the things of God like before, but is open to counsels and is really seeking mentoring.
It will surely be a yellow card – a warning because he or she is open to correction.
Case 3 Your lover is not interested in the things of God but thinks he is okay and is not open to any advice. The card is: RED! It is dangerous to give your heart to such a person, because he or she already showed you who he is.
It is fool-hardy to continue in a relationship with such a person.
Case 4 You have caught him lying on you once. The card will be: YELLOW!
There is a possibility it’s a mistake. But time will tell.
Case 5 You have caught him or her lying and cheating on you severally. Nothing other than: RED! He or she is not likely to change soon. Walk out of such relationship and then do a thanksgiving!
May God bless you!
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am discerning Lord
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Open my eyes, Lord
THOUGHT OF THE DAY Php 1:9-10 (KJV) And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment; [10] That ye may approve things that are excellent; that ye may be sincere and without offence till the day of Christ;
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Go through the list of your friends and make decisions
The opposite will always attract in marriage. You fell in love with your spouse because he/she is different from you. This is so not to encourage disagreement but to bring a different viewpoint into your covenant relationship.
Your love should move from being emotional to being intentional. This is where commitment, maturity, and understanding come to play.
You don’t do marriage because of feelings, you do because of commitment and respect to God who instituted marriage
Emotional love is when you have butterflies in your belly. When your spouse is so nice, loving, caring and he/she is just dope. No faults. No flaws. Everything is just right about them.
But you move to a point of maturity when even though you don’t feel loving towards your spouse because of what they have done or what they have not done, you are intentional and committed to doing those things that keep the love alive.
You don’t kill the embers of the fire of love. You keep on servicing love. Serving and maintenance is an important part of anything we hold dear and anything of value to us that we use.
We maintain our cars, clean up and repair things in our houses so also we should be ready to service our marriage.
Just because things are broken in your car or house doesn’t mean you throw them away. You are committed to spending your money and time fixing whatever needs to be fixed.
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Remember, marriage is till death do us part. You are not going anywhere. You stick with it until you have a breakthrough.
Don’t wait till everything breaks downtown beyond repairs. Just like you don’t wait till your four tyres are flat before repairing and changing them
May God grant us more understanding in Jesus mighty name.
God bless your marriage.
CONFESSION FOR THE DAY I am intentional about my marriage
PRAYER FOR THE DAY Lord, give me wisdom
THOUGHT FOR THE DAY Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NIV)Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor:
ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY Have a logical conversation with your spouse
